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melanie629

I am 4 months pregnant with a guy I was seeing on and off for about 2 years. He is now talking to his ex and other girls & has avoided seeing me for over 2 months now. I don't even know what to do. I have found all of this out through a friend because he doesn't even have the decency to tell me or talk to me other than maybe once a week about the baby.

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Snapdragon750

First, I'm sorry you're in this situation.  You should decide what, if anything, you want from him in the best case and what you expect out of him in any case, and make that clear to him, and then see where he takes it from there.  If I were you I wouldn't expect anything out of him at all.  

suszbaker

I'm so sorry. I totally agree that you need to have a conversation ASAP and find out what his intentions are. I think the stress of you dealing with this is probably worse than just knowing and moving forward from there.

Hawk&Eye

I agree with pps. Make sure you can take care of yourself and baby. If he wants to be involved, awesome. If not, he'll have big regrets one day. But that's his problem.

rivers714

With my son basically the stress of an unplanned pregnancy pushed my bf at the time and me apart. He also went back with an ex.

Support and visitation aren't connected in many states - or atleast in mine. If you go for support he might be more apt to go for custody since he's " paying" for his son/daughter.

I agree with a pp when they said you need to seperate yourself from him and the baby. My ex and me blew up, but at the end of the day he's not a bad parttime parent. Things will never be 50/50 - but he can consistently be there 6 days a month, and support is handled by the state. We talk just about Gabe, which is fine.... And having an order in writing keeps everyone honest and my son first.



This time around the dad hasn't even seen me since I told him. I get a few nasty texts here and there about "aborting it" and " fixing the problem". I found out After the fact I was the girl he was cheating on his long term gf with. I text him appt updates and invite him, but he never even responds. When this ones born I'm going for paternity testing, custody, and support - maybe preemptively since he seems not interested but I want to protect my child and myself