Diaper Raffle?

LindsMichelle

I've been scrolling Pinterest, which is the devil... anyhow, I see a lot of little cards that say Diaper Raffle, and a place to put the persons name, etc. Apparently, if you bring a bag/box of diapers you get one ticket/card thing for each one and win a prize if your name is pulled? I'm assuming that's how this works? 

Has anyone done a diaper raffle? Is that something you include on an invitation 'There will be a Diaper Raffle!'? I've never been to a shower that had one, granted, most of the showers I've been to were 5+ years ago... 

Engineer81

For the love of god, buy your own damn diapers!

Amstreagle

No. They are awful gift grabby and not fun. Not to mention a complete breach in etiquette.

Are you planning your own shower? Let your hosts handle your shower!

LindsMichelle

I said I was doing a diaper raffle? Lmao, I don't recall saying this. I just simply saw it on Pinterest and wanted to ask about it.

Silly stupids.

Engineer81

Bliss+Berry said:

LindsMichelle said:

I said I was doing a diaper raffle? Lmao, I don't recall saying this. I just simply saw it on Pinterest and wanted to ask about it.

Silly stupids.

You might want to cool it with the name calling. 

Also, considering you asked on how to incorporate it into an invitation, you implied that it was something you consider doing.  Why else would you ask? 

I'm calling troll on this one. And she's not even a fun one. I'm putting this one out to pasture.

Amstreagle

LindsMichelle said:

I said I was doing a diaper raffle? Lmao, I don't recall saying this. I just simply saw it on Pinterest and wanted to ask about it.

Silly stupids.

We gave you feedback regarding diaper raffles (ugh)since you asked about it ;;) oh and if we're silly stupids that must mean you're acting like a juvenile bitch.

Amstreagle

amt1983 said:

See... just stick "acting like" in front of it and you can say whatever you want. Also seems like it helps if you agree unwaveringly with the mods/regulars.

I find the mods to be very fair. We've actually lost some regulars for violating TOU. You seem a little hung up on this. In all kindness I recommend dropping it and trying to contribute to the boards and find where you fit.

PrimRoseMama

Please God. Please make this stupidity stop! X_X

No. Diaper raffles are fucking tacky.

sschwege

Happy_Yahoo_Personaler said:

You aren't a charity case.  Raffles are for charity.  I recommend NOT doing the rude, tacky, and disgusting entitled diaper raffle.  1) You should never, ever, ever attempt to direct how other people spend their money.  2)  You are asking people to buy an extra gift with is downright rude.  3)  You WILL make people uncomfortable - the one person who doesn't buy the diapers and can't participate in the tacky...I mean raffle or the one person who does bring diapers when everyone else refuses. 4) Diaper raffles are not anonymous things - they have to show that they brought diapers to get a ticket, right? - so now everyone will know who brought diapers and who didn't.  Cue more awkwardness and people feeling badly.  5)  Diapers aren't cheap - even the small bags run about $8 from what I've seen.  So now you are asking people to go over their budget, change what they had planned to buy, or look like a cheapskate for not adding the diapers to their gift.  6)  The comfort of your guests should be paramount.  All previous points make people uncomfortable. 

I won't even touch the whole "Pintrest needs to burn in hell as the epicenter of tacky" thing.

And if I may add one more point, what about the person who brings diapers as their 'only' gift?  Do they throw them in the raffle and have no gift to present to the MTB?  Or put the diapers with the other gifts, but then there is the awkwardness of feeling like that gift really didn't belong there.

purple_2012

I went to a baby shower recently and the invitation did have a little card about a diaper raffle. As a guest, I did feel obligated to buy a pack of diapers. However, after spending $40 on the gift, I then had to also buy a pack of diapers. Bringing my total close to $50!! I picked out the cheapest pack of diapers I could find at the store.

Put diapers on your registry, if people want to buy them for you they will.

Amstreagle

kissandglow said:

I remember it was something Sox.

Ballsox

Amstreagle

kissandglow said:

That's it!

I don't know what happened to her but when you said sox, I knew who you were talking about. She was funny lol

GraceWordie

Want to know what is REALLY tacky? Telling people you've never met what they should and shouldn't be doing with so much conviction you'd think you were telling them the sky is blue. Everything is relative ladies.. Settle the fuck down. You are not the end all be all decision makers of etiquette and class and judging by these hideous comments I would say most of you could use a lesson in both.

Amstreagle

GraceWordie said:

Want to know what is REALLY tacky? Telling people you've never met what they should and shouldn't be doing with so much conviction you'd think you were telling them the sky is blue. Everything is relative ladies.. Settle the fuck down. You are not the end all be all decision makers of etiquette and class and judging by these hideous comments I would say most of you could use a lesson in both.

Just a tip, if you're going to be a white knight at least be original. Being a white knight, you suck at it!
1. Public forum means you will get responses from the PUBLIC how they deem necessary.
2. Etiquette isn't rocket science and is generally universal with very few grey areas.(i.e. I sneeze, I cover my mouth. That is the polite thing to do and I'm sure 99% of people will agree that it is. The remaining 1% will argue and say that it's ok in "their circle". Do you really think their circle agrees? No they're too polite to say anything to their face or are too busy being in shock that they just got spit on to say anything.)
3. I have every right to judge them for spitting on their friends and to tell them, you don't sneeze in your friends' faces it's fucking gross.
4. When sneezy decides "no I can do what I want and I deserve to sneeze everywhere", you should expect posters to say how they feel and explain why covering your mouth when you sneeze is proper etiquette.
Now go settle the fuck down ;;)

chicagojackie

amt1983 said:

See... just stick "acting like" in front of it and you can say whatever you want. Also seems like it helps if you agree unwaveringly with the mods/regulars.

No need to get bitter, darling.

GraceWordie

Amstreagle said:

GraceWordie said:

Want to know what is REALLY tacky? Telling people you've never met what they should and shouldn't be doing with so much conviction you'd think you were telling them the sky is blue. Everything is relative ladies.. Settle the fuck down. You are not the end all be all decision makers of etiquette and class and judging by these hideous comments I would say most of you could use a lesson in both.

Just a tip, if you're going to be a white knight at least be original. Being a white knight, you suck at it!
1. Public forum means you will get responses from the PUBLIC how they deem necessary.
2. Etiquette isn't rocket science and is generally universal with very few grey areas.(i.e. I sneeze, I cover my mouth. That is the polite thing to do and I'm sure 99% of people will agree that it is. The remaining 1% will argue and say that it's ok in "their circle". Do you really think their circle agrees? No they're too polite to say anything to their face or are too busy being in shock that they just got spit on to say anything.)
3. I have every right to judge them for spitting on their friends and to tell them, you don't sneeze in your friends' faces it's fucking gross.
4. When sneezy decides "no I can do what I want and I deserve to sneeze everywhere", you should expect posters to say how they feel and explain why covering your mouth when you sneeze is proper etiquette.
Now go settle the fuck down ;;)


Whatever you have to tell yourself to continue your hobby of acting like a spiteful hag all over the bump. This "showers" board is really just a place for you ladies to bitch an moan about something you've obviously never liked and then call it fact not opinion. Oh and there is something called a thesaurus you can use to help you find some fun new words because "tacky" is seriously over played on here.

missamERICA

Diaper Raffles are extremely common -- contrary to whatever people's views on here are

Engineer81

I think it's sad people can't afford their children and have to stoop to essentially begging for the necessities. It really is a shame. Maybe instead of a diaper raffle, people should chip in to get the parents to be a financial advisor. Give a man a fish, he eats for a day. Teach a man to fish, he can eat everyday.

PrimRoseMama

@GraceWordie‌ : oh dear. I'm sorry that you feel the desire to stay so angry. Maybe talk to a professional? I think it would greatly improve your life.

GraceWordie

RedheadBaker said:

GraceWordie said:

Amstreagle said:

GraceWordie said:

Want to know what is REALLY tacky? Telling people you've never met what they should and shouldn't be doing with so much conviction you'd think you were telling them the sky is blue. Everything is relative ladies.. Settle the fuck down. You are not the end all be all decision makers of etiquette and class and judging by these hideous comments I would say most of you could use a lesson in both.

Just a tip, if you're going to be a white knight at least be original. Being a white knight, you suck at it!
1. Public forum means you will get responses from the PUBLIC how they deem necessary.
2. Etiquette isn't rocket science and is generally universal with very few grey areas.(i.e. I sneeze, I cover my mouth. That is the polite thing to do and I'm sure 99% of people will agree that it is. The remaining 1% will argue and say that it's ok in "their circle". Do you really think their circle agrees? No they're too polite to say anything to their face or are too busy being in shock that they just got spit on to say anything.)
3. I have every right to judge them for spitting on their friends and to tell them, you don't sneeze in your friends' faces it's fucking gross.
4. When sneezy decides "no I can do what I want and I deserve to sneeze everywhere", you should expect posters to say how they feel and explain why covering your mouth when you sneeze is proper etiquette.
Now go settle the fuck down ;;)

Whatever you have to tell yourself to continue your hobby of acting like a spiteful hag all over the bump. This "showers" board is really just a place for you ladies to bitch an moan about something you've obviously never liked and then call it fact not opinion. Oh and there is something called a thesaurus you can use to help you find some fun new words because "tacky" is seriously over played on here.

Where did this idea that "etiquette is a matter of opinion" come from? 

I guarantee there are various things you do in your life that don't follow ancient etiquette and to compare a party to someone sneezing on someone or whatever you ladies yammer on about is hilarious. Keep being angry ladies it's pretty amusing.

Disneygeek77

I would never do a diaper raffle for several reason than the obvious, don't tell people how to spend their money thing.

1.  Lots of people are struggling right now and maybe a pack of diapers is the only thing they can give.  I would hate for them to feel like their kind gift wasn't a real one and I especially wouldn't want to them to feel embarassed that they wouldn't have anything during the gift opening part of the party.  Man that would make me feel awful.

2. Some people ( like me ) don't like spending their money on something that will eventually go in the trash.  I don't care how practical the gift is, I don't want my gift to be something that will be thrown away.  

GraceWordie

Darbie914 said:

@GracieWordie Oh hey girl!  I see you had to leave J'15 to come over and spread your support for all things tacky!

You should have a cup of tea and try to relax.  You seem really angry, dear.

Not to show support so much as disdain for how unbelievably bitter you sad ladies are. This board should just be called tacky that's seriously the only word you all know. Again you are not the authority on all things baby shower. I hope people that come here looking for real advice take your hostile responses with a grain of salt and just laugh at all the grouchy middle adged ladies complaining about something so unbelievably insignificant.

Amstreagle

GraceWordie said:

Darbie914 said:

@GracieWordie Oh hey girl!  I see you had to leave J'15 to come over and spread your support for all things tacky!

You should have a cup of tea and try to relax.  You seem really angry, dear.

Not to show support so much as disdain for how unbelievably bitter you sad ladies are. This board should just be called tacky that's seriously the only word you all know. Again you are not the authority on all things baby shower. I hope people that come here looking for real advice take your hostile responses with a grain of salt and just laugh at all the grouchy middle adged ladies complaining about something so unbelievably insignificant.

----------------anticipating quote fail---------
You're right I am sad. Sad that etiquette is an option and that entitlement trumps all.
Sweety, this entertainment to us and I'm pretty sure (myself at least) have fulfilling lives.
The people that come here for advice and not just to rainbows blown up their asses get advice that is helpful and they take it without being a bitch about it.
We aren't all middle aged, which I'm not sure why that has anything to do with anything. I'm still in my 20s fyi. Being young doesn't excuse treating your friends like shit.

PrimRoseMama

GraceWordie said:

just laugh at all the grouchy middle adged ladies complaining about something so unbelievably insignificant.

So, just so we are clear: @GraceWordie‌, isn't consideration for our guests & their pocket books significant?

I consider respecting my guests & their hard earned money to be extremely considerate & significant. To make demands about how they spend it would be the height of rude.

So you can laugh at me, but my friends appreciate the respect I have for them.

Disneygeek77

:: shrugs ::

I was just saying how I would feel.  I mean if  a diaper raffle would upset half of your guests but they other half would be fine with it, why not err on the side of caution and upset  no one ?

sschwege

missamERICA said:

Diaper Raffles are extremely common -- contrary to whatever people's views on here are

I can't disagree with you on that.  If you google 'definition of common' you will see that the #2 definition of 'common' as an adjudicative is:

showing a lack of taste and refinement; vulgar

I couldn't have said it better myself, thank you for proving our point @missamERICA


 

Amstreagle

RedheadBaker said:

GraceWordie said:

GraceWordie said:

Want to know what is REALLY tacky? Telling people you've never met what they should and shouldn't be doing with so much conviction you'd think you were telling them the sky is blue. Everything is relative ladies.. Settle the fuck down. You are not the end all be all decision makers of etiquette and class and judging by these hideous comments I would say most of you could use a lesson in both.

Just a tip, if you're going to be a white knight at least be original. Being a white knight, you suck at it!
1. Public forum means you will get responses from the PUBLIC how they deem necessary.
2. Etiquette isn't rocket science and is generally universal with very few grey areas.(i.e. I sneeze, I cover my mouth. That is the polite thing to do and I'm sure 99% of people will agree that it is. The remaining 1% will argue and say that it's ok in "their circle". Do you really think their circle agrees? No they're too polite to say anything to their face or are too busy being in shock that they just got spit on to say anything.)
3. I have every right to judge them for spitting on their friends and to tell them, you don't sneeze in your friends' faces it's fucking gross.
4. When sneezy decides "no I can do what I want and I deserve to sneeze everywhere", you should expect posters to say how they feel and explain why covering your mouth when you sneeze is proper etiquette.
Now go settle the fuck down ;;)

Whatever you have to tell yourself to continue your hobby of acting like a spiteful hag all over the bump. This "showers" board is really just a place for you ladies to bitch an moan about something you've obviously never liked and then call it fact not opinion. Oh and there is something called a thesaurus you can use to help you find some fun new words because "tacky" is seriously over played on here.

Where did this idea that "etiquette is a matter of opinion" come from? 

It came straight out of her ass....where her head is

Disneygeek77

I suppose I don't understand why people think a baby shower is different than any other gift giving occasion.  For Christmas and my birthday, I am not going to tell people what to get me unless they specifically ask.  I'm certainly not going to call them up and say " By the way, for my birthday can you buy me a new winter coat and while you're at it can you also buy me a new hat, gloves and scarf too. Thanks."   On what planet is that ok ?    Is it because of registries, are the registries what have given people free reign to ask for whatever their little hearts desire ?  

erbear84

I mostly lurk on here because, well, only 9 weeks pregnant, but my mom is obsessed with a baby shower for me already and a diaper raffle was her latest "great" idea. "Everyone who brings diapers will get a ticket and win a basket of wine!" No, mom. No. I usually buy diapers as a part of my gift anyway - one shower I went to got mad that I wrapped my "raffle diapers" as a part of the gift. Uh, that's because they were a part of the gift? So ungrateful.