I'm sorry, I just have to vent! I am just so frustrated. My husband and I work opposite shifts and I am supposed to O this week, most likely tomorrow or Friday. He has been getting home after I'm already gone for work and he is gone by the time I get home. The only way we would have the opportunity to HIO before I O is if I come home from work early tomorrow and we could DTD before my H goes to work. I asked him if I should try to get out of work early tomorrow and he said no because it is too much pressure on him to be able to perform in that short window of time. He said he wants to forget about this cycle and hope our schedule work out better next cyle. I'm so frustrated. When I tried talking to him about it, he just got super mad and was yelling about how it is too much pressure on him and how it makes him feel bad. I know it is hard on him and there is a lot of pressure to perform, but I can't believe he is willing to just forego this whole cycle and doesn't even want to try. I just got off the phone with him and I can't stop crying. I just had to get this off my chest. I was trying to stay hopeful that maybe I would be KU by the holidays but now that's pretty impossible. I think having that little string of hope was keeping me going because I know the holidays are going to be tough. Thanks for listening ladies. Here are some treats for getting this far.
Married: 4/28/12
BFP: 7/2/14 ; 1st US 7/21/14 Baby measuring 7w5d, HB of 138; Discovered MMC 8/18/14 at 11w2d, baby measuring 8w5d, no hb ; 8/19/14 D&C
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Re: AW: So frustrated!
TTC is stressful at the best of times. FX that next cycle timing will be fantastic...or that your husband will surprise you and you'll be able to HIO anyway.
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BFP 12/19/12: Ectopic discovered at 8 weeks, right tube removed 01/18/13
June 2013 Testing Results: Progesterone: 31.7, LH: 5, FSH: 5, Estradiol: 161
Clomid cycles Nov. 2013 and Jan, Feb, and March 2014
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I understand about that glimmer of hope of being "knocked up by..." But as someone who has been trying for four+ years, I'm learning how not to fixate or pin everything on that anymore. I don't know your history and it's very possible you will get KU, but I kind of wish I addressed this issue with my H sooner. The pressure I put on him contributed to a real long term problem.
Good luck.
DH & I are both 28 Together: 12 years Married: 09/24/2011
BFP#1: January '12 - DD1 09/16/2012
Preterm labor 31 weeks. Monitored for Hellp and diagnosed with oligohydramnios July '12
BFP #2: 06/25 - EDD 03/05/15 MMC confirmed 8/1 - D&E 8/4 retained tissue discovered 8/20
BFP #3 11/24 - 12/15 Heartbeat detected - DD2 07/29/15
Our DHs are under so much pressure. It's horrible.
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I wont be temping this cycle for that very reason. I am using the CBFM so technically we're still "temping" or using OPKs I guess. I think I might put out a call to ladies who want to put down their BBTs for a few cycles and rally some ladies who want to take this break in a temporary check in.
They really are under so much pressure. Especially when TTC is just one of many components of their lives that they view they are "giving to us". While we sit fretting, planning, researching, obsessing, they are trying to be supportive and trying to keep their own emotions about this thing in check too, while "providing for the family".
I hope you guys figure out a time or just surprise him by saying "it's cool. maybe next month will work out better." A lot of times, when we back off, it gives them time to reflect and not be reacting under pressure from us, and *they* get to make a plan and feel ownership.
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Losses: MMC#1 11/12 BO, MC#2 11/13 at 8w BO?, MMC#3 8/14 chromo healthy M @12 weeks, stopped growing at 10.
Negligible AMH, FSH finally went high. Pursued DE.
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Good luck!
I know you're upset and that is so understandable. I hope you can talk to him though and acknowledge it's hard for him too. Another thing I've learned the hard way - acknowledging his struggle.
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Married 6/11/2011
Me & Hubby: 34
TTC journey started 12/2012
BFP #1 6/5/2013, MC confirmed 6/26/2013 @ 7 wks
BFP#2 8/25/2013 MC confirmed 10/16/2013 @ 12 wks (D&C 10/18)
Diagnosis: unexplained RPL, unexplained IF.
Also have hypothyroidism
Started TTC again 12/2013
IUI#1:Clomid CD 3-7, Trigger'ed CD 12. IUI CD 14. BFN
IUI #2:Letrozole CD 3 - 7, Follistim CD 9, Trigger CD 10, IUI CD12. BFN
Current plan: IVF with PGD. Antagonist - Vivelle Protocal. Stim start 12/1. ER 12/14.
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