My friend is hosting a Stella and Dot party in a few weeks. I'd like to go to the party to hang out with friends and see the stuff, but I just looked on eBay and saw the two necklaces I would consider buying for less than half the cost of what it'll be at this party. I really don't want to spend full price on these necklaces, because I think the cost would be over $200.
Is it a douche move to go to the party and not get anything? Is it douchier to go to the party, try stuff on, and get it on eBay later? My friend is hosting the party but she is not the "dealer" if that makes sense. It's just so expensive and I hate paying full price for something so impractical...
Re: Stella and Dot party etiquette
I would have no qualms about going and not purchasing.
Real friends don't invite you to these God awful things.
Is it a close friend that you could talk to in advance that you are interested in attending but you know up front you won't be making a purchase? Or could you go to the party and bring something with you like wine or food to share as a gesture to the host?
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I avoid Stella and Dot for this reason.
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Not really, but thankfully my friends don't suck and don't host these.
And @mcgeeva - we have had five fundraisers for school and one for soccer since September. How many people does the school think we know that we could hit up for five different things in three months? I just throw the brochures away now and don't even participate. There is No way I am buying all that crap myself or hitting up my friends, neighbors, etc. for something different every other week.
Seriously, though, I haven't had one in my home in years because no one ever comes, even those who act excited at the prospect. I stick to online now, and usually only do one for the automatic hostess discount, so never any pressure from me.
I only go to parties if I know I'm going to buy, but mostly to keep myself from caving in to my lack of will power.
edited - I had to google Stella & Dot. Until this post, I thought it was kids' clothing. Too trendy for that price point.
OP, from an etiquette standpoint, I think it's totally fine to go and not buy anything. I personally would prefer to hang out outside if one of those parties, though, so I might do that instead.
Also, doterra. Gah. I've used EO's for a while, but I can't stand the whole "certified pure therapeutic grade" crap that doterra does. It's a trademark, not some special certification. Stop misleading people. *steps off soapbox*
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6/17/13 - Ovidrel, Follistim, Prometrium ~ IUI #1 7/2 = BFP! March 17th our St. Pattys day baby arrived
10/29/17 - Started process for IVF, got pregnant & miscarried a 2nd time since summer. 2/22 started stims - Menopur, Gonal F, Cetrotide - retrieval 3/6 - , PIO, estrace 3xday - FET 4/18 = Beta 1: 616; Beta 2: 1342 = BFP