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  • CUBBIESMAMA3CUBBIESMAMA3 member
    @ashaw512, DH says the same thing. It gets old b/c he says it a lot. I know how you feel
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  • jht14jht14 member
    Next time my in laws randomly show up I'm going to hide.

    They keep coming over without calling or giving a heads up and I'm tired of it. They even come when they know DH isn't home. And it's always when I've just gotten LO down for a nap. Then they wake her up or the dogs barking at the door wakes her. I'm beyond over it.
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    emmylu30 said:

    This is my 2nd PP period and I'm irrationally scared to use tampons.

    I tried my 2nd and it hurt so bad and was so uncomfortable. I was so sad because I hate pads.
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  • jht14jht14 member
    kaleb87 said:

    jht14 said:

    Next time my in laws randomly show up I'm going to hide.

    They keep coming over without calling or giving a heads up and I'm tired of it. They even come when they know DH isn't home. And it's always when I've just gotten LO down for a nap. Then they wake her up or the dogs barking at the door wakes her. I'm beyond over it.

    This is the story of my life. I think my MIL has some kind of radar, okay the baby is asleep time to go over. I miss the days before kids when my MIL NEVER came to my house.
    Exactly. I could count on one hand the times my MIL had been here before LO was born. Now they're here all the freaking time. I'm over it. My mom keeps saying well you should've known that would happen since you live so close. I think it's part she's jealous because my ILs are 5 minutes away and my parents are 40 minutes away.
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  • Ahlome08Ahlome08 member
    So, just thought of one: I don't care how "smart" or "ahead" you think your baby is, until they are talking, they have the equivalent of a dog or a cat's brain. They can understand small commands or gestures, but not much more. Yes, they are amazing because they are experiencing everything for the first time, and learning things so quickly in the first year, but, just because you make your baby listen to classical music or watch mad men, doesn't mean that they are a genius. Same thing for people who's babies reach physical milestones early as well. Sorry about the rant, just kind of sick of all these posts I'm seeing on other boards about in depth activities (Meant for much older babies/toddlers), for their less than 3 month old babies lol.
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  • str13str13 member
    I actually did have my own FFFC before I got distracted!! Lol

    I've started heavily restricting how much I eat.... DH sometimes eats more in a meal than I allow in a day.
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  • purplestarzpurplestarz member
    Slightly related to the posts above....my confession is I'm pretty sure at this point in time my dog IS smarter than my baby :)

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  • Ahlome08Ahlome08 member
    @str13‌ that's exactly what I meant. @wingardiumleviosa‌ I don't think babies are like logs. If you read my post, I actually think they are intelligent, for their ages. I was talking about people that think their baby knows what they're saying, before 6 months, or babies that might reach physical milestones early. I talk to my 2 month old, but I know he smiles at me because I'm mommy and not because I'm talking about how silly the cats are. I've just seen too many posts about people thinking they should be doing hard things like reciting the constitution or something like they're LO will memorize it in two weeks or something. Yes, talk to your baby, but don't expect them to know what you're talking about this early.
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  • Ahlome08Ahlome08 member
    edited November 2014
    @mambonumber5‌ I was talking about waay earlier than 10 months. Like, before they're brains can even comprehend what we say or do, they just know we take care of them. And @wingardiumleviosa‌ I'm pretty sure most people know kids should be able to read a bit and spell their name, etc before kindergarten. I'm fairly certain the kids that don't, either aren't there yet, or their parents didn't take the time to. And yes, I can start reading to my LO or doing math problems with him, but it's not necessary at his age, since his mind barely comprehends that I'm mommy and I bring the food and comfort him.
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  • Twinplus5Twinplus5 member
    I have been SUPER hungry lately for everything from chocolate to cheeseburgers! Ugh I was doing so well with post baby weight, now at 6 weeks I'm so hungry , I'm like screw the extra pounds I want ice cream! Must be hormonal

    Also BF has played sick the last 3 nights taking NyQuil and passing out meanwhile my babies are up until 2 with diaper changes I lost count of , Pajama changes , security nursing, cluster feeding the WORKS , & as much as I wanna ring his neck for taking the easy route out of night duty , I miss him and the baby time we spend together & tonight was rent an on demand movie night and picking it alone kinda made me sad, ok but maybe that's hormonal too :(
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  • Ahlome08Ahlome08 member
    edited November 2014
    wingardiumleviosa said:

    str13 said:

    I don't think that's what @Ahlome08‌ meant. (Correct me if I'm wrong @Ahlome08) but last week my 9 week old "rolled over", but not because she's so much smarter and superior than all the other S14 babies, but because she was already a little on her side and flopping her arms like a lunatic. Reaching a milestone early doesn't mean your child is a prodigy, anymore than my child reaching one late means they're delayed. Many pedis etc agree that children that develop physically first will develop and little slower verbally, and vice versa. But then again I'm probably the only dumb ass mom here that doesn't want my kids to start kindergarten early because of how goddamn advanced they are.

    Okay, but your example isn't of a milestone being reached, as you yourself acknowledged, so it's kind of a moot point. If you look into continuums, they let you know what emotional needs and physical skills are required to achieve each milestone and what you can do to maximize their development. Once they have successfully done and repeated one milestone, that is a good indicator that they are ready and capable of moving toward the next one.

    In-depth activities involving various sensory factors can aid in your child's growth. Saying that a baby has the limitations of a cat or a dog until they can speak is scientifically inaccurate and perpetuates the false belief that young babies require little to no varied stimulation.

    Also, I don't know what entering kindergarten early has to do with this. I don't know of a place that takes kids early because they are advanced, so I'm not sure where you were going with that. Implying people are only teaching their children to get them out of the house sooner, perhaps?

    @Ahlome08‌, sometimes I get the impression that you're talking out of your ass. The other day you posted saying even a slightly higher dosage of vitamin D can make a baby fussy - where did you get this information? Your baby's mind can way more than "barely comprehend" that you are his mom. You keep saying things like "smart for their age" and "not necessary for their age". Age has nothing to do with it. Why are you putting a limit on your baby's intelligence? Birth through 6 years old is prime time for learning, their brains will never work this hard again.
    First, yes, I google most of my information, but most of it's from the mayo clinic, webmd, or the AAP website. FTR, I didn't say "even the slightest bit more of vitamin d" I generalized it saying if they're getting too much can make them fussy as it can upset their tummies. That answer was found on webmd, and it was just a helpful suggestion, not me giving medical advice or talking out of my ass.
    Also, I believe dogs and cats are very intelligent creatures, just not extremely evolved. They can learn how to obey commands or do something when asked, and some can even count, etc. Most babies can begin speaking as early as 9 months (although I believe the norm is something like 12 months or so). I wasn't saying babies aren't intelligent, but their learning is limited to a certain extent, such as, yes, they can understand a good deal of many things, but if I teach him math this early, it's not necessary until he's closer to school age. I wasn't talking about colors, talking in general or other first year things.
    My post want saying babies are dumb, I'm just saying there are certain weeks/or months that are more appropriate than others or easier for them to understand certain things. It's kind of like the when will my baby be entertained more/promote independent play post: there's not a whole lot that you can have them do for so long, as their attention span isn't that long. I see your point, and I probably came off as an arrogant ass, and there's probably no point in convincing you otherwise, so I'm done with this discussion, because I'm bored of it. And I can see you don't get what I'm trying to convey, but it's alright, I'm sure there are others who understand what I'm trying to say.
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    wingardiumleviosa said:

    str13 said:

    I don't think that's what @Ahlome08‌ meant. (Correct me if I'm wrong @Ahlome08) but last week my 9 week old "rolled over", but not because she's so much smarter and superior than all the other S14 babies, but because she was already a little on her side and flopping her arms like a lunatic. Reaching a milestone early doesn't mean your child is a prodigy, anymore than my child reaching one late means they're delayed. Many pedis etc agree that children that develop physically first will develop and little slower verbally, and vice versa. But then again I'm probably the only dumb ass mom here that doesn't want my kids to start kindergarten early because of how goddamn advanced they are.

    Okay, but your example isn't of a milestone being reached, as you yourself acknowledged, so it's kind of a moot point. If you look into continuums, they let you know what emotional needs and physical skills are required to achieve each milestone and what you can do to maximize their development. Once they have successfully done and repeated one milestone, that is a good indicator that they are ready and capable of moving toward the next one.

    In-depth activities involving various sensory factors can aid in your child's growth. Saying that a baby has the limitations of a cat or a dog until they can speak is scientifically inaccurate and perpetuates the false belief that young babies require little to no varied stimulation.

    Also, I don't know what entering kindergarten early has to do with this. I don't know of a place that takes kids early because they are advanced, so I'm not sure where you were going with that. Implying people are only teaching their children to get them out of the house sooner, perhaps?
    @wingardiumleviosa‌ you know that wasn't what I meant, I honestly don't recall if you have older children, but if you do when they started kindergarten you remember some of the children in the class being started early simply because a mother felt the child was "ready". It does happen. My brothers started 4K with 3 year olds, which I don't think is fair to the 3 year old, that's a huge difference at that age. But whatever.

    I only said that I was the only dumb ass mom not to start my kids early because of how "advanced" they were to lighten the mood, not to light a fire under your ass. NOT saying you wanted your baby out of the house, but you know that. I really didn't feel like I attacked you, rather defended @Ahlome08 with whom I wholeheartedly agree with.

    And it wasn't a moot point to say that rolling over could be attributed to other factors, it is a milestone, and they can be attributed to other things. And if you'll read I stated that IF A CHILD DEVELOPED EARLY, meaning that I allow children are advanced and can. Develop. Early.

    I don't pretend at all that I'm doing everything right over here, at all! I'm treading water most days. And I have VERY relaxed parenting style that works for me and my kiddos.
    I don't know if my babies are advanced or delayed because I don't read milestone and parenting books, with my first I did and it was detrimental and harmful for me emotionally. (And just to head you off, I mean for me personally, I'm not passing judgment saying the books are detrimental and harmful. I have severe PPD-OCD, the books were the last thing I needed.)

    I'm trying not to get pissed off, because this was FFFC, and it *kinda* felt like you flamed @Ahlome08‌ and then flamed and bitched me out for explaining what I thought her position was.

    Don't worry. Your baby is very smart. Smarter than all the S14 babies.
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  • Ahlome08Ahlome08 member
    edited November 2014
    str13 said:


    Don't worry. Your baby is very smart. Smarter than all the S14 babies.

    Glad you said it before I did @str13‌
    Can I also say, your awesome and I love you?! Lol
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  • str13str13 member
    edited November 2014
    Ahlome08 said:

    str13 said:


    Don't worry. Your baby is very smart. Smarter than all the S14 babies.

    Glad you said it before I did @str13‌
    Can I also say, your awesome and I love you?! Lol
    Ha!! You my bish! I gots you! And you can totally say it. :x ironically DD1 is wearing her puppy jacket in my avatar!!!!! Lmao!! =))
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  • lmk1566lmk1566 member
    Omg, I've never seen a smiley face like that (lmao)!
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  • hurricanenelliehurricanenellie member
    I think it's bizarre that there are seriously Mean Girls in this "club." I'm not referring solely to this thread. The constant passive aggressive "newb bashing" is borderline embarrassing/pathetic. This is a group of women with the sole common interest of raising healthy, happy children that are seeking laughs, tips and advice from other women going through similar situations. If some were perhaps too busy during their pregnancy working, sleeping, preparing for the biggest life altering event possible to post daily I don't think they should feel alienated. It's weird and childish.
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  • str13str13 member
    Damn I knew I was above my pay grade! Shit.... @CarmAlarm & @mrsdanielleM2010‌ :)
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  • kaleb87kaleb87 member
    edited November 2014
    mrsdanielleM2010 said:

    CarmAlarm said:

    @mrsdanielleM2010‌ I too noticed that too


    I missed you, mean girl. Let's come back.
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  • lmk1566lmk1566 member
    Sheesh. New, old, in between; can't we all just get along.., :-S
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