NTTCAL Who do you judge?

uromys

I am awful at judge people in the grocery store. I try really hard not to stereo type someone by the items in their cart, but find it just happens sometimes. I have my wants and little indulgences, but primarily my shopping trip doesn't consist of cakes, cookies, and pies. I would rather fulfill that whole with wine, liquor, and beer.

Nikolie93

@gscoville‌ I feel your pain with the smoke sensitivity!

MrsPhD83

I agree with PP about judging people who intro and then never return.

Someone intro'd over the summer after I first joined. I had some freebie OPKs that I put up for grabs shortly after her intro and she responded that she wanted them. I mailed them to her and not only did she never come back to TTCAL, she never even thanked me for them!!!! I even sent her a sympathy card with the OPKs because she was having her D&C that same week that I mailed them out. I mean, I don't need people to praise me for a kind act, but WTF lady??!! If you receive that kind of support from a community, you sure as hell better give to it too.

Rachaeleigh

Why do you guys care how people dress? I mean, does it affect you at all? Who has time to care if people look the fool? Unless I have to see your ass crack I'm pretty impartial/let people make their own fashion decisions.

I wouldn't say that I "care" about hooker looking shoes (which is my specific example), as in think about it all day.
It takes me about 5 seconds to notice them, think "hmm, those look incredibly inappropriate for work, " and then move on

Eta :
Damn it, messed up the quote on mobile

ellebelle2384

I judge people who want support when they need it but never give it when someone else needs it.

I judge bad drivers, especially when they honk or glare at me like I'm the problem.

I judge my coworkers who don't pull their weight and sit on their phone all day on FB.  I'd love to do that too.  But I'm busy...working.

MrsPhD83

whitneyandconcep said:

*snip*

I judge people that assume I'm gluten free because of a fad.  Even if it was, who the hell cares?

This!! I judge people who expect me to explain my medical issues so they can understand why I can't eat gluten. I'm allergic. MOVE ON! (rant over)

this is me too!!!! wheat allergy =/= celiac disease, or "gluten sensitivity" or "i'm on a paleo diet." Wheat allergy = throat closing/itchy face/stuffy nose. Sooooooo yeah i'm skipping the whole wheat pasta, thanks.

ETA spelling

forevermyfenix

I grocery store judge hard core. Those who block the isles, those with severely obese children with carts full of nothing but soda candy and microwavable meals. 

And those who bring newborns to Walmart. This may stem from envy. But really? I know the old ways of staying in the house for 3 months is no longer, but when I see a week old or younger being toted around Walmart and all of the sick people there - I wanna strangle someone. 

jjbmstinco

I judge a lot of parent's parenting skills at work. I feel bad about it daily, but then I remember how frustrated I am with them.  Its a vicious cycle. 

Edited to add: example today-letting a kindergardener play COD.  So he tells the school that he is going to shoot them because he can't differentiate between real life and a game. 

uromys

jjbmstinco said:

I judge a lot of parent's parenting skills at work. I feel bad about it daily, but then I remember how frustrated I am with them.  Its a vicious cycle. 

Edited to add: example today-letting a kindergardener play COD.  So he tells the school that he is going to shoot them because he can't differentiate between real life and a game. 

All of this, but primarily the bolded. These video games now a days are awful. It's one thing an older teen or adult playing them, but don't let your children watch. Too many young children don't understand how to differentiate between game violence and reality. I can't stand hearing kids say their going shoot you, or chop heads off. It makes me ill! I come from a military family and the way I see it is if you want to play those games and you think they are so "cool" go play it in real time. Sign yourself up and serve for your county if that's what you think fun is.

forevermyfenix

@jjbmstinco YES! All of that. I'm sure we both see our share of shitty parents. The other day a mother put out her 15 year old daughter because the mother's boyfriend made a pass at the daughter. Instead of getting rid of the boyfriend, the mother kicked her daughter out of the house to live with an ailing grandmother. 

PinkCamino

namaste!

EIsieMae

crimpgirl said:

I judge people who call women "skinny bitches" I work out 5-9 times a week to stay this size at 34. I earned it, putting someone down only makes the person doing it look bad.

I totally agree with this. I don't think it's acceptable to negatively comment on anyone's size. It's hurtful either way, and completely rude.

Menrandes

@MrsPhD83 I do have Celiac.  And most people think I'm either on a fad diet or have an allergy.  I'm tired of explaining that if there is a crumb of gluten containing foods in my dish, I will be laid out for a week.

No, it's not an allergy and no my throat wont close up, but it does cause permanent damage.  My BIL tried to tell me that an allergy was worse because it wouldn't kill me. Actually, he yelled at me telling me to get over, so I'm touchy about this subject. No, it wouldn't kill me.  Immediately anyway.  But it did almost kill me because it caused my iron levels to drop so low I need iron infusion on a weekly basis.  And there have studies showing that uncontrolled Celiac can contribute to infertility and potentially cause cancer later on. 

They are different.  But I'm pretty sure they both suck to the extreme. 

ETA: I'm just sharing stuff from my perspective, not angry at you in case it came across that way!

Nikolie93

I thought the same thing! I was confused at first.

MrsPhD83

Menrandes said:

@MrsPhD83 I do have Celiac.  And most people think I'm either on a fad diet or have an allergy.  I'm tired of explaining that if there is a crumb of gluten containing foods in my dish, I will be laid out for a week.

No, it's not an allergy and no my throat wont close up, but it does cause permanent damage.  My BIL tried to tell me that an allergy was worse because it wouldn't kill me. Actually, he yelled at me telling me to get over, so I'm touchy about this subject. No, it wouldn't kill me.  Immediately anyway.  But it did almost kill me because it caused my iron levels to drop so low I need iron infusion on a weekly basis.  And there have studies showing that uncontrolled Celiac can contribute to infertility and potentially cause cancer later on. 

They are different.  But I'm pretty sure they both suck to the extreme. 

ETA: I'm just sharing stuff from my perspective, not angry at you in case it came across that way!

@Menrandes, Oh yes! I agree with you for sure. Both suck very much. People just don't get that they are different conditions that result in the same food restrictions. I'm sorry that your Celiac is that extreme. I know that it can be very dangerous and challenging to manage.

MrsPhD83

@Sterling13, I can see your chart linky AND your sexytime!!! Very excited to chart stalk now

PinkCamino

Sterling13 said:

Also, did you all see my chart in my siggy now? Make sure you can see my sexytime and report back!

FRIEND REQUEST SENT.

jjbmstinco

@forevermyfenix-That makes me so sad!!

MrsOscarFelix

furrypaws said:

Seriously...ALL of the judging is happening in my head!

I am SO fucking judging asshole family members who use other family members for their personal loan department...which will obviously not get paid back...and this has been going on for 30+ years...I'm not even slightly kidding...

...current sore subject for me I guess...

Oh god this! Especially when they aren't grateful at all and are the first assholes to bitch about everyone else...

@nickolie93 I judge everyone who does not use a turn signal..it is one of my biggest pet peeves. Seriously, if I could I would just hit them all.

 

I am really, really judgy when it comes to people who feel the need to explain or justify everything they do. It drives me literally fucking insane.. especially when they have an excuse for everything. Just do what you want and stop trying justify it all the time.

meredithcarole

@Menrandes‌, @whitneyandconcep, and @MrsPhD83‌ I judge people who are gluten free because it's a fad on behalf of people like you for whom it is a true health concern. Part of my job is to make restaurant meals safe for people with allergies or autoimmune issues. When someone "needs" to speak to me because they are "gluten free" (and they always say it's an "allergy") and then proceeds to ask me if the Coca Cola is gluten free they can GTFO. They clearly do not have a clue what gluten is. They waste my time and there are people (like the kid at the next table with a list of 20 life threatening allergies) who genuinely need my attention. If someone wants to order a salad or steak because they want to avoid gluten, fine, but don't call it an "allergy" if it is not.

ETA: fixed random capitalized letter (so I don't get judged )

Menrandes

@meredithcarole While coke is safe, unfortunately not all sodas are.  Caramel coloring can sometimes hide cereal grains, and malt syrup definitely has gluten.
But if the customer knows the brand of soda they want, then that is something they can research on their own.
I wont even go to a restaurant that does not have reviews from people with Celiac or allergies already.  Cross contamination is huge deal. 
:-q
But yeah, if someone is gluten free for the diet aspect, whatever, it's fine for them.. BUT, to treat it as a disease, a sensitivity, or an allergy when it isn't, I judge that too. It's so hard to be taken seriously when I go out to eat. I remember once being near someone that ordered gluten free and checked to make sure everything in her meal was gluten free, but then used soy sauce.  Which has wheat in it.  She was told about it, but she shrugged it off and said it wouldn't be a big deal. 

Oh well, I know my kitchen is safe, so that's generally where I eat. 
And I don't really mind.  I do mind going to parties and not being able to eat though. 
Oh, so when people ask what gluten is in, I tell them.  And I always mention that it can hide in spices, though I had never seen it for sure myself.  About a week ago I saw chili powder with wheat in it.  :-w
It finds itself in so many seemingly random places.  If something doesn't have the gluten free label and it is processed, I research the hell out of it before I buy. 

meredithcarole

Menrandes said:

@meredithcarole While coke is safe, unfortunately not all sodas are.  Caramel coloring can sometimes hide cereal grains, and malt syrup definitely has gluten.
But if the customer knows the brand of soda they want, then that is something they can research on their own.

Very true. I failed to mention that the Coca Cola woman then ate her husband's focaccia bread after eating the tapioca rolls I gave her. That just pisses me off.

Menrandes

meredithcarole said:

Menrandes said:

@meredithcarole While coke is safe, unfortunately not all sodas are.  Caramel coloring can sometimes hide cereal grains, and malt syrup definitely has gluten.
But if the customer knows the brand of soda they want, then that is something they can research on their own.

Very true. I failed to mention that the Coca Cola woman then ate her husband's focaccia bread after eating the tapioca rolls I gave her. That just pisses me off.



Ugh. Yeah, that pisses me off too!

Edit: mobile, trying to fix format.

kyliehopeful

Well I'm judging all of you for being so judgey (sic)..... And absolutely love it!

I judge people who are fake, give me a real person with real moods and feelings any day!

@MrsPhD83‌
I can't believe she didn't even send you a thank you card, that's really low

rmpar29

I'm putting on my judgey hat.

- I judge people that speak down to their children in public.  A woman at Target last week very harshly asked her child (maybe 4) "when are you going to start acting right?" because he apparently wasn't getting out of the car fast enough.  I wanted to respond "when are YOU going to start acting right"  She then proceeded to walk into the store with him 10 feet behind her, by himself, constantly bitching to her friend about what a horrible son he is.  He could've easily gotten hit by a car, and I won't even mention what she's doing to his self-esteem.  SMH

- I totally judge bumpies that start threads and never come back to thank others for support, or even answer the questions asked.

- I judge the FB folks that put something vague up to get attention but never give details like "insert name here is feeling hopeless".  Or put up a pointed remark obviously aimed at someone but don't say who, send them a PM.  Or spout how much they love their SO and how wonderful they are every day, seems like over-compensating to me. 

- I judge people that over-spend on material things and then can't pay their bills.  I know that some people have an actual shopping addiction, and those people are not included in this statement.  My girlfriend just has NO self-control and then all of her bills are late, which she then complains about. 

- I judge people that let their animals roam free and then get upset when they run away or get into something they shouldn't. 

- I hardcore judge newbies that come on here and ask "when will I get my period", "when will I ovulate", "when can I TTC again".  Like we are going to know! 

OK, that's probably enough for this morning...

Nikolie93

@rmpar29 I feel the same way about vaugue posts on FB. There is actually a term and it's called vaugebooking. I just don't understand why someone would put things like "this sucks" or "I can't believe this happened to me *

Then they never come back and say anything after getting a shit ton of OMG, are you ok?? what happened?? Ugh!

Off topic, you can track your sexy time on FF??? I have so much to learn.

lycih

PinkCamino said:

lycih said:

I judge the people who just shove their way onto the train before other people get off.  NEWSFLASH: you're not the only one trying to get anywhere, AND if you waited to let the other people off, you might even get a seat/more space to stand

hahahahahaha come to my city and you'll be pissed off all the fucking time. The only way to ride the subway is to push your way through!

Oh there's lots of pushing that's necessary, for sure, especially when you're trying to get off the el from the middle of the car, or the middle of the bus for that matter. But the folks who stand on the platform directly at the opening of the door and immediately push those trying to get *off* back *in* to the car just so they can get on immediately make no logical sense.  

ImJessesGirl

I judge the hell out of lots of people, lol.

I judge people who say they "accidentally" got pregnant... ummmm pretty sure we know how to prevent babies, so it wasn't an accident.

I judge people who have bad grammar on social media.

ImJessesGirl

Ok, after I went back and read through all the posts, 1, I am seriously LOLing over here; 2, I am so thankful to have such a boring life.

Andplusalso, I judge the fuck out of people who are over the age of 25 and still live with their parents.

I judge women who wen to college to get their MRS...

gscoville

ImJessesGirl said:

I judge people who say they "accidentally" got pregnant... ummmm pretty sure we know how to prevent babies, so it wasn't an accident.

Yes, but people use birth control and do get pregnant anyways, they clearly are doing what they can to prevent but sometimes 'accidents' happen - only abstinence is 100%, there's still a varying chance of getting KU on any form of BC and if you take it and it still happens, that's an 'accident' meaning not intended.  I agree I don't like the term 'accidental' when they use pullout or some nod to rhythm method, most aren't actually temping/charting properly so as to really effectively cut down their chances of getting KU and don't have a clue about how their cycles really work - they just pull and pray.  That's not an accident, that's stupidity and/or laziness.

Menrandes

@ImJessesGirl I have way too many friends that are over 30 and still live at home. I do judge them, but I judge the parents a lot more.  I don't know, maybe I just don't get it because I moved away at 18.  I moved back for a short time in my early 20's, but was gone again within a year.
One of these friends says that one should never move away from home unless they are absolutely positive they will never need to move back.  Like anyone ever really knows that. 

ImJessesGirl

Menrandes said:

@ImJessesGirl I have way too many friends that are over 30 and still live at home. I do judge them, but I judge the parents a lot more.  I don't know, maybe I just don't get it because I moved away at 18.  I moved back for a short time in my early 20's, but was gone again within a year.
One of these friends says that one should never move away from home unless they are absolutely positive they will never need to move back.  Like anyone ever really knows that. 

Oh totally, I judge both sides. Why on earth would you want your children to be dependent on you at the adult stage of life? Makes no sense to me.