Hey everyone! I am currently 10 weeks pregnant - so I'm super far away from baby shower time, but I tend to stress about things really early and this issue has bothering me in the back of my mind lately.
My mom and sisters plan to throw a shower for me. They intend to invite our family members and very, very close friends. Now, when I got married earlier this year, they also threw my bridal shower. They had intended to invite ONLY our family and very close friends to that as well, but my husband's mother and sister decided that 1) their family didn't need to throw me a shower (absolutely right in this regard- a shower was NOT necessary and I'm grateful that I had the one that my family threw for me) and that 2) since they weren't throwing me one, they felt that it was my family's responsibility to invite all of their relatives. It was a very awkward situation; long story short, we invited everyone on both sides to be polite and their side couldn't show so bridal shower ended up being my family + MIL and SIL.
My in-laws haven't mentioned anything about a shower yet, but I'm worried that the same thing is going to happen with baby shower in a few months. I want to make it absolutely clear that I do NOT feel that anyone, either on my side of my family or on my husband's, is in any way obligated to throw a baby shower for me. However, I don't want my family to have the burden of hosting EVERYONE again when, in the last year, they've already hosted both a wedding shower and a wedding for me. I would prefer that if my mom and sisters throw me a shower, they invite the people who are important to them - meaning our family and close friends, not the in-laws. Is there a polite way to handle this if the issue arises? With the holidays coming up, I feel like this is a topic that's going to be talked about at some point.