Comments on your size

SSCmomma

Does anyone else find it rude when acquaintances or people you barely/don't know comment on your size?  I've had several comments over the past few days including thing like "Twins?", "Wow, that's gonna be a huge baby!" and "You're belly is huge!".  One was made by a store clerk at a store I frequent.  Another a colleague.  Am I the only one who thinks these are rude things to say!?  No, I am not delivering a sasquach or having twins!  Vent done.  

Maebb

Yes, it's rude. I maintain that "You look fabulous" is one of the few acceptable things to say about a pregnant woman's appearance.

I've gotten, "Well, I kind of noticed a month ago, but you're definitely round enough now to be sure that you're pregnant and not just getting fat." Ummm...thanks?

Valm999

Yup... I get annoying rude comments from people all the time. The "are you having twins/ triplets," "you're ready to pop!" Or "you're only x weeks long??" comment is getting old.

susannahbrynn

"You're really popping out there."
"Just don't give birth here, okay? Haha."
"Wow, you can really tell you're pregnant."
"How much bigger are you gonna get?"

These are a few of my personal favorites in the last week or so.

#juststop

Edvent

Yes it's rude to say things like that, and I agree "you look amazing" (or something of the sort) is the only appropriate comment to be made about a pregnant woman's size. I think mostly people just become kind of stupid around pregnant women, lose their filter and say whatever comes to mind.

I saw a former colleague at a conference this week and I had seen her a few weeks before at another community event. She came up to me and said "dang girl, I just saw you a few weeks ago, but now you look REALLY pregnant!". I just laughed and agreed. Sometimes it doesn't bother me because it's like well at least I look as big as I feel, haha. 

elleswarth

All of the questions/comments, all of the time, are annoying. The size comments are beyond rude and inappropriate, and the constant questions make me want to throat punch people.

How are you feeeeeeeling?
Are you ready to be done?
Do you love being pregnant?
What are you craving?
Do you feel her moving? Is she moving now? Can I feel?

Just shut your face. Shut it. Shut it right now.

ecubaby19

Today I got told that I'm having triplets and will go to 42 weeks. 

susannahbrynn

@elleswarth‌ my favorite question is "how are you feeeeling? How is eeeeverything?"

BackseatDriver

It doesn't really bother me. No one has really commented on my size this time, but I'm sure I will get more comments towards the end. With my previous pregnancy the comments were all over the place. Some people thought I looked big, others thought I looked small. I just shrugged it off. People carry differently. Some babies are bigger and others are smaller. It is what it is, ya know? I don't see a big belly as the same as looking fat. Plus people don't know what they are talking about half the time. Comments like "Your face is looking fat/round." did irk me. But with that said I usually try to avoid commenting on the size of bellies completely.

sanbry

I had a random weight gain(I went home to visit and ate too much comfort food) and my mom said she noticed it in my face. ( seriously, now it's all I can see. This is around the time I started gaining faster with my first too. Blah.

mshepherd20

I have a long torso so the baby has more room to go up and down so my bump doesn't go out very far. I get irritated by people commenting on how small I am. When they say something they usually have a concerned look on their face. Yes I'm really 31 weeks and yes the baby is measuring on track. Ugh!

Aillise

I don't get many comments. I've got them from my MIL who says " you finally look pregnant". And she didn't want me to have the Halloween shower because she said " You don't look pregnant! you cant have a shower until you do"

  My friend said that I look "cute" pregnant and that "I have that glow".

 My favorite is from my son the other day. I put on a black camisole and he said " You look pregnant in that shirt. No offense but you just looked fat before, now you look like there's a baby"..     Kids are so blunt lol

hefferhog15

I've heard both that I look tiny for as far along as I am and then others have said things like"wow u sure ur not having twins?" "ur baby's gonna be a ten pounder" "I figured u were about ready to have it as big as u are"..the nicest thing I've heard as far as the ppl who've said I look big was"u look so cute, it's all belly that's 4 sure".But the thing is, I only weighed 106 when I found out I was preg(a Lil over 2mts along) and just weighed yest was 124 so I'm not huge! I've never even been self conscious about my weight or size but it really has hurt my feelings hearing some of the things ppl have said since I've started showing. and the crazy part is that it's always women who make the hurtful comments so ud think they'd know better! But then again it's prob got 2 do w their own insecurities!

nursemarie925

This may seem weird. But for me I get the opposite reaction. Most people are surprised that I'm as far along as I am. I constantly hear "do you eat?!" "Is she in there?" And other questions along this line.

I know people struggle with being seen as large for their gestational age, but it's just as annoying when people perceive you as being too small. (I have heard the too big comments with my other pregnancies). I'm doing everything I can to have a healthy baby, she's measuring where she should, and dr is not concerned. Ppl just need to keep their comments about someone else's body to themselves.

MLC1990

@mshepherd20‌ and @nursemarie925‌ Ditto Ditto exactly what ya'll said!!

I think it should be illegal to make comments to pregnant women about they're bodies and should be perfectly acceptable to smack people in the forehead.

SSCmomma

grumpycat88 said:

I wish constipation on those who make rude comments about my size.

can I add more "love its" to this please

SSCmomma

Oh and last week I was informed my another coworker that I was definitely having a boy because I'm carrying low in my stomach and big in my ass!  WTF is wrong with people.  Ugh.

megdaig

The only acceptable comeback that I've had for people that comment like this..."Oh, well, you look like you've gained some extra pounds over the years..." That usually shuts them up.

tkr7c9

My close friends keep saying that I look great as a pregnant lady and things like that.... however the people that don't know me as well ask when I'm due and when I tell them they all say something along the lines of WOW, I don't know that you will make it that long! ......GRRR

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babyzap20

My MIL actually said this: "When you start breastfeeding we can call you Bessie!"

STFU.

mrsmoose5

I literally just walked into my office and was told, "Wow, you look really big." :-|

And yes, I find it extremely rude. Sometimes I really just want to reply, "Yeah, so do you." Just so they know how it feels.

houseofthree

I had a coworker tell me I'm soo tiny and ask if I was sure I was gaining enough weight and if the baby was healthy. Yes, I'm healthy. Yes, the baby is healthy. Yes, I'm measuring right on track.  Yes, I'm gaining enough weight.

I think this is just as bad as being called huge.  I don't think its okay to suggest that a pregnant woman in not taking care of herself and baby, whether its "too big" or "too small".  People should just stick with you look great!

RobynAshley

I work with a bunch of sarcastic men who I think feel more awkward than anything, so they just make jokes that are usually terrible. I fire back and have a good laugh and all is fine, but they know that if I call them a turd they've crossed the line. Turd is used when I want to drop a bunch of F bombs but prefer to keep it somewhat work appropriate. 

LadyXaverian

During my 1st pregnancy, I got all kinds of rude comments.

This time, they've been overwhelmingly positive, which means a lot to me. The only rude (or maybe just intrusive) comments and questions I've gotten this time have been about breastfeeding. 

I did get a, "Not much longer now, huh?" today from a male co-worker. I just smiled and said, "Nope, not too much longer. About 11 weeks!" He didn't react if he thought it would be sooner than that. lol

jjstrickler

Yes, that's so rude! I had an acquaintance of my husband's introduce them self to me as if they hadn't met me before and they just stared at my belly. Like hello- We've met, I'm not that huge! Same hair, Same husband... ugh! 

That is so rude! I'm fully aware that I've gained 30 lbs and my doctor is already not happy with me, so lay off it already! GEEZE! 

AggieMom0809

I get comments once they find out that I'm not due until January. I know a bit of it is fat, which make the comments a little hurtful. These aren't people who are trying to be mean, so I try to not let it bother me. 

LittleB92

At the dentist today the receptionist said, you look ready to pop. Then the dental hygienist said, January, are you sure. I don't think you are gaining enough weight. Talk to your doctor.

SSCmomma

My doctor so far has said I'm measuring on track.  We all know that your size has NOTHING to do with the size of the baby.  Today I saw 3 more co-workers (I travel to all different stores so it's easier to just refer to all of them as coworkers for the sake of this discussion) and today's group didn't even notice I was pregnant and were surprised when I said it.  SMH

MKateG

mshepherd20 said:

I have a long torso so the baby has more room to go up and down so my bump doesn't go out very far. I get irritated by people commenting on how small I am. When they say something they usually have a concerned look on their face. Yes I'm really 31 weeks and yes the baby is measuring on track. Ugh!

Yes! This is my first pregnancy and I was small to begin with, I'm so sick of ppl having a look on their face when I tell them I'm having twins like they MUST be unhealthy or something. And some ppl have said "those will be some little babies". Seriously! I always say, "they actually are measuring big." I think everyone needs to stick with, "you look great, congrats" that's it! :-)

cabbeeby

I must be lucky! I have gotten mostly "you make a cute pregnant lady" or variations of that. The only one that was weird was "you are doing good on your pregnancy weight" which is still positive... I just had no idea if she was saying that I'm doing good at not eating everything I see or if she meant I am really packing 'em on.

bustysinclare

SSCmomma  I also had someone tell me they knew I was having a boy because their butt was also huge when they were pregnant with their son. I'm not going to fool myself anf pretend my butt is small, but its hardly huge! Now my tummy it is huge!

BookitBoo

Most people don't comment about my weight/baby bump. Probably because I look like I'll eat or throw up on them.


No one should ever make comments about anyone else's body IMO, Unless it's something positive. And even then it can still be intrusive.

9513

I've gotten my fair share of comments, both rude and really sweet but the one I got on Halloween was by far my favorite! My husband opened the door to a group of kids and I came down a minute later, to which this little girl (who couldn't have been more than four) said "oh heeeeey! What do you have in that belly?!" I responded with "a baby boy! And lots of Halloween candy!" Her father, who was absolutely mortified, said "I'm just glad she was right because she has been wrong before!!" I couldn't help but laugh! She was so little but just had this spunk about her.

SSCmomma

Some of the comments are positive and I guess you just have to take the good with the bad.  I have never been a small girl so I am by no means a small pregnant girl but I figure since all my pre pregnancy clothes still fit, except for in the belly, I'm doing ok.  If one of my friends made one of the rude comments to me I'd call them a bitch and laugh it off.  It's the fact that it's virtual strangers that think they have the right to comment on my body that amazes me.

Bigboneded

Yep, they ask when I'm due. I say not til the end of Jan, then the jaws drop and I smile and say, "But it's twins" and then they'll tell me, they thought so or knew it.... I was big to start, so it's not that worrisome to me. But it was nice to shift from fat to pregnant looking....

SRose1005

The comments I've gotten have all been intended as compliments, but I still have trouble coming up with a response when someone comments on my body. Even when someone says something like "you look great! it looks like the only place you've gotten bigger is the bump!" which I know is just them making conversation and trying to be nice, I still don't know what to say. No matter how I respond it's just awkward and I find myself scrambling for a topic change.

Edvent

I had to teach our compliance class at work Friday, it's for clients who miss too many psych or counseling appointments and it's mandatory if they want to get scheduled again. So, no one really wants to be there. There was an incredibly obese lady who was very surly the whole time and at the end of the class asked me in a really snarky way "are you having twins". I just smiled and said "nope", but I really wanted to say "nope, are you?". That's the first rude comment I've gotten so far this time!

KnitPixy

I had an acquaintance try very hard to say something nice about me looking healthy an it just kept coming out wrong. He was totally mortified! It was probably the first time I haven't gotten a bit hurt when folks comment on my size. The fact that I know the man from weight watchers (I had to stop going to meetings upon getting pregnant but the group from my meeting is pretty close and super supportive) kind of made it less weird that he was commenting that I am "all belly" than just a random acquaintance

stephchris0321

Yes, those comments are hurtful and stupid. I had a male coworker say on Friday "wow, are you knocked up?" Luckily he wasn't trying to be rude, he actually didn't know I was pregnant. We all kinda laughed about it.

dash419

My friends tell me pregnancy looks great on me. It's the random women I meet that often exclaim "gee, you're barely showing for being due in January!" Which I suppose I should take as a compliment but for some reason it seems to annoy me. However, the comment that really annoys me seems to be "how are you feeling?" Every person I encounter asks me this. I politely tell them I can't complain & they don't seem pleased with that answer. I guess they think I should be listing off multiple things that are wrong with me & telling them I feel horrible.