OPP Tuesday

theholmanherd

OPP = Other People's Pregnancies. Get it out, ladies!

On a lighter note, I'm unpacking and one of the things I unpacked are the dogs' Christmas presents and it's sitting on the other couch. Coffey (the corgi) is obedient enough to not jump up and grab it, but he knows it's there. So, he has resolved to sit next to the couch, where he has a good view of it, and moan/groan at me periodically. I wish I had a video. He is cracking me up. The berner? Yeah, he hasn't even noticed. He's just laying on the floor, watching Coffey have a fit over this.

Hope everyone has a lovely Tuesday!

mshandlebar

Ok, I have been saving this one since Friday. I was sitting at my desk at work, when I hear our office manager come out of her office making all sorts of strangled chicken noises. Our offices are cubes and I am near the front. I can hear her moving through each cube telling everyone news of some sort. As soon as I hear the words "daughter" and "pregnant" I am on my feet moving rapidly towards the door (I have come to realize that I have a very strong flee mechanism). Of course, it is too late. I have been spotted. She pulls me into the conference room and shows me this picture of baby shoes with April 2015 written next to them. I struggle not to vomit all over her. Instead I manage the obligatory congratulations and then cry myself into a stupor in the bathroom. Her daughter just got married in May, and they got it on the very first try. I hate not being happy for people anymore. Sadness.

@theholmanherd We have been talking about getting a corgi recently! They are the best dogs. How old is yours? Also, I have been meaning to say this for awhile, but Jensen Ackles makes me very happy (we are half way through Supernatural now, and both MH and I have a huge crush on him).

kallygirlie

mshandlebar said:

Ok, I have been saving this one since Friday. I was sitting at my desk at work, when I hear our office manager come out of her office making all sorts of strangled chicken noises. Our offices are cubes and I am near the front. I can hear her moving through each cube telling everyone news of some sort. As soon as I hear the words "daughter" and "pregnant" I am on my feet moving rapidly towards the door (I have come to realize that I have a very strong flee mechanism). Of course, it is too late. I have been spotted. She pulls me into the conference room and shows me this picture of baby shoes with April 2015 written next to them. I struggle not to vomit all over her. Instead I manage the obligatory congratulations and then cry myself into a stupor in the bathroom. Her daughter just got married in May, and they got it on the very first try. I hate not being happy for people anymore. Sadness.

@theholmanherd We have been talking about getting a corgi recently! They are the best dogs. How old is yours? Also, I have been meaning to say this for awhile, but Jensen Ackles makes me very happy (we are half way through Supernatural now, and both MH and I have a huge crush on him).

Oh how I hate the "first try people".  I once had a friend tell me how she so understood how I felt, It took her a whole 3 months to conceive.  I think I about punched her.  LOL!

DSculley1824

So my DH came home last night from work and said he had some news and wanted me to hear it from him so I wouldn't get a surprise upset. A co worker of his and his wife are expecting and he told everyone at work. She's 5 weeks. Real nice couple. BUT, it was an "accident". They're both upset and said it "wasn't the right time". Ughhhhh. Whyyyyy.

MrsMandolin

I belong to a local community group on Facebook. Recently a girl posted on there:

"Hello everyone. I am having a baby boy and need stuff for him. I don't have a job or any funds. What do you have for me?"

I'm all for helping people but I also saw on her personal page "who wants to pay my phone bill? It's $50. I'll love you forever".

It took everything in me to not comment on her post saying "how the hell do you think you're going to be able to take care of this baby if you can't afford things for him now and he's not even here yet?" Some other choice responses to her post came to mind also. But alas it just ended in me crying to DH.

kushie77

One of my besties is due any second now.  Her due date was this weekend, it's her 3rd and while I love her, listening to her talk about birth control for after delivery so "this" doesn't happen again is rather hard for me to deal with. 

kushie77

@sammae

it's never too early to wine.  

theholmanherd

mshandlebar said:

@theholmanherd We have been talking about getting a corgi recently! They are the best dogs. How old is yours? Also, I have been meaning to say this for awhile, but Jensen Ackles makes me very happy (we are half way through Supernatural now, and both MH and I have a huge crush on him).

They are so great! Such personalities. Coffey is 2 1/2. He will be 3 in February. I can't believe how fast time has gone. I often forget we got him when we still lived in AZ, not long after we got married. That was 3 or 4 moves ago so he's been with us through a lot!

Jensen Ackles is everybody's crush. I don't entertain the idea that anyone doesn't find him attractive. That's just crazy.

dancerspose

@sammae that's awful how your friend told you!  She deserves a belated TP for sure!  As kushie said, it's never too early for wine!

@BlueJoan I am a very superstitious person about pregnancy so that whole announcing really early before even being to a doctor would be strange to me too!  We had friends who gave birth last spring who also told everyone when they were only 5 weeks...also made it feel like the longest pregnancy ever to me since I'm used to people waiting longer.  When (trying to be positive) I get my BFP other than DH, you ladies, and maybe my mother, no one will know until after 12 weeks.

BunnyBerry

A couple who moved away way years ago visited at church Sunday. She sat next to me with her toddler daughter and 1 yr old son. I am not exaggerating when I say they are the most beautiful, personality-plus children I have ever seen. Normally it doesn't bother me but this has been a bad IF week and week in general, and I was so choked up the whole time I couldn't sing and was trying not to let the tears fall. The kids were kind of squirmy but trying to behave and I was just thinking how wonderful it would be to finally have our own kid(s) squirming around during church. And then imagining what kind of activities I would bring for them to do, and what behavioral expectations would be at different ages, etc., etc. This is what I want to spend my time and energy doing - raising a family! Not the day in and day out I do every day, it feels so pointless now, not where I want to be at almost 30 years old. 

@mshandlebar Why do people feel the need to tell people when their son-in-law ejaculated into their daughter without protection and sperm met egg?

@dsculley1824 Who is so immature that they broadcast to others that they are unhappy about their pregnancy...at 5 weeks?

@mrsmandolin Oh my goodness, that woman is shameless! Guess she's found that it works!

@darcyhermione Oh that's so unfair.

@sammae So sorry.

Chasity08

I wanted so badly to share this Sunday night but decided to wait.

I was on a photo shoot Sunday. As I'm walking to my car pregnant woman, has to be 8 months along at least, gets in to her car right next to mine. Don't pay much attention really, but I turn so I can reverse out, and I happen to glance in her window through mine...LIGHTING UP A CIGARETTE.

I know it's none of my business, but seriously? You can't put the cigarettes down for 9 months? That crap pisses me right off. I just glared at her and drove away.

curve31

So my cousins gf finally had her baby and I'm really glad they both fine. I actually don't mind all the photos and texts. BUT my other cousin, his sister whom I'm really close with, decides with her husband that they want to try again for their second and she threw away her bc pills. Which is fine. Whatever. But she keeps talking to me about it. And I just want to slap her. All I can think is if she gets pregnant before me, I'm gonna freak out.

SND1231

Praise the Lord..I so needed to vent...I got news yesterday that just totally took me by surprise and made me lose it... As I mentioned in another post there are 5 people pregnant in my church. Only one is really wanted.  The other mothers seriously were UPSET that they got pregnant! That alone kills me.. Sunday I am sitting in church and the pastor was welcoming a mom and her new baby girl back to church for the first time since the baby was born.  He proceeds to say how crazy it is that everyone is pregnant and how much he hopes everyone can be as blessed to have all these children... How wonderful it is to have the church expanding. And how people need to have babies... I almost lost is right then and there. I know he meant no harm, but hearing it from the platform was terribly difficult but I held it together... until yesterday.. Yesterday I texted one of my friends who has been sick.  I should have known what was going on but me and stupidity was totally blindsided. She told me she is pregnant and miserable in the same sentence!! She was griping about how terrible morning sickness was and how she is REGRETTING getting pregnant.  I just wanted to scream.. but instead started crying for hours.... She doesn't know the IF issues we are dealing with but it still feels so unfair.  Why do all these women who don't even want to be pregnant get to have babies and I am left going to yet another doctor... So after finding out she is unhappily pregnant I have two of my other friends come by to pick up some stuff and they both brought their adorable babies with them. This usually doesn't bother me but seeing my husband hold a gorgeous 2 week old little girl seriously killed me.. I felt like I would never be able to give him that myself. I wish I could explain the look on his face.  I felt like I had been stabbed in the heart.. Needless to say I cried.. a lot last night..

cwuredhot

This is the first time I have joined this thread just because I am usually ok or try to be. That was until last week at work! We seem to have "waves" of pregnant people at work and the last girl of the last wave (total of 6 people in the wave) had her baby a few weeks ago. So I thought I survived......

UNTIL I heard a new wave has started already with already 4 girls pregnant!!! Everyone jokes about it "being in the water" well DAMN IT, I drink as much water as they do!! 

SND1231

@BlueJoan thank you. I know that I shouldn't blame other or even be jealous but it is so hard. Usually I can take everything and I am fine. But my husband holding that little baby in his arms killed me. I have never seen a more content happy look on his face. He couldn't stop staring at her.  I just for once want to be able to give him what he wants.. and I want of course! Thank you for allowing me to vent here. I seriously don't know how I made it through without yall.. I told my husband last night I would be thankful for morning sickness no matter how bad it was if it meant we were having a baby.. He laughed and said I will remind you of this one day lol!

@cwuredhot I so "drink the water" as much as I can.. We are now up to 7 ladies in my small 150 congregation church that are pregnant! I guess we need to go to their house and drink that water haha!

theholmanherd

One of my dear friends gave birth either late last night or early this morning. I love her and her husband dearly (I actually met her husband first and the wife and I bonded instantly when he introduced us), but it's hard to see all the FB photos. I wish I could just be happy for them.

jenmcD11

I logged on to facebook last night and it was post after post of what people are Thankful for for Thanksgiving. I'm sure you can guess where this is going: Four posts were from new mothers being thankful for their babies, and another two posts of women being thankful for their pregnancies. Now, I am happy that they seem to appreciate how lucky they are, but it made me really sad.

BandM14

Edit: I deleted my post. After writing it I felt wrong about sharing my friend's story on here and I have honestly been so disturbed by it that I didn't want to put anyone else through that (drug use during pregnancy and CPS case were mentioned). Sorry guys.

redandblue

I have to say that generally I'm good with hearing about OPP, but every now and then I hear about one that makes me crack. My DH has this twit of a 'friend'. Truly a sad, miserable, screw up, with a kind heart (I guess). She however has a horrific background no constantly finds herself in abusive relationships. Of course she is KU and due any day. I can barely stand her on a good day, but now knowing she will be responsible for an innocent life, drives me insane. My DH reached out to let her know that we will be here for her and the baby once he arrives, and she immediately starts complaining about how she does not have anything figured out yet. No stable home, etc. he links her with some local programs to get ready and she doesn't follow through and only complains about it all. Can't stand the expecting handouts, not to mention knowing she has no clue what she is about to do here. Frustrating.

theholmanherd

LLM100811 said:

Whoops, I totally premature posted my OPP trampy cousin yesterday. I couldn't remember what day OOP was, and was honestly too lazy to figure it out. 
I brought juice boxes for everyone as an apology.

What, no chocolate to go with it? No apologies needed.

ritacita

Oh is it not Tuesday anymore? Oops. A friend/coworker of mine just announced her pregnancy this morning and now I hate everything today.  I really REALLY want to be happy for her, she's a great person.  I don't know why this one hit me so hard.  Maybe because we are on break and if we can't save the money in time we will be pushed out another 7 freaking months until our IVF cycle.  It just feel so far away!  Whine whine whine, blah blah blah. ugh.