so sad (loss shared)

LolaBelle515

Hi everyone,

Thank you so much for the positive thoughts.  Sadly, they didn't change our outcome.  DW suffered a missed miscarriage; it looks like we lost our baby almost 4 weeks ago, but there were no signs.  We are sad/angry/scared.  I know many of you have been here, and while it doesn't change the suffering, you remind me that people heal.

We had not yet begun to process our grief when I got a phone call a few hours later from my Dad with horrific news for our whole family: my teenage cousin died unexpectedly yesterday.  We are trying to wrap our heads around this grief and talking with the doctor so that we can get on a plane and go grieve with my family, which is where we both adamently feel we need to be (especially DW, though I want to make sure she is taking care of her body and her heart, too).  As much as we grieve the baby pea we loved for 6 weeks, I cannot imagine the grief of my aunt and uncle, mourning their 19 year old. 

We appreciate your prayers.  We really do.   

JGY

My heart is so heavy for you two and your family.  I'm so sad to read all of this news, and can't imagine the grief you are experiencing right now.

You know that I am local.  If there is ANYTHING that I can do to help lighten your load, please don't hesitate to ask.

Karlamo

 I'm sorry.  What a heavy heart you both must have right now.  I'm glad you're going to be with family.

KH826

I am so very, very sorry for your losses. There are not words to provide sufficient comfort at such an insanely difficult time. Please know that you and your whole family will be in my thoughts. Safe travels, and please let this community know if you need anything. We are here to support you when you need it.

StacyLH24

I am so sorry for both of your losses. I hope your family can come together to support each other in such a terrible time for you all.

2MamazInSeattle

I'm so sorry for your losses. Missed miscarriage is so hard, I had one at 16w and it makes it so hard to trust yourself and your body. You and DW will heal, but your very real little baby will stay in your hearts forever. I'm here if ever you want to talk, just PM me.

As for your cousin - how horrible. I cannot imagine the pain you and your family is in. Your poor aunt, how heartbreaking. Keeping you all in my thoughts.

doodah1013

I am very saddened by your experience, and wish you healing and whatever small amounts of comfort you can find during this time of trial and tribulation. 

Either one of those tragedies is hard to swallow, independently of the other, and to experience them concurrently is an unfairness that no one should have to face.

Because of the amount of emotional stress that comes along with both of these instances, please feel free to reach out in any way you are comfortable with...  We are all hear to listen.  And take care of yourselves.  While holding each other, won't make the pain go away, sometimes it will be the only thing that gets you through.

You are certainly in my thoughts and prayers,

C*

mallory4284

I'm so sorry to hear about your losses. You're in my thoughts and have safe travels to be with your family.

2momsinCA

I'm so sorry to read this. What an incredibly difficult time for you and your family. I hope the coming weeks and months provide opportunities to grieve both losses and to find peace despite such unexpected tragedies. You and your wife are in my thoughts.

redrockmama

I'm am so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby and your cousin. Your family will be in my thoughts. 

babyimp

Sending positive energy to you and your family through this difficult time. 

mwagner25

So sorry for your loss

CageyMack

I am so sorry for your losses and for the tremendous pain you and your family must be feeling.  

You are in my prayers.  

Jazibel

I'm so so sorry for your losses. I'll be keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

ATXmommas

I am so very sorry for both of your losses. Wishing you lots of peace and support. Will keep you and your family in my thoughts.

Twochickshavinachick

Sorry to hear of your loss.  Keeping you in our thoughts today.

LolaBelle515

Thank you, everyone.  I have so appreciated this community over the years and we know we are not alone.  I am so amazed at the strength of my wife and that brings me incredible comfort as we support each other.  We've shared our baby news with a few friends in town and that has been immensely helpful too.  We'll be traveling and in a bit of a fog, so I suspect it'll be a week or so before I'm back on the board. Thank you so much!  

bfonz619

I am incredibly sorry for your losses.  My thoughts are with you and your family.

Ducktapetherapy

Yes, healing will come in time. I can't imagine the grief, and I am so sorry. Praying for you and your family!

~Ducktapetherapy

ball.and.chain

I'm so sorry.