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January 2015 Moms
Stargirlb
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Unofficial Monday Bitches
Stargirlb
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post your daily gratitude and/or humble brags here. If you want. I don't run dis shit, it's unofficial.
I'll go first! I'm flying home tomorrow after 13 days in guat. Thankful for frequent flier status getting me into biz class. Few hours layover in Houston so gonna stock up on the free airport lounge snacks. Sadly no taking advantage of all the free booze which is the real perk of biz/first class
I'll def have a small glass of vino on the plane though because no matter how spacious and comfy my seat is, I'm still solo with a two year old and pregnant. Wish my privileged flying self some luck.
Also, My daughter had her first day back to school today which sadly I had to miss so I can wait to get back to see her!!
I'll go first! I'm flying home tomorrow after 13 days in guat. Thankful for frequent flier status getting me into biz class. Few hours layover in Houston so gonna stock up on the free airport lounge snacks. Sadly no taking advantage of all the free booze which is the real perk of biz/first class
I'll def have a small glass of vino on the plane though because no matter how spacious and comfy my seat is, I'm still solo with a two year old and pregnant. Wish my privileged flying self some luck. Also, My daughter had her first day back to school today which sadly I had to miss so I can wait to get back to see her!!
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Re: Unofficial Monday Bitches
That's awesome!!! I was always one of the younger ones in my class to begin with (August bday) and then ended up skipping a grade and still was at the top of the class. My mom always purposely tried to get me in the bottom grade of the split class to ensure extra challenge. I am definitely in favor of giving kids all the challenge they can handle!!
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Support alternative energy!! Get off oil. That's how. That's my totally altruistic reason behind wanting a tesla
A good friend of mine has a plan for how the U.S. could get off fossil fuels by 2030. Link to his talk near the bottom of this page: https://nh3fuelassociation.org/2014/09/07/nh3-food-security-and-the-transition-to-fossil-fuel-free/
I definitely support all the moms out there giving their kids an extra educational challenge, especially during the summer. I hope I have the patience and energy to do the same with my little one! So this brag is about my mom for dedicating so much time to my education even before I was in school
I'm super, super grateful that my husband will be home in the middle of the week this week just so he can go on the tour of Labor and Delivery with me at my next appointment with the Midwife. It's rough not always being together so I cherish all the little extra times.
I'm also super excited/grateful for how excited he is about our son. He spent all day Friday getting started on decorating the nursery and it's just so adorable to watch.
LOL @YaMrWhite - excited in a different way.
@sparksfly22 - I'm sorry! It really does suck. I hope y'all are able to find a house or a builder ASAP!
I'm grateful for this little man who's cuteness and curiosity for the world is always so entertaining and for the fact that he brings more joy to my life than I could have ever imagined
This is Ollie trying to give his own reflection kisses haha
Edit: image insert fail. Sorry for the sideways pic
The weather is beautiful. I'm going to try to leave work a bit early to run an errand and enjoy it.
I'm also grateful for my friend Megan who is giving us a gender reveal fiesta this weekend, she is super sweet and it'll be great to have my closest family and friends all finding out the same time as us.
I also am loving maternity clothes, so comfy, feels like pjs here at work.
My dog hasn't pooped inside in over 2 weeks!!! It's the little things....
I'm grateful that even though my husband's grandfather went back into the hospital last week, he seems to be improving and will hopefully be released soon.
I have no shame in the fact that I have almost eaten an entire chocolate cake by myself!
I'm also thankful that my husband still thinks I'm sexy even though most days I feel like an Oompa Loompa.
DH and I both try (unsuccessfully sometimes) to not be a bitch or an asshole. We both work, so I guess we're both lucky that we tolerate each other under our respective halves of the roof?
I want to hide in the corner and cry because she's not a baby anymore. I knew this day was coming for me...but not this fast.
Left- PreK
Right- Kindergarten
So I brought the plans to my misogynist neighbor (who wanted to deal exclusively with my husband on this, because it's man's work *duh*), who worried that it was no-mans-land territory and HOA wouldn't take responsibility. So he called his contact on the HOA, who called the HOA person with the community plans, who confirmed it's all on HOA property.
Long story short - we don't have to pay to have the trees removed!!!! YAY!!!!!
And my misogynist neighbor can eat crow - this little housewife just saved us both hundreds if not thousands of dollars. FUCK YEAH!
Off birth control March 2012 - Actively trying Sept 2012-April 2014
BFP on May 5th after Follistim & IUI #3
All the 'entitlement', 'partnership', 'you're making the baby' comments are overkill lol I salute your honesty. And just cause you're making a baby doesn't mean you lose all manners, respect for others, and kindness so I get it. When I'm a bitch, I still feel like it sucks for those around me whether or not there's a baby in me!
I thought most of you already made the point that it doesn't matter if you offend people as long as you speak your mind. This poster shouldn't filter her opinion and think of all the ways it might be interpered wrong before posting. It's clear you don't.
So why can't I say it's hilarious if it made me laugh? Just cause it didn't make you laugh doesn't mean I should feel sorry because you have a past I don't know about... Be as light hearted as you claim to be. And let the bitchfest continue. To each his own. I'm not going to be made to feel bad for laughing. Like for real...
I was in a crappy mood yesterday and definitely a bitch to DH. Did he deserve it? Nope. Was it nice of me? Nope. Did I apologize? Yup, because it wasn't nice of me and he didn't deserve it. I don't work at the moment (well, I do, but part time and irregularly), and I would be pretty damned FURIOUS if someone ever suggested that DH "put a roof over my head," even in jest. His income is for our family, and my decision not to work at the moment is because it's what is best for our family. We are a partnership, everything we own and earn is joint, and "jokes" like that contribute to the idea that SAHMs and SAHWs (and for that matter, SAH-anyone, including Dads) are somehow are indebted to the income-provider for providing basic human necessities.
That is NOT comparable to joking about donuts when someone is gluten intolerant. Not even a little. Someone who brags so much about her own intelligence should see that the comparison is inaccurate in many ways. It's a logical fallacy.
Off birth control March 2012 - Actively trying Sept 2012-April 2014
BFP on May 5th after Follistim & IUI #3
I can give you statistics on how many women are raped each year but that won't stop this board from posting about sex lives or sex drive. I can give you statistics about the amount of women that can't have kids and that won't stop anyone from talking about their babies. Some people don't even have money for groceries but that doesn't mean women should stop posting about all the clothing sales at old navy.
Just learn to live with the fact that if 700 women are on a board, there will of course be times where people will bump heads, people will get offended, and yes... Not everyone will laugh at the same thing.
Okay, let's do this...
**** EPIC RANT TO FOLLOW, tl;dr skim to last paragraph ****
1) Donut jokes to someone with gluten intolerance is NOT the same as a controlling relationship joke to someone in an controlling relationship. Gluten intolerance is a condition that is no one's fault, it's permanent. Abuse is the fault of the abuser, and the victim should be given support to stop the cycle. Also, the jokes aren't at the expensive of someone who is gluten intolerant - saying someone wants a donut isn't targeted at the gluten intolerant person. Does that person have to like the joke? Nope, but that doesn't mean it's a bad joke. Does it affect their ability to eat the donut or not? Nope.
However, jokes that reinforce dangerous gender role stereotypes used in controlling relationships to continue the cycle of abuse such as "I should be grateful he doesn't kick me out of the house" jokes further the guilt and self-doubt that victims of domestic abuse feel. A "joke" like this could reinforce that feeling (and for the record, I don't think that she was joking when she said it - she's said enough about her husband before that I truly believe it would be something he would say to her, that she should be grateful he keeps a roof over her head).
That same harm does not exist in the donut joke to a gluten intolerant person comparison. False logic.
2) It's not your problem to filter what you say... sure... but we all do it every day. We don't say the "n" word because it's notoriously offensive, we don't say any number of other racial hateful terms (and if you do, I judge you hardcore and think you're consciously choosing to be a pretty hateful person). We don't tell everyone exactly what's always on our mind because it could offend or hurt someone else. And yes, plenty of women with babies have hurt my feelings inadvertently with pictures when I was dealing with infertility - was that them consciously being offensive? Nope. Doesn't mean it didn't sting, but I didn't hate the person for it. But when someone said to me that it was my fault because I was worrying too much, that I DID take offense to and disliked the person who said it.
Being hateful is a choice. Supporting dangerous stereotypes, like a SAHW or SAHM someone should be indebted to the income-provider, is a misogynistic and patronistic viewpoint to have, and I find it offensive to women in general. Similar to race jokes, rather than donut jokes.
3) All of your comparisons suck. Statistics on rape has nothing to do with other women having a healthy sex life - having a healthy sex life doesn't do any harm to someone who has been raped, and does not further the rape culture or promote rape. A brag about a child who is saying something funny might sting for someone whose child has challenges, but that doesn't mean the joke will further hurt their child.
But jokes that FURTHER the culture and belief that supports hate and abuse are dangerous and different. We don't tell kids who are abused that they deserved it if they didn't eat their dessert (which is the most ACCURATE comparison to the "roof over the head" joke). We don't support rape jokes about "she had it coming" around these parts because it furthers rape culture. We don't support jokes that are hateful towards any one group of people - people with disabilities, race, ethnicity, sex, gender, etc. We seem to be a pretty anti-hate, anti-abuse community, which I for one appreciate.
And as I said before, I think this "joke" wasn't really a joke in the first place, which is all the more reason for people to remind her that her husband NEVER has the right to directly or indirectly threaten the roof over her head simply because she was in a bad mood. That she does not deserve to EVER fear for that. So more than people saying the joke "wasn't funny" was people telling the poster that it isn't okay if she really feels that way, and she deserves to feel secure in her own home. Are you against that? Because you seem to be fighting awfully hard for this "joke".
Off birth control March 2012 - Actively trying Sept 2012-April 2014
BFP on May 5th after Follistim & IUI #3
Did any of you read this post from Texasmama? She said it was meant as a joke. Sparksfly22 was only telling her that she understood her sense of humor.
You all have very strong feelings about it, but the way I see it, if the original poster (Texasmama786) says it was meant as a sarcastic/humorous statement then there is no reason to get onto someone else for understanding and relating to her joke.
You all escalated something that the original poster never meant to have escalated in the first place. Correct me if I'm wrong @texasmama786? I think you are the only one who can truly sort this out.
Off birth control March 2012 - Actively trying Sept 2012-April 2014
BFP on May 5th after Follistim & IUI #3
And rape does affect how a person sees sex. Because even when it's not with a rapist, they still feel resentful towards the act itself. So having a whole discussion on it isn't really helpful either now is it?
I think you all need to go drink a glass of wine or whatever it is you do when you're not sitting here monitoring posts and just chill the eff out. Your points are stupid and are just highlighting the fact that you shouldn't be on a public forum if you want people to always be in agreement with you. It just won't happen, and being that dense about it is what is truly illogical about all of this.
You're the one fighting against it and completely blowing everything out of proportion. Just leave her alone and take your rants to another board or start a new thread about abusive relationships, where I'm sure people might take you more seriously.