I hope the truck that moves all of our stuff gets destroyed somehow and the Navy then has to buy me all new stuff. The new regulations cover full replacement cost, so I would get to go on a massive shopping spree to re-fill an entire house. Everything would look nice together instead of a mismatch collected over the years. Also, instant decluttering. The random stuff that I don't want around but DH thinks there is still a use for (even if he hasn't used in the entire time we lived in this house) would be gone.
All the irreplaceable things are coming with me.
I secretly wish this each time we move. I won't pay for nice stuff until DH retires from the military.
On Wednesday this week my husband was at work and due to collect DD from nursery on his way home at 6pm. I lied and told work I didn't feel well, left early at 1pm, went home, put my pyjamas on, and enjoyed 5 whole hours of blissful baby free time to myself. I had lunch using both hands, I had a 3 hour nap, I watched a film. It was pure self indulgence and it was GOOD!
I was a massive ass last week re: the grievances. I've been feeling rotten about it for days.
Sorry, guys
Well my FFC is that I've decided to tone it down a little bit.
I completely derserve the impression I've given people (including MF) about me. Still, after it was served up to me on a silver platter, I couldn't help but feel a little misunderstood after I'd digested it all. While I have been honest in the details I have shared about my life, because I have preferred to preserve a bit of anonymity, I feel like I haven't shared the entire scope of my personality or the more interesting things, and tend to report on the more superficial. This has made me look like a total vapid bitch.
I do acknowledge my flaws. I'm a Leo, and I do tend to be very self involved... certainly so on the internet which is a safe place to whine and vent our frustrations. Anyone who has a Leo friend also knows how loyal we are, and that we really do make good friends so it really isn't always me-me-me!
In addition, as someone who has always worked since the age of 16, I've had a much harder time coming to terms with my decision to be a SAHM then I expected. I'm not as comfortable in this role as I don't like to rely on others and was raised not to ever ask others for help. The isolation (which is also geographical) has made me even more self involved because I'm in my head all day and have zero (RL) interaction with other people besides LO.
So, contrary to my initial reaction, I suppose I am promising to change a little bit.
Well, I like you just as you are, @knotty-girl. I read this board pretty sporadically, so I may have missed something outrageous, but I enjoy your posts when I see them.
@knotty-girl I have never once gotten the impression you were in any way a vapid bitch.
That's because you're a bitch too!
I think you're both totally awesome bishes. @knotty-girl I've never thought you needed to tone anything down or felt that you were superficial. You're a cool chick, I hate to see you feel bad for anything one person had said about you.
Motherhood has made me a really bad friend. Since having the baby and going back to work, I really spend very little time being social and don't really miss it. I'd rather chill at home and have quiet alone time. There are several people I should really miss now because I rarely even hear from them, and.. Nope.
I always thought I wanted daughters but now that I have a son, I'm so glad. I also always thought I wanted two kids and now I'm not sure.
FFFC: my husband is shorter than me and I'm still self conscious about it after being with him for over 7 years.
my husband is only two inches taller than i am.. when i wear heels he gets embarrassed so i wear flats more often than not.
As far as boy vs. girl arguments - I think they're equally as difficult, just at different stages of life. My brother and sister in law have 2 girls and a boy (girls are 7 and 5 and boy is almost 2). They are pulling their hair out at how much harder the boy is. They're like "we don't get it, with the girls, you just told them not to do something and they didn't. But boys are so stupid." He basically just rams into everything and is a whirlwind tornado 24/7. That said, I'm sure he'll be an easier pre-teen than their girls, but for right now, they can't believe how much easier girls are. And it depends on the kid as well - my pre-teen and teen years were extremely low drama. I'm hoping my gal has the same lax attitude about the whole thing.
I go home from work on my lunch breaks. My MIL stays there with DS. Well, today the timing was good and I was able to nurse DS while I was home, and while he was eating he had a major blowout. It even got on my jeans. So I changed him and cleaned him up, changed my jeans and went back to work. I have been back at work for over an hour now and just noticed I have poop on my shirt. I tried to wash it off in the bathroom just now the best I could. I guess if anyone comments I will just tell them I spilled my lunch.
I go home from work on my lunch breaks. My MIL stays there with DS. Well, today the timing was good and I was able to nurse DS while I was home, and while he was eating he had a major blowout. It even got on my jeans. So I changed him and cleaned him up, changed my jeans and went back to work. I have been back at work for over an hour now and just noticed I have poop on my shirt. I tried to wash it off in the bathroom just now the best I could. I guess if anyone comments I will just tell them I spilled my lunch.
DD once had a blowout on my lap when I was dropping her off at daycare. I went to work with the full knowledge that I had poop on my pant leg.
I always thought I wanted daughters but now that I have a son, I'm so glad. I also always thought I wanted two kids and now I'm not sure.
FFFC: my husband is shorter than me and I'm still self conscious about it after being with him for over 7 years.
my husband is only two inches taller than i am.. when i wear heels he gets embarrassed so i wear flats more often than not.
Yay flats! MH is the opposite. He loves that I'm tall and would have me wearing 5" platform heels if he could. Too bad, dude! I'm the one with the complex :-/
I don't get the hype about 1Direction. I don't like any of their songs and I don't find any of them attractive. Probably because they look 12. This is probably blasphemous on the parenting board.
I also just posted one in the RTT- my dogs used to be my everything, but now I can't wait until they move on to their rainbow bridge. I'm just over cleaning up their hair and the constant pacing around.
Re: your dogs. I've been feeling the same way about my cats.
Also, I've been hearing the term "rainbow bridge" a lot lately. Did I miss some cultural reference or something?
The rainbow bridge thing goes something like this:
When your pet dies, it doesn't go straight to Heaven. It goes to a place called Rainbow Bridge, just this side of heaven. There, it waits, happy, free running around all over the place, restored to the vitality of it's youth and playing with all the other loved pets. There's tall grass, and streams and trees etc.
One day your pet will stop playing, prick up it's ears and listen. Then it takes off running, because over the hill you are coming, and your pet is running towards you. Though he hasn't seen you in years he has not forgotten you. Now reunited, you cross the rainbow bridge together into Heaven.
What's my confession? Um, the best I can come up with is that I'm bumping while the baby is asleep instead of getting a bunch of stuff crossed off my list.
I guess my confession is that i think it's horrible to wish your pets were dead
They had the same hair and needs before baby that they have now.
You chose to get a pet and it is up to a 22ish year commitment. (That's the oldest cat I've seen recently. )You owe them love, shelter, food and healthcare for all of the time they may have.
Yeah cleaning up hair sucks and its extra hard to get the pets the attention they need, let alone keep a clean house, but I don't wish my pets would die. That's morbid and cruel,
I'm sad thinking that my dog is Lilly going to pass away when my little one is 10-12 years old. It's going to be heartbreaking for all of us.
DH and I are going on a trip this weekend (just one night) and on one hand I am so sad to leave DS overnight for the first time, but then I think about having champagne in the huge bathtub in our hotel room, then some non-rushed sex and a full nights sleep. Peace out, kiddo! You'll have fun with Grammy
Finally put on a clean bra. dont know if its worth it, the dirty one had moulded to my skin, kinda like a glove actually. No I just have to get this one nice and dirty as well.
Angel baby June 2013, DD born 22 April 2014, BFP 10 Sept 2015 - Due 22 May 2016
I actually have one today! MIL gives DD formula about half the time when she watches DD because "bm takes too long to defrost." I complained about it to DH and SIL, but I actually don't care. It's only one day a week and it means I can put what I pumped into building my stash instead.
Re: girls vs boys - DH and I want 6 kids and I'd love to have 4 girls and 2 boys. But it's never occured to me to not want one or the other.
Re: pets - I like other people's dogs and I see the value in them but I just have no desire to actually own one. It's just way too much work. DH and I are planning on getting some porch cats once we have a house.
Also the grievence and bump crush threads made me realize again how much I suck at keeping track of people's lives. There are seriously only like 5 ppl that I can even remember if they have a girl/boy and like 3 that I know their names. Forget about remembering people's jobs or hobbies. I always feel bad because on the RTT thread ppl will be checking up on each other, remembering stuff from weeks ago and I just have no clue. I'm a bad internet friend
With the possible exception of the equator, everything begins somewhere. - C.S.Lewis
FFFC: my husband is shorter than me and I'm still self conscious about it after being with him for over 7 years.
Been with my slightly shorter than me DH for 12 years (as of this coming Sunday!) and I'm still right there with you - photos is where it really gets me ">
I love my dog and I feel sorry for her. I think she much preferred her life before kids. The crying stresses her out and she knows her "position" in the house has changed. She is my shadow all day long and constantly at my feet when I am up all night with LO - she has also almost tripped us going down the stairs a million times. I hate knowing that we will lose her some day and that I will have to explain that loss to my girls.
All that being said, once she is gone I will not get another pet for many years.
I have a funky eyebrow - I guess its inherited because DD1 seems to have gotten it from me and my brother has it too. One eyebrow is perfectly normal - on the other eye halfway along the hair doesn't grow all nicely shaped anymore - it goes all crazy. Most people probably don't even notice it but it drives me nuts and it sucks that DD has it too. She looks almost entirely like her Daddy and the only feature she seems to have gotten from me ( other than her sparkling personality) is that damn eyebrow.
I saw a woman at the mall who was a pale redhead without a stitch of makeup aside from upside down U shaped eyebrows that looked like they were drawn with a black sharpie. What's your snap judgement on that one?
I haven't plucked/waxed/threaded or in any other way maintained my eyebrows in 6m+?
I haven't plucked/waxed/threaded or in any other way maintained my eyebrows in 10y+.
Only got them plucked once ever in my life, part of a facial I had. The most pain I have experienced in my life - even after a c-section. Yeah it looked nice but I have pretty fair eyebrows anyway so meh, not bothered.
I applaud anyone who can be bothered maintaining them, I do not care enough to bother.
Angel baby June 2013, DD born 22 April 2014, BFP 10 Sept 2015 - Due 22 May 2016
Re: FFFC
Well my FFC is that I've decided to tone it down a little bit.
I think you're both totally awesome bishes. @knotty-girl I've never thought you needed to tone anything down or felt that you were superficial. You're a cool chick, I hate to see you feel bad for anything one person had said about you.
FFFC: my husband is shorter than me and I'm still self conscious about it after being with him for over 7 years.
I go home from work on my lunch breaks. My MIL stays there with DS. Well, today the timing was good and I was able to nurse DS while I was home, and while he was eating he had a major blowout. It even got on my jeans. So I changed him and cleaned him up, changed my jeans and went back to work. I have been back at work for over an hour now and just noticed I have poop on my shirt. I tried to wash it off in the bathroom just now the best I could. I guess if anyone comments I will just tell them I spilled my lunch.
Not of the poo, but running home & seeing LO at lunch.
Yay flats! MH is the opposite. He loves that I'm tall and would have me wearing 5" platform heels if he could. Too bad, dude! I'm the one with the complex :-/
They had the same hair and needs before baby that they have now.
You chose to get a pet and it is up to a 22ish year commitment. (That's the oldest cat I've seen recently. )You owe them love, shelter, food and healthcare for all of the time they may have.
Yeah cleaning up hair sucks and its extra hard to get the pets the attention they need, let alone keep a clean house, but I don't wish my pets would die. That's morbid and cruel,
I'm sad thinking that my dog is Lilly going to pass away when my little one is 10-12 years old. It's going to be heartbreaking for all of us.
I have a white cat who sits on the dark couch or my clean clothes pile...
I have 3 goats as well who need hoof trimming and stall mucking.
I don't have as much time for them but I don't ever wish they were dead even a little bit and I judge you for saying it.
MIL gives DD formula about half the time when she watches DD because "bm takes too long to defrost." I complained about it to DH and SIL, but I actually don't care. It's only one day a week and it means I can put what I pumped into building my stash instead.
Re: girls vs boys - DH and I want 6 kids and I'd love to have 4 girls and 2 boys. But it's never occured to me to not want one or the other.
Re: pets - I like other people's dogs and I see the value in them but I just have no desire to actually own one. It's just way too much work. DH and I are planning on getting some porch cats once we have a house.
Also the grievence and bump crush threads made me realize again how much I suck at keeping track of people's lives. There are seriously only like 5 ppl that I can even remember if they have a girl/boy and like 3 that I know their names. Forget about remembering people's jobs or hobbies. I always feel bad because on the RTT thread ppl will be checking up on each other, remembering stuff from weeks ago and I just have no clue. I'm a bad internet friend
With the possible exception of the equator, everything begins somewhere. - C.S.Lewis
I think if I had a kid and a big messy animal, I'd want the big messy animal to "disappear" too. (And this is precisely why I don't own one.)
All that being said, once she is gone I will not get another pet for many years.
This is funny and made me realize I do the same thing !
I'm lucky to have been able to grow back moderately full brows having been a teen in the 90s.
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/sierra-vandervort/101-things-i-will-teach-my-daughter_b_5698412.html
Seemed fitting after all our daughter talk today.