UO

YaMrWhite

TXUltraRunner said:

Yall keep saying high beams and I keep thinking about nipples

So very much this! Pregnancy FWP #1672381

honeybeee3

TXUltraRunner said:

danakatiepfoltzer said:

mmheartspb said:

I hate it when ppl get things for you for the baby that you didn't register for.  What a waste of time/money.

Even worse- with no receipt !

I always give handmade gifts that I lovingly pick out for the new mom. It's usually a set of a blanket, bibs, a travel changing pad and matching burp cloths. I'd be heartbroken if my friends acted this way after I spent many hours of my time making things for them. 

I feel the same way, I love to make handmade gifts for people! It takes a lot of time and money to create these one of a kind presents and I would be so sad if the person I made it for hated it

mandikins27

My UO... I hate being late i hate people that are late if im not 15 mins early im late its like a mini heart attack for me to be late

Maebb

mmheartspb said:

@muskiefan07, @maebb, @icarriedawatermelon, @candacemg1, @tripletoe, @eyefrog, @jc51723, @TXUltraRunner, @honeybeee3

So you ladies would be ok if you got a blanket that said "Its a boy" when you are having a girl and a silky nightgown set with a robe and slippers for my shower from a lady that never met you? Baby items whether on a registry or not are a good thing I should have been more specific as to what I thought was inappropriate.  

@mmheartspb, I just think it's rude and ungrateful to say that you "hate when people give you ___." Unless it's like, "I hate that they gave me a bag of dog poop" or something like that. If it's a gift, I'm not going to be mad about it. Even if it's a "boy" item for a girl or something that's not very useful to me, the person still gave you something when they could have given you nothing.

I think you've already realized this based on your follow-up post on page 3, but I just wanted to be clear.

vjdk07

honeybeee3 said:

I don't like Twinkies and other hostess snacks. They're so disappointing.

I also don't like Family Guy.

All. Of. This. I also HATE South Park.

Maebb

aerotigergirl said:

I'm going to put on my flame-suit here, because I think I'm going to need it this week. But I'm about to drop some honesty that I've been holding onto for a little while now.

Yesterday, I came across a thread on 2ndTri where a lady said that she was SO disappointed upon finding out her baby's sex that she "didn't even want it anymore." Yep. She actually said that. Of course, this turned into a shit storm, and rightfully so. She clearly needs some professional help and some serious introspection to figure out what her issues with vaginas are. 

But, being so shocked by this lady's OP, I had to think about whether or not I experienced any real feelings of disappointment, and I did, but for reasons and to an extent that I think don't turn me into a monster.

1.) Because I have a 3yo DS, I envisioned him having a little brother. I liked the idea of a little brother for him to be rough and tumble with, as he is 3yo and constantly covered in scrapes and bruises from his active play and this is his idea of fun. 

2.) Because I'm a woman, and because I've struggled for so many years with body image and self-confidence issues, I am very fearful of raising a young woman. I feel like I'm insufficient and likely to pass along my own insecurities to her. I realize that this is definitely possible with boys, too. But it seems like it's easier (in our current culture) for women to fall prey to society's expectations of what a woman is/should be than it is for a man. For example, my own parents raised me and my brother. My mom struggled with her weight, and the accompanying psychological damage, for her entire life right in front of us. It affected me, obviously. It didn't seem to affect my brother (in as much as he's never spoken about it in his 30 years, or shown any indication of suffering self-confidence. I realize this is part of his being a man, though). We were raised by the same parents, and our outcomes have been different. This could have been for a variety of reasons, but it could also have been because I'm a woman and he's a man and we live in the culture that we do. Therefore, I'm more fearful about my ability to raise a woman who feels confident and self-assured. I've been working on getting these issues straightened out in my own mind, because I realize it's more important than ever for me to get it right now, for my daughter and my son.

So, those were my two hangups, and they were the ONLY reasons I was a little nervous about having a girl. After about a minute, I realized that I was rough and tumble as a little kid, so it's ridiculous to assume that my daughter wouldn't be. I had a brother and we played together all the time as kids. No big deal. It's taken me a little longer to get my head around the second hangup, because it's obviously more deeply-seated. But I'm working within myself to overcome it, and I'm now honestly excited to have a daughter. I realize I have work to do, and I'm trying hard to figure it all out. 

So, there. Maybe I'm a terrible monster like the OP over on 2ndTri. But I don't think so. I have felt ashamed of these feelings for a while (10 weeks or so, to be exact), but I think maybe it's more normal than we all would like to admit to have a tinge of emotions when you're faced with something unknown and maybe slightly scary. How's that for an UO?

@aerotigergirl‌, I think your feelings are normal, honest, and not flame-worthy. I am the opposite - I have a DS and was kind of hoping for a girl, but we're having another boy.

I think the difference with that 2nd tri post was that she took it a little (a lot) far with saying that she was so distraught about it to the point of not even wanting the baby anymore. A reasonable, emotionally stable person IMO might think, "I was kind of hoping for __, but we're having a __. But I know I'm going to love this baby, and I can look on the bright side and see __." That person didn't seem to be able to get over her disappointment and still be excited about the fact that she's having a baby, and that's the problem. Like someone said as a reply to that post, if you know there's a 50/50 chance of getting something that you absolutely don't want, maybe you should not get pregnant in the first place.

texasmama786

I think that birth videos are frightening and don't understand why anyone would want to watch that.

jc51723

mmheartspb said:

@muskiefan07, @maebb, @icarriedawatermelon, @candacemg1, @tripletoe, @eyefrog, @jc51723, @TXUltraRunner, @honeybeee3

So you ladies would be ok if you got a blanket that said "Its a boy" when you are having a girl and a silky nightgown set with a robe and slippers for my shower from a lady that never met you? Baby items whether on a registry or not are a good thing I should have been more specific as to what I thought was inappropriate.  

I'm still not seeing how either of those things are inappropriate... And yes I would be "ok" with either of these things being gifted to me.

Edit to add a word

southernyankeegirl

Along the same lines as the 9/11 vent, I hate how people on Facebook seem to take any excuse to prove their patriotism.  Somehow 9/11 gets tied to supporting our troops, and I can kind of see the connection but I think it should be more focused on somber grieving of those who lost their lives on 9/11.  Memorial Day is for those service members we have lost since then, and Veterans Day is for the living service members who have served. I think we've got the thanks for the troops well covered.  9/11 should be for those who lost their lives and if anything, for first responders (many of whom lost their lives, and who don't otherwise have a day to honor their heroism).

I hate Pumpkin Spice Latte at Starbucks.  It takes like chemicals.  But I love their Peppermint Mocha!

I have zero issue with disappointment over the sex of your baby.  I do have an issue when someone doesn't even want the baby if it isn't the "right" sex.  There's a BIG gap between the two, IMO.

I hate all onesies that express a sexual preference.  "Ladies Man" and "Lock up your daughters" and such like that are ones I've seen for little boys that I really dislike.  I am going to assume my little boy is going to identify as a boy because the vast majority do - if we end up with a transgendered child, we will gladly adapt.  But sexuality is such a spectrum, and such a grown up thing that it really bothers me when someone assumes my little boy will automatically like girls.  Statistically, yes, he probably will, but I am not putting a sexual orientation on my infant, thank you very much.  Most especially in a sign on his clothes.

I hate people who keep their high beams on after I flash them to remind them to turn them off.  I've been driving 2 hours home at night from a temporary gig I am working a few times a week, and the road is long and dark.  If I don't use high beams, my visibility is REALLY limited.  But I am always careful to turn it off as soon as it could potentially bother another driver, and as soon as I see someone coming at me with high beams I flash them to ask them to shut them off.  If they don't, they get my high beams flashing at them the whole time - jerks!

Those with body issues afraid of passing them on to girls, please know you're probably one of the BEST people to help your daughter become an empowered woman.  My grandmother gave huge body image issues to my Mom - my grandma has eating disorders that have never been treated (she lives off animal crackers and diet Pepsi) and she constantly gives my Mom and I judgment on our sizes - she buys me a size small in clothes to give me motivation to lose weight to fit into them.  But my Mom somehow managed to use that lesson to give me only positive body image examples - she KNEW how important it was, and she was great at it!  So chances are because you struggle yourself, you'll be all the more aware of making sure your daughter has a good body image.

As far as "boy" or "girl" stuff, I would have dressed a girl in blue, too.  It's my favorite color! I would have decorated a girl nursery in blue, too.  By having a boy first, I'm thrilled that most of my items will be blue so I can use them for a future child, regardless of boy or girl.

MarxieVonTrapp

aerotigergirlllambrose, there are a lot of online resources on how to raise a daughter without letting your body issues come into play.  I strongly recommend Pigtail Pals and Ballcap Buddies for a start.  The author goes into a lot of detail about how sexualized little girls are from the get-go (onesies that are about appearance) and how the impact is more than anyone truly realizes.  She works to raise her daughter (and son) on understanding that women are not to be objectified and should be strong and healthy rather than thin.  She's incredibly helpful, and I encourage you to check out her blog and follow her on FB.

That being said, and I hope it's not an UO, but this is quite possibly one of the most horrifying Halloween costumes I've ever seen.  Holly Golightly is a prostitute.  A very well-dressed one, but a prostitute nonetheless.

https://www.chasing-fireflies.com/breakfast-at-tiffany-27s-girls-costume/costumes-dress-up/girls-costumes/movie-girls-costumes/157316

Another UO: I don't read the memorials on September 11 or watch the news, or do anything for the day.  I don't read about what other people remembered or dealt with, because honestly, it was horrible to live through and I simply cannot do it again.  I cry at the photos, and will never be able to go to the memorials themselves.  It's too much.

motherboy

Salted caramel whatever it's called is better than psl, though I will drink that too. Give me all the flavored coffee drinks and I will chug them down.

I don't like on the night you were born or I'll love you forever and I don't read them to my son, even though we have both. It bugs me that there are words in some of the pictures but not all, and some of the pics are just ugly in night. I'll love you is honestly weird and I want to write a spin off from the daughter in law's perspective about seeing her mil crawl into their bedroom from a ladder to rock and sing to the son/husband.

Lanatir

mandikins27 said:

My UO... I hate being late i hate people that are late if im not 15 mins early im late its like a mini heart attack for me to be late

@mandikins27-- Early is on time, on time is late.  Late, therefore, must be early for the next time you're supposed to be there.  :P  haha.

But I'm totally with you.  I HATE getting to something with less than 10 min to spare.  It makes me twice as annoyed if it's somewhere like a doctor's office and they run late.  Three times as annoyed when one office that ran late constantly had a sign up asking patients to be on time so they could be...

Maebb

motherboy said:

Salted caramel whatever it's called is better than psl, though I will drink that too. Give me all the flavored coffee drinks and I will chug them down.

I don't like on the night you were born or I'll love you forever and I don't read them to my son, even though we have both. It bugs me that there are words in some of the pictures but not all, and some of the pics are just ugly in night. I'll love you is honestly weird and I want to write a spin off from the daughter in law's perspective about seeing her mil crawl into their bedroom from a ladder to rock and sing to the son/husband.

Your comment about "I'll love you forever" is funny - I think you should write that spin-off book!

"On the night you were born" is beautiful and made me cry. It seemed especially touching to me because DS was born in the middle of the night in the winter. But I didn't buy it because it's kind of weird to me that the animals and all of nature are rejoicing at the baby's birth, like it's baby Jesus or something.

sparksfly22

@texasmama786‌ agreed! I don't want my birth to be videotaped as no one, including me and hubby will ever think, 'hey instead of redbox tonight let's watch a human shooting out of your vagina in a bloody fashion' ugh.

My UO is I hate bacon, Mac & cheese, chocolate, mayonnaise and any type of salad. Salads are pointless. I'm not a bunny and if it's for health reasons, people should stop slathering their 'yummy greens' with fat dressing! I don't understand

southernyankeegirl

motherboy said:

I don't like on the night you were born or I'll love you forever and I don't read them to my son, even though we have both. It bugs me that there are words in some of the pictures but not all, and some of the pics are just ugly in night. I'll love you is honestly weird and I want to write a spin off from the daughter in law's perspective about seeing her mil crawl into their bedroom from a ladder to rock and sing to the son/husband.

OMFG yes!  I had never read "I'll Love You Forever" but it seems super popular, so DH and I flipped through it at the bookstore.  The beginning is sweet, but it gets increasingly creepy - the Mom sneaking into his house is seriously creepy.  I won't ever keep that book (I won't buy it, and will donate it if someone gives it to me).

texasmama786

Yes birth is just.. Gross.

Cbeanz

Birth is so human and raw. It's the real stuff of life!

tripletoe

I feel inspired after watching birth videos. It gives me hope that my next will be a more positive experience then my first. 

texasmama786

Yes it is! Just wish it didn't have to be so national geographic.

NatureLovers

I think people that actually believe there is a dramatic difference between raising a boy or a girl are dumb. "Boys love their mamas!" "Girls are so sweet!" What? So girls don't love their Moms? It's just so stupid to me.

aerotigergirl

I agree that some birth videos are pretty bloody and not so easy to watch. I used to be quite terrified of them, in fact. I had a sort of visceral reaction to them in the very beginning. But, I have to admit, watching these videos (and reading positive birth stories) helped me be less scared of birth when I was pregnant with DS. I should start watching them again soon, as some of my old fears have returned since DS was born. 

texasmama786

It is so amazing that a woman's body can generate a person like that and this motherly bond is formed before a child even comes into this world. The whole idea of pregnancy and motherhood is beautiful, but I just feel like the videos and stories might stir up anxiety with all the things that can go wrong or seeing the pain first hand. No thanks! I will stay in my naive little bubble and will be just fine.

aerotigergirl

@texasmama786 - I understand. Everybody faces their fears in their own way.

ETA: I also definitely agree that one of the scariest parts of watching birth videos was seeing birthing women be in pain. Obviously, everyone has their own way of handling pain, and some handle it better than others, but I do remember being shaken up by the way some of the women in the videos handled (or didn't) the pain. Good point.

Beauxbaton

Firefly3911 said:

CuppyCakes721 said:

I don't understand when people spend hundreds of dollars on a birthday party (presents not included.) I'm also 97% sure I won't cry at my sons first birthday. That 3% is reserved because being pregnant I never know what's going to make me cry.

I teared up a little because I realized C was getting bigger and smarter every day. And I spent more money on delicious food than anything. For me, it's more about the experience of friends and family celebrating than having a bounce house or clown or going to chucky cheese.
----------------edit quite fail

I understand money on food if you are feeding people. But buying like a 2 or 3 layer cake from a wedding cake place, a $50 outfit, and a crazy amount on decor is just in same to me. I was going to do a theme from Hobby Lobby, then I found a robot party set on clearance at target. I think I spent $17. We will probably spend $50-75 in food because we are having a cook out because its basically all family. And I'm making the cake.

aerotigergirl

CuppyCakes721 said:

CuppyCakes721 said:

I don't understand when people spend hundreds of dollars on a birthday party (presents not included.) I'm also 97% sure I won't cry at my sons first birthday. That 3% is reserved because being pregnant I never know what's going to make me cry.

I teared up a little because I realized C was getting bigger and smarter every day. And I spent more money on delicious food than anything. For me, it's more about the experience of friends and family celebrating than having a bounce house or clown or going to chucky cheese.

----------------edit quite fail I understand money on food if you are feeding people. But buying like a 2 or 3 layer cake from a wedding cake place, a $50 outfit, and a crazy amount on decor is just in same to me. I was going to do a theme from Hobby Lobby, then I found a robot party set on clearance at target. I think I spent $17. We will probably spend $50-75 in food because we are having a cook out because its basically all family. And I'm making the cake.

This reminds me... My BFF decorates cakes. She doesn't own a bakery or anything, but she does birthday cakes and things for people on a small scale out of her home kitchen. Recently, someone asked her to do a cake for her daughter's quincañera. This is a three tier cake with fondant ruffles all the way down and a huge flower on top (also made of fondant or some other edible medium).

The ENTIRE thing is fake. It's three huge tiers of styrofoam covered in fondant. It's a prop. They will have a sheet cake in the kitchen, and all guests will be eating that. 

This seems entirely ridiculous to me.

Roxycc55

My sister said the same thing about the book I love you forever being creepy. However, it was written about the author's stillborn twins. So I love it. And it makes me cry every time.

I've said the same thing about all the baby clothes with things like 'Ladies Man.' I hate them and they are the things I am most nervous about receiving as gifts.

aerotigergirl

Yesterday my mom referred to this baby as "the little princess."  8-|

So, in my family, gender stereotyping begins even before the baby is around to actually wear clothes with disgusting sayings like "Diva" or "Lil' Heartbreaker" on them.

readyforround2

I HATE reality shows. I don't care if you think you can dance, sing or juggle crap with your boobs. I don't care to watch some stupid naked person in the jungle complaining about being cold or hot because well...they're NAKED!

I especially hate the Kardashians. I don't think having a sex tape and acting pretentious should make you a celebrity. I think it makes you an amateur porn star. "Celebrities" who used a sex tape to gain their "celebrity" status are not celebrities in my opinion, just stupid.

Also, I can't stand Miley Cyrus! I think she's a horrible role model and she knew her career was drifting into oblivion so she starting doing stupid stuff to try and stay relevant. She didn't invent twerking! People have been dancing like that long before she was born.

mandikins27

nursesouder said:

Going off of the facebook posts....I hate how people use social media to brag about how great of a parent they are.  Nothing like getting post after post of Easter baskets, letters from the tooth fairy, and like 1,000 gifts under Christmas trees.

I also get annoyed with the first day of school pics and they "hey look my baby is 32 months old" posts.

Maybe it's just because I don't post a lot on social media, and definitely don't plan on putting pics of my kid out there for everyone to see...but it burns me up.

i think its far worse for the pretender parents that do that... like you know damn well they are not cleaning, never have their kids, do not do anything with their kids yet non stop brag oh doing this with my kid or doing that or oh cleaning again....

tarynlphillips

Firefly3911 said:

CuppyCakes721 said:

I don't understand when people spend hundreds of dollars on a birthday party (presents not included.) I'm also 97% sure I won't cry at my sons first birthday. That 3% is reserved because being pregnant I never know what's going to make me cry.

I teared up a little because I realized C was getting bigger and smarter every day. And I spent more money on delicious food than anything. For me, it's more about the experience of friends and family celebrating than having a bounce house or clown or going to chucky cheese.

No clowns...never clowns!!  Hahah, I just think they are creepy.  I agree with you both. I've had friends and family do the huge parties with a taco man, water slide bounce house, huge cakes, special water bottle wraps, elaborate decorated cookies, etc and then the simple back yard BBQ.  I think both are cute and fun, I just know that certain ones cost a ton.  Definitely more about the experience and what the kid wants to do/makes them happy. 

I'm in the league of...if you want to do it and can afford it, go for it.  A friend threw an incredible baseball party  last year.  Had a whole table of Big League Chew packages, red vines, peanuts...had jersey mikes subs and chik-fil-a cater it and the cow came to hang with the kids...popcorn and cotton candy machine, make your own nacho bar, hot dog machine...the works.  I'm sure it costs hundreds, but mainly on the food, which was all super yummy and everyone had a great time mingling and all the kids had a blast.

Aillise

My MIL picks out everything she can for the baby she also did this with my son. Now don't get me wrong it's the thought that counts. But she's never even looked at the registry. She's told me my baby names I have picked are ugly, that I shouldn't breast feed ( "so you'll be the only one who can feed the baby? I don't think so") she isn't buying things to be nice per say. She's doing it to be in control, she also told me my 9 yo should pick the baby's name. I can imagine what he would pick. The answer... "No". (Sorry for venting lol). She picks out weird stuff and anything I like she is pretty much against, and gets the opposite. Very difficult to deal with.

mandikins27

tarynlphillips said:

Firefly3911 said:

CuppyCakes721 said:

I don't understand when people spend hundreds of dollars on a birthday party (presents not included.) I'm also 97% sure I won't cry at my sons first birthday. That 3% is reserved because being pregnant I never know what's going to make me cry.

I teared up a little because I realized C was getting bigger and smarter every day. And I spent more money on delicious food than anything. For me, it's more about the experience of friends and family celebrating than having a bounce house or clown or going to chucky cheese.

No clowns...never clowns!!  Hahah, I just think they are creepy.  I agree with you both. I've had friends and family do the huge parties with a taco man, water slide bounce house, huge cakes, special water bottle wraps, elaborate decorated cookies, etc and then the simple back yard BBQ.  I think both are cute and fun, I just know that certain ones cost a ton.  Definitely more about the experience and what the kid wants to do/makes them happy. 

I'm in the league of...if you want to do it and can afford it, go for it.  A friend threw an incredible baseball party  last year.  Had a whole table of Big League Chew packages, red vines, peanuts...had jersey mikes subs and chik-fil-a cater it and the cow came to hang with the kids...popcorn and cotton candy machine, make your own nacho bar, hot dog machine...the works.  I'm sure it costs hundreds, but mainly on the food, which was all super yummy and everyone had a great time mingling and all the kids had a blast.

I do as much of the baking and food  as possible. im not good at cakes though so I do buy cakes but most of my budget goes on the halls I have to rent and decorations loot bags etc. I have 3 girls within 2 weeks of each other so I do one huge party which ends up being a lot of people and that requires a place big enough for these people as my girls are in nov which in Canada usually is snowing.

honeybeee3

vjdk07 said:

honeybeee3 said:

I don't like Twinkies and other hostess snacks. They're so disappointing.

I also don't like Family Guy.

All. Of. This. I also HATE South Park.

Is it weird that I actually LOVE South Park?

I'm glad we're on the same page about Twinkies and Family Guy though

texasmama786

honeybeee3 said:

vjdk07 said:

honeybeee3 said:

I don't like Twinkies and other hostess snacks. They're so disappointing.

I also don't like Family Guy.

All. Of. This. I also HATE South Park.

Is it weird that I actually LOVE South Park?

I'm glad we're on the same page about Twinkies and Family Guy though

Screw you guys I'm going home.

honeybeee3

kmfreema said:

I HATE reality shows. I don't care if you think you can dance, sing or juggle crap with your boobs. I don't care to watch some stupid naked person in the jungle complaining about being cold or hot because well...they're NAKED!

I especially hate the Kardashians. I don't think having a sex tape and acting pretentious should make you a celebrity. I think it makes you an amateur porn star. "Celebrities" who used a sex tape to gain their "celebrity" status are not celebrities in my opinion, just stupid.

Also, I can't stand Miley Cyrus! I think she's a horrible role model and she knew her career was drifting into oblivion so she starting doing stupid stuff to try and stay relevant. She didn't invent twerking! People have been dancing like that long before she was born.

I disagree. I love me some trashy reality tv!! Real housewives? Yes please! Naked and afraid? You betcha! Kardashians? Yup! I love it all.

But you're right about one thing, Miley is gross.

ajg36

texasmama786 said:

Screw you guys I'm going home.

I see what you did there! And I actually love birth (and many other medical) videos. I find them inspiring and fascinating. I truly think I was meant to be a midwife. Maybe someday...

Maebb

South Park and Family Guy are both incredibly annoying to me.

I do like The Bachelor/ette. I know it's trash, but I can't help but be entertained by it.

efujan

HappyMonkey817 said:

My UO: I think it's silly when people refer to their child's age in months rather than years. It's fine in the beginning, obviously, but after a certain point it gets a little ridiculous. Oh, your kid is 23 months old? That's nice. He's 2. Round up and get over it. ;-)

I'm 100% with you on this.  When people asked how old my son is, I've usually rounded, or said something like "he just turned 1 in March" (and I am 26.  Again.  For the 8th time).  He's officially a year and a half now, and it's been "almost a year and a half" for a few months now.  Good enough for me!

Actually had a friend's wife tell me that her daughter was 31 months.  No.  Don't do that.  Math is hard.  Why can't she be "almost 3"???

tarynlphillips

mandikins27 said:

 

I do as much of the baking and food  as possible. im not good at cakes though so I do buy cakes but most of my budget goes on the halls I have to rent and decorations loot bags etc. I have 3 girls within 2 weeks of each other so I do one huge party which ends up being a lot of people and that requires a place big enough for these people as my girls are in nov which in Canada usually is snowing.

Yes...you and me both!  I always bake and cook for the parties we have.  This is my first baby, so I haven't done my own kid party yet, but I predict I will be make cupcakes/cakes/cake pops and make the food.  My husband is an amazing BBQer and I have cooked my entire life so I am often disappointed with some catering.  (like I made the cupcakes and cake pops for my own wedding) ha!  I am not sure what we'll do for this lil guy with a January birthday.  I love having big gatherings in our backyard and in January it might not be so pleasant.  I might just steal ideas from the rest of you:) (There will just defnitely not be clowns)

texasmama786

Beckydewell said:

Aillise said:

that I shouldn't breast feed ( "so you'll be the only one who can feed the baby? I don't think so")

What's with these moms and MILs thinking they get a say on how babies are fed? It's insane. I'm pretty sure that will be a popular opinion though.

This and what's with grandparents and scolding you if your baby doesn't have socks on?