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  • LaBellaVidaLaBellaVida member
    edited September 2014
    Animal print for little girls is Tacky! I think animal print for adults is OK. ... As long as it's done tastefully.

    Two piece swim suits for little girls is Tacky also.

    My UO: I'm not a fan of Christmas. I loved it growing up, but not so much anymore. I could go without it, and i really only do it for my kids and my husband.
    Eta: my friends think I'm a scrooge. Bah hum bug!
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    Yes, in the secularized sense.
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  • jc51723jc51723 member
    edited September 2014
    danakatiepfoltzer said:
    I hate it when ppl get things for you for the baby that you didn't register for.  What a waste of time/money.
    Even worse- with no receipt !
    I have graciously accepted every gift I've ever gotten.  Even the "Lesson From the River" and "Lesson From the Deer" sweatshirts DH and I got for Christmas one year!  Yes they were awful and tacky and I eventually donated them to Goodwill, but I acted thrilled we got them!

    I did get things for DD1 that I didn't need or want, but its not hard to figure out how to return things, even without a receipt.  And I did end up returning/exchanging things, but I appreciated the time/money/thought that was spent on me and I would never let anyone think otherwise!

    Edited to add: What about handmade gifts?  I've made quilts as baby or wedding gifts.  Those weren't on the registry!
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  • 4littlebears4littlebears member
    I don't want to potty train my daughter. I'd rather just let her wear diapers until she's 5 then clean up the mess. If only it wasn't considered late to be starting training at 3+. I was like, "crap" last night when I saw a mom taking her daughter to the bathroom and she's only 10 days older than dd.
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  • mandikins27mandikins27 member
    CuppyCakes721 said:
    I don't understand when people spend hundreds of dollars on a birthday party (presents not included.) I'm also 97% sure I won't cry at my sons first birthday. That 3% is reserved because being pregnant I never know what's going to make me cry.
    im so guilty of this :S and im trying to put my foot down this year but I feel guilty
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  • britb618britb618 member
    I completely agree with the #neverforget and facebook posts etc. As others said, and as I mentioned in another post, I understand this was an important day in history for the USA but all I can think about is the horror and the sadness that surrounded the day and I feel for the families who have to live through this day every year as if it was a national holiday. 

    I however am not in the slightest bothered by the wives who have received compensation for what happened that day. I actually took a class in law school taught by one of the attorneys who represented many of the victims families in the law suits brought against the airlines etc. And although I walked into the class with the opinion that no one was to blame but the terrorists I could see afterwards that blaming US security and the airlines didn't let the terrorists off the hook, it just held everyone accountable. However, I am around law suits all day long so I guess I'm not as bothered by anything like that in general. 
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  • CbeanzCbeanz member
    Baby/bridal shower games are fun!!!!!

    Yeah, I said it.

    Also I secretly want a shower this time around. I regret declining the offer with #1.
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  • tripletoetripletoe member
    @jconno ....apple cinnamon is so yummy! I might bake today!
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  • LanatirLanatir member
    On the 9/11 thing--- I'm with you.  Not NYC scale, but NoVA had quite the scare with the Pentagon getting hit.  I know plenty of people who work(ed) in the Pentagon at that time or their parents did.  In fact, my SiL was stationed at the Pentagon at that point (she wasn't my SiL yet though!).

    I have yet to make it to the NYC completed memorial.  I was there in 2009 when it was still under construction.
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  • LanatirLanatir member
    My UO-- High beams should be illegal.  Where I live is curvy and hilly and I can see the oncoming traffic's high beams forever away because they bounce so far and I just keep driving dreading knowing I'm going to crest a hill or turn a curve and be blinded and half of the drivers here don't bother shutting them off when they encounter another car (maybe because the encounter is sort of brief with the hills and curves?).  I know they're supposed to help you see farther, but really, with that many curves?
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  • BeauxbatonBeauxbaton member
    edited September 2014
    aerotigergirl said:

    I'm going to put on my flame-suit here, because I think I'm going to need it this week. But I'm about to drop some honesty that I've been holding onto for a little while now.


    Yesterday, I came across a thread on 2ndTri where a lady said that she was SO disappointed upon finding out her baby's sex that she "didn't even want it anymore." Yep. She actually said that. Of course, this turned into a shit storm, and rightfully so. She clearly needs some professional help and some serious introspection to figure out what her issues with vaginas are. 

    But, being so shocked by this lady's OP, I had to think about whether or not I experienced any real feelings of disappointment, and I did, but for reasons and to an extent that I think don't turn me into a monster.

    1.) Because I have a 3yo DS, I envisioned him having a little brother. I liked the idea of a little brother for him to be rough and tumble with, as he is 3yo and constantly covered in scrapes and bruises from his active play and this is his idea of fun. 

    2.) Because I'm a woman, and because I've struggled for so many years with body image and self-confidence issues, I am very fearful of raising a young woman. I feel like I'm insufficient and likely to pass along my own insecurities to her. I realize that this is definitely possible with boys, too. But it seems like it's easier (in our current culture) for women to fall prey to society's expectations of what a woman is/should be than it is for a man. For example, my own parents raised me and my brother. My mom struggled with her weight, and the accompanying psychological damage, for her entire life right in front of us. It affected me, obviously. It didn't seem to affect my brother (in as much as he's never spoken about it in his 30 years, or shown any indication of suffering self-confidence. I realize this is part of his being a man, though). We were raised by the same parents, and our outcomes have been different. This could have been for a variety of reasons, but it could also have been because I'm a woman and he's a man and we live in the culture that we do. Therefore, I'm more fearful about my ability to raise a woman who feels confident and self-assured. I've been working on getting these issues straightened out in my own mind, because I realize it's more important than ever for me to get it right now, for my daughter and my son.

    So, those were my two hangups, and they were the ONLY reasons I was a little nervous about having a girl. After about a minute, I realized that I was rough and tumble as a little kid, so it's ridiculous to assume that my daughter wouldn't be. I had a brother and we played together all the time as kids. No big deal. It's taken me a little longer to get my head around the second hangup, because it's obviously more deeply-seated. But I'm working within myself to overcome it, and I'm now honestly excited to have a daughter. I realize I have work to do, and I'm trying hard to figure it all out. 

    So, there. Maybe I'm a terrible monster like the OP over on 2ndTri. But I don't think so. I have felt ashamed of these feelings for a while (10 weeks or so, to be exact), but I think maybe it's more normal than we all would like to admit to have a tinge of emotions when you're faced with something unknown and maybe slightly scary. How's that for an UO?

    I'll never post about the extent of my feelings about "gender/sex disappointment" on the bump because I know the overall opinion of the people on here. But I did/do struggle with it. BUT I also struggle with depression on a day to day basis. I have to wonder about other people who struggle like the poster in 2nd Tri and whether or not they deal with other issues like depression or anxiety.

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    edited September 2014
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  • liladelphia215liladelphia215 member
    CrazyMonkeyBear said:
    Lanatir said:
    My UO-- High beams should be illegal.  Where I live is curvy and hilly and I can see the oncoming traffic's high beams forever away because they bounce so far and I just keep driving dreading knowing I'm going to crest a hill or turn a curve and be blinded and half of the drivers here don't bother shutting them off when they encounter another car (maybe because the encounter is sort of brief with the hills and curves?).  I know they're supposed to help you see farther, but really, with that many curves?
    I'm the same way. I get people on the freaking HIGHWAY coming up right behind me with their high beams on. WTF people!
    I think it's illegal to put them on so many feet behind someone or so many feet in front of oncoming traffic. I hate hate hate when people don't abide by this. I use my highbeams but I usually have them on in such a way that they don't click on so that when I take my hand of the mechanism they automatically shut off. It's an easy way to remember to shut them off at the first sign of a car coming the other direction.

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    CrazyMonkeyBear said:


    liladelphia215 said:


    CrazyMonkeyBear said:


    Lanatir said:

    My UO-- High beams should be illegal.  Where I live is curvy and hilly and I can see the oncoming traffic's high beams forever away because they bounce so far and I just keep driving dreading knowing I'm going to crest a hill or turn a curve and be blinded and half of the drivers here don't bother shutting them off when they encounter another car (maybe because the encounter is sort of brief with the hills and curves?).  I know they're supposed to help you see farther, but really, with that many curves?

    I'm the same way. I get people on the freaking HIGHWAY coming up right behind me with their high beams on. WTF people!

    I think it's illegal to put them on so many feet behind someone or so many feet in front of oncoming traffic. I hate hate hate when people don't abide by this. I use my highbeams but I usually have them on in such a way that they don't click on so that when I take my hand of the mechanism they automatically shut off. It's an easy way to remember to shut them off at the first sign of a car coming the other direction.




    I think it is, too. I will rarely use my high beams, to be honest. I prefer running lights (not that my current car has them, boo!) because I'm weird like that. I'm usually the person who flicks them at the oncoming driver if they still have them on and are approaching me. I hate being blinded. Same with people who instead of using high beams, have their headlights aimed so high up that it might as well be high beams. I giggle when they get annoyed at it being shined back in their face with my rear view mirrow
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    I know its illegal to keep your high beams on. You'll get pulled over and ticketed for it if you pass a cop. Also if you have them on in town. I only use mine when I'm driving through southwest Kansas because there are a shit ton of deer
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  • llambrosellambrose member
    aerotigergirl said:
    I'm going to put on my flame-suit here, because I think I'm going to need it this week. But I'm about to drop some honesty that I've been holding onto for a little while now.

    Yesterday, I came across a thread on 2ndTri where a lady said that she was SO disappointed upon finding out her baby's sex that she "didn't even want it anymore." Yep. She actually said that. Of course, this turned into a shit storm, and rightfully so. She clearly needs some professional help and some serious introspection to figure out what her issues with vaginas are. 

    But, being so shocked by this lady's OP, I had to think about whether or not I experienced any real feelings of disappointment, and I did, but for reasons and to an extent that I think don't turn me into a monster.

    1.) Because I have a 3yo DS, I envisioned him having a little brother. I liked the idea of a little brother for him to be rough and tumble with, as he is 3yo and constantly covered in scrapes and bruises from his active play and this is his idea of fun. 

    2.) Because I'm a woman, and because I've struggled for so many years with body image and self-confidence issues, I am very fearful of raising a young woman. I feel like I'm insufficient and likely to pass along my own insecurities to her. I realize that this is definitely possible with boys, too. But it seems like it's easier (in our current culture) for women to fall prey to society's expectations of what a woman is/should be than it is for a man. For example, my own parents raised me and my brother. My mom struggled with her weight, and the accompanying psychological damage, for her entire life right in front of us. It affected me, obviously. It didn't seem to affect my brother (in as much as he's never spoken about it in his 30 years, or shown any indication of suffering self-confidence. I realize this is part of his being a man, though). We were raised by the same parents, and our outcomes have been different. This could have been for a variety of reasons, but it could also have been because I'm a woman and he's a man and we live in the culture that we do. Therefore, I'm more fearful about my ability to raise a woman who feels confident and self-assured. I've been working on getting these issues straightened out in my own mind, because I realize it's more important than ever for me to get it right now, for my daughter and my son.

    So, those were my two hangups, and they were the ONLY reasons I was a little nervous about having a girl. After about a minute, I realized that I was rough and tumble as a little kid, so it's ridiculous to assume that my daughter wouldn't be. I had a brother and we played together all the time as kids. No big deal. It's taken me a little longer to get my head around the second hangup, because it's obviously more deeply-seated. But I'm working within myself to overcome it, and I'm now honestly excited to have a daughter. I realize I have work to do, and I'm trying hard to figure it all out. 

    So, there. Maybe I'm a terrible monster like the OP over on 2ndTri. But I don't think so. I have felt ashamed of these feelings for a while (10 weeks or so, to be exact), but I think maybe it's more normal than we all would like to admit to have a tinge of emotions when you're faced with something unknown and maybe slightly scary. How's that for an UO?
    I saw that thread too and I think that woman's reaction was pretty extreme.  I don't think that the feelings that you expressed are bad at all.  I recently went through some of the same things when I found out I was having a boy (I already have a girl).  I also felt bad about feeling that way and I never felt anything close to what that other poster expressed but I felt a little disappointed.  I had wanted a sister for my daughter, I have been raising a girl and it feels familiar, etc.  On your second point, I am the same way.  Appearances are a HUGE deal to my mother and growing up I felt a lot of shame about my body not being perfect and not looking the way my mother saw fit.  She is also the kind of person to constantly worry about how she looks, what she eats, what people think about how she looks and what she eats, she exhausts me.  We are similar in a lot of ways but have some differences in this area.  It took me a long time to accept myself for who I am and to like who I am.  I still have A LOT of issues with how I look, I never think that I look the way that I should, I hate to have my picture taken, etc. When I had a daughter, I knew that I needed to make a concerted effort to try to pass on as little of this as possible to her.  I try never to criticize my looks in her presence, I don't make comments about my weight, I don't put myself down.  I also make sure to never stress things like that in relation to her, I don't want her to feel the way that I have always felt about myself, it is miserable to not like yourself and really sad to feel like your mother does not like you.  I have to be cautious but I do everything I can to make sure that she doesn't hear that from me and feel like that is the way to be.  It is hard but hopefully it will be worth it.  I want my beautiful little girl to be a confident woman and not be saddled with all the negativity that our society pushes on women. I just wanted to share that in case it helps at all, I am sure that you will be able to do the same since you already have an awareness of it being a problem, realizing that will go a long way toward breaking the cycle. :)
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  • tripletoetripletoe member
    @aerotigergirl - I hate this too! I commute on a highway for work and I hate when people take their Sunday drive in the passing lane! Uggg! There are even signs that say "keep right except to pass", come on people, read!
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    Cbeanz said:
    Baby/bridal shower games are fun!!!!! Yeah, I said it. Also I secretly want a shower this time around. I regret declining the offer with #1.
    @cbeanz I like the games, too.  I like playing party games in general and always have a good time.  If there are so many games that you don't have time to just chat, it's annoying though.
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  • LanatirLanatir member
    CuppyCakes721 said:
    liladelphia215 said:
    CrazyMonkeyBear said:
    Lanatir said:
    My UO-- High beams should be illegal.  Where I live is curvy and hilly and I can see the oncoming traffic's high beams forever away because they bounce so far and I just keep driving dreading knowing I'm going to crest a hill or turn a curve and be blinded and half of the drivers here don't bother shutting them off when they encounter another car (maybe because the encounter is sort of brief with the hills and curves?).  I know they're supposed to help you see farther, but really, with that many curves?
    I'm the same way. I get people on the freaking HIGHWAY coming up right behind me with their high beams on. WTF people!
    I think it's illegal to put them on so many feet behind someone or so many feet in front of oncoming traffic. I hate hate hate when people don't abide by this. I use my highbeams but I usually have them on in such a way that they don't click on so that when I take my hand of the mechanism they automatically shut off. It's an easy way to remember to shut them off at the first sign of a car coming the other direction.

    I think it is, too. I will rarely use my high beams, to be honest. I prefer running lights (not that my current car has them, boo!) because I'm weird like that. I'm usually the person who flicks them at the oncoming driver if they still have them on and are approaching me. I hate being blinded. Same with people who instead of using high beams, have their headlights aimed so high up that it might as well be high beams. I giggle when they get annoyed at it being shined back in their face with my rear view mirrow
    ---------------- I know its illegal to keep your high beams on. You'll get pulled over and ticketed for it if you pass a cop. Also if you have them on in town. I only use mine when I'm driving through southwest Kansas because there are a shit ton of deer
    The deer in my county are weird.  They freak out and run INTO the road every instance I've seen someone using high beams...  I don't use mine and I constantly see them on the side of the road and they just watch me pass and don't move.  Maybe they hate being blinded, too.   ;)
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    Also, @CrazyMonkeyBear-- I totally flip my rear view mirror when someone has high beams on behind me.  hahaha.
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    tripletoe said:
    @aerotigergirl - I hate this too! I commute on a highway for work and I hate when people take their Sunday drive in the passing lane! Uggg! There are even signs that say "keep right except to pass", come on people, read!
    EXACTLY.
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