Etiquette Question (NBR)

JackieP1023

My brother just proposed to his girlfriend a week or two ago. They plan to get married sometime next summer, provided they can find a venue. (so, no official date as of yet).

I want to throw a bridal shower for future SIL. (well, me and my sisters would throw it, for our side-and whichever of her side she wants us to invite). The potential issue is that they live in northern WI. (I live in southeast MO) We (DH and I, and now DD) typically make 1 trip per year up there-usually we can't afford the time off of work + expenses of travelling more than once in a year. Next year, my youngest sister graduates from High School. I'm not 100% sure yet when it is, she thinks maybe Memorial Day weekend. So next year, we will already be going up twice: graduation and wedding. Would it be considered incredibly tacky if my sister had her graduation party on a Saturday, and we hosted the bridal shower on a Sunday? I know being on a holiday weekend, we would likely have less people come anyways. It would be 2 traditional gift-giving occasions in the same weekend, for the same family, so I'm thinking it would look tacky and/or gift grabby (which is not the intention-but if we could do the shower the same weekend as graduation, it would work out so much better). FWIW, most of the rest of my extended family lives within an hour or two (so for them, a day trip isn't out of the question for either/both events). Thoughts?

JackieP1023

The bridesmaid luncheon/post-wedding brunch is a good idea! Maybe we will do that instead.

The bridesmaids are all friends of the bride, and if the MOH did a shower, I'm guessing it would be held in the bride's hometown, in ND. Of course, I plan to talk to the MOH before hosting a shower in case she has other plans, but I thought it would be nice to do something, more or less 'welcoming' her to the family.

Andplusalso, my bridal shower was hosted by my SIL, and none of my side was able to attend (because of distance). I'd like to not see that happen for her! (even though it's a little different, because it would be her FI side, not her own)

Meghan14

I agree with everything @lalaprep said.  Exactly.