~~~UOs~~~

stoneycakes

It's Thursday, yo!

stoneycakes

Slate tile should not cost $8 a sq ft.

TJ1979

Meeting times are listed on calendars for a reason.  10:00 =/= 10:15 or 10:30.  Or 11.  Being late is not fashionable, it's rude.

unaveragejane

TJ1979 said:

Meeting times are listed on calendars for a reason.  10:00 =/= 10:15 or 10:30.  Or 11.  Being late is not fashionable, it's rude.

I would like to extend this to include what time your SO says he is coming to bed! Do not tell me 15 more minutes and show up 45 minutes later. And if you do, don't strike up a conversation. I'm tired and pissed; I don't care what someone said on the Main Board. (Rant over)

TJ1979

unaveragejane said:

Meeting times are listed on calendars for a reason.  10:00 =/= 10:15 or 10:30.  Or 11.  Being late is not fashionable, it's rude.

I would like to extend this to include what time your SO says he is coming to bed! Do not tell me 15 more minutes and show up 45 minutes later. And if you do, don't strike up a conversation. I'm tired and pissed; I don't care what someone said on the Main Board. (Rant over)

Also what time he says he will get home.  Don't tell me you'll be home by dinner, then I promise E you will put her to bed, then you don't get home till 9.  Toddlers take promises seriously.

Mandmeesh

a girl at work brought in her four week old yesterday 

It's not okay to run up to this new mom and bombard her with wanting to hold her baby.  or not wash your hands!!! or take the baby out of his carrier while mom is holding the carrier still!!!! I totally just waved from like 5 feet away and then walked away with leaky-feeling boobs. lol

four week old babies should be at home

sarenu1

Apparently its an UO at my workplace to take a sick day when you're suffering from lack of sleep.

I powered through 3 days of close and took a sick day on day 4 after completing some things from home.  I caught flack for taking a sick day even though the day before I almost lost my lunch because my head hurt so bad (I get stress headaches sometimes).

sarenu1

Mapleme said:

unaveragejane said:

Meeting times are listed on calendars for a reason.  10:00 =/= 10:15 or 10:30.  Or 11.  Being late is not fashionable, it's rude.

I would like to extend this to include what time your SO says he is coming to bed! Do not tell me 15 more minutes and show up 45 minutes later. And if you do, don't strike up a conversation. I'm tired and pissed; I don't care what someone said on the Main Board. (Rant over)

I suck at the whole "being on time" thing, but it drives me nuts when DH wants to chat as I am falling asleep. Just no.

Office meetings should always be timely, I'm fine if you walk-in 2-3 minutes late, but past the 5 minutes it's being rude.  And you better be ready to dive into the meeting and not derail it.

If it's a social thing, I don't really care if you're a little late.  Most of the time if it involves kids, I'm running 15-30 minutes behind.  I now always plan to leave 15-30 minutes before the time I think I should leave.

JEPES1348

Complaining about work at work is fine, but it should probably be kept to a moderate amount, at most. Being the office complainer is quite unbecoming. Our office complainer has been at a different position at a different location for the past 8 months. Her first day back with us was yesterday...and she complained about new/different responsibilities she now has. When I came to the office during my maternity leave, this woman also complained directly to me how my unexpected early maternity leave (P was born 2 months premature) created complications and more work for her. Um...I'm sorry?

Just do your jobs, people. 

SuperTinkerham

JEPES1348 said:

Complaining about work at work is fine, but it should probably be kept to a moderate amount, at most. Being the office complainer is quite unbecoming. Our office complainer has been at a different position at a different location for the past 8 months. Her first day back with us was yesterday...and she complained about new/different responsibilities she now has. When I came to the office during my maternity leave, this woman also complained directly to me how my unexpected early maternity leave (P was born 2 months premature) created complications and more work for her. Um...I'm sorry?

Just do your jobs, people. 

I firmly believe that negativity begets negativity. I don't wanna get sucked into the complaining cycle. Yes, all companies have issues- but negative nannies can suck it.

sasq09

Prepositions do not belong at the end of sentences. Please do not ask me "where is it at?" or "where are we going to?" its incorrect and annoying. I try really hard not to correct people lol

Second uo: I wish I could take grammar/writing again, because I didn't pay enough attention in school.

SuperTinkerham

I think sex ed and home ec (life skills) should be mandatory by middle school. Budgeting, understanding how money works, how loans work is too important of a life skill to miss. if you have spent any time on TTC or pregnancy boards you know too many don't understand the basics of conception.

TJ1979

mamalamb10 said:

I thought this was supposed to be the UO thread. Either I'm not popular or nothing here is really a UO.

Then post a better UO Judgy McJudgerson.

TJ1979

I'm with @ovenrack.  I didn't throw up often with P, so I didn't feel justified taking medicine.  But that doesn't mean I didn't feel sick as hell.  I was so nauseous I wished I could throw up. 

sarenu1

mamalamb10 said:

TJ1979 said:

I thought this was supposed to be the UO thread. Either I'm not popular or nothing here is really a UO.

Then post a better UO Judgy McJudgerson.

If you're PG you don't get to complain about being sick unless you are taking something for it especially if you are PG with an oops baby that you didn't want but are too lazy to use BC! (How's that for a UO?)

I think this just goes to show how tame this board is. We can't even come up with good UO's.

If someone asked me how I felt while pregnant, I can complain.  I tried not to otherwise.

TJ1979

sarenu1 said:

mamalamb10 said:

TJ1979 said:

I thought this was supposed to be the UO thread. Either I'm not popular or nothing here is really a UO.

Then post a better UO Judgy McJudgerson.

If you're PG you don't get to complain about being sick unless you are taking something for it especially if you are PG with an oops baby that you didn't want but are too lazy to use BC! (How's that for a UO?)

I think this just goes to show how tame this board is. We can't even come up with good UO's.

If someone asked me how I felt while pregnant, I can complain.  I tried not to otherwise.

Well that's a good point too.  I really only complained to MH.  No one at work even knew I was pregnant until I was 5 months.  I was past MS then, but still dealing with food aversions.

mrshudson618

mamalamb10 said:

mamalamb10 said:

TJ1979 said:

I thought this was supposed to be the UO thread. Either I'm not popular or nothing here is really a UO.

Then post a better UO Judgy McJudgerson.

If you're PG you don't get to complain about being sick unless you are taking something for it especially if you are PG with an oops baby that you didn't want but are too lazy to use BC! (How's that for a UO?)

I think this just goes to show how tame this board is. We can't even come up with good UO's.

If you're pregnant, you definitely get to complain about feeling sick (I mean, to a point). No matter how you got pregnant. Yeah, there are drugs bad such that you can take. But still.

I don't categorize who gets to complain and who doesn't, unless they are a total asshole.

I fully admit I'm a totally judgemental b*tch when it comes to complaining about being PG. After a loss it really rubs me the wrong way. This particular case was more of a vent about a particular friend who doesn't like to take BC but also doesn't like condoms. She has terrible MS but refuses to do anything about it. The last time she hadn't kept anything down for 3 or 4 days and was mad when her MW sent her to the ER for fluids. She also won't take anything for constipation but only poops once a week. All she does is complain about how she didn't want to be PG and how sick she is.

complaining about being pregnant and complainging about the symptoms are totally different.

unaveragejane

sasq09 said:

Prepositions do not belong at the end of sentences. Please do not ask me "where is it at?" or "where are we going to?" its incorrect and annoying. I try really hard not to correct people lol Second uo: I wish I could take grammar/writing again, because I didn't pay enough attention in school.

I was just thinking about that this morning when I noticed a post that was worded correctly to keep the preposition away from the end of the sentence. It was a smiley, happy moment!

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Mandmeesh

I don't think watching violent things or playing video games affects your psychology (and I suppose all of the scientifid research backs this up) 

but a war video game does not make you grow up to kill a bunch of people.  your genetic brain chemistry does that

Into+the+Kitty

Mandmeesh said:

I don't think watching violent things or playing video games affects your psychology (and I suppose all of the scientifid research backs this up) 

but a war video game does not make you grow up to kill a bunch of people.  your genetic brain chemistry does that

I disagree. Being exposed to violence normalizes violence. That's why children who grow up in homes with domestic abuse will tend to either abuse their partners or let their partners abuse them.

I see how many people on my Facebook share stories, photos, or videos of dead bodies and murders (beheadings, shootings of civilians by police officers, shootings of civilians by other civilians) without being even remotely affected by the fact that there are actual people whose lives have been cut short by violence. Considering that we don't live in a war torn society, there is a huge disconnect between how people should be reacting to extreme violence and how they are.

Mandmeesh

Into+the+Kitty said:

Mandmeesh said:

I don't think watching violent things or playing video games affects your psychology (and I suppose all of the scientifid research backs this up) 

but a war video game does not make you grow up to kill a bunch of people.  your genetic brain chemistry does that

I disagree. Being exposed to violence normalizes violence. That's why children who grow up in homes with domestic abuse will tend to either abuse their partners or let their partners abuse them.

I see how many people on my Facebook share stories, photos, or videos of dead bodies and murders (beheadings, shootings of civilians by police officers, shootings of civilians by other civilians) without being even remotely affected by the fact that there are actual people whose lives have been cut short by violence. Considering that we don't live in a war torn society, there is a huge disconnect between how people should be reacting to extreme violence and how they are.

But I think to say "the metal gear solid game that he played for years MADE him commit this crime" is incorrect. Many other factors usually contribute

cedenton

Into+the+Kitty said:

Mandmeesh said:

I don't think watching violent things or playing video games affects your psychology (and I suppose all of the scientifid research backs this up) 

but a war video game does not make you grow up to kill a bunch of people.  your genetic brain chemistry does that

I disagree. Being exposed to violence normalizes violence. That's why children who grow up in homes with domestic abuse will tend to either abuse their partners or let their partners abuse them.

I see how many people on my Facebook share stories, photos, or videos of dead bodies and murders (beheadings, shootings of civilians by police officers, shootings of civilians by other civilians) without being even remotely affected by the fact that there are actual people whose lives have been cut short by violence. Considering that we don't live in a war torn society, there is a huge disconnect between how people should be reacting to extreme violence and how they are.

Let's add shootings of police officers by civilians to that list.

stoneycakes

I'm going to be the lone dissenter here and say that it's okay to complain about an unplanned pregnancy.  I agree that, after a loss, it's pretty hard to stomach any negativity about pregnancy.  But that doesn't change the fact that this person is now responsible for carrying a pregnancy and raising a child for which she feels unprepared. That's a big deal.

stoneycakes

mamalamb10 said:

I'm going to be the lone dissenter here and say that it's okay to complain about an unplanned pregnancy.  I agree that, after a loss, it's pretty hard to stomach any negativity about pregnancy.  But that doesn't change the fact that this person is now responsible for carrying a pregnancy and raising a child for which she feels unprepared. That's a big deal.

Than use some sort of freaking BC! I can understand being upset about an oops if you were doing something to prevent it. However I will judge you if you do nothing to prevent getting PG then complain about it.

I understand where you're coming from in this particular case, but saying "Hey you should have used a rubber" doesn't change the situation she's in or the way she feels about it.

bumpuser9353653

Now that I'm thinking about football, I'm going to say that I don't think the Redskins should change their name.

People will always find something to complain about, and I've never heard the name be used in an offensive manner. If it was still a modern derogatory term, that would be a different story, but, to my knowledge, it's not, so it becomes about tradition for me. It's an 82 yr old franchise. Why change it now?

Amores0121

theultimatesak said:

four week old babies should be at home

I'm late to the UOs today because I was at the grocery store and playground with my 3 week old. I'm pretty sure he hasn't spent a full day at home since the day after he came home from the hospital. My UO is apparently that taking newborns out and about is fine by me.

I'm with you.  I would have gone crazy if I didn't get out of the house.  I was much more cautious with my first one, but this time I had to get out and the baby was just fine.

violajack

Into+the+Kitty said:

Mandmeesh said:

I don't think watching violent things or playing video games affects your psychology (and I suppose all of the scientifid research backs this up) 

but a war video game does not make you grow up to kill a bunch of people.  your genetic brain chemistry does that

I disagree. Being exposed to violence normalizes violence. That's why children who grow up in homes with domestic abuse will tend to either abuse their partners or let their partners abuse them.

I see how many people on my Facebook share stories, photos, or videos of dead bodies and murders (beheadings, shootings of civilians by police officers, shootings of civilians by other civilians) without being even remotely affected by the fact that there are actual people whose lives have been cut short by violence. Considering that we don't live in a war torn society, there is a huge disconnect between how people should be reacting to extreme violence and how they are.

I think this is the key issue here. It lowers the moral barrier to cross from fantasy to action. I've had plenty of rage induced thoughts about doing bad things to other people, but I can quickly dismiss those thoughts because I'm not one for vengeance. But, you get people with lowered sensitivity, who think the other people are just video game characters and think there are no consequences, because they'll get another life, or they can just restart the level or whatever, and it really lowers the moral barrier between thinking about doing bad things and actually doing bad things. It won't make people violent, but it will make it easier for people who have a tendency towards violence to act on it. 

flummadiddle85

Amores0121 said:

theultimatesak said:

four week old babies should be at home

I'm late to the UOs today because I was at the grocery store and playground with my 3 week old. I'm pretty sure he hasn't spent a full day at home since the day after he came home from the hospital. My UO is apparently that taking newborns out and about is fine by me.

I'm with you.  I would have gone crazy if I didn't get out of the house.  I was much more cautious with my first one, but this time I had to get out and the baby was just fine.

Not to mention, I don't think my toddler wants to be homebound for 4+ weeks. Plus, with older kiddos running around, you don't have a choice. 

YellowLily2013

violajack said:

Into+the+Kitty said:

Mandmeesh said:

I don't think watching violent things or playing video games affects your psychology (and I suppose all of the scientifid research backs this up) 

but a war video game does not make you grow up to kill a bunch of people.  your genetic brain chemistry does that

I disagree. Being exposed to violence normalizes violence. That's why children who grow up in homes with domestic abuse will tend to either abuse their partners or let their partners abuse them.

I see how many people on my Facebook share stories, photos, or videos of dead bodies and murders (beheadings, shootings of civilians by police officers, shootings of civilians by other civilians) without being even remotely affected by the fact that there are actual people whose lives have been cut short by violence. Considering that we don't live in a war torn society, there is a huge disconnect between how people should be reacting to extreme violence and how they are.

I think this is the key issue here. It lowers the moral barrier to cross from fantasy to action. I've had plenty of rage induced thoughts about doing bad things to other people, but I can quickly dismiss those thoughts because I'm not one for vengeance. But, you get people with lowered sensitivity, who think the other people are just video game characters and think there are no consequences, because they'll get another life, or they can just restart the level or whatever, and it really lowers the moral barrier between thinking about doing bad things and actually doing bad things. It won't make people violent, but it will make it easier for people who have a
tendency towards violence to act on it. 


Funny you all mentioned this. We just watched a bond movie and I was kind of taken aback by all the killings. And definitely had a different perspective as a parent and don't want my son exposed to violence.

I've watched my fair share of violent movies / shows in my life, but apparently not much this past year or so.

flummadiddle85

It's none of your business if we plan on more kids or not. Stop asking.

stoneycakes

Caution Real UO: I feel pretty meh about Shiners.

TJ1979

You whore.

TJ1979

Actually, shiner bock is just a plain ole bock. Nothing special but good. Their Oktoberfest and especially ruby redbird are really good. If you try redbird and don't love it, you are broken.

stoneycakes

TJ1979 said:

You whore.

Boo

stoneycakes

Maybe I don't like Oktoberfests because I don't like the Sam Adams one either.

Aurora_Borealis

rugbymama said:

Now that I'm thinking about football, I'm going to say that I don't think the Redskins should change their name. People will always find something to complain about, and I've never heard the name be used in an offensive manner. If it was still a modern derogatory term, that would be a different story, but, to my knowledge, it's not, so it becomes about tradition for me. It's an 82 yr old franchise. Why change it now?

I'm thinking my dad would be pretty upset if someone called him a redskin. Because no one in their right mind would use that word to refer to a human being unless they wanted to be offensive and racist. Has anyone ever called him that? Absolutely. In the last decade? I have no idea.

 

Mandmeesh

Mapleme said:

rugbymama said:

Now that I'm thinking about football, I'm going to say that I don't think the Redskins should change their name.

People will always find something to complain about, and I've never heard the name be used in an offensive manner. If it was still a modern derogatory term, that would be a different story, but, to my knowledge, it's not, so it becomes about tradition for me. It's an 82 yr old franchise. Why change it now?

But sports teams change names all the time (I seriously can't keep track of all the old hockey teams that DH loves). Usually it's because they've changed location or ownership, but what about a new name for changing times? "Black Face" isn't a currently widely practiced thing, but it would still make for an offensive team name.

Cue Dave chappelle's standup where his Native American name is "Black feet"

bumpuser9353653

All fair points. Though, I have a hard time wrapping my head around why someone would name a team something that was meant to be offensive. Doesn't make sense to me, but maybe I'm just being naive.

I would be sad to see it changed as I've grown up being a "skins" fan all my life and it would be weird to shift to something different. But as Maple said, teams change names, and I'd get over it... or maybe I'll be living in CO by then and be a 'Skins turned Broncos fan ;-)

Aurora_Borealis

rugbymama said:

All fair points. Though, I have a hard time wrapping my head around why someone would name a team something that was meant to be offensive. Doesn't make sense to me, but maybe I'm just being naive. I would be sad to see it changed as I've grown up being a "skins" fan all my life and it would be weird to shift to something different. But as Maple said, teams change names, and I'd get over it... or maybe I'll be living in CO by then and be a 'Skins turned Broncos fan ;-)

Regardless of the intent (purposely racist or not) it doesn't negate the fact that the end result is racist. It's kind of like saying 'I don't mean this as racist, but *insert racist statement here*.' Which is offensive for a whole host of other reasons.

Sports in America have a history of both blatant and subtle racism. Jackie Robinson received death threats. Track stars were expelled from the 1968 Olympics for making a Black Power salute on the podium. The Cleveland Indians mascot is offensive beyond words. ESPN repeatedly used racist language when reporting on Jeremy Lin.

So, for me, it is not remotely surprising that 80 years ago a team would choose a culturally insensitive name. In this specific case, it's especially offensive. I mean this is the team for DC, the center of the federal government. 80 years ago the US was still relocating Native Americans from their land, still forcing their children to go to abusive boarding schools to become less 'Indian' and less than a century removed from doling out smallpox-infested blankets. Native Americans weren't even universally officially granted the right to vote until the 1960s.

unaveragejane

@Mandmeesh‌ I don't watch Chapelle, but there really was a tribe called Blackfoot.