We obviously have a lot of drinkers on this board, which, yay for them. I love watching your antics, ladies. However, sometimes I feel like I'm the only one who doesn't drink. Anyone else out there?
Now it's a different story when it comes to coffee.
I'll probably get flamed for this but I won't drink as long as I am breastfeeding. I don't judge anyone else that does and I have read all the studies. It is just my personal choice.
The way I see it is I wouldn't hand my three year old a drink that I know has a trace of alcohol in it so why would I BF DS while drinking knowing that he is receiving a trace of alcohol.
I honestly have had a hard time drinking at all since having kids. I am terrified that something could happen to the kids and I would be too inebriated to handled it properly or fully be there for them. Not to mention having a hangover is just not worth it to me when I have take care of the kids the next day.
@barista411 I'm not BF but I can't get slammed even if DH is home because I worry about something happening and not being able to react. Last weekend I did get drunk but it snuck up on me; my tolerance is way lower than it used to be.
I haven't had a drink since January 2013. I don't drink often. I'm not anti-alcohol, I just don't feel the need. And I still have plenty of fun!
Can't figure out the signature thing, so here's the short, short version.....first daughter born on November 10, 2013. She was conceived through the magic of IVF after 2+ years of TTC.
I'll probably get flamed for this but I won't drink as long as I am breastfeeding. I don't judge anyone else that does and I have read all the studies. It is just my personal choice.
The way I see it is I wouldn't hand my three year old a drink that I know has a trace of alcohol in it so why would I BF DS while drinking knowing that he is receiving a trace of alcohol.
I honestly have had a hard time drinking at all since having kids. I am terrified that something could happen to the kids and I would be too inebriated to handled it properly or fully be there for them. Not to mention having a hangover is just not worth it to me when I have take care of the kids the next day.
This is why I make SO stay sober. ;-)
I don't like drinking alone and I don't have friends to go out with so if I am going to drink it would be with DH.
I'll probably get flamed for this but I won't drink as long as I am breastfeeding. I don't judge anyone else that does and I have read all the studies. It is just my personal choice.
The way I see it is I wouldn't hand my three year old a drink that I know has a trace of alcohol in it so why would I BF DS while drinking knowing that he is receiving a trace of alcohol.
I honestly have had a hard time drinking at all since having kids. I am terrified that something could happen to the kids and I would be too inebriated to handled it properly or fully be there for them. Not to mention having a hangover is just not worth it to me when I have take care of the kids the next day.
@barista411 I have only had one drink since June of 2010 and it was at a wedding when dd was about 8 mos old. I am terrified as well of what could happen. I need to be able to be in control if something were to happen.
Fruit juices contain about the same trace amounts of alcohol you would find in breast milk after a few glasses of wine. Hopefully you're not letting your kid drink OJ @barista411
The way I see it is I wouldn't hand my three year old a drink that I know has a trace of alcohol in it so why would I BF DS while drinking knowing that he is receiving a trace of alcohol
Do you eat food cooked with alcohol? It doesn't completely burn off in most cases, so you'd still be passing trace amounts.
Nope, I don't. Never really have cooked with alcohol.
I haven't had a drink since January 2013. I don't drink often. I'm not anti-alcohol, I just don't feel the need. And I still have plenty of fun!
Same, except at all. and I refuse to drink while breastfeeding. I don't know since when though.. Probably more like the toast at my wedding? So June 2011? I just hate the taste of alcohol.
I've only been so much as tipsy once since January 2013 (and who knows when before then). It made me pretty uncomfortable, to be honest, I was so paranoid. Usually I have A drink - 2 if I'm feeling crazy - but I usually only drink half of it before C goes to bed. Then I finish it afterwards, and he doesn't nurse again for 10-11 hours.
That is also part of the problem DS still eats every 3 hours. I maybe have an hour between the time DD goes to bed and DS's first wake up.
Just from where I sit, most people I know that don't touch alcohol have close relatives that have had a problem with it and they stay far away for that reason.
I don't know if that's true in your case, @barista411.
I don't understand not wanting to just enjoy a small glass of wine with dinner, but to each their own. More for me.
It's hard to avoid trace amounts of alcohol. It's in vanilla extract and creme de menthe so it's in a fair amount of desserts.
My dad used to let me have one sip of his beer once in awhile when I was probably 5 or 6, so I can't get pearl clutchy about trace amounts of alcohol. If my dad had been an alcoholic and that damaged me I can see how I would feel differently.
This is very "come at me bro"-ish. I'm intrigued to see where this goes.
*popcorn*
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@mellochello & @finnaroo, No I don't mind answering. Basically what @cagoldi said. I grew up in an alcoholic home, and my mother is still drinking. I don't know if she'll ever be sober. She was a single mom. I did start drinking after I moved out of her house, but I put myself in many bad situations because of it. At 22 I decided it wasn't for me, and haven't touched it since. I have many friends that drink, but it's just not for me.
Just to be clear, I'm not lovetitting the fact that anyone had painful childhoods at the hands of alcoholic parents, just Lovetit for support and thanks for the honest replies.
*raises hand*
I don't drink. Never have, never will. I don't judge you if you do, though, as long as you're responsible about it.
I don't drink coffee either (I know). I occasionally drink crio bru, which is made just like coffee, but it's cocoa beans, not coffee beans.
I always feel weird about posting on the drinking threads, since I have no idea what it's like to be drunk.
Hmmm. I may have to try this crio bru you speak of.
Also, is it just me or is this thread toeing a very fine line between judgement free and sanctimommy?
Are you referring to me?
I'm not referring to any ONE person, but I will say you're being a bit unnecessarily combative regarding @CFox815's hand sitting. Her comment wasn't discourteous. Crap, we don't even know what she has to say on the subject. I'm sure she'll be back to explain herself.
Barista your posts are coming off pretty judgey here. You say you're not but there are definetly "sanctimommy undertones" there.
I see no respect from you to the moms that choose to drink. And I see no disrespect to you or the others who don't choose to drink.
Also, is it just me or is this thread toeing a very fine line between judgement free and sanctimommy?
Are you referring to me?
I'm not referring to any ONE person, but I will say you're being a bit unnecessarily combative regarding @CFox815's hand sitting. Her comment wasn't discourteous. Crap, we don't even know what she has to say on the subject. I'm sure she'll be back to explain herself.
--------- I apologize if I am coming off that way that is not my intent. I wish I could drink and not have crazy anxiety, but I do. I will be completely transparent and honest right now. I have crazy anxiety and I wish that I could drink and not have to deal with the anxiety. I can't have caffeine or sugar for the same reasons. I also like @cagoldi said have been affected by addiction/alcoholism.
The gif was probably over the top and again I apologize. I just prefer that if someone has a question for me that they would come out and ask me. I obviously don't mind talking about it. I don't like feeling like am secretly being judged either which that comment seem to be implying.
*raises hand*
I don't drink. Never have, never will. I don't judge you if you do, though, as long as you're responsible about it.
I don't drink coffee either (I know). I occasionally drink crio bru, which is made just like coffee, but it's cocoa beans, not coffee beans.
I always feel weird about posting on the drinking threads, since I have no idea what it's like to be drunk.
Hmmm. I may have to try this crio bru you speak of.
We obviously have a lot of drinkers on this board, which, yay for them. I love watching your antics, ladies. However, sometimes I feel like I'm the only one who doesn't drink. Anyone else out there?
The bold is what caused me to raise an eyebrow and feel judged. Sure, have a post that says a general "any non-drinkers in the heezy???" But there didn't seem to be a need to mention those of us who choose the booze. This is where I immediately felt like "I must be a shit stain because I still enjoy drinking even though I'm raising a child." Mind you, I NEVER EVER drink to the point where I'm unable to care for my child, I never ever (E V E R) drive drunk and I know my limits (seriously, 2 drinks and I'm fine). Plus, 1 drink stays in your system for what, an hour? 2? Depending on the strength?
Ugh. I just have a lot of feels about this topic.
Also, my heartfelt apologies and endless big hugs to those moms with negative emotional connotations with alcohol. You're all amazing women.
@barista411 it was your middle paragraph that seemed judgy. Like drinkers are mixing up a round of gin and tonics for their LOs.
I drink. I don't feel the need to defend or minimize it. I do so at a level that I'm comfortable with.
It's a-ok with me if you choose not to. My hometown is the seat of Bob Jones. Really, there have been plenty of people in my life who have opted not to, although the ones I've encountered have chosen religious reasons.
@barista411 I'm so sorry. That must have been terrible. I don't think you "let any crazy show." You have a serious aversion to alcohol for reasons that are personal and painful. That's pretty much the long and short if it, in my mind. FWIW, NHIE thought you were unstable or wounded to the point of being unreasonable on this issue or any other.
@barista411 so my sister has issues with alcohol/suicide, too. I've seen her do things I wish I hadn't. I can now completely and totally understand why you don't drink/what you associate with drinking. I'm really sorry you went through that. Is your brother still in your life? If you ever wanna talk, I'm open to it. Hugs.
Yes he is. We are very close now. He has since joined the army and straightened his life out but continues to struggle with alcohol.
That was actually what I was alluding to in katiep's question in the randoms thread.
@barista411 all the hugs. I also have major anxiety about drinking.
Speaking for only myself here. I know that my fear is irrational most of the time but I cannot help the fear and anxiety I have about drinking now that I have kids.
I had some pretty crappy childhood experiences and the only way to curb my anxiety about it happening to my kids is to not drink. I know its extreme but it works for me.
I feel like I just went to therapy or something. I guess I didn't realize how much that effected me. Thanks ladies for the support. You guys are so amazing.
((Hugs)) to all the mamas that have been effected by alcoholism.
Sorry. I was feeding my kid. Hopefully he didn't get any trace amounts of the bottle of rose I drank last night.
You know, I wrote out this whole thing .. and deleted it. I don't feel the need to justify my actions to anyone. I have a healthy, happy, little boy, sorry I taint him with a trace amount of alcohol. Just so we're clear, you know what else contains trace amounts of alcohol? Mouthwash, soda, sauces, hand sanitizers, inhalers, vitamins, toiletries, medicine, fruit, sugarless candy, laundry detergent, bleach, etc. So good luck making sure your children never come in contact with any of those things.
I'm really sorry some of you had shitty things relating to alcohol in your life. I would wager that the majority of people on this board have been impacted by alcoholism. I don't care if you drink or not. The drinking thread is not limited to those that drink, all are welcome.
And, as for you, Tony Soprano, my comment wasn't directed at you. It was directed at the fact that I am very open about the fact that I love a drink. But, if we're on the topic, you can say you don't judge those of us who drink all you want but this:
The way I see it is I wouldn't hand my three year old a drink that I know has a trace of alcohol in it so why would I BF DS while drinking knowing that he is receiving a trace of alcohol.
@Finaroo my key takeaway here is that we're practically neighbors. I grew up just up the mountain from Bob Jones and have many a'memory about that place. ::shudder::
And back to the topic at hand, I love bourbon. And wine and champs and beer and whatever else I can find in small craft batches. Carry on.
Six years of infertility and loss, four IUIs, one IVF and one very awesome little boy born via med-free birth 10.24.13.
@barista411 it was your middle paragraph that seemed judgy. Like drinkers are mixing up a round of gin and tonics for their LOs.
I drink. I don't feel the need to defend or minimize it. I do so at a level that I'm comfortable with.
It's a-ok with me if you choose not to. My hometown is the seat of Bob Jones. Really, there have been plenty of people in my life who have opted not to, although the ones I've encountered have chosen religious reasons.
I spent 4 1/2 years in your hometown. Nice spot. My friends and I enjoyed downtown before the renaissance down there, and I've heard it's even better now. Also, I may or may not have attended the institution you speak of.
I don't drink. Never have, never will. I don't judge you if you do, though, as long as you're responsible about it.
I don't drink coffee either (I know). I occasionally drink crio bru, which is made just like coffee, but it's cocoa beans, not coffee beans.
I always feel weird about posting on the drinking threads, since I have no idea what it's like to be drunk.
Hmmm. I may have to try this crio bru you speak of.
Me too! does it taste like hot chcocolate?
Not entirely, but kind of! You do need to put sweetener in it, because it is bitter like coffee, but after that, it's pretty comparable to hot chocolate.
I get mine from Amazon. I get the Ivory Coast blend and it's delicious.
Re: Does anyone NOT drink the alcohol?
The way I see it is I wouldn't hand my three year old a drink that I know has a trace of alcohol in it so why would I BF DS while drinking knowing that he is receiving a trace of alcohol.
I honestly have had a hard time drinking at all since having kids. I am terrified that something could happen to the kids and I would be too inebriated to handled it properly or fully be there for them. Not to mention having a hangover is just not worth it to me when I have take care of the kids the next day.
@barista411 I have only had one drink since June of 2010 and it was at a wedding when dd was about 8 mos old. I am terrified as well of what could happen. I need to be able to be in control if something were to happen.
I know. I'm buzz kill.
Same, except at all. and I refuse to drink while breastfeeding. I don't know since when though.. Probably more like the toast at my wedding? So June 2011? I just hate the taste of alcohol.
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I don't drink. Never have, never will. I don't judge you if you do, though, as long as you're responsible about it.
I don't drink coffee either (I know). I occasionally drink crio bru, which is made just like coffee, but it's cocoa beans, not coffee beans.
I always feel weird about posting on the drinking threads, since I have no idea what it's like to be drunk.
I don't know if that's true in your case, @barista411.
I don't understand not wanting to just enjoy a small glass of wine with dinner, but to each their own. More for me.
It's hard to avoid trace amounts of alcohol. It's in vanilla extract and creme de menthe so it's in a fair amount of desserts.
My dad used to let me have one sip of his beer once in awhile when I was probably 5 or 6, so I can't get pearl clutchy about trace amounts of alcohol. If my dad had been an alcoholic and that damaged me I can see how I would feel differently.
This is very "come at me bro"-ish. I'm intrigued to see where this goes.
*popcorn*
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#LOLFITMAMA
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"Not come at me" attitude. I just know my choice is not popular and don't need people to pussy foot around me. I don't mind answering question about my decision. I don't judge anyone else for drinking. I just hope that I and the other people in this thread are receiving the same courtesy.
#LOLFITMAMA
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I apologize if I am coming off that way that is not my intent. I wish I could drink and not have crazy anxiety, but I do. I will be completely transparent and honest right now. I have crazy anxiety and I wish that I could drink and not have to deal with the anxiety. I can't have caffeine or sugar for the same reasons. I also like @cagoldi said have been affected by addiction/alcoholism.
The gif was probably over the top and again I apologize. I just prefer that if someone has a question for me that they would come out and ask me. I obviously don't mind talking about it. I don't like feeling like am secretly being judged either which that comment seem to be implying.
Me too! does it taste like hot chcocolate?
Ugh. I just have a lot of feels about this topic.
Also, my heartfelt apologies and endless big hugs to those moms with negative emotional connotations with alcohol. You're all amazing women.
#LOLFITMAMA
Again I apologize.
*** Poof ***
Sorry I let my crazy show guys.
That was actually what I was alluding to in katiep's question in the randoms thread.
Speaking for only myself here. I know that my fear is irrational most of the time but I cannot help the fear and anxiety I have about drinking now that I have kids.
I had some pretty crappy childhood experiences and the only way to curb my anxiety about it happening to my kids is to not drink. I know its extreme but it works for me.
((Hugs)) to all the mamas that have been effected by alcoholism.
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You're right. I'm sorry.
And back to the topic at hand, I love bourbon. And wine and champs and beer and whatever else I can find in small craft batches. Carry on.
Me too! does it taste like hot chcocolate?
Not entirely, but kind of! You do need to put sweetener in it, because it is bitter like coffee, but after that, it's pretty comparable to hot chocolate.
I get mine from Amazon. I get the Ivory Coast blend and it's delicious.