Weekend Throat Punch

mrsjg2013

@ashtog- UGH!!!!  How frustrating!!!  I'm just getting into photography, and I can't even imagine how furious I'd be if that happened!!  Especially for a wedding!!!  Kind of a (hopefully!) once-in-a-lifetime event!!  Sorry to YH, but what a great guy for stepping in to help you!

@CreechMommy- Big ((HUGS)) to you as well.  I don't know how to make people understand that losing our babies wasn't just a lost pregnancy or missed opportunity, it was the death of a precious life that we loved tremendously.  I'm sad that I don't have a baby at home, but it isn't just about not having a baby, it's about not having THOSE exact babies.  I will grieve them even when I do have a baby/babies in my home.  I will always be a mother to those little ones- they were a part of me, even if for a short time.  I am so thankful for this board and for the fact that we understand this about each other, because it seems that no one in RL does. 

@EurydiceNymph- I don't have the words for the thanks I owe you.  I often feel ashamed of my anger, frustrations, lack of emotional control, but you've really opened my eyes and relieved my heart of that burden.  I am not sorry for how I feel- that's a huge revelation for me.  As @AmyBunny30 said so well (many, many thanks to you lady!), realizing and accepting these feelings is healthy- it's the keeping it in that is unhealthy.

mrsjg2013

@menrandes- You made the right decision to leave for sure.  I hope you and DH can take some time to enjoy an adult vacation for two!!  Big ((HUGS))!!

@LDubWHawksfan- I'm so sorry you had to go through that.  Don't be hard on yourself.  Announcements are exceptionally rough for me as well.  So many ((HUGS)). 

@lyndz333- UGH!!!!!!  I'm so frustrated for you.  Maybe if we could all just have those difficult conversations with each other's insensitive family members?!  WHAT ARE YOU THINKING (or not thinking) WHEN YOU OPEN YOUR MOUTH?!?!  Big ((HUGS)) to you!!

Km380

@mrsjg2013‌ hugs sweetie. I hope you have a nice relaxing day planned today

jjbmstinco

@mrsjg2013-aunties are for spoiling, so you bouce away girl!

rslh10

@mrsjg2013 TP to your mom for saying that first off, and then TP to them all for not even caring enough to ask how things in your life were going. You know, I have found that a lot of people are super uncomfortable talking about my loss. Even my H sometimes, I feel. It's such a "sad" topic of conversation, but now it is our reality and we deal with it daily. I wish for your sake that they would have taken a few minutes out of their conversation to engage with you. I am sorry you had to cry in your bedroom, but I am very glad you dealt with your emotions at the time. You have to process how you feel! I used to keep everything bottled up, and I'm so glad that I don't anymore  

Big hugs to you, and I feel like I'm finally getting to know you more now! Thank you for opening up to all of us! We love ya and were here for you!!  

mrsjg2013

@rslh10 said:

@mrsjg2013 TP to your mom for saying that first off, and then TP to them all for not even caring enough to ask how things in your life were going. You know, I have found that a lot of people are super uncomfortable talking about my loss. Even my H sometimes, I feel. It's such a "sad" topic of conversation, but now it is our reality and we deal with it daily. I wish for your sake that they would have taken a few minutes out of their conversation to engage with you. I am sorry you had to cry in your bedroom, but I am very glad you dealt with your emotions at the time. You have to process how you feel! I used to keep everything bottled up, and I'm so glad that I don't anymore  

Big hugs to you, and I feel like I'm finally getting to know you more now! Thank you for opening up to all of us! We love ya and were here for you!!  

Opening up feels really good   I was thinking this morning, "I really don't know what I would do right now without the support of these ladies!!!"  Much love to you all!!

BLuvsE

New here but tp to my neighbor who told me a miscarriage is just a medical issue and that I'd cope better if I thought of it that way instead of as a life lost. My neighbor who I barely know who felt it was appropriate to ask when we'd be getting pregnant so I did what I always do.... made her regret asking by telling her about my loss so maybe she won't ask anyone else.



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Km380

@ashtog oh sweetie I'm glad you have a plan. But Everything about ttcal just sucks. Big (((hugs))) If you ever want to talk pm me

@BLuvsE‌ major TP To your neighbor!! I can't believe someone said that. It is a life lost. And it is your right to grieve as you want. (((Hugs)))

MrsPhD83

ashtog said:

So Dustin and I made the completely mature decision that we will ttc for the next two cycles and if we don't get a bfp we will be waiting until January to try again so that my edd doesn't fall in the middle of my planned weddings next summer. I'm happy we have a plan, and I'm hopeful, but now I feel even more desperate.

I could have written this myself!!! I am the MOH in my sister's wedding next August. So I gave myself 2 cycles to TTC before a break so that I can attend her wedding (i.e., not be more than 36 weeks PG or 2 weeks post partum). MH doesn't care...he wants to try whenever, weddings be damned! We are in the middle of cycle #1. Desperate. Yes....that. ((hugs)) to you. None of this is easy. But I'm glad you both came to a consensus on your plan. FX'd that one of these upcoming cycles is the one for you!