Haven't seen this posted- a little gem of a read for you all

momthatlifts

“The most challenging part was stretching out the feedings,” Alyssa, 31, said. “When we were trying to get it to four hours we would try taking him for a walk in the stroller to calm him down and just distract him for a little bit.”

Hmmmmm?

https://www.foxnews.com/health/2014/08/13/new-method-to-help-newborns-sleep-through-night/

hfooter

I just don't understand how the mother doesn't feel like that is wrong! When clay is hungry he eats. No looking at the clock and saying, "whelp sorry clay you've still got 2.5hrs to go!"

momthatlifts

Flame me for it, but I think it is a very selfish thing to do.

flockofmoosen3

Wtf. I feel like the editors need a follow up to this informing readers that these ppl were given very poor advice.

momthatlifts

Sure, I've bitched and I have complained about how tired I am more times than I can count. But that is the DECISION I made when I decided to have a baby. Yeah, I didn't realize it would be THIS hard, but I put on my big girl panties and cried my way through it. I am happy with every choice I have made. Whether it be sharing a bed, being used as a human pacifier, waking up every 2 or 3 hours like a zombie, adding 3 extra shots of espresso in my coffee. I certainly would never "distract" my child from hunger.

momthatlifts

kc83 said:

That was disturbing! How can anyone do that to a baby?! Lol sleep? What's that? Oh right, I have a baby. Those parents are selfish and have no right doing that. I feed on demand and will continue doing so. Yes I'm tired, yes I would love to sleep more but that's not how it works!

She is literally like "zzzzzomgggg my baby wakes up like, all the time to eat, its ridic." What a selfish person! That poor child. I hope someone she knows sees this and bitch slaps her back to reality

momthatlifts

I may get flamed for this as well, but depriving your child of food when they are hungry is borderline child abuse imo

lrmrtn

She was surprised in the beginning the baby was waking up 2-3 times a night? And getting 3-4 hours sleep? I would've killed for that some nights! And why was this a surprise?

usernewname

JKBMA2014 said:

Flame me for it, but I think it is a very selfish thing to do.

Psh flame you. I'm there with you. This isn't a 4 year old who needs to wait 10 minutes because dinner is about to be ready. JFC.

momthatlifts

@lrmrtn I was thinking the same exact thing. I was literally getting 2 hours of sleep. Sometimes 3 or 4 if I was super lucky‌

momthatlifts

I searched for her in fb but she must be hidden. Probably for her own good. She probably got a lot of back lash for this

bazingaa

Wow. I've got no words for this. That's just terrible.

Sam0905

I kept getting angrier and angrier as I read this article. It's misinformation like this that creates extremely unrealistic expectations for naive parents. And I just can't help but feel awful for that poor baby, probably crying and hungry and wondering why he's not being fed. So sad.

ksyknelvr73

I saw this on the news tonight and I literally sat there, jaw dropped in disbelief. I am pissed at the guys who wrote this book and I was so angry at the parents they featured. When the mom was saying how her NEWBORN was waking up multiple times a night and she was sooooo tired I just rolled my eyes. No shit they eat all the time. That is what a new baby does.

Emmagk

reading that actually made me cry a little. Thinking of that poor baby crying and distressed and his parents ignoring him. All they've succeeded in doing is teaching him that no one is coming when he needs them.

danagmauro

Yes this is the same as 12 hours by 12 weeks! It does not ok for a bf baby as it diminished moms supply plus we all know breast milk is digested easier and we often have to feed more frequently. I'm assuming it also wouldn't work a "snacker" baby like mine who likes to eat 2 punches an hour rather than a large feeding every 3/4 hours. Babies are babies.

danagmauro

Punches-ounces. Damn autocorrect.... Sorry!

flockofmoosen3

It was on TV too??? Ugh, all those poor future newborns with misinformed moms...so awful. And yeah, what are these parents going to do during a growth spurt? I assume they already missed the first one at 10 days. ..poor baby! Shame on their pediatrician too!

britab

Our baby has slept 8 hours a night for a month. There was nothing we did to train her. She eats about every 3 hours during the day.

caballo718

CPS should've been called on these wackos. Typical selfish Long Island a-holes.

momthatlifts

My kid is wide awake right now. Why oh why!! I fed her 4 oz. she should be good for at least 12 hours! The fuh?

momthatlifts

I hope they learn from this and decide to not have anymore children because of how much of an "inconvenience" it was for them to wake up to feed their son.

momthatlifts

Um, what?

https://registry.thebump.com/alyssa-russomondo-michael-russomondo-may-2014-ny/6207624

blessednewmom1

I am up right now in the middle of the night nursing my lo and will continue to do so as long as he needs to nurse in the middle of the night . That article broke my heart!! Training a baby not to eat at "inconvenient times" is ridiculous!! Adopt a teenager if you don't want to worry about MOTN feedings!!!! Couldn't believe the article! Absolutely horrible!

waldothewiener1

Lissiehoya said:

JKBMA2014 said:

Um, what?

https://registry.thebump.com/alyssa-russomondo-michael-russomondo-may-2014-ny/6207624

So she's a May 2014 mom?

Oh, shit.

yepyepsms

My local LLL Facebook page posted this too. It makes me sad thinking about that baby being hungry. It also made me feel for the mom (a little) because her doctors were instructing her to do this. I had a a doctor tell me with my first that if he was nursing every hour that was wrong and I need to set a timer for at least every two. I did it for a day and it was awful so I went back to on demand. That was before I was active on the bump and my first weeks as a mom and felt like "if my doctor said this has to be what I need to do". But then it just felt wrong. So I feel for FTMs that rely on their docs for nursing advice who usually know nothing about bf, and if the mom hasn't found good resources like the bump or friends, then it's possible this kind of crap happens. But then I quickly go to the point of PP's...why wouldn't your mom instinct kick in that this was wrong/this is so selfish.

flockofmoosen3

I was this close to writing to those doctors about this last night. I found a website that rates them and almost left a review...apparently these guys are well liked. Im sure they're nice ppl to their patients...all the better to lure them into an evil plan to deprive hungry babies. Im still pissed about this.... clearly.

Jennyinheaven

This whole thing makes me feel gross, poor baby

jesstellina

Isn't this a little like Babywise, keeping babies on a strict feeding schedule? And didn't that result in babies becoming dehydrated?

RachelCA29

This is horrible, and I don't even get how those doctors can claim that babies fed like this are thriving. If your baby is sleeping 8 hours a night, but only eating every 4 hours during the day, that's only 5 feedings a day. (at 0, 4, 8, 12 and 16 hours). They said in the clip to feed 4 ounces every 4 hours, that's only 20 ounces a day of food. I know my guy eats about 4 ounces (of pumped BM) about every 2-3 hours. If he doesn't get up to 32 ounces by bed time, he'll wake in the night for more (which I sleepily, but gladly give him). The past couple of nights he's woken up after only an hour in bed to eat a grand total of almost 40 ounces in a day! I can't imagine just letting him cry through any amount of time when his tummy obviously wants more!

I just don't understand the logic, why are they trying to "train the brain" to ignore hunger at such an early age? It's not like adults that were fed on demand never learn to stop eating every 2 hours. What bad "lesson" are on-demand feeders teaching their baby by responding to his/her cries?

britab

sticky11 said:

britab said:

Our baby has slept 8 hours a night for a month. There was nothing we did to train her. She eats about every 3 hours during the day.

You're almost there! If you just stretch her an extra hour you can have 12 hours a night...

Someone should have told me starving my baby would work earlier.

Emmagk

i dont even know how a mother can just let her child cry. When DS cries it's like i physically need to go to him

pistolpackinmomma

So I was trying to figure out the other day how to stretch out the night time feeds (1.5-2 hours at 3 months!) and silly me was thinking that feeding him more at night would accomplish this. How foolish of me.... 8-|

momthatlifts

I might write the doctors myself

keeumm

Check the book review on amazon. People are (thankfully) tearing it apart. https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0399167986/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1408224794&sr=8-1&pi=SY200_QL40

FlemDance

I literally don't understand this. Kerrigan is a good sleeper and for a while she was on the lower end of how much she ate a day - I wished she would have been eating more! 4 hours is just way too long!

Empireceo

Tardy to the party, but does anyone else think this is a good way to set up your children for a lifetime of disordered eating? 

Roufi

It's unbelievable. And even more upsetting since an acquaintance just (not at all ironically) shared the article on facebook. She has a 4 week old. It makes me ill.

operaghost

jesstellina said:

Isn't this a little like Babywise, keeping babies on a strict feeding schedule? And didn't that result in babies becoming dehydrated?

I did the Babywise method and it's not quite like that... The idea is just that every time the kid cries, the solution is not to feed them. I did a schedule where I tried to feed the kid every 2.5-3 hours but if she seemed really hungry before then I'd of course feed her. I personally really liked the Babywise method. My kid was sleeping through the night at 8 weeks.

RachelCA29

Empireceo said:

Tardy to the party, but does anyone else think this is a good way to set up your children for a lifetime of disordered eating? 

I was thinking that too, since a lot of what the doctors talk about is "training" newborns to basically ignore their internal feelings of hunger, and then eat a TON in one sitting.

Also, the whole concept of "training" a newborn is just beyond me ... my baby doesn't even know he has feet yet, how is he going to handle the concept of delayed gratification?

Bootsie327

This whole thing is so ridiculous, it could by an Onion article. If you want something that is going to adhere to your schedule, please don't have a baby, just buy a houseplant.