Maybe I'm cheap, but I just don't get why people would pay extra to have an elective ultrasound to find out the sex of their baby. Especially when they are having an ultrasound at their doctor's or midwife's office a few weeks later. Why not just wait until 20 weeks when baby is that much bigger and everything is easier to see? What if at the elective ultrasound they see something wrong with the baby? Are they obligated to tell you or do they just say nothing?
Maybe I'm cheap, but I just don't get why people would pay extra to have an elective ultrasound to find out the sex of their baby. Especially when they are having an ultrasound at their doctor's or midwife's office a few weeks later. Why not just wait until 20 weeks when baby is that much bigger and everything is easier to see? What if at the elective ultrasound they see something wrong with the baby? Are they obligated to tell you or do they just say nothing?
I dont mind elective US... some people want to share the babys sex with friends and family in person and will be seeing them before 20wks. Everybodys reasons are different. I dont care how people spend their own money.
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Maybe I'm cheap, but I just don't get why people would pay extra to have an elective ultrasound to find out the sex of their baby. Especially when they are having an ultrasound at their doctor's or midwife's office a few weeks later. Why not just wait until 20 weeks when baby is that much bigger and everything is easier to see? What if at the elective ultrasound they see something wrong with the baby? Are they obligated to tell you or do they just say nothing?
If you're cheap then I am so much more so. I don't understand paying for 3D/4D ultrasounds at all. I know they look cool and it is amazing what you can see, but I'd rather spend my money on something else for the baby/ But that's just my cheap ass talking.
Maybe I'm cheap, but I just don't get why people would pay extra to have an elective ultrasound to find out the sex of their baby. Especially when they are having an ultrasound at their doctor's or midwife's office a few weeks later. Why not just wait until 20 weeks when baby is that much bigger and everything is easier to see? What if at the elective ultrasound they see something wrong with the baby? Are they obligated to tell you or do they just say nothing?
Normally I'm a splurge type of person, but I agree with you. I feel like they're wrong a lot more often than the AS is, and I don't want to pay extra for someone to make a guess. I'll guess for free. Although I'm feeling really detached from this pregnancy, so maybe I'm just a cold-hearted bitch.
I don't get it when people say the BMB is "cluttered". I don't like all the duplicate posts either but is everyone OCD that they can't stand seeing a similar title?
If I'm bored at work, sometimes I want a bunch of "cluttered" posts to keep me occupied even if they are dumb.
I dont get as annoyed by random posts with different topics, even though we have a RANDOM SPAM thread... But seeing 3, 4, 5 posts about the same thing drives me nuts. You clearly see that someone is talking about the same exact topic, but you just feel the need to make a new post? That shit drives me nuts, lol especially when the poster admits that they saw the other threads.
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I am doing the elective ultrasound because...
1. It's $60 and it's in our budget.
2. I looked up a place in the area with awesome reviews and over 99% accuracy.
3. H missed the last appointment and was really bummed he missed the ultrasound. This gives us another opportunity to see the baby.
It's something we decided we want to spend money on but if you don't, fine. I decided not to buy an at home doppler, but others did. That's fine too. As long as you determine as a couple what's in the budget, I don't care what you spend your money on.
I agree, it's whatever you want to spend your money on.
I don't want to offend anyone, but my UO, I dont like non-traditional spelling of names. A non unique name spelled to make it uneek. Like Kaleb vs Caleb or Jaxon vs Jackson. Please don't flame me ;;)
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I don't want to offend anyone, but my UO, I dont like non-traditional spelling of names. A non unique name spelled to make it uneek. Like Kaleb vs Caleb or Jaxon vs Jackson. Please don't flame me ;;)
Yeah I'm with you on this.
I have a friend on facebook she just had her 4th child. All her kids are named after presidents, they names are spelled in a unique way. Now I could deal with that but her youngest child she named after president Carter. She spelled it and I shit you not Kartyr. I just saw it on her fb last night.
Her kids names oldest to youngest.
Kennedi Rei
Linkin Shane
Nixin Leon
Kartyr VIncent
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I don't want to offend anyone, but my UO, I dont like non-traditional spelling of names. A non unique name spelled to make it uneek. Like Kaleb vs Caleb or Jaxon vs Jackson. Please don't flame me ;;)
Yeah I'm with you on this.
I have a friend on facebook she just had her 4th child. All her kids are named after presidents, they names are spelled in a unique way. Now I could deal with that but her youngest child she named after president Carter. She spelled it and I shit you not Kartyr. I just saw it on her fb last night.
Her kids names oldest to youngest.
Kennedi Rei
Linkin Shane
Nixin Leon
Kartyr VIncent
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Lol! When I see names spelled like that, I feel like Lloyd Christmas trying to sound out words when reading.
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If there ever comes a day where we can't be together, keep me in your heart, I'll stay there forever - Winnie the Pooh
I don't want to offend anyone, but my UO, I dont like non-traditional spelling of names. A non unique name spelled to make it uneek. Like Kaleb vs Caleb or Jaxon vs Jackson. Please don't flame me ;;)
I agree. I'm not a fan of the super trendy names either. The name Hadley comes to mind.
I don't want to offend anyone, but my UO, I dont like non-traditional spelling of names. A non unique name spelled to make it uneek. Like Kaleb vs Caleb or Jaxon vs Jackson. Please don't flame me ;;)
I agree. I'm not a fan of the super trendy names either. The name Hadley comes to mind.
Me too. I also dislike "places" for names too, like Asia. I like "old", very traditional names.
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@psychobutthead those are some of the most horrible names I have ever seen. Ever. At least she has two Democrats and two republicans.. lol
I HATE... no ... LOATHE non traditional spellings like that. Cannot stand it. And then people are offended when I can't spell their child's names. Dont. Just... dont lol
It's almost like people want their child to be called the wrong name when they spell it so strange. I bet teachers these days just roll their eyes at name spellings. Worst name I've ever heard spelled was supposed to be shi-theed. The parents spelled it Shithead. The Dr. and nurses urged the family to change it before it was official on the birth certificate.
@Thegoodpotato why is the Canadian flag following you? Is this a new Bump thing, or did you somehow add it to your siggy.
(I want one)
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@psychobutthead those are some of the most horrible names I have ever seen. Ever. At least she has two Democrats and two republicans.. lol
I HATE... no ... LOATHE non traditional spellings like that. Cannot stand it. And then people are offended when I can't spell their child's names. Dont. Just... dont lol
Eta.. I cant type on my phone for shit. Lol
She thinks its funny she named them after presidents and on presidents day she makes a point to take her kids out somewhere special every year. I wish I was making this up.
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@psychobutthead those are some of the most horrible names I have ever seen. Ever. At least she has two Democrats and two republicans.. lol
I HATE... no ... LOATHE non traditional spellings like that. Cannot stand it. And then people are offended when I can't spell their child's names. Dont. Just... dont lol
Eta.. I cant type on my phone for shit. Lol
She thinks its funny she named them after presidents and on presidents day she makes a point to take her kids out somewhere special every year. I wish I was making this up.
<:-P Poor kids! Ugh
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If there ever comes a day where we can't be together, keep me in your heart, I'll stay there forever - Winnie the Pooh
@Thegoodpotato why is the Canadian flag following you? Is this a new Bump thing, or did you somehow add it to your siggy.
(I want one)
You must have missed yesterday where I posted about the flag as well. I thought she had a super fan love titting all of her posts.
I did miss it! I missed a lot yesterday lol
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@psychobutthead those are some of the most horrible names I have ever seen. Ever. At least she has two Democrats and two republicans.. lol
I HATE... no ... LOATHE non traditional spellings like that. Cannot stand it. And then people are offended when I can't spell their child's names. Dont. Just... dont lol
Eta.. I cant type on my phone for shit. Lol
She thinks its funny she named them after presidents and on presidents day she makes a point to take her kids out somewhere special every year. I wish I was making this up.
<:-P
Poor kids! Ugh
The last one she wasn't sure if she wanted to keep it or not since it was a boy. Mother of the year. I keep her on fb just to see what she ends up posting.
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Okay I don't know if this should go on UO or FFFC but here goes nothing...
I don't think that parents should force their children into religion at an early age. Absolutely teach your children about your religion and have them experience it, but teach them about other religions too. I think that a child growing up believing something is absolutely right or absolutely wrong because their religion tells them so blocks opportunities for them to form some of their own opinions and become empathetic.
I am not a religious person (mother is a former Catholic and Dad is atheist) but when I was entering my teen years I started studying a lot of different religions. My mom offered to take my to church is I wanted but also offered to take me to any other religious service I wanted to go to. Going into my quest for religion with an open mind really helped me to figure out what is important to me morally and forced me to form my own opinions.
And putting this right here in case anyone misunderstands me - I am NOT anti-religion, I am just an advocate of letting individuals chose their own spiritual path.
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Okay I don't know if this should go on UO or FFFC but here goes nothing...
I don't think that parents should force their children into religion at an early age. Absolutely teach your children about your religion and have them experience it, but teach them about other religions too. I think that a child growing up believing something is absolutely right or absolutely wrong because their religion tells them so blocks opportunities for them to form some of their own opinions and become empathetic.
I am not a religious person (mother is a former Catholic and Dad is atheist) but when I was entering my teen years I started studying a lot of different religions. My mom offered to take my to church is I wanted but also offered to take me to any other religious service I wanted to go to. Going into my quest for religion with an open mind really helped me to figure out what is important to me morally and forced me to form my own opinions.
And putting this right here in case anyone misunderstands me - I am NOT anti-religion, I am just an advocate of letting individuals chose their own spiritual path.
Interesting thoughts...
By teach them other religions, do you mean explain that there are other religions? Or are you saying they should participate and practice other religions?
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Okay I don't know if this should go on UO or FFFC but here goes nothing...
I don't think that parents should force their children into religion at an early age. Absolutely teach your children about your religion and have them experience it, but teach them about other religions too. I think that a child growing up believing something is absolutely right or absolutely wrong because their religion tells them so blocks opportunities for them to form some of their own opinions and become empathetic.
I am not a religious person (mother is a former Catholic and Dad is atheist) but when I was entering my teen years I started studying a lot of different religions. My mom offered to take my to church is I wanted but also offered to take me to any other religious service I wanted to go to. Going into my quest for religion with an open mind really helped me to figure out what is important to me morally and forced me to form my own opinions.
And putting this right here in case anyone misunderstands me - I am NOT anti-religion, I am just an advocate of letting individuals chose their own spiritual path.
Totally agree. DH and I are having a hard time with this. We are both Christian, but he thinks our baby is automatically Christian just because we are. He wants to have the baby christened (hello we aren't even catholic) and I don't see the point because the baby will be way to young to understand. He wants us to force our religion down his/her throat and teach the bible as absolute fact. I believe that we should teach all religions in an unbiased way and let him choose because it has to come from himself or it means nothing. And I hope he will make the right choices but if god gave us free will, I believe we should parent that way. I'm honestly afraid our child will rebel from Christianity just because of DH.
Have you told him you`re afraid of this?
DH and I are both atheist. We dont plan on raising our baby to be anything. It can choose when its older.
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@jaztaz1 I think teaching them about different religions at an age-appropriate level is important. That may mean witnessing a service for a religion or just talking about it in terms that they can understand. For example, instead of "Judaism teaches so and so but we believe this," it could be "Judaism teaches this, what do you think of that?" Although I understand that it goes against what most religions practice, I really don't like the idea of young children being full members of a church. Religion is a big, big deal and I think that an individual should have a right to enter into it after they've formed their own opinions.
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Okay I don't know if this should go on UO or FFFC but here goes nothing...
I don't think that parents should force their children into religion at an early age. Absolutely teach your children about your religion and have them experience it, but teach them about other religions too. I think that a child growing up believing something is absolutely right or absolutely wrong because their religion tells them so blocks opportunities for them to form some of their own opinions and become empathetic.
I am not a religious person (mother is a former Catholic and Dad is atheist) but when I was entering my teen years I started studying a lot of different religions. My mom offered to take my to church is I wanted but also offered to take me to any other religious service I wanted to go to. Going into my quest for religion with an open mind really helped me to figure out what is important to me morally and forced me to form my own opinions.
And putting this right here in case anyone misunderstands me - I am NOT anti-religion, I am just an advocate of letting individuals chose their own spiritual path.
Totally agree. DH and I are having a hard time with this. We are both Christian, but he thinks our baby is automatically Christian just because we are. He wants to have the baby christened (hello we aren't even catholic) and I don't see the point because the baby will be way to young to understand. He wants us to force our religion down his/her throat and teach the bible as absolute fact. I believe that we should teach all religions in an unbiased way and let him choose because it has to come from himself or it means nothing. And I hope he will make the right choices but if god gave us free will, I believe we should parent that way. I'm honestly afraid our child will rebel from Christianity just because of DH.
We are Christians too. We take our kids to church and teach them the Bible. When they get older, we will explain different religions to them as well. I have no intention of forcing anything down anyone's throat. I want them to know what DH and I believe and why we believe it, then show them that there are other beliefs out there as well. I'd rather introduce it to them slowly so they don't get confused or overwhelmed. I also want to be careful because there are some religions that take advantage of kids naivety.
Regarding religion. If it's what you truly believe, I would think you'd want to teach it to your kids. Not shelter by any means or become oppressive with it, but present it as truth.
My UO - it was mentioned a little, but I don't mind duplicate posts or rehashing a topic again or even silly topics.
It's almost like people want their child to be called the wrong name when they spell it so strange. I bet teachers these days just roll their eyes at name spellings. Worst name I've ever heard spelled was supposed to be shi-theed. The parents spelled it Shithead. The Dr. and nurses urged the family to change it before it was official on the birth certificate.
WTF is wrong with people?
I am having UO Deja vu!
on another note that is one of the nicknames my DH uses for our dog (and now sometimes DS) - Shi-Thead! he thinks it is HILARIOUS!
@WanderingA I asked because most devout religious people, see their religion as a way of life not just something they believe in. When something is a way of life to your core, I dont see how one can not raise your children that way or teach them other options.
This is me and my experience... I was raised a certain way, and when I got of age I completely rebelled. I wanted to explore and learn and understand other things. And now I have my own revelations and interpretations on the way I was raised, and have sort of come full circle.
I definitely understand teaching tolerance of other religions and anyone that is different in general. I just cant quite grasp from a faith standpoint, teaching multiple things. It may be better in some ways to not teach anything at all, than teach everything.
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Okay I don't know if this should go on UO or FFFC but here goes nothing...
I don't think that parents should force their children into religion at an early age. Absolutely teach your children about your religion and have them experience it, but teach them about other religions too. I think that a child growing up believing something is absolutely right or absolutely wrong because their religion tells them so blocks opportunities for them to form some of their own opinions and become empathetic.
I am not a religious person (mother is a former Catholic and Dad is atheist) but when I was entering my teen years I started studying a lot of different religions. My mom offered to take my to church is I wanted but also offered to take me to any other religious service I wanted to go to. Going into my quest for religion with an open mind really helped me to figure out what is important to me morally and forced me to form my own opinions.
And putting this right here in case anyone misunderstands me - I am NOT anti-religion, I am just an advocate of letting individuals chose their own spiritual path.
Totally agree. DH and I are having a hard time with this. We are both Christian, but he thinks our baby is automatically Christian just because we are. He wants to have the baby christened (hello we aren't even catholic) and I don't see the point because the baby will be way to young to understand. He wants us to force our religion down his/her throat and teach the bible as absolute fact. I believe that we should teach all religions in an unbiased way and let him choose because it has to come from himself or it means nothing. And I hope he will make the right choices but if god gave us free will, I believe we should parent that way. I'm honestly afraid our child will rebel from Christianity just because of DH.
Have you told him you`re afraid of this?
DH and I are both atheist. We dont plan on raising our baby to be anything. It can choose when its older.
This is our view. We're not any religion in particular. We don't go to church, or pray. We agreed that we would encourage our child to discover themselves. Also, being that my brother is gay, people always ask me if I will tell my child that his/her uncle is "different" *go F yourself* and I clarify that my brother ISN'T different and we will explain to our child that there are many types of households and relationships.
"As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen." -Winnie The Pooh
@WanderingA I asked because most devout religious people, see their religion as a way of life not just something they believe in. When something is a way of life to your core, I dont see how one can not raise your children that way or teach them other options.
This is me and my experience... I was raised a certain way, and when I got of age I completely rebelled. I wanted to explore and learn and understand other things. And now I have my own revelations and interpretations on the way I was raised, and have sort of come full circle.
I definitely understand teaching tolerance of other religions and anyone that is different in general. I just cant quite grasp from a faith standpoint, teaching multiple things. It may be better in some ways to not teach anything at all, than teach everything.
Just wanted to say that I like your quote of the month
"As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen." -Winnie The Pooh
@Angelg3134 Ha! Thanks... Its actually time to change it.
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Okay I don't know if this should go on UO or FFFC but here goes nothing...
I don't think that parents should force their children into religion at an early age. Absolutely teach your children about your religion and have them experience it, but teach them about other religions too. I think that a child growing up believing something is absolutely right or absolutely wrong because their religion tells them so blocks opportunities for them to form some of their own opinions and become empathetic.
I am not a religious person (mother is a former Catholic and Dad is atheist) but when I was entering my teen years I started studying a lot of different religions. My mom offered to take my to church is I wanted but also offered to take me to any other religious service I wanted to go to. Going into my quest for religion with an open mind really helped me to figure out what is important to me morally and forced me to form my own opinions.
And putting this right here in case anyone misunderstands me - I am NOT anti-religion, I am just an advocate of letting individuals chose their own spiritual path.
Totally agree. DH and I are having a hard time with this. We are both Christian, but he thinks our baby is automatically Christian just because we are. He wants to have the baby christened (hello we aren't even catholic) and I don't see the point because the baby will be way to young to understand. He wants us to force our religion down his/her throat and teach the bible as absolute fact. I believe that we should teach all religions in an unbiased way and let him choose because it has to come from himself or it means nothing. And I hope he will make the right choices but if god gave us free will, I believe we should parent that way. I'm honestly afraid our child will rebel from Christianity just because of DH.
Have you told him you`re afraid of this?
DH and I are both atheist. We dont plan on raising our baby to be anything. It can choose when its older.
This is our view. We're not any religion in particular. We don't go to church, or pray. We agreed that we would encourage our child to discover themselves. Also, being that my brother is gay, people always ask me if I will tell my child that his/her uncle is "different" *go F yourself* and I clarify that my brother ISN'T different and we will explain to our child that there are many types of households and relationships.
^^This. DH and I grew up Christian. Me Methodist and later Non-denominational and he Southern Baptist. We've had some very serious conversations through the years because I strongly dislike the pomp and circumstance around religion and their "rules". I don't believe we were ever told to judge anyone and I feel like religions sometimes pull that into their rules. I don't think that God approves of our making one section of society any better than any other section. All I want my child to do is to keep an open mind. Understand that we believe, but that we believe the intent is for us to love the person no matter what they choose, no matter what they believe, no matter what mistakes they may make. To allow people to be who they are with out pushing what we believe on them and having a richer life because we don't push them away. There is so much more to what I think, but it will never be our place to say what someone does is any more wrong than anything we have done or chosen.
Maybe I'm cheap, but I just don't get why people would pay extra to have an elective ultrasound to find out the sex of their baby. Especially when they are having an ultrasound at their doctor's or midwife's office a few weeks later. Why not just wait until 20 weeks when baby is that much bigger and everything is easier to see? What if at the elective ultrasound they see something wrong with the baby? Are they obligated to tell you or do they just say nothing?
I agree. The surprise/waiting element is a kind of fun for me. Plus also, my non elective dating ultrasound and 20 week anatomy scan aren't completely covered by my insurance and are costing me about $250 each so there's no way I'm shelling out more $$ for an elective/extra/3D.
I was pretty much living a lot of what those girls where going through and it makes me angry to watch a single episode. Like raging crazy angry. I guess I have too many bad memories to be able to enjoy the show like others do.
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I don't want to offend anyone, but my UO, I dont like non-traditional spelling of names. A non unique name spelled to make it uneek. Like Kaleb vs Caleb or Jaxon vs Jackson. Please don't flame me ;;)
DH and I joke about this all the time because my cousin named her son... Wait for it.... Jaxon!
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AF arrived 12/18/13
BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014
TTA until May/June
WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
Winnie the Pooh
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
Monster Truck (It's a GIRL!) is due 19/02/2015!
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Lol! When I see names spelled like that, I feel like Lloyd Christmas trying to sound out words when reading.
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh
Married 8/22/09
Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks
Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11
Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13
Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13
AF arrived 12/18/13
BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014
TTA until May/June
WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
Winnie the Pooh
Me too. I also dislike "places" for names too, like Asia. I like "old", very traditional names.
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh
Married 8/22/09
Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks
Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11
Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13
Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13
AF arrived 12/18/13
BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014
TTA until May/June
WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
Winnie the Pooh
I HATE... no ... LOATHE non traditional spellings like that. Cannot stand it. And then people are offended when I can't spell their child's names. Dont. Just... dont lol
Eta.. I cant type on my phone for shit. Lol
Waited a long time, tried a lot of stuff, science made me a mom.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
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Poor kids! Ugh
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh
Married 8/22/09
Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks
Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11
Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13
Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13
AF arrived 12/18/13
BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014
TTA until May/June
WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
Winnie the Pooh
Waited a long time, tried a lot of stuff, science made me a mom.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
Monster Truck (It's a GIRL!) is due 19/02/2015!
I don't think that parents should force their children into religion at an early age. Absolutely teach your children about your religion and have them experience it, but teach them about other religions too. I think that a child growing up believing something is absolutely right or absolutely wrong because their religion tells them so blocks opportunities for them to form some of their own opinions and become empathetic.
I am not a religious person (mother is a former Catholic and Dad is atheist) but when I was entering my teen years I started studying a lot of different religions. My mom offered to take my to church is I wanted but also offered to take me to any other religious service I wanted to go to. Going into my quest for religion with an open mind really helped me to figure out what is important to me morally and forced me to form my own opinions.
And putting this right here in case anyone misunderstands me - I am NOT anti-religion, I am just an advocate of letting individuals chose their own spiritual path.
F15 Siggy Challenge: What You're Looking Forward to Most After Baby Arrives: BELLY SLEEPING!
Waited a long time, tried a lot of stuff, science made me a mom.
DH and I are both atheist. We dont plan on raising our baby to be anything. It can choose when its older.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020
Although I understand that it goes against what most religions practice, I really don't like the idea of young children being full members of a church. Religion is a big, big deal and I think that an individual should have a right to enter into it after they've formed their own opinions.
F15 Siggy Challenge: What You're Looking Forward to Most After Baby Arrives: BELLY SLEEPING!
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My UO - it was mentioned a little, but I don't mind duplicate posts or rehashing a topic again or even silly topics.
on another note that is one of the nicknames my DH uses for our dog (and now sometimes DS) - Shi-Thead! he thinks it is HILARIOUS!
Waited a long time, tried a lot of stuff, science made me a mom.
Waited a long time, tried a lot of stuff, science made me a mom.
Pregnancy #2 Natural Miscarriage at 6 weeks 03/2014 Due date 11/9/2014
Pregnancy #3 DS 02.23.2015
Pregnancy #4 Missed Miscarriage at 11 weeks 11/2018 Due date 5/22/2019
Pregnancy #5 Positive test 12/11/2019 Due Date 8/17/2020