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JaymeeLH

melkeeney said:

This is why people think the D14 ladies are bitches. She didn't ask if you would have a sprinkle or what anyone thought of her having one. I never read that she asked anyone's opinion how many kids she had and what ages. No one knows her medical condition. How would any of us feel if someone made a comment on why were pregnant. And then someone posts answering her actual question and she is also jumped on. Just because we don't all share the same opinion doesn't make us wrong! If you get invited to a sprinkle and you think it's tacky, DONT GO! I rarely post on here for this exact reason. If someone doesn't share YOUR opinion, the best way to get rid of them is to just shame them off the site for even getting pregnant. Way to be supportive ladies. I feel like this site causes me more stress every day. My husband asks me weekly to just delete it, maybe I should. I try and only read the "safe" posts. I'm s FTM and feel bad for wanting a shower because of the posts on here calling people gift grabby ect. I'm in no way that type of person but I can't wait to celebrate with friends and family they are all excited. I have attented ALL showers happily and bought gifts and loved every second. I know the people I spend time with feel the same way. We LOVE buying things for each other and celebrating. Don't take that excitement away from someone you don't know because you don't like it. It's rude and unfair.

LOL white knights

BankerBSN

melkeeney said:

This is why people think the D14 ladies are bitches. She didn't ask if you would have a sprinkle or what anyone thought of her having one. I never read that she asked anyone's opinion how many kids she had and what ages. No one knows her medical condition. How would any of us feel if someone made a comment on why were pregnant. And then someone posts answering her actual question and she is also jumped on. Just because we don't all share the same opinion doesn't make us wrong! If you get invited to a sprinkle and you think it's tacky, DONT GO! I rarely post on here for this exact reason. If someone doesn't share YOUR opinion, the best way to get rid of them is to just shame them off the site for even getting pregnant. Way to be supportive ladies. I feel like this site causes me more stress every day. My husband asks me weekly to just delete it, maybe I should. I try and only read the "safe" posts. I'm s FTM and feel bad for wanting a shower because of the posts on here calling people gift grabby ect. I'm in no way that type of person but I can't wait to celebrate with friends and family they are all excited. I have attented ALL showers happily and bought gifts and loved every second. I know the people I spend time with feel the same way. We LOVE buying things for each other and celebrating. Don't take that excitement away from someone you don't know because you don't like it. It's rude and unfair.

I assume you will be exiting with her?

CandEChicago

melkeeney said:

This is why people think the D14 ladies are bitches. She didn't ask if you would have a sprinkle or what anyone thought of her having one. I never read that she asked anyone's opinion how many kids she had and what ages. No one knows her medical condition. How would any of us feel if someone made a comment on why were pregnant. And then someone posts answering her actual question and she is also jumped on. Just because we don't all share the same opinion doesn't make us wrong! If you get invited to a sprinkle and you think it's tacky, DONT GO! I rarely post on here for this exact reason. If someone doesn't share YOUR opinion, the best way to get rid of them is to just shame them off the site for even getting pregnant. Way to be supportive ladies. I feel like this site causes me more stress every day. My husband asks me weekly to just delete it, maybe I should. I try and only read the "safe" posts. I'm s FTM and feel bad for wanting a shower because of the posts on here calling people gift grabby ect. I'm in no way that type of person but I can't wait to celebrate with friends and family they are all excited. I have attented ALL showers happily and bought gifts and loved every second. I know the people I spend time with feel the same way. We LOVE buying things for each other and celebrating. Don't take that excitement away from someone you don't know because you don't like it. It's rude and unfair.

Another white knight?

chicorojo

melkeeney said:

This is why people think the D14 ladies are bitches. She didn't ask if you would have a sprinkle or what anyone thought of her having one. I never read that she asked anyone's opinion how many kids she had and what ages. No one knows her medical condition. How would any of us feel if someone made a comment on why were pregnant. And then someone posts answering her actual question and she is also jumped on. Just because we don't all share the same opinion doesn't make us wrong! If you get invited to a sprinkle and you think it's tacky, DONT GO! I rarely post on here for this exact reason. If someone doesn't share YOUR opinion, the best way to get rid of them is to just shame them off the site for even getting pregnant. Way to be supportive ladies. I feel like this site causes me more stress every day. My husband asks me weekly to just delete it, maybe I should. I try and only read the "safe" posts. I'm s FTM and feel bad for wanting a shower because of the posts on here calling people gift grabby ect. I'm in no way that type of person but I can't wait to celebrate with friends and family they are all excited. I have attented ALL showers happily and bought gifts and loved every second. I know the people I spend time with feel the same way. We LOVE buying things for each other and celebrating. Don't take that excitement away from someone you don't know because you don't like it. It's rude and unfair.

Lol.

nesenotes

Yikes!

nesenotes

@agsgrrl‌ they make green, yellow, and white tubs. DD has a lime green one.

BankerBSN

danisgossipgirl said:

@melkeeney‌ did you know there are other baby forums out there that might suit your needs better? Try babygaga or babycenter. There's no reason to stick around here if you don't like it.

I am sure you can find your boo there.

daniela0325

alissendis said:

I'm sincerely doubting that anyone who would think to get pregnant intentionally six weeks post-partum despite being "super high risk" AND knowing she's in a financial bind with a spouse about to lose a job is ever going to see the light of reason.

Unfortunate.

Who said I got pregnant intentionally? I said the baby was welcome, I'm not supposed to get pregnant so I didn't know I would but I'm not going to kill an innocent baby. It's my second miracle and I will love her and not stop anyone who wants to celebrate her

CandEChicago

alissendis said:

MrsBriss said:

This thread has been the highlight if my afternoon! You ladies are the best. OP I am so confused as to why you would need two changing tables. If you would have said a second crib, I would understand that. If you can change two diapers on two changing tables at the same time, you're freaking amazing. And your infant son is attached to his furniture? How is that even possible?

Pretty sure she just meant that the changing table is attached to her son's crib.

Probably... but I don't see how that would prevent her from using it.

daniela0325

melkeeney said:

This is why people think the D14 ladies are bitches. She didn't ask if you would have a sprinkle or what anyone thought of her having one. I never read that she asked anyone's opinion how many kids she had and what ages. No one knows her medical condition. How would any of us feel if someone made a comment on why were pregnant. And then someone posts answering her actual question and she is also jumped on. Just because we don't all share the same opinion doesn't make us wrong! If you get invited to a sprinkle and you think it's tacky, DONT GO! I rarely post on here for this exact reason. If someone doesn't share YOUR opinion, the best way to get rid of them is to just shame them off the site for even getting pregnant. Way to be supportive ladies. I feel like this site causes me more stress every day. My husband asks me weekly to just delete it, maybe I should. I try and only read the "safe" posts. I'm s FTM and feel bad for wanting a shower because of the posts on here calling people gift grabby ect. I'm in no way that type of person but I can't wait to celebrate with friends and family they are all excited. I have attented ALL showers happily and bought gifts and loved every second. I know the people I spend time with feel the same way. We LOVE buying things for each other and celebrating. Don't take that excitement away from someone you don't know because you don't like it. It's rude and unfair.

Thank you

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Disneygeek77

You can celebrate without it being a gift giving event that puts other relatives in an uncomfortable and awkward position.  

People that want to give you a gift will do so regardless of a shower invitation.  Others that were not planning on giving you a gift will not appreciate being put in an uncomfortable position and will feel like you are taking advantage of their kindness.  

Oh and you are most likely not the only person having financial difficulties right now.  As happy and excited I might be for a cousin that was previously thought infertile, I would not appreciate getting another shower invitation because she didn't want to put her baby girl in a blue bouncer, especially if I was having trouble making ends meet too.  

agsgrrl

nesenotes said:

@agsgrrl‌ they make green, yellow, and white tubs. DD has a lime green one.

I think the site I was on was limited and so was my patience last night. Think I'm leaning towards green and white basics anyway, thank you!

daniela0325

chayshay1408 said:

that was fun. 

OP you have issues.

I get accidents happen but most try to be extra cautious. My uterus aches for you.

and FYI you have everything you need for a baby. Visit a rummage sale for a crib. If you family wants to 'spoil' you then let them but you don't need a party to do. Oh I am sorry a 'sprinkle'. 

I bought a 'boyish' RnP at a rummage sale. If I have a girl *gasp* guess what? she's still using it.

I have issues!? Why!? Because I got pregnant right away? First of all, I'm medically not supposed to have kids. Second of all, I welcome the second miracle baby. Don't judge.

sarals24

I cannot imagine having another shower so soon. That's nuts. Heck, I feel guilty that we got married last December and are now having a kiddo before our first anniversary...my mom's friend desperately wants to throw us a shower but I am holding off because it would be the same pool of people who just dropped $100 on a platter for us six months ago. I mean, how much stuff do I need? We chose to have a baby, we can pay for it. If people want to get us something, great, but I don't want to have an event where they feel obligated to. (I don't disagree with showers in general and I'm sure my mom will talk me into having one, but that doesn't alleviate the guilt!)

CandEChicago

daniela0325 said:

that was fun. 

OP you have issues.

I get accidents happen but most try to be extra cautious. My uterus aches for you.

and FYI you have everything you need for a baby. Visit a rummage sale for a crib. If you family wants to 'spoil' you then let them but you don't need a party to do. Oh I am sorry a 'sprinkle'. 

I bought a 'boyish' RnP at a rummage sale. If I have a girl *gasp* guess what? she's still using it.

I have issues!? Why!? Because I got pregnant right away? First of all, I'm medically not supposed to have kids. Second of all, I welcome the second miracle baby. Don't judge.

I am not judging you on these things.  Just judging why you need duplicate items when that money can be spent on better items when both you and your DH are out of work.  Would a 3 month old need pink chairs or is there a better use for the money? 

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melkeeney said:

This is why people think the D14 ladies are bitches. She didn't ask if you would have a sprinkle or what anyone thought of her having one. I never read that she asked anyone's opinion how many kids she had and what ages. No one knows her medical condition. How would any of us feel if someone made a comment on why were pregnant. And then someone posts answering her actual question and she is also jumped on. Just because we don't all share the same opinion doesn't make us wrong! If you get invited to a sprinkle and you think it's tacky, DONT GO! I rarely post on here for this exact reason. If someone doesn't share YOUR opinion, the best way to get rid of them is to just shame them off the site for even getting pregnant. Way to be supportive ladies. I feel like this site causes me more stress every day. My husband asks me weekly to just delete it, maybe I should. I try and only read the "safe" posts. I'm s FTM and feel bad for wanting a shower because of the posts on here calling people gift grabby ect. I'm in no way that type of person but I can't wait to celebrate with friends and family they are all excited. I have attented ALL showers happily and bought gifts and loved every second. I know the people I spend time with feel the same way. We LOVE buying things for each other and celebrating. Don't take that excitement away from someone you don't know because you don't like it. It's rude and unfair.

Don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya.

BankerBSN

daniela0325 said:

that was fun. 

OP you have issues.

I get accidents happen but most try to be extra cautious. My uterus aches for you.

and FYI you have everything you need for a baby. Visit a rummage sale for a crib. If you family wants to 'spoil' you then let them but you don't need a party to do. Oh I am sorry a 'sprinkle'. 

I bought a 'boyish' RnP at a rummage sale. If I have a girl *gasp* guess what? she's still using it.

I have issues!? Why!? Because I got pregnant right away? First of all, I'm medically not supposed to have kids. Second of all, I welcome the second miracle baby. Don't judge.

You keep saying this but I don't think you mean it they way you are saying it.  

Right now it sound like it is a danger to you to be pregnant....but you keep doing it...

Do you mean you were told that you would not be able to get pregnant?  Cause those are 2 very different statements.  

MaineMama

OP- As I like to tell my 6yo, there are no "boy things" and "girl things" The TV will not suddenly turn off because a boy is watching Tinkerbell, therefor it is an everyone thing. The blue shirt will not spontaneously combust because it is on a girl, and the tutu does not have an opposing magnetic pole just because the wearer has a penis.

I type this sitting next to a 2yo girl with sparkle butterfly wings, one high heel, a tiara, and my older sons hulk outgrown underpants on. Her vagina is still intact.

daniela0325

BankerBSN said:

daniela0325 said:

that was fun. 

OP you have issues.

I get accidents happen but most try to be extra cautious. My uterus aches for you.

and FYI you have everything you need for a baby. Visit a rummage sale for a crib. If you family wants to 'spoil' you then let them but you don't need a party to do. Oh I am sorry a 'sprinkle'. 

I bought a 'boyish' RnP at a rummage sale. If I have a girl *gasp* guess what? she's still using it.

I have issues!? Why!? Because I got pregnant right away? First of all, I'm medically not supposed to have kids. Second of all, I welcome the second miracle baby. Don't judge.

You keep saying this but I don't think you mean it they way you are saying it.  

Right now it sound like it is a danger to you to be pregnant....but you keep doing it...

Do you mean you were told that you would not be able to get pregnant?  Cause those are 2 very different statements.  

I was told I would not get pregnant. Now that I am pregnant I am high risk due to the same diseases that supposedly make you unable to get pregnant.

chicorojo

daniela0325 said:

BankerBSN said:

daniela0325 said:

that was fun. 

OP you have issues.

I get accidents happen but most try to be extra cautious. My uterus aches for you.

and FYI you have everything you need for a baby. Visit a rummage sale for a crib. If you family wants to 'spoil' you then let them but you don't need a party to do. Oh I am sorry a 'sprinkle'. 

I bought a 'boyish' RnP at a rummage sale. If I have a girl *gasp* guess what? she's still using it.

I have issues!? Why!? Because I got pregnant right away? First of all, I'm medically not supposed to have kids. Second of all, I welcome the second miracle baby. Don't judge.

You keep saying this but I don't think you mean it they way you are saying it.  

Right now it sound like it is a danger to you to be pregnant....but you keep doing it...

Do you mean you were told that you would not be able to get pregnant?  Cause those are 2 very different statements.  

I was told I would not get pregnant. Now that I am pregnant I am high risk due to the same diseases that supposedly make you unable to get pregnant.


But it's not really a shock that you can in fact get pregnant, since you were just pregnant.

LaxMOM44

Sorry OP, could you just clarify, how many people was this lunch-in for?

Also babies don't care what colour they wear. Trust me my daughter wears blue and she is totally normal, she even STTN and started walking at 9 months....

Edit: the words!

daniela0325

MaineMama said:

OP- As I like to tell my 6yo, there are no "boy things" and "girl things" The TV will not suddenly turn off because a boy is watching Tinkerbell, therefor it is an everyone thing. The blue shirt will not spontaneously combust because it is on a girl, and the tutu does not have an opposing magnetic pole just because the wearer has a penis.

I type this sitting next to a 2yo girl with sparkle butterfly wings, one high heel, a tiara, and my older sons hulk outgrown underpants on. Her vagina is still intact.

Do what u want. I'll do what I want. So I can't request a dress for my daughter because my son has a few "daddy's little boy" onesies around? I respect your choice. Respect mine.

JaymeeLH

daniela0325 said:

MaineMama said:

OP- As I like to tell my 6yo, there are no "boy things" and "girl things" The TV will not suddenly turn off because a boy is watching Tinkerbell, therefor it is an everyone thing. The blue shirt will not spontaneously combust because it is on a girl, and the tutu does not have an opposing magnetic pole just because the wearer has a penis.

I type this sitting next to a 2yo girl with sparkle butterfly wings, one high heel, a tiara, and my older sons hulk outgrown underpants on. Her vagina is still intact.

Do what u want. I'll do what I want. So I can't request a dress for my daughter because my son has a few "daddy's little boy" onesies around? I respect your choice. Respect mine.

OP why are you even still arguing with anyone? This just seems silly now and you're just affirming that we all think you're being a little more than ridiculous

daniela0325

alissendis said:

MegN914 said:

I'm thinking/hoping that what she is saying about her medical is that they didn't think she would be able to get pregnant.

Quote box fail! I added: 

Oh, that's definitely what she means, but it still seems incredibly naïve to say that you "didn't mean to get pregnant" when you had unprotected sex after having a baby that you were told you wouldn't be able to have. When she got pregnant the first time, wasn't that kind of a hint that maybe the doctors were wrong and that she could, in fact, have kids? That's why I feel like it's incorrect and dishonest to say that this second baby wasn't intentional. Dude, you just had a kid, obviously you can get pregnant even if the odds are low, so put a freakin' condom on if you need to have sex so soon after your first baby (unless you are intending to get pregnant again).

While I did not expect a second child, God's gift is welcome.

chicorojo

daniela0325 said:

MaineMama said:

OP- As I like to tell my 6yo, there are no "boy things" and "girl things" The TV will not suddenly turn off because a boy is watching Tinkerbell, therefor it is an everyone thing. The blue shirt will not spontaneously combust because it is on a girl, and the tutu does not have an opposing magnetic pole just because the wearer has a penis.

I type this sitting next to a 2yo girl with sparkle butterfly wings, one high heel, a tiara, and my older sons hulk outgrown underpants on. Her vagina is still intact.

Do what u want. I'll do what I want. So I can't request a dress for my daughter because my son has a few "daddy's little boy" onesies around? I respect your choice. Respect mine.

buy it yourself. No you can't request for other people to buy your kid shit. Its rude and tacky.

CandEChicago

daniela0325 said:

OP- As I like to tell my 6yo, there are no "boy things" and "girl things" The TV will not suddenly turn off because a boy is watching Tinkerbell, therefor it is an everyone thing. The blue shirt will not spontaneously combust because it is on a girl, and the tutu does not have an opposing magnetic pole just because the wearer has a penis.

I type this sitting next to a 2yo girl with sparkle butterfly wings, one high heel, a tiara, and my older sons hulk outgrown underpants on. Her vagina is still intact.

Do what u want. I'll do what I want. So I can't request a dress for my daughter because my son has a few "daddy's little boy" onesies around? I respect your choice. Respect mine.

No one is saying you can't clothe your kid in a dress.... they are pointing out if it is the wisest choice to get a duplicate changing table when you can put that towards your desired clothes/medical expenses... or if things are really dire... food on the table. 

BankerBSN

alissendis said:

MegN914 said:

I'm thinking/hoping that what she is saying about her medical is that they didn't think she would be able to get pregnant.

Quote box fail! I added: 

Oh, that's definitely what she means, but it still seems incredibly naïve to say that you "didn't mean to get pregnant" when you had unprotected sex after having a baby that you were told you wouldn't be able to have. When she got pregnant the first time, wasn't that kind of a hint that maybe the doctors were wrong and that she could, in fact, have kids? That's why I feel like it's incorrect and dishonest to say that this second baby wasn't intentional. Dude, you just had a kid, obviously you can get pregnant even if the odds are low, so put a freakin' condom on if you need to have sex so soon after your first baby (unless you are intending to get pregnant again).

******

I am going to give OP the benefit of the doubt here... Her Doc doesn't seem like the sharpest tool in the shed and I would put a $20 on the fact she had/has no idea the danger of getting pregnant so soon after a C/S.  I mean, this is the same guy who keeps telling her she can't get pregnant...why would he ever let her know the dangers of getting pregnant 6 weeks after uterine surgery, because, remember, she can't.

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danisgossipgirl said:

So after two babies in a year, are you going to call #3 an unexpected miracle when you get KU in Feb15?

I won't able to have another kid after this. I have to have surgery for medical reasons that will disable that ability. Please don't make me elaborate.

daniela0325

alissendis said:

danisgossipgirl said:

So after two babies in a year, are you going to call #3 an unexpected miracle when you get KU in Feb15?

Yes, and she will need to have another sprinkle for family so they can buy her a third changing table.

I hope you burn in the deepest pits of hell.

JaymeeLH

daniela0325 said:

alissendis said:

danisgossipgirl said:

So after two babies in a year, are you going to call #3 an unexpected miracle when you get KU in Feb15?

Yes, and she will need to have another sprinkle for family so they can buy her a third changing table.

I hope you burn in the deepest pits of hell.

Bingo!

BankerBSN

daniela0325 said:

danisgossipgirl said:

So after two babies in a year, are you going to call #3 an unexpected miracle when you get KU in Feb15?

Yes, and she will need to have another sprinkle for family so they can buy her a third changing table.

I hope you burn in the deepest pits of hell.

Oh come on Daniela, that was funny.  No need to be sending my boo to hell.

daniela0325

Slaps said:

You know what lady., I think you are jealous, ugly person. I'm pregnant and u are determined to upset me. I hope God teaches your wicked @ss a lesson.

daniela0325

BankerBSN said:

daniela0325 said:

alissendis said:

danisgossipgirl said:

So after two babies in a year, are you going to call #3 an unexpected miracle when you get KU in Feb15?

Yes, and she will need to have another sprinkle for family so they can buy her a third changing table.

I hope you burn in the deepest pits of hell.

Oh come on Daniela, that was funny.  No need to be sending my boo to hell.

Hopefully u are roasting beside her there. Evil witches.

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CandEChicago

daniela0325 said:

So after two babies in a year, are you going to call #3 an unexpected miracle when you get KU in Feb15?

I won't able to have another kid after this. I have to have surgery for medical reasons that will disable that ability. Please don't make me elaborate.

daniela0325 said:

danisgossipgirl said:

So after two babies in a year, are you going to call #3 an unexpected miracle when you get KU in Feb15?

Yes, and she will need to have another sprinkle for family so they can buy her a third changing table.

I hope you burn in the deepest pits of hell.

daniela0325 said:

You know what lady., I think you are jealous, ugly person. I'm pregnant and u are determined to upset me. I hope God teaches your wicked @ss a lesson.

Many Bingo's

LaxMOM44

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chicorojo

BankerBSN said:

daniela0325 said:

alissendis said:

danisgossipgirl said:

So after two babies in a year, are you going to call #3 an unexpected miracle when you get KU in Feb15?

Yes, and she will need to have another sprinkle for family so they can buy her a third changing table.

I hope you burn in the deepest pits of hell.

Oh come on Daniela, that was funny.  No need to be sending my boo to hell.

I just lol'd for real.