How to say "No kids at the shower"?

lizgrace03

krgriffin26 said:

absolutelymaybe said:

krgriffin26 said:

I would write "adults only please" and not think twice about it.  I don't think kids need to be at everything. Especially if I am drinking or want to be drinking, my kid would be with grandma. I do hope my shower is mostly kid free but out of all the people invited, not many have kids so I'm ok with not saying anything. My wedding was actually kind of a mess because of kids. They were allowed to run around and they disturbed many of the activities. Guests couldn't even be on the dance floor without kids bumping into them or almost stepping on one of them.  

(Maybe this should be in OU :-/  ) It bothers me when I see even some of our family members let their kids run around adult parties where there is drinking until very late. The kids are usually unsupervised for the most part. I'm just the person though who would get a baby sitter so I can enjoy the night and not worry about endangering my kids life because I want a beer. Everyone is different. DH's cousins don't see any problem and have always allowed their children to be exposed to all the drinking and adults getting loud or telling inappropriate stories.

 

Woah here. One beer is hardly endangering your kids life. 

True. But I'm more of a safe than sorry person. If I want to cut loose and drink (in any amount), I will find a baby sitter. This will not always happen as I don't have to drink just because I am out.

Sad true story though, a lady I know literally had 1 beer and then drover her son to one of his friend's house. On the way she saw someone she knew and rolled down her window to talk to them. That person smelled her one beer and called the cops and CPS. It caused a nightmare for her entire family for over a year and she lost her state job because of it. Not saying this can
or would happen, but better safe than sorry. People are assholes
and you can't control them.    

So, she lost her job for having a BAC over the legal limit and getting a DUI? Or public intox? After one beer? I don't understand how the cops or CPS would be able to do anything or prove anything. Note: I'm just genuinely interested and asking for clarification not trying to be rude or anything.

mommymeg143

My problem with serving alcohol at my shower stems from my SILs and some family friends.  As PP stated, it depends on who you are inviting to your shower.  I would have no problem with guest having a few cocktails.   BUT some of the people I would be expected to invite would feel like it was a rager and get shit faced.  Hence, the reason I would want to have a drink or two.   My entire post above was not to be taken serious at all...I was trying to be funny.   

krgriffin26

lizgrace03 said:

 

Sad true story though, a lady I know literally had 1 beer and then drover her son to one of his friend's house. On the way she saw someone she knew and rolled down her window to talk to them. That person smelled her one beer and called the cops and CPS. It caused a nightmare for her entire family for over a year and she lost her state job because of it. Not saying this can or would happen, but better safe than sorry. People are assholes and you can't control them.    

So, she lost her job for having a BAC over the legal limit and getting a DUI? Or public intox? After one beer? I don't understand how the cops or CPS would be able to do anything or prove anything. Note: I'm just genuinely interested and asking for clarification not trying to be rude or anything.

Her BAC was not taken. They cops went to her house after they received a call. She had already been back home from dropping her son (I think he was 10 at the time) off for the night. Because of it being a complaint of child endangerment they did not have to go off anything but the complaint itself to arrest her. By the time her BAC was taken, nothing was in her system. But CPS still had to investigate and the arrest itself caused her to lose her state job. Because CPS found it to be a low priority case, it was drug out for over a year before their investigation was complete. The cops were waiting of the CPS investigation to drop charges which eventually did happen.

Like I said, it was a crazy, 1 in a million situation.

lizgrace03

krgriffin26 said:

lizgrace03 said:

krgriffin26 said:

 

Sad true story though, a lady I know literally had 1 beer and then drover her son to one of his friend's house. On the way she saw someone she knew and rolled down her window to talk to them. That person smelled her one beer and called the cops and CPS. It caused a nightmare for her entire family for over a year and she lost her state job because of it. Not saying this can
or would happen, but better safe than sorry. People are assholes
and you can't control them.    

So, she lost her job for having a BAC over the legal limit and getting a DUI? Or public intox? After one beer? I don't understand how the cops or CPS would be able to do anything or prove anything. Note: I'm just genuinely interested and asking for clarification not trying to be rude or anything.

Her BAC was not taken. They cops went to her house after they received a call. She had already been back home from dropping her son (I think he was 10 at the time) off for the night. Because of it being a complaint of child endangerment they did not have to go off anything but the complaint itself to arrest her. By the time her BAC was taken, nothing was in her system. But CPS still had to investigate and the arrest itself caused her to lose her state job. Because CPS found it to be a low priority case, it was drug out for over a year before their investigation was complete. The cops were waiting of the CPS investigation to drop charges which eventually did happen.

Like I said, it was a crazy, 1 in a million situation.

Omg. I would have gotten a good lawyer and probably sued. That's terrible.

missnacholover

lizgrace03 said:

lizgrace03 said:

 

Sad true story though, a lady I know literally had 1 beer and then drover her son to one of his friend's house. On the way she saw someone she knew and rolled down her window to talk to them. That person smelled her one beer and called the cops and CPS. It caused a nightmare for her entire family for over a year and she lost her state job because of it. Not saying this can or would happen, but better safe than sorry. People are assholes and you can't control them.    

So, she lost her job for having a BAC over the legal limit and getting a DUI? Or public intox? After one beer? I don't understand how the cops or CPS would be able to do anything or prove anything. Note: I'm just genuinely interested and asking for clarification not trying to be rude or anything.

Her BAC was not taken. They cops went to her house after they received a call. She had already been back home from dropping her son (I think he was 10 at the time) off for the night. Because of it being a complaint of child endangerment they did not have to go off anything but the complaint itself to arrest her. By the time her BAC was taken, nothing was in her system. But CPS still had to investigate and the arrest itself caused her to lose her state job. Because CPS found it to be a low priority case, it was drug out for over a year before their investigation was complete. The cops were waiting of the CPS investigation to drop charges which eventually did happen.

Like I said, it was a crazy, 1 in a million situation.

Omg. I would have gotten a good lawyer and probably sued. That's terrible.

That's awful.  WTF?

I don't know if there will be alcohol at my shower.  I don't care if there is and will probably steal a few sips from folks.

mightymo85

Does anyone ever go anywhere without their kids? I guess I'm the only one having a rager for a baby shower....

Maelara

mightymo85 said:

Does anyone ever go anywhere without their kids? I guess I'm the only one having a rager for a baby shower....

Uh... Well when a mommy and a daddy love each other very much...

In all seriousness, yes, I go places without my kids. It just becomes harder. Not in the you will miss them aspect but in the finding a time that works for everyone. Honestly, I do just bring my daughter everywhere with me. I want to.

mamatohne

mightymo85 said:

Does anyone ever go anywhere without their kids? I guess I'm the only one having a rager for a baby shower....

Not very often do I get out of the house with out my son. Me and my husband work opposite works schedule to avoid paying for daycare. And we live 2 hours away from friends and family. If I am going to pay a baby sister it's not to go to a baby shower or something. It's to go enjoy my husband.

mightymo85

Well good for you! I guess people who can't find sitters or want to take their kids everywhere with them won't come to my beer themed friends only baby shower. I see nothing wrong with it. To each their own! I know my guests who choose to attend will have a great time and won't regret finding a sitter for this non traditional baby shower. I think doing things differently is freaking cool so go for it and do your wine party at the park and put no kids on the invite. You will weed out the party poopers that way.

Maelara

ClrkKntismyAE said:

mightymo85 said:

Well good for you! I guess people who can't find sitters or want to take their kids everywhere with them won't come to my beer themed friends only baby shower. I see nothing wrong with it. To each their own! I know my guests who choose to attend will have a great time and won't regret finding a sitter for this non traditional baby shower. I think doing things differently is freaking cool so go for it and do your wine party at the park and put no kids on the invite. You will weed out the party poopers that way.

Nobody cares what you and your friends do. Nobody said your shower had to be a traditional one or  that you should have to have kids at your shower if you didn't want them there. You asked if other people brought their kids with them most places and we answered. I don't see the need for a slightly passive aggressive response because our opinions differ from your's.

Her response isn't even slightly passive aggressive. It's rude. @mightymo85 you haven't even been around for very long and I'm already tired of your antics. You aren't snarky, you aren't funny, you are just rude and ignorant.

Oh, and yes. Good for us. We actually want to spend time with our children. My daughter is the biggest and best part of my life. If that makes me a party pooper, bring on the shit!

Maelara

Oh! @ClrkKntismyAE‌ I officially have a huge bump crush on you

FirstBabyDoyle

ClrkKntismyAE said:

mightymo85 said:

Well good for you! I guess people who can't find sitters or want to take their kids everywhere with them won't come to my beer themed friends only baby shower. I see nothing wrong with it. To each their own! I know my guests who choose to attend will have a great time and won't regret finding a sitter for this non traditional baby shower. I think doing things differently is freaking cool so go for it and do your wine party at the park and put no kids on the invite. You will weed out the party poopers that way.

Nobody cares what you and your friends do. Nobody said your shower had to be a traditional one or  that you should have to have kids at your shower if you didn't want them there. You asked if other people brought their kids with them most places and we answered. I don't see the need for a slightly passive aggressive response because our opinions differ from your's.
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) Preach. @mightymo85‌ you sound like you have a stick stuck somewhere it shouldn't be. I would call my OB. I would mention that and probably the expired juice.

lisaren

I drink jäger without my children around. I go to a bar. It's fun.

Just a random
Lisa'ism.

Carry on.

mightymo85

Wow! These responses and I'm the one with a stick up my vagina.....surrrrre.

Me and my attitude are sitting pretty over here...feeling my baby kick and drinking unexpired orange juice. Cheers!!!!

lisaren

And I love y'all who hang with your littles 24/7. I really do but it's totally ok to have a break from them.
I'm kinda feeling bad that I do leave my house without my kids after reading this.

Ok not really. The guilt is over.

mightymo85

@lisaren I hope you have a great, safe time!

lisaren

I'm sitting at home. I'm
Not going anywhere.

mamatohne

lisaren said:

And I love y'all who hang with your littles 24/7. I really do but it's totally ok to have a break from them.
I'm kinda bad that I do leave my house without my kids after reading this.

Ok not really. The guilt is over.

I 100% agree that a break is a good thing from your kids. I would just much rather go to a nice dinner or a movie with my husband. Not to a baby shower at a park (where other kids not associated with your party are going to be playing anyway) to buy a gift And pay a baby sitter. And NOT be away from kids!

And @mightymoo42‌ you asked a question. I answered it. Simple as that. No need to be rude.

lisaren

mightymo85 said:

Wow! These responses and I'm the one with a stick up my vagina.....surrrrre.

Me and my attitude are sitting pretty over here...feeling my baby kick and drinking unexpired orange juice. Cheers!!!!

Hahahaha this is not gonna go over well here cupcake.

Maelara

lisaren said:

And I love y'all who hang with your littles 24/7. I really do but it's totally ok to have a break from them. I'm kinda bad that I do leave my house without my kids after reading this. Ok not really. The guilt is over.

I think parents NEED to spend time away from their kids, but wanting to spend time with N doesn't make me a party pooper either. Spending time away from N is the only way I've kept my semi-sanity @mightymo85's attitude sucks. It has sucked the whole time she's been here and it's time for a call out.

mightymo85

I'm not trying to be rude. Just saying everyone is different and some people wouldn't mind getting a sitter. Some people drink alcohol at baby showers. Some pregnant ladies don't mind watching other people drink and havjng a good time. I talked about my party to show that there are other options besides the traditional baby shower and there's nothing wrong with throwing a wine party and telling people no kids. Doesn't make it right for someone to tell me to see my OB for the stick up my vag and to drink my expired orange juice. I'm an anxious FTM like many of you.

lisaren

Shall we grab our whistles.

mamatohne

mightymo85 said:

I'm not trying to be rude. Just saying everyone is different and some people wouldn't mind getting a sitter. Some people drink alcohol at baby showers. Some pregnant ladies don't mind watching other people drink and havjng a good time. I talked about my party to show that there are other options besides the traditional baby shower and there's nothing wrong with throwing a wine party and telling people no kids. Doesn't make it right for someone to tell me to see my OB for the stick up my vag and to drink my expired orange juice. I'm an anxious FTM like many of you.

You are right, your a FTM. Talk to me when you have a 2 year old and no baby sitter.

mightymo85

I have plenty of options for child care. I planned in advance.

PandaCon

Calling those that can't afford or don't want to spend extra money on a sitter for a park shower, party poopers is rude. It wasn't snarky, it wasn't funny. It was passive aggressive, 

You asked a question, PP answered. They were not rude or snarky, just told you why they wouldn't go. You were the rude one. 

lisaren

mightymo85 said:

I have plenty of options for child care. I planned in advance.

)

lizgrace03

mightymo85 said:

I have plenty of options for child care. I planned in advance.

Are you trying to pick a fight? Jw.

mamatohne

mightymo85 said:

I have plenty of options for child care. I planned in advance.

This makes me lol!

PandaCon

mightymo85 said:

I have plenty of options for child care. I planned in advance.

And did you plan that rude comment in advance?

FirstBabyDoyle

@mihght

lizgrace03 said:

mightymo85 said:

I have plenty of options for child care. I planned in advance.

Are you trying to pick a fight? Jw.

I think its a trend with her.

MrsG1019

lisaren

I have a great gif I've been holding on to... It's almost time to release the greatness.

mightymo85

And everyone is looking at what I say and not at what people say to me. Awesome.

PandaCon

mightymo85 said:

And everyone is looking at what I say and not at what people say to me. Awesome.

From what I've seen tonight on this thread you started the rudeness. 

Maelara

mightymo85 said:

I have plenty of options for child care. I planned in advance.

Seriously?!? So to have a kid we need to 'plan in advance' for child care. News flash honey, I have plenty of options of child care. I get out with my husband plenty and from the looks of it, so do most of these women. Now, go back to that bridge you crawled out from under. I'm sure someone is walking across it and needs a question to be asked so they can cross.

FirstBabyDoyle

@mightymo85‌ no I simply suggested you mention the juice... Not drink it silly, that's dangerous. Lolz. Your rude remark is what made me think that there could be a stick in your butt not your vagina.

PandaCon

ClrkKntismyAE said:

tarynleann said:

I have plenty of options for child care. I planned in advance.

This makes me lol!

I am also wondering if she thinks that lack of a sitter is the only reason people stay in with their kids. We are surrounded by family who are waiting for us to quit *hogging* DD and go out so they can steal her for an evening.

My SIL is not so patiently waiting for another overnight with DS as they all had some much fun with him. Apparently I hog my kiddo too. 

Maelara

mightymo85 said:

And everyone is looking at what I say and not at what people say to me. Awesome.

We all know each other and don't come in guns blazing looking for a fight. You started it miss, don't dish it if you can't take it.

mightymo85

I didn't start anything! All I said
Is people are different and should do what they want. I wasn't the one ganging up on the original poster for having a wine party at the park. She's not rude for saying no kids. This is ridiculous.

lisaren

Yeah, you've been meanie pants in here @mightymo85‌