Its Friday!! (FFFC)

bensmommy518

Lets hear them ladies!

bensmommy518

I forgot yesterday was my anniversary.  DH did not.
 
#worstwifeever

cpm1223

I haven't showered in too many days than I'm willing to admit...

km_md

Still haven't had sex since DD was born. She will be 6 months on Sunday. I feel like a terrible wife.

painttheair14

I don't really care that Patrick naps on my lap. It gives me time to relax.

However, I don't have any other kids or pets to care for.

NenaMarie84

km_md said:

Still haven't had sex since DD was born. She will be 6 months on Sunday. I feel like a terrible wife.

I too am a terrible wife!

sugarland726

I spend waaaay too much money.

peanutmuse

I refuse to put BZ in light blue pants. They bother me for some reason. I feel like he's wearing a leisure suit or something.

I, too, spend too much money @sugarland726.

I drank too much wine last night and I think a beer will help me feel better. So I'm drinking one while BZ naps. It's 10:30am. I wish I did it at like 7 though.

I am the cause of my family friend's dance studio's collapse. Well, not really. She's a terrible director and that's why I left. I told people that I was leaving and gave them some questions to ask her that I knew would raise some eyebrows. There was a lot of shady stuff going on that the parents didn't know about. I didn't tell them anything that I shouldn't, I just pointed them in the right direction to find out. She lost 10% of her students within 2 days of her official announcement that I wouldn't be there next year. And there's more to come, I am certain.

SandFHasse

I didn't do kegels as good as I thought I did while pregnant. DD and I had a dance party and while I was jumping I peed a little.

bensmommy518

@Rojovol34, I am sorry.  I hope he agrees to counseling becasue it sounds like having a mediator help you to have serious discussions will help. 

NenaMarie84

@Rojovol34‌, I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this. Babies change our lives so much and what we thought we would want before they arrive and after doesn't always match up. I hope it all works out for the best for you and your H!

bensmommy518

@tarajeannette ::hugs::  I'm sorry your boss sucks.  You are way better than just "tolerated" and shouldn't be made to feel that way. 

painttheair14

@tarajeannette‌ I'm sorry you are going through this! I also worked my butt of to get a "minimally effective" rating at my job.

I was able to quit. I don't know how I would cope emotionally if there was no end in site.

cpm1223

Another one: I'm pretty sure I'm enabling Michael's bad napping in his crib behavior because if he doesn't fall asleep in like 30 mins, I strap him in the car seat and go for a drive. I just cannot do CIO with him and he sleeps so well in the crib at night so I don't know what other options I have....I'm lucky that he does so welll at night, that I'm just so "whatever" about his daytime naps.

jcwinsto

@Rojovol34 That sucks.  Sometimes they just don't understand.  I really, really hope counseling works for your sake.  Sometimes you just wanna take a frying pan and knock them up side the head hoping it knocks some sense in to them.

@tarajeannette I've been there.  It ended up making me not want to put in any effort whatsoever.  I became a horrible employee and it came to a bad end.  My suggestion is to get out and move on as soon as possible.  I waited too long to do that and it wasn't pretty.  It severely affected my personal life, emotions, and professional life. I hope it gets better for you.

My confession, on more than one occasion I have fed the baby and then taken him out of the highchair and set him on the floor so the dogs could clean him up.  Apparently veggies are delicious when attached to a human.  H just giggles like crazy when they are licking him.  Don't worry, bath time is immediatly following!

precious72381

@rojovol34 So sorry you are going through this! I hope counseling helps. I complete understand wanting to be home with baby. I'm so miserable at my job but need it for the health insurance. And I hate being away from her and thinking of others having all the fun with her all day. Sending hugs and hope you and YH can come to an agreement on how to deal with the issues that is fair for both of you. 

peanutmuse

@cpm1223 -- BZ sometimes naps in the crib. But if he's too difficult to put down, I go out and run errands or put him in the swing. We are all happier (and he sleeps better at night) if he naps during the day. I don't worry about it.

Tylynngrace

I don't like being a SAHM. I didn't have a choice because my job wasn't giving us the money we need so it didn't make sense to stay. I feel bad that DH has to work two jobs. I also miss having time away from DS, I love him to death but he's so temperamental and it's exhausting. I feel like a bad mom.

km_md

@Rojovol34‌ I'm so sorry you're going through that. I really don't think that you are being unreasonable. DH and I saw a counsellor a few times a couple of years ago and it really helped so I think that would be a great next step for you. We weren't on the brink of separating or anything but it really helped us to see why we were together and to communicate our needs and understand each other better. Good luck and lots of ((hugs))

@tarajeannette‌ so many ((hugs)) I'm sorry that you are working so hard only to end up being made to feel like crap.

monkeybutt61612

@peanutmuse‌ just wondering what questions you told the parents to ask. Did the director straight out lie to them?

cpm1223

peanutmuse said:

@cpm1223 -- BZ sometimes naps in the crib. But if he's too difficult to put down, I go out and run errands or put him in the swing. We are all happier (and he sleeps better at night) if he naps during the day. I don't worry about it.

Just for fun (ha!) I put him in his crib just now....he fussed for maybe two minutes and now he's out like a light! Thank god! I don't have any errands to run today and I just get so wiped out from driving around aimlessly sometimes

amt0312

I don't like being a (mostly) SAHM, but I hate my job even worse. A small part of me wanted to get pregnant so soon so I could get the hell out of the NE and move closer to family. I did NOT, however, get pregnant without discussing it with DH first...I just wasn't 100% forthcoming on ALL of my reasons for wanting to get pregnant again. He wants another baby and is as excited as I am, but I'm literally dying inside up here. 

cpm1223

Oh I have another one (I think this is the most I've posted in weeks!) I DVRd Frozen and I watch it at least once a day...I'm seriously like a 4 year old, I'm addicted to frozen....

Babychuu

Arya808 said:

@Rojovol34 Well, guess what? You're not his ex and if that's what he's concerned about he needs to communicate that to you instead of accusing you of creating some master plan to become a SAHM. 

THIS exactly. This drives me crazy--that people treat their current partner like they are exactly like their last. Its NOT ok to let a past relationship interfere with your current one, no matter how terrible the ex is. 

You aren't her. No reason YOU should have to suffer for HER mistakes. 

peanutmuse

monkeybutt61612 said:

@peanutmuse‌ just wondering what questions you told the parents to ask. Did the director straight out lie to them?

@monkeybutt61612 -- Yes, she lied to the parents. Repeatedly. I'd say that a solid 80% of what comes out of her mouth is not the truth. Here is an example of the kind of stuff that was going on... 

The parents paid entry fees for competition A. She told the parents that there were "too many studios" registered at that competition, but in truth, she didn't send in the entries because she used the money she collected to pay other bills. So she "found" another competition -- we'll call it competition B -- which was drastically less expensive. But she didn't tell the parents it was less expensive, even though it was absolutely obvious to everyone. Cheaper venue, lousy sound system, chintzy awards, etc. And then, to top things off, she didn't even pay the bill for competition B. (I know this because the director of the competition emailed me looking for the money because she thought that I was a partner. I am not.)

So an example of something that I suggested that the parents ask was if they would be receiving a refund for the price discrepancy between competition A and competition B.

Things like that.

sugarland726

@peanutmuse, OMG. I want ALL the dirty details now!

MiaMyPuggle

I wasn't weird about people changing DS' diaper, but I am with people changing DD's diaper....I don't know why. What's really the issue?

My mom is coming tomorrow and I hate when she changes the baby's diapers only bc if she poops, my mom doesn't do a thorough cleaning. I find remnants in her butt crack during her next diaper change. She used to do the same with DS.  

Instead of saying, "oh, honey, it's ok that you peed yourself...you'll get it next time" when DS has a little pee accident, I'm more like, "DS, seriously?  I thought you were over this. You need to do a better job telling me when you need to pee."  I realize AFTER THE FACT that I need to be more supportive. I'm such an asshole sometimes and I feel bad. 

peanutmuse

sugarland726 said:

@peanutmuse, OMG. I want ALL the dirty details now!

@sugarland726, it's like I don't even know where to start. She is so dishonest and unethical, it's disturbing. I have stayed with the studio because of the kids and my personal relationship with her family -- her sister is my best friend of 30 years -- but now,I just can't do it anymore. She has stolen money from so many people, it's disgusting. She has to get a new videographer for the recital every year because she never pays them. We went through one of my friends to advertise through the D&C and she never paid the D&C. There are constant collections phone calls. She had a former instructor's husband help build a new studio space, and still owes them several thousands of dollars. I don't understand how you just don't pay your bills and expect to run a business. But then she throws extravagant parties for the competition team and their families. It's terrible, but those are the things that keep people coming back. I wanted them to see a different side of her, so I started talking. Not sharing info that I shouldn't be sharing as an employee, but stuff that is essentially public information -- letting the parents know what questions to ask and where to look for the info, you know?

valigrl21

peanutmuse said:

sugarland726 said:

@peanutmuse, OMG. I want ALL the dirty details now!

Just to clarify - I love titted your comment not because I love all the crap that she did but for you for not tolerating it anymore. For leaving your job and now educating the parents so they know where all their money is going. Good for you!

sehudson821

I have one more week of summer. By this point, I am usually excited to head back to school, try new things, etc. Not excited at ALL this year. I just want to stay home with my baby. I hope I can get somewhat excited or it's going to be a long year.

Roses87

I am currently packing but I am jamming to back street boys, nsync and spice girls...... no shame. Did I mention I am dancing all around as I pack
"If you wanna be my lover...."

NenaMarie84

I really want to find a way to be a SAHM. Financially, my H doesn't make enough to support us on his own, but I really don't want to go back to work in January. (It gives me anxiety just thinking about it) I would like to SAH until Adalyn (and any future kids) are old enough to go to school then I'd go back to work. I just need to find a way to make some extra cash to fill in the gaps to make it happen.

blue_elle

km_md said:

Still haven't had sex since DD was born. She will be 6 months on Sunday. I feel like a terrible wife.

Samesies. We keep talking about doing it, then falling asleep instead.

Roses87

@Rojovol34‌ and @tarajeannette‌ so you guys are going through bumpy times in your relationships. I hope counseling helps

@cpm1223‌ Sounds like us exactly. Dd is a great nighttime sleeper but terrible napper.

SandFHasse

I love bed sharing, but am starting to hate it because DS head butts me all night with his helmet. It hurts horribly when he gets my face or when the metal part hooks on to me.

growingmybun

I have 4-5 friends who had babies around the same time as me. Every time I see each of them, I try to figure out which one of us has more baby weight left to lose. Shallow. More and more each day.

RedSaffron

@Rojovol34‌ I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Like others have said, counseling is a good idea and also having a third opinion from a different party about your job situation might help him see it from your POV.