GTKY: What Do You Think Is Lame About Pregnancy/Maternity/Parenthood And All That Goes With It?

yoyopez

LAME: hormonal crying- we did our hospital tour today and when the group got to the NICU i burst into tears.  luckily i had a half used tissue in my purse

LAME: spending so much money!- we haven't even started buying anything for this one but just thinking about it all makes my head spin.  we don't need nearly as much stuff as you FTMs since this is our 2nd and i still cringe.

LAME: countless doctor's appts- weight, blood pressure, pee in cup, doppler, dr feels your fundal height, a few q's and a's... the whole thing could take 10 minutes but you wait in the waiting room, then again after you weight/blood pressure. you get into a room and pee in the cup then wait for the nurse to come back.  she does her part then leaves you to wait for the dr.  dr comes in and says everything is fine come back in 1month/ 2 weeks/ 1 week.  it's just too much!  i understand i would not feel this way should something arise between appts that the dr catches but i have to get a baby sitter for each of these non-event appts!

LAME: hemorrhoids

cmac6186

Lame: waking up parched with dry cracked lips bc I have to breathe through my mouth all night. My nose isn't even stuffy but my sinuses feel swollen like I can't get enough air just breathing through my nose. Ugh.

MuffinMom14

@cmac6186 That keeps happening to me, too! It feels like it takes hours in the morning for me to drink enough water to make the inside of my mouth and throat not feel like a desert.

Saragoeswest

@mrsl2b and @MorganWP‌ yes to short girl problems. My bump starts right under my boobs. I can't reach anything. And we can only grow out from here.

I wasn't going to post to this thread bc I'm trying to think positive thoughts, but my aching feet have killed those good intentions. I walked down into and around Carlsbad Caverns today and my feet are DYING now. And there is nothing strenuous about this walk. It's less than three miles. Old people were doing it. Flip flop girls. And it feels as painful as a half-marathon on my tootsies. And the bump has been full and hard and heavy today.

MissMandyD

Saragoeswest said:

@mrsl2b and @MorganWP‌ yes to short girl problems. My bump starts right under my boobs. I can't reach anything. And we can only grow out from here. I wasn't going to post to this thread bc I'm trying to think positive thoughts, but my aching feet have killed those good intentions. I walked down into and around Carlsbad Caverns today and my feet are DYING now. And there is nothing strenuous about this walk. It's less than three miles. Old people were doing it. Flip flop girls. And it feels as painful as a half-marathon on my tootsies. And the bump has been full and hard and heavy today.

I feel your pain on being short waisted. I am 5'9" but all legs so my torso is the same as if I was about 5'2" and there is no space above my bump or below. 

MorganWP

I should clarify. Im 5'9" but I have the torso of someone shorter. Im seriously all leg.

Basically like @MissMandyD. We posted at the same time! :P

narabug

Not being able to sleep is lame. I can never get comfortable. And I have all the pillows. I don't know what else to do. I was awake for an hour after DH woke me up getting into bed last night. And I didn't used to wake up so easily either, it's not like he bumped into me or anything.

griffers

Oh there are so many, where to start.

Not being able to go more than an hour without peeing including while I'm sleeping. And when I have to go it comes on fast and strong and I have go right then!

Always having a stomach ache.

Not being able to drink and knowing I still won't be able to after birth for a long time.

Not being able to bend over without it hurting my insides. Putting my sneakers on is so hard! I actually dread it every morning.

Having people touch my stomach all the time and telling me how big my stomach is all the time. Thanks for the update, I had forgotten! Also having people ask me how I'm feeling all the time. I know they are just trying to be nice, but I already feel like shit and repeating it out loud sucks.

Getting leg cramps all the time! What is up with that?

erinchrisitne424

It is lame that people always talk about my "condition" like I have a disease or something. It is also really lame when I am at work and I go to do some part of my job (mind you I have no restrictions) and my boss will tell me to find someone to help or have so-and-so do it for me. I work midnights, I get bored, I love all parts of my job, let me actually do the job I am here to do.

baconcookies

Oh man, I've been lurking for so long, mostly because I have to confess that I've always viewed mom boards themselves as lame, but reading through this post has changed my mind -- you ladies are my people.

What do I think is lame? Well, aside from so many of the things you've already covered: I work with a lot of moms who are mostly old enough to be my mom, so the advice is constant and often unnecessary. One coworker warned me to take everything with a grain of salt... five seconds before she started giving me her own lame advice.

Also, I can't stand when I'm in the breakroom at work, and they ask me how I'm feeling. If I'm the least bit honest ("ugh, I've had nine programs this week and I'm starting to feel huge and uncomfortable for the first time"), rather than being sympathetic, they ask, "HOW much longer do you have?" and LAUGH AT ME WHEN I TELL THEM. What????

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I'm trying to watch my weight gain as I've already gained 30 pounds at 25 weeks, but I'm constantly starving. How does that even work? Also, lower back pain. I can't seem to walk it out, get it massaged out, or contort my body to lessen the pain.

narabug

@savegek7 - OMG, yes to #2!

haboobjob

swizz09 - Pregnancy comments make me crazy!! Don't you love the question, "Were you trying?" with a questionable look on their face? We're married. We've been together for a long time. We have a home together. We have wanted to start a family for a while. Um yes, we were trying but its none of your business anyway. So rude! 

You know what else is lame? Judgy new moms. I'm a FTM and I cannot STAND other FTMs acting like experts. It's your opinion, not the rule! So you had a natural birth, congratulations! I'm glad everything went according to your birth plan but it's not mine and I don't need you rolling your eyes every time I answer your questions followed by the response "yeah... you'll change your mind". It's my child, I'll figure it out! 

*steps off soap box* 

Yesterday was a tough day... these hormones come out of nowhere! lol

lvcpatt84

The gas. Dear lord the gas! Or rather the gas pains... I've woken up every single night for the past week with horrendous gas pains. Nothing about my diet has changed, so I'm not sure why they've come on so suddenly, but they've showed up with a vengeance. Ugh. I'm a FTM, so I've no idea what labor pains feel like, but if they're anything like what I've been experiencing, my ass is getting an epidural for sure!

ScientistLibrarian

I've been exhausted this entire pregnancy. (Which is why I haven't been around so much. No energy after work to do anything but fall in bed.) Second trimester reprieve? Nope. All I did today was eat and nap. 

The comments from strangers at work - not coworkers, but regulars. I can't believe the gall these people have. I've been asked multiple times, after people see I'm pregnant, "How old are you?" and "How long have you been married?" I'm an adult, I'm legally allowed to procreate, shut your face. I can even rent a car! *gasp*

People have made comments about how small I still am, like "You look great, you don't look pregnant at all!" Like pregnancy = automatically ugly/fat. And "Are you sure you're eating enough?" My weight is on track and my dr isn't concerned, thanks, any other personal medical info you want to know? 

MrMrsandBaby

Lame parenthood version: going to bed bed or 10:00 on the weekend because your child wakes up a 7:00 on a good day.

#2: feeling like every selfish decision I make is costing my daughter something (even if it is just me getting a pedicure! )

Maggie6424

It's so lame that my trouble sleeping gets worse during pregnancy.
I also hate the "my uncle is the greatest" type clothes. Come the eff on.
I never got the 2nd trimester boost of energy. I'm exhausted and feel so lazy.
I also think it's lame that for most of us, after we go through this amazing process, our bodies will never be the same. Whether it's stretch marks, wider hips, saggy boobs, loose skin, or just bigger feet.. It's not fair that to experience something so awesome, we typically pay a long term price.

mcclan03

Lame that my boss feels the need to exclaim on at least a weekly basis (often more), "oh my god! You look pregnant today!" She says this each time like she's totally surprised, and she yells it for the whole world to hear. This past week she said it in an elevator with about six colleagues and followed it up with, "doesn't she? Doesn't she look pregnant today??"

I'm running out of responses. In the elevator I said something like, "well, I think I'm supposed to at this point," but it's seriously getting annoying.

And I deeply and wholeheartedly agree about the stupid onesie sayings. Pinterest is a wasteland of those.