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**UO Thursday**
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Re: **UO Thursday**
I don't really want to find ways to disparage either sex, I just think we pretty flippantly disparage women regularly, and people don't think much about it. And as one of the PP mentioned we also use calling a guy girly an insult. He cried like a girl, he's such a girl, man-up, etc.
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TTC#1 since May 2012. Low AMH, High FSH.
Factor II (Prothrombin) Mutation
TTGP Award Best PIP 2013 & 2014
My Chart
But when I am the one tending to it they will have it the length I choose. yes agreed i get to choose when I tend it...
I said when you parent, general you not her specifically I didn't even look to see if she has children, meaning as you actively parent you change. Your decisions change per child/per individuals per circumstances. And as you, meaning general you not you specifically, age you change. Well atleast I do and did and will continue to. Having ideas and opinions and certain hot topics / issues you feel passionately about and educate others/defend/etc is good and I have a few myself; sorry you were bothered by my statement I think its merit stands though.TTC#1 since May 2012. Low AMH, High FSH.
Factor II (Prothrombin) Mutation
TTGP Award Best PIP 2013 & 2014
My Chart
I completely agree with you. It is important to be challenged, and it was not my intention to say that I don't appreciate or find the value in it. I think anyone who does any sport (whether for fun, or to be competitive at it) has to see the only way to be better is to be pushed. That being said, I don't prefer to work with men because I think they are taking it easy on me, it is more because I am aware that it is a challenge of respect. My husband and I spar all the time, he has a reach that is just absurd to try and work around, and it's great because you have no choice but to be frustrated by it, and try and exercise a different set of skills or techniques, the last thing I want him to do is take it easy on me because I am a girl or I am his wife. No one learns by having people take it easy on them. That being said, I do feel there is a difference between someone who want's to challenge you, and someone who just has to win all the time. That was all I was trying to say. Again - I do not feel this way about all women, I really need to get over the rotten apples who have spoiled my taste. And if anything I appreciate you ladies bringing this idea of mine to my attention. Again, we all need to be challenged.
BTW - Mad respect on the judo background!! That shit is crazy awesome!
NO I never said I feared a girl looking like a boy without long hair. I did not say that and don't believe it NOR give a shit if someone thinks that. My son has long hair. I don't give a damn if people don't like it. It is not a hang up for me. I also do not agree it is harder to deal with long hair than short hair. I've had both and longer is much easier In my opinion.
I did reread her statement, maybe I just don't understand. I also have no issues with men dressing any way they want or women dressing any way they want or any person doing what they want. Unfortunately I must have hit a button by stating what my choice is. The point that is sticky is that I said I wouldn't let a daughter cut her hair until 12 or so... then I said I was wrong I just wouldn't encourage it. It's not really that big of a deal.
Then I was misunderstood in another post regarding parenting.
I do plan to have a ceiling on how much I let my kids express themselves. If I can save them some embarrassment, that would be cool.
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I have no idea.
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EllyD14 I did not say that. My point was when you have an opinion about how you would care for a child, it changes as one actively parents a particular child. I believe I was misunderstood and my wording was poor. It really isn't a groundbreaking statement.
edit to correct call out identity
Looks like they are also called bastards. But again, this is more about the woman and commenting on her unwed status.
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TTC#1 since May 2012. Low AMH, High FSH.
Factor II (Prothrombin) Mutation
TTGP Award Best PIP 2013 & 2014
My Chart
Yesterday the car in front of me was swerving, speeding up and slowing down, etc. basically the driver wasn't paying attention. I changed lanes and looked over at the driver of course texting on her phone. She looked at me and I mouthed Put your fucking phone down. She rolled her window down and said you're a woman watch your language. So I kindly told her to fuck off.
? Is that weird ? I thought so. Of course I was pissed and impolite, what do you think is using foul language unwomanly? Would you be considered "more" of a woman if you didn't cuss? Is it stereotyping to say women shouldn't cuss? Now I'm even more intrigued
----------------------------------fucking quotes----------------------------------------------------------You really don't get gender stereotyping, do you? SMH
2) I had that 80s young kid modified bowl cut until I was about 7. It was easier for my mom to deal with than trying to do my baby fine tangle prone hair when I was super tender headed. Especially because there just wasn't the time in the mornings. I was always super jealous of my BFFs thick hair that her mother did every morning in braids or pigtails or bows. Also, my mom just prefers short hair on me to this day. I don't have it now, but my hair looks better long now than it has in years.
I definitely love me some bows (and eyelet and smoking and monograms, I'm Southern, what can I say?), but if a girl child doesn't want them I'm not going to force them. Also, my brother has the most amazing hair. He changed his hair all through high school and it's been to his shoulders (with a tiny ponytail holding back the front of it) and buzzed off. My mom never really cared unless he got called in for dress code violations (Catholic school).
3) My UO: I really hate texting when a call would take care of something faster. Or texting me and asking me to call you at another time, Mother (makes me nuts, especially when there's other stuff going on, just call me then and we'll talk, or call me tomorrow, and don't be vague).
We have a couple who are friends of H and I's who are the worst at this. We'll set up a time/place to meet them the night before (I don't mind texting for this because it can be done at leisure) and then the day of they want to change plans, but not just say 'We'd like to do x or eat at y instead' oh no, they want to have a whole new conversation about what we would prefer. I told you what we preferred last night. So if you're changing stuff, then make that executive decision, but trying to make it while we're in the car (I'm the one doing this because H is driving) and it's taking you minutes at a time to text back is ridiculous. Call me, this is a two minute conversation vs. 10 minutes of hem and hawing texts.
Me-31, H-27
**Loss 1-Cycle 7(June 2013) at 5w6d-CP**Loss 2-Cycle 11(October 2013) at 5w4d-CP**
**Loss 3-Cycle 14 (January-February 2014)-M/C dx 2/10, EP dx 2/24, MTX 2/25**
Beta Hell--hCG finally down to 0 - 6/20/14
SA normal. Genetic testing normal. Hormonal testing normal.
HSG 6/30/14 - found blocked left tube and 2 'bubbles' on uterine wall.
Hysteroscopy/Lap--8/4/14 - Tubes unblocked. Polyps removed from uterine wall. Septum removed.
9/30/14--Off the bench! Unmedicated TI through December 2014
BFP 12/14/14!!! Beta #1, 12/16: 990 Beta #2, 12/18: Over 2000! Beta #3, 12/22: over 8000!
U/S #1, 12/23: gestational sac, possible heartbeat
U/S #2, 12/30: HEARTBEAT! 128bpm, measuring right on at 7w EDD: 8/19/2015
U/S #3, 1/9: BPM in the 180s, IT'S HAPPENING!!!
? no I guess I don't I'm trying to figure out if by me cussing she was ok to say that about me being a woman? I truly must not understand. I don't think me cussing has anything to do with me being a woman. I was so aggravated by an adult saying that to me while they were playing with a cell phone while driving.
edit to add this: "of course texting"...do you think I'm remarking bc of her being a woman? I wasn't.
Me-31, H-27
**Loss 1-Cycle 7(June 2013) at 5w6d-CP**Loss 2-Cycle 11(October 2013) at 5w4d-CP**
**Loss 3-Cycle 14 (January-February 2014)-M/C dx 2/10, EP dx 2/24, MTX 2/25**
Beta Hell--hCG finally down to 0 - 6/20/14
SA normal. Genetic testing normal. Hormonal testing normal.
HSG 6/30/14 - found blocked left tube and 2 'bubbles' on uterine wall.
Hysteroscopy/Lap--8/4/14 - Tubes unblocked. Polyps removed from uterine wall. Septum removed.
9/30/14--Off the bench! Unmedicated TI through December 2014
BFP 12/14/14!!! Beta #1, 12/16: 990 Beta #2, 12/18: Over 2000! Beta #3, 12/22: over 8000!
U/S #1, 12/23: gestational sac, possible heartbeat
U/S #2, 12/30: HEARTBEAT! 128bpm, measuring right on at 7w EDD: 8/19/2015
U/S #3, 1/9: BPM in the 180s, IT'S HAPPENING!!!
I hate when people do this. If I'm just calling to chat, I DGAF. But if we said we were going to hang out Saturday, fucking answer the phone when I call you Friday. Otherwise, I'm making other plans. My H has a friend who does this all the time. It's so inconsiderate and drives me crazy.
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If they don't answer when you call Friday about your Saturday plans, it's probably because they are busy with their Friday plans... Why can't you just send a text quickly that says 'hey just wanted to confirm tomorrow'?
Me (29) DH (29)
Married 5+ years
Maybe. I think it could be that I feel like women have ownership of that word too and men have no business using it. It's like, for example, my dear friend who is gay who tosses around the other F word. I feel like that's fine for him but I'm super pissed when I hear other people use it. I don't know, I'm still working this out in my head. I'd like to stop saying bitch all the time like I'm freaking Jesse Pinkman, but I haven't found a replacement I like as much.
I feel the same way. Usually wait until is followed by some major life shake up. You have kids, you are out of college, you are 20 years older than you are now, etc. It's possible that my opinions won't have changed, but I've had enough times where my thoughts have changed that I'm open to the possibility.
That being said, I think some people use that phrase to pretend they know it all. And know better than you.
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I feel like any double standard in speech is more trouble than it's worth. I get that it's trendy, but to me - if I call a woman a bitch, it's because she is in fact a bitch. My dearest friends I call "lovely" or "beautiful" I even have a friend who refers to me as "babe". THESE are terms of endearment that are meant to be empowering - if we are not empowering those who are nearest and dearest to us then we need to re-think our outlook in friends. That and I think it's immature, we are not 15 years old getting away with curse words for the first time - we are adults, and calling one another a bitch just because we can makes us sound like we are in high-school. Don't get me wrong, I curse like a mother-fucking sailor, am I sorry? No. Do I think it's unlady-like? Eh - ok a bit. But if I am going to drop those words, you can bet your sweet ass they are going to be words that make me and mine sound like adults, not fucking teeny- boppers.