More than just a penis (maybe?)

Trampslikeus

We talk about ourselves quite a bit here, and we talk about our husbands - but mostly in reference to them knocking us up.  Also I think there are a few LGBT couples who are TTC as well?

But before you ended up here, you at some point looked at this person and felt confident that you wanted to reproduce with him or her, or raise a child together...

Why do you want to have a baby with this person?

(TL;DR - brag about the person you're married to/sleeping with a little bit)

kelley72

My dh has the biggest heart!  He is a loving, and kind man.  He loves/ed my older boys (his stepsons) and I knew his characteristics would make him an incredible father.  He also loves and respects me in ways my former h did not and I wanted to share the incredible journey of parenthood with him.  He has surpassed my expectations with our beautiful Levi!  And for vanity sake: He is tall, strong and has beautiful blue eyes, thought it would be really awesome to try to pass those physical traits on.

lizzyp9112

I love this thread idea .

My husband is a good balance to me- he is laid back, detail oriented, and consistent as the day is long.  His heart is gigantic, and seeing how much my nephews adore him shows me what a great dad he will be.  We had my younger nephews birthday a few weeks ago and while my brothers were standing back and watching my nephews play, my husband got in there and was playing catch and cheering the boys on.

We are also best friends, and our marriage has gotten so much stronger since almost 2 years ago when we said "I do."  We have been through a lot but I am positive having a baby and parenting a child together will continue to strengthen us.

EightyTwo

My husband is an awesome father. After growing up in a house of all boys, he has really loved having two daughters. He loves to take the girls outside to play sports, but he will also sit down and play Barbie with just as much enthusiasm.

He is a great husband as well. We knew each other growing up, and we really are best friends. There is no one else that I could imagine growing old with, and I feel very, very lucky to be married to him.

3houlagirl

My DH is a typical man's man; he knows how to operate power tools, can fix anything, and wants to take care of me, even though he knows I don't NEED him to. He regularly surprises me with truly thoughtful gifts and adventures.

He is SO excited at the prospect of being a dad, and I know he will be as thoughtful and loving with our kids as he is with me.

Plus he's sexy and knows how to rock my world between the sheets!

kelley72

Trampslikeuslizzyp9112 great topic idea!  I will probably read other's posts and want to add to what I originally stated.

rachelleck

My DH is wonderful. He his bright and funny and a blast to be around. He is such a sweetheart. He constantly makes me smile or laugh. He's so caring.

He is very interesting to watch ever since we had the talk about TTC. He's excited, but also very nervous. It's crazy to see his vulnerable side. I'm really looking forward to sharing this experience with him, and to see his reactions during this journey.

pippacricket

I grew up with an asshole father so I've always wanted to make sure I had children with someone who was going to love them unconditionally. DH is the kindest, most caring, and supportive person I've ever met. My children will be lucky to have him for a father.

Jags8

My DH is so funny! He is constantly making me laugh. He is so good with kids, my ovaries practically explode when I see him play with/hold our nieces and nephew. He balances me out, in that I'm the more serious one, and he is more happy-go-lucky. DH is such a romantic, and is so thoughtful. Oh and also I think he is super cute and I hope that if we have boys, they get his chin dimple!

ETA- He has wanted to be a dad since before we were even engaged. It's nice that he wants this. And also I'm really proud of his six years of service to our country, which included three deployments. Sometimes I miss seeing him go to work in uniform...damn that was sexy!!

holliberry28

@trampslikeus, great thread idea! Thanks for starting

I love my DH because he makes me laugh and doesn't take me too seriously.  I can be pretty neurotic and anxious, and he helps me laugh it off.  Also, I love how he refers to our cats as humans (i.e., Did Maggie call you today? You need to stop shopping, Lucy won't have enough money for her college fund).  

catlover790

My DH is so supportive and has always wanted me to be happy. He is kind, caring, and an all around great guy! We have a lot of trust together and he is always there for me! He is also very laid-back and hardly ever gets upset.

I can't wait to see him as a dad, I think he will be a great one!

JNCPro3130

This is a great idea for a thread!  Thanks for starting it!

My DH is the greatest man I have ever met.  He is really funny. He is one of the only people that can cheer me up when I am in a bad mood.  He is a cutie too!  He is no nonsense though, which is great!  When something is going on at work, I know I can talk to him and he'll tell me if I am over thinking something or how I can deal with it(working in a school with probably 97% women can be challenging).  My DH works hard and supports me.  I love him. 

Trampslikeus

I'll throw mine in too,  haha.

I know this will sound silly, but it hit me when I saw my husband with our cat. We rescued him, he was taken away from his mom too young. I thought I'd be the one babying this little guy, but I very distinctly remember walking in the door one day and seeing him cradling the kitten like a human baby, with a wash cloth on his lap, feeding him this nasty concoction of formula-watered-down wet kitten food from his finger tip. And waking up every 2-3 hours every night that first week to check on him. 

On top of that, he had never left the country when I met him, and yet he let me drag him all over Africa and just soaked it all in like a champ, even the showering with a bucket and pooping in a dirt hole parts.

He's a musician in a fairly successful band, and no matter how many times I've seen him, that feeling of pride watching him on stage, doing what he loves, with all sorts of girls squeeeing and making eyes at him NEVER gets old.

Trampslikeus

pippacricket said:

I grew up with an asshole father so I've always wanted to make sure I had children with someone who was going to love them unconditionally. DH is the kindest, most caring, and supportive person I've ever met. My children will be lucky to have him for a father.

So many women get trapped in the cycle of ending up with the same kind of man their father was because thats what they know.  You deserve kudos for overcoming that, its not easy.

pippacricket

Trampslikeus said:

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I know this will sound silly, but it hit me when I saw my husband with our cat.

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I know exactly what you mean! My DH dotes on our 2 cats and it's so heartwarming to see. 

KingLED

I stayed with him because I don't constantly feel like I'm smarter than him, which is a really big deal to me. Plus he's funny and can deal with taking care of me and all my health issues and hasn't left me yet. High expectations and all.

Our personalities just go well together. And we're a good balance for each other. When I first met him the idea of kissing him grossed me out. I was not even kind of physically attracted to him, I just enjoyed having deep conversation with him and that he wasn't abusive. He's grown on me. By the time we got married he was gorgeous. I don't know what was wrong with me back then.

Trampslikeus

icaughtfire

I did not originally plan on TTC with my H. We'd been together a few months (although we'd known each other for years) & were living together but had never even discussed marriage or anything. When I found out I was pregnant, I freaked out but he stayed calm and said we'd make it work. It was a struggle at times, but he was right -- we made it work. He's a great father & husband, truly my rock & better half in every way. We knew we wanted another child, and after DD I never had any question if he was the one I should be with, it was just a matter of getting there financially.

MamaBina

@trampslikeus My dad was a shit too. I wanted the exact opposite and I am so glad I got it.

My DH is hilarious. He is so calm and super supportive. He is absolutely my best friend. And I always thought having a kid with my best friend would be way more fun than with any of my boyfriends I ever had. Turns out, I get to do it! Hopefully

catwine

awesome thread!

When I was little I wanted kids but when I learned how they are born I decided against it.  When H and I started dating I told him I didn't want to birth any children but would rather adopt.  After a few months I realized I wanted kids and I wanted H to be their father.  He never gave up pursuing me before we had started dating (which was a big deal for me!), he is confident, comes from a good family (also important since my dad left), has a good work ethic, is patient and so much more!  I knew he would do everything to provide for his future family and that was attractive to me.

Plus, he has really nice eyes and a hot body;)

holliberry28

pippacricket said:

Trampslikeus said:

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I know this will sound silly, but it hit me when I saw my husband with our cat.

*snip*

I know exactly what you mean! My DH dotes on our 2 cats and it's so heartwarming to see. 

This.

jt305

This is such a great thread.  We are some lucky ladies!

My DH has such a huge heart--he will literally do anything for anyone.  He gets me and accepts my quirks and has shared his with me, which I know is a big deal because he has this whole "tough guy" act he portrays.   He protects me from getting hurt physically or emotionally.   We have only been married a short time, but I can already say we have grown so much as a couple.  I can't wait to look back in a few years and think, "and I thought I loved you then".   

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starree444

Oh this is not what I thought this thread would be about at all! Hahaha

I want to have a baby with my husband because he is just awesome. He is sweet and funny. He can have a short fuse sometimes, but really who doesn't? Also, he has the most beautiful blue eyes and long eyelashes. I hope SO HARD that our eventual child gets those from him. I also think he would be a great dad because all children (and animals for that matter) love him. They gravitate toward him. He's just great.

awesomenus1341

DH already had a son when we met, and honestly he wasn't that great of a dad. I told him straight up that I wanted kids and that I would not waste time with anyone who couldn't even take care of the child he already had. With a little encouragement and guidance, DH has become an incredible father to SS. I realized that it wasn't for lack of caring/wanting to be a dad, but that he didn't know where to start and constantly had someone telling him he couldn't and had no right to try.

DH is very present, always. He participates, he listens, he jumps in, and he loves unconditionally. He is incredibly handy and i love watching him teach SS to build things. He would do anything to put a smile on my face (and I've taken him pretty far out of his comfort zone). I love that he can be a perfectionist and researches everything. He puts his everything into caring for me, for SS, and for our dogs. I love parenting with him, and I can't wait to continue the journey of having one together.

DaikokuJess

H and I are opposite and the same in all the right ways.   We both love animals and are compassionate (to a flaw) with living things who are, for lack of a better word, helpless.  Also, being what some would call feminist was hard for many guys I dated in the past.  Not for H.  He has no hang-ups about cultural gender roles and I love that!  I do all the handy work, fixing, building, etc. and he's the master cleaner and head pet caretaker.  We are both most comfortable working with our strengths and don't give a shit when others make comments about him doing all the "girl work" and me doing all the "man work."  But, I'm a worrier and a busy bee.  I thrive on being busy and working constantly, but it can be a strain.  H is always there to remind me to take life easy sometimes and show me the value of taking a day now and then without a plan or agenda.  He's also very good at keeping me grounded while TTC.  I tend to feel like a failure when I can't accomplish something and have had irrational moments where I transferred those feelings to the realm of TTC.  He is great at bringing me back to earth and reminding me that I'm not a failure. 
All of these amazing qualities make me believe that he will be a GREAT father and I can't wait to be able to see him in action.

VeggieFan

My DH is the perfect man for me. He is smart, funny, fun, sexy, and an all around great guy and life partner! He really knows how to be there for me, and is always my biggest fan. As long as I have known him he has always been really caring about his family and friends, which is really great to see because not a lot of my ex boyfriends were like that. I love spending my life with him!

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kmaty13

Trampslikeus said:

I'll throw mine in too,  haha.

I know this will sound silly, but it hit me when I saw my husband with our cat. We rescued him, he was taken away from his mom too young. I thought I'd be the one babying this little guy, but I very distinctly remember walking in the door one day and seeing him cradling the kitten like a human baby, with a wash cloth on his lap, feeding him this nasty concoction of formula-watered-down wet kitten food from his finger tip. And waking up every 2-3 hours every night that first week to check on him. 

On top of that, he had never left the country when I met him, and yet he let me drag him all over Africa and just soaked it all in like a champ, even the showering with a bucket and pooping in a dirt hole parts.

He's a musician in a fairly successful band, and no matter how many times I've seen him, that feeling of pride watching him on stage, doing what he loves, with all sorts of girls squeeeing and making eyes at him NEVER gets old.

I was going to say the same thing about our dog! (Can't bold because im mobile) She is his baby and it's so cute seeing H with her. He's pretty laid back about the whole TTC process but I know if/when we actually have a baby he will be amazing with him/her. He's also very handy and always talks about how much he wants to build our kids a treehouse! I see him with our niece and nephew too and he's so great with them. He's also hot so we'd have some good looking kids! ;-)

FitMom3510

My H is amazing! He is the most calm, loving, supportive, patient, encouraging person I know. He has the most genuine heart and is always there when I need him. He puts up with my all kinds of crazy and he loves me despite all the crap I put him through haha. He is so unselfish and I couldn't ask for a better partner. I think he will be an amazing father and so patient and I can't wait to see him holding our baby one day.

divinemsbee

H is just lovely. On a really fundamental level we 'get' each other. He's so incredibly smart, but not an asshole about it, he works in a really 'manly man' masculine field (military) but he's not hung up on trying to prove his manhood. He's a feminist. He's drop dead funny, not just in an obvious to everyone way, but he has a way of making me in particular  crack up (he's willing to goof with me, and we still sing 'wiener wiener to the GOT opening song). He spoils me and is always completely present, which is something I've never gotten from anyone else before.

He's also oh so handsome and so completely kind. And from the moment we laid eyes on each other the chemistry has been palpable. 

Ladymouse

Gorgeous, intelligent, funny, incredibly kind, generous, unabashedly nerdy, loving, great with kids, hard-working, ambitious but not at the expense of his family, healthy, smart with money...  Just about the perfect man.  His weaknesses are my strengths and vice versa (physically and functionally.) 

createmagic14

My H is mostly my complete opposite--He is organized, neat, structured.  Completely the opposite of my ADHD chaos.  We balance each other out perfectly.  He grounds me, keeps me focused when needed, and calms me.  I bring spontaneity and energy to the relationship.  He tends to be more of a realist/pessimist, and I am an eternal optimist.  He loves deeply, with his whole heart, and is willing to do anything for me.  He's also incredibly forgiving, which I've witnessed towards his parents--they were largely neglectful and absent alcohol/drug addicts throughout his life, and yet now that they've pulled themselves together, he's worked hard to build a positive relationship with them.  I admire him for that.

As far as being a dad goes, I've seen the way he interacts with his step-niece, and my niece and nephew (I suppose "our niece and nephew" now!) and it's amazing.  S much love and patience.  And the way he spoils our dog, who now had his own, personal kiddie pool in the backyard, which is emptied and refilled with clean water each week...yeah.  I can't wait to see him with our children!

BillyHorrible

I actually didn't want to originally have children with DH.  I never expected the relationship to last, I just thought it would be fun, he was hot, and the kind of guy I would always be friends with, no matter what happened with the relationship. 

Eventually I got to the stage where I could see us having a future together, sitting on the front porch in rocking chairs when we're old and grey.  Even then, I wasn't sure about how he would be as a father, since he's a little on the selfish side.  So I worked on that for years. 

He wanted kids, but I knew he wasn't ready and basically told him as much.  I said until he was ready to give up doing things he wanted to do, and put someone else's needs first, we couldn't have a kid.  I wasn't willing to do it all on my own or have constant fights about what needed to be done.  He's come a long way since when we first started dating.

hullabalou

I didn't want kids when I met my husband. The first time I saw him with his nephews, I did. He is so amazing with kids. He is patient, funny, and kind. He has been through a lot in his life and seeing what he has overcome encourages me so much. I am just so in love with the man!

DawnLilly

He's uncircumcised and I like it. He's also a very hard worker, my best friend, and an amazing dad. He brought up TTC again before I did. He hasn't said it out loud but I know he really wants a girl.

Remylove1011

I first met my DH about 2 years before we started dating. I met him through my older brother as they were in the same fraternity pledge class. If you would have told me then this was the guy I was going to marry I would have laughed at you. Although I've always been attracted to him my first impression was that he was a macho ass. I eventually gave it a chance because our chemistry was amazing!

 Little did I know that almost 5 years to the day after our first date he'd be crying as I walked down the aisle towards him (if you ask him this he will deny crying but all his groomsmen still give him shit!). He's funny and caring and all the things I need. Keeps me grounded as I have a tendency to get a little overwhelmed and anxious. 

He was recently in a serious accident (on the road to recovery now with no lasting damage) and it renewed all the things I fell in love with. The possibility of being without him was mind boggling and everyday I'm just so thankful to have the privilege of being his wife. 

spiltmilkz

My h is the most incredible man on this earth. He is smart, hardworking, humble and my best friend. We were friends for a couple years before we realized what we had in eachother. I am so blessed that I get to spend my days and nights with him.

He has been so supportive and loving through our recent miscarriage roller coaster. At one point he lay his head on my stomach and began saying, "ok little one if you're in there, you can make it." I balled like a baby. I can't wait to see him become a father.

I couldn't imagine doing life with anyone else.

Ladymouse

@starree444 - if you hadn't said blue eyes, I'd ask if my husband had a second wife I didn't know about.  He's got those long eyelashes, and so does our son.  It gives our gray-eyed boy such an intense look.  Gorgeous little guy!

starree444

Ladymouse said:

@starree444 - if you hadn't said blue eyes, I'd ask if my husband had a second wife I didn't know about.  He's got those long eyelashes, and so does our son.  It gives our gray-eyed boy such an intense look.  Gorgeous little guy!

Sounds adorable! I can only hope the same for us.