UO - have we given up?

MarisaKathleen

MississippiCatfish said:

Enfamil is now on my eye-roll list. I was reading the article they sent me about "after baby comes" and it says you should only eat ice chips for 24 hours after giving birth. Hahahaha. Now THAT is an unpopular opinion in my book. Seriously, I was shoveling carbs and protein within the hour both times. https://www.enfamil.com/articles-and-videos/mom-wellness/planning/recovering-from-childbirth?cm_mmc=eEFB-_-routine-_-postnatal-_-main

I was induced at around 8pm and had Nancy the next day at 4pm.  I remember eating dinner in the delivery room around an hour after delivery.  Similarly, I didn't lose 10lbs when I had her.  I actually weighed more when I left the hospital than when I got there because of all the fluids. :-(  

F You Enfamil.

BPer

loislayn said:

BPer said:

I'm glad Juicy Couture is finally done. Seriously, with the velour.

I refuse to put my kids in anything terry cloth because it reminds me of velour and gives me nightmares.

My roommate in college wore juicy couture ALL THE TIME...and she was like 31 at the time. It seemed so desperate.

tinyhumantoe

Wait, you had a 31yo college roomie?  Must know more...

MommaP12

tinyhumantoe said:

MississippiCatfish said:

Enfamil is now on my eye-roll list. I was reading the article they sent me about "after baby comes" and it says you should only eat ice chips for 24 hours after giving birth. Hahahaha. Now THAT is an unpopular opinion in my book. Seriously, I was shoveling carbs and protein within the hour both times. https://www.enfamil.com/articles-and-videos/mom-wellness/planning/recovering-from-childbirth?cm_mmc=eEFB-_-routine-_-postnatal-_-main

WHAT?  I had a cheeseburger 30 min after, haha.

After DS, I had a Wendy's #1 Biggie.

After DD, I had 2 hotdogs with fries.

EFFFFF ICE CHIPS.

MommaP12

tinyhumantoe said:

Wait, you had a 31yo college roomie?  Must know more...

yes, splain this pleez.

MarisaKathleen

Elizabeth Hasselbeck talking about Rosie O'Donnell was the highlight of my morning radio drive to work because it was completely wacky.  Seriously, that woman is like a yippy chihuahua in need of a sedative.  I listen to her freak out about something and immediately feel better about myself because she gets so worked up over EVERYTHING.

I will never understand why anyone watches "The View" or considers it a "news" show.  

MommaP12

MarisaKathleen said:

Elizabeth Hasselbeck talking about Rosie O'Donnell was the highlight of my morning radio drive to work because it was completely wacky.  Seriously, that woman is like a yippy chihuahua in need of a sedative.  I listen to her freak out about something and immediately feel better about myself because she gets so worked up over EVERYTHING.

I will never understand why anyone watches "The View" or considers it a "news" show.  

And apparently The View can't keep a cast if it's life depended on it.  How is it still on the air?!

hmp1

MississippiCatfish said:

While DH is on paternity leave, I'm mainly on newborn duty and he's on toddler patrol. He waaaaaaaaaay drew the short stick. Feeling a little guilty, even. (But I'm relishing not handling the bedtime meltdowns half the time right now.) ETA UO is that newborns can be way easier than almost 2 year olds!

This is why I sent James to daycare while I was on ML. Holding a 10lb sleeping baby is bliss compared to chasing a toddler. But I will take STTN and chasing during the day over the newborn crappy nights.

hmp1

tinyhumantoe said:

loislayn said:

I'm becoming a lot less opinionated. Or I don't care enough to follow through with the argument. It's a weird place.

I feel the same way, but I'm describing it as tired.  I just feel tired of it, and am tired to argue it. 

It just not fun without the more conservative types playing and we are kind of past most the hot button baby raising issues unless someone wants to confess to spanking their one year old?? 

Flamingemu

hmp1 said:

tinyhumantoe said:

loislayn said:

I'm becoming a lot less opinionated. Or I don't care enough to follow through with the argument. It's a weird place.

I feel the same way, but I'm describing it as tired.  I just feel tired of it, and am tired to argue it. 

It just not fun without the more conservative types playing and we are kind of past most the hot button baby raising issues unless someone wants to confess to spanking their one year old?? 

I really want to sometimes. BUT, I know it won't accomplish anything. 

hmp1

Flamingemu said:

hmp1 said:

tinyhumantoe said:

loislayn said:

I'm becoming a lot less opinionated. Or I don't care enough to follow through with the argument. It's a weird place.

I feel the same way, but I'm describing it as tired.  I just feel tired of it, and am tired to argue it. 

It just not fun without the more conservative types playing and we are kind of past most the hot button baby raising issues unless someone wants to confess to spanking their one year old?? 

I really want to sometimes. BUT, I know it won't accomplish anything. 

I'm not out to change anyone's mind. If that happens, awesome. But I'm just in it for the entertainment of chatting. I certainly don't get worked up about it though so it is easy for me to tune out if someone starts name calling.

** I'm talking about on here. I don't participate on FB because most of my friends avoid those topics on FB and I don't feel the need to be the one to bring it there. 

BPer

tinyhumantoe said:

Wait, you had a 31yo college roomie?  Must know more...

Oh, I was the one in college. We knew each other from working at Starbucks when I was like 18. She worked at her dad's Verizon store, when she actually managed to pull herself together following a night of booze and coke. It was an interesting time in my life.

BPer

I was hoping for a good ol fashioned net battle yesterday when a girl I went to HS with, posted a photo of her car's speedometer, exceeding 100mph, with the caption "Headed to the beach!", and 30 minutes later posted a photo of "Family beach time" with her H, their 3yo and 3 month old. Yeah, she or her H was driving 100mph with their kids in the car, and surprisingly, I was the only person to say anything about it.

Pokedot

Flamingemu said:

I don't like the look of eye liner on the bottom lid. 

I'm only to here. I like the liner on the bottom but if it's on bottom it must be on the top too. I'm sorry but anyone who wears liner on the bottom it doesn't look good.

My other UO I guess. If you are behind me in the carwash do you think you could wait until I'm almost done drying my car to pull forward and then get it wet again? I get so irrationally pissed when people do that.

tinyhumantoe

Network marketing needs to die.

watercolor5

tinyhumantoe said:

So the purple velour leisure suit great grandma bought W is out of style? 

Because it had furry cuffs on the sleeves, legs, and neck.  Think Santa outfit, but all purple.  With embroidered flowers.










jeeeesus.

AH! Grammy bought Julia the same. exact. outfit.  Hideous, but I totally put her in it.  Can't turn away free baby clothes!

Pokedot

Not a UO but my mom just called and found a tick on DS. It was between his toes. I thought I checked him over great before we left the cottage last night. Guess I was wrong. The damn thing must have slept with him all night. I can't stop itching. Those things are SICK!

hmp1

origamipoppy said:

UO: I totally turned away free baby clothes if they weren't my style. Not to the givers face per se, but we got a lot of fug stuff that he just never got to wear before he grew out of it...yeah that's it. I'm not terribly stylish but I want my kid to look how I want him to look until he's old enough to say "lay off me, mom."

Yep, they go straight in the donation box. The only exception is/was the Crocs. I hate them but I didn't want to buy a pair of shoes for once a week water day at daycare. So James wore them last summer for a couple hours once a week and Leo just out grew his cute water shoes so he is wearing the crocs for water day now.

Pokedot

origamipoppy said:

UO: I totally turned away free baby clothes if they weren't my style. Not to the givers face per se, but we got a lot of fug stuff that he just never got to wear before he grew out of it...yeah that's it. I'm not terribly stylish but I want my kid to look how I want him to look until he's old enough to say "lay off me, mom."

My brother's g/f gives us stuff all the time that her son has outgrown. Most of it is really worn or NMS. I've donated a huge portion to Goodwill.

kdsmith43

I have a friend that tells me I shop way too much, and in turn begs me for hand-me-downs. I don't give them to her because I would rather consign them, and if you are looking for a handout then quit telling me I have a shopping problem!

MarisaKathleen

I can't stand my FIL.  He's a dick.  He's seen Nancy 15 or so times since she's been alive.  I always take the "it is what it is" attitude with him to try and calm my DH down when he's acting particularly douchy.  Today I'm over it.

FIL emailed me with "When are you due?"  I responded with "9/1, but due to my blood thinner habit, they're inducing in wk 39.  hoping for 8/28 due to work, but nothing confirmed yet."

SIL is having my nieces' birthday parties on 8/16.  FIL responds with "Well that doesn't make it easy for me to travel since I have to be here for M & V's birthdays...."

F-You Man.  Big Time.  Please, don't come to the hospital and sit there for hours on end this time if it's going to be inconvenient for your life.  Last year the same thing happened...he came home for SIL to have niece on 8/21 and left on 8/31, the DAY BEFORE Nancy's birthday party, which he knew about in July.  I just can't understand the blatant favoritism.  It's so messed up to me.

Mother's of more than 1--please, please, please reassure me that you don't love one kid more than the other.  

This is not a UO, but there's no random bitch thread.

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kdsmith43

This might be a UO, but maybe more of an FFFC. My husband is a horrible gift giver. He did remember my birthday, after he found out what day it was. He bought me a pair of $200 Costa sunglasses that are seriously NMS.

melody921

I know I'm becoming the overbearing grammar/spelling/punctuation police in life, and am starting to sound like someone's crotchety grandma. But for heaven's sake, is it that hard to construct a Facebook post that doesn't make other people's eyes hurt? Today's gem:

"so i get told im anoyying my ex cuz wen i call to vid chat wit my son im on there for an houre or so srry me wanting to see my son is bothering u"

hmp1

MarisaKathleen said:

I can't stand my FIL.  He's a dick.  He's seen Nancy 15 or so times since she's been alive.  I always take the "it is what it is" attitude with him to try and calm my DH down when he's acting particularly douchy.  Today I'm over it.

FIL emailed me with "When are you due?"  I responded with "9/1, but due to my blood thinner habit, they're inducing in wk 39.  hoping for 8/28 due to work, but nothing confirmed yet."

SIL is having my nieces' birthday parties on 8/16.  FIL responds with "Well that doesn't make it easy for me to travel since I have to be here for M & V's birthdays...."

F-You Man.  Big Time.  Please, don't come to the hospital and sit there for hours on end this time if it's going to be inconvenient for your life.  Last year the same thing happened...he came home for SIL to have niece on 8/21 and left on 8/31, the DAY BEFORE Nancy's birthday party, which he knew about in July.  I just can't understand the blatant favoritism.  It's so messed up to me.

Mother's of more than 1--please, please, please reassure me that you don't love one kid more than the other.  

This is not a UO, but there's no random bitch thread.

I love them the same. I like one more than the other most days but that switches back and forth

Does he live out of state? My FIL lives in Chicago and has seen James less than 15 times. I think he has seen Leo 4 times. We also scattered people coming to meet the new baby. Leo was a month or so when FIL came. I prefer it that way. We actually told people not to come right around the birth except my parents who were keeping James while I delivered.

MarisaKathleen

hmp1 said:

MarisaKathleen said:

I love them the same. I like one more than the other most days but that switches back and forth

Does he live out of state? My FIL lives in Chicago and has seen James less than 15 times. I think he has seen Leo 4 times. We also scattered people coming to meet the new baby. Leo was a month or so when FIL came. I prefer it that way. We actually told people not to come right around the birth except my parents who were keeping James while I delivered.

Yea, he lives here and Florida pretty much 50/50.  He has condos in both places and is moving home (again) August 1st.  The difference with my FIL is that the weeks that he's here, he spends more than 1/2 of it with my SIL and her kids.  I know my SIL really enables him, so I'm sure that's part of it, but it really bothers my DH. 

He thinks we live "really far" away from him.  It's 20 minutes on the freeway from his door to ours. 

Also, I'd rather have everyone come see the baby in the hospital...by the time we get home and try and settle into new life, the last thing I want is people sitting over for hours at a time, which is exactly what happened last time.  It was exhausting.

melody921

BPer said:

I'm glad Juicy Couture is finally done. Seriously, with the velour.

But who doesn't want "JUICY" emblazoned across her ass?

tinyhumantoe

MarisaKathleen said:

Also, I'd rather have everyone come see the baby in the hospital...by the time we get home and try and settle into new life, the last thing I want is people sitting over for hours at a time, which is exactly what happened last time.  It was exhausting.

Yah, homie can't play that this time.  That was the darkest time of my life.  I can't even count on my fingers and toes how many different sets of visitors we had the first three weeks. 

I didn't have one day without someone parking their fucking ass on my sofa.  I mean, my dad's second cousin who I see once every 3-5 years parked in my living room for over 2 hours, and just as he finally left, my friend (now estranged) came by unannounced with her two kids and husband right up until dinner time.  They had already been to see W two times, so yah, why are you here?  DH let every woman he works with come here, too.  I almost murdered him.  I would beg every day for him to stop letting people come over.  I can't breathe thinking about it.  I was in a really bad place back then. 

melody921

MississippiCatfish said:

Enfamil is now on my eye-roll list. I was reading the article they sent me about "after baby comes" and it says you should only eat ice chips for 24 hours after giving birth. Hahahaha. Now THAT is an unpopular opinion in my book. Seriously, I was shoveling carbs and protein within the hour both times. https://www.enfamil.com/articles-and-videos/mom-wellness/planning/recovering-from-childbirth?cm_mmc=eEFB-_-routine-_-postnatal-_-main

That's ridiculous. I ate within a few hours both times.

melody921

BPer said:

I was hoping for a good ol fashioned net battle yesterday when a girl I went to HS with, posted a photo of her car's speedometer, exceeding 100mph, with the caption "Headed to the beach!", and 30 minutes later posted a photo of "Family beach time" with her H, their 3yo and 3 month old. Yeah, she or her H was driving 100mph with their kids in the car, and surprisingly, I was the only person to say anything about it.

I hope to God the driver didn't snap the picture.

kelbel527

hmp1 said:

MarisaKathleen said:

I can't stand my FIL.  He's a dick.  He's seen Nancy 15 or so times since she's been alive.  I always take the "it is what it is" attitude with him to try and calm my DH down when he's acting particularly douchy.  Today I'm over it.

FIL emailed me with "When are you due?"  I responded with "9/1, but due to my blood thinner habit, they're inducing in wk 39.  hoping for 8/28 due to work, but nothing confirmed yet."

SIL is having my nieces' birthday parties on 8/16.  FIL responds with "Well that doesn't make it easy for me to travel since I have to be here for M & V's birthdays...."

F-You Man.  Big Time.  Please, don't come to the hospital and sit there for hours on end this time if it's going to be inconvenient for your life.  Last year the same thing happened...he came home for SIL to have niece on 8/21 and left on 8/31, the DAY BEFORE Nancy's birthday party, which he knew about in July.  I just can't understand the blatant favoritism.  It's so messed up to me.

Mother's of more than 1--please, please, please reassure me that you don't love one kid more than the other.  

This is not a UO, but there's no random bitch thread.

I love them the same. I like one more than the other most days but that switches back and forth

Ha! I was just replying to say this exact same thing.  Love both my boys equally, but somedays there is a clear winner.  Somedays they're equally adorable or equally frustrating.  

ETA: @Marissakathleen - while I don't favor one kid or the other.  I have definitely seen grandparents do that.  On both sides of our families.  It's very frustrating.

tinyhumantoe

So wrong place, but whatever.  My sister got divorced a year ago after less than a year of marriage.  She has (eta: seriously) dated 4 guys since.  She found the next while dating the previous, every time.  It's what she's always done. 

Numbers 1 & 2 half way moved in with her, because she was 'wildly in love' with them.  She was talking marriage and kids with #3, and the weekend before he was supposed to move in with her (i.e. his shit was in a uhaul), she dumped him.  The day she dumped him, she had boyfriend #4 staying the night in her bed.  ::shudder:: 

That was a month ago.  #4 just legit moved in with her and she's asking my parents if they will pay for her second wedding.  "He's the one."  She says this every time, I am not fucking kidding. 

Anyway, I think she is GROSS.  I feel so bad that I feel that way.  She needs to close her fucking legs and give her genitalia a rest.  My mom is so far up her ass and just enables her.  The girl has had thousands of guilt dollars handed to her.  She's just a piece of shit. 

Holly_1007

I got into a net battle the other day over this article. The mom that posted it had a 32 weeker and was on bedrest for weeks before. It wasn't pretty..... https://www.accesshollywood.com/kourtney-kardashian-feeling-good-hoping-for-bed-rest-with-third-pregnancy_article_96306

melody921

MarisaKathleen said:

hmp1 said:

MarisaKathleen said:

I love them the same. I like one more than the other most days but that switches back and forth

Does he live out of state? My FIL lives in Chicago and has seen James less than 15 times. I think he has seen Leo 4 times. We also scattered people coming to meet the new baby. Leo was a month or so when FIL came. I prefer it that way. We actually told people not to come right around the birth except my parents who were keeping James while I delivered.

Yea, he lives here and Florida pretty much 50/50.  He has condos in both places and is moving home (again) August 1st.  The difference with my FIL is that the weeks that he's here, he spends more than 1/2 of it with my SIL and her kids.  I know my SIL really enables him, so I'm sure that's part of it, but it really bothers my DH. 

He thinks we live "really far" away from him.  It's 20 minutes on the freeway from his door to ours. 

Also, I'd rather have everyone come see the baby in the hospital...by the time we get home and try and settle into new life, the last thing I want is people sitting over for hours at a time, which is exactly what happened last time.  It was exhausting.

Totally agree. After DS there were times I was so overwhelmed bc relatives would "stop by" and stay three hours. It was exhausting.

tinyhumantoe

mnkate said:

If you're going to "let" your bridesmaids choose their own dress, then you should select a color that is easy to find dress options. Purple is just not easy, and when you put in the extra stipulation of "but not too lilac-y", then you should be a little more lenient with approving what each lady finds.

Ugh, my sister did this. 
X(

melody921

mnkate said:

If you're going to "let" your bridesmaids choose their own dress, then you should select a color that is easy to find dress options. Purple is just not easy, and when you put in the extra stipulation of "but not too lilac-y", then you should be a little more lenient with approving what each lady finds.

Yeah, talk about making it even harder than if the bride had just chosen the damn dress. That said, SIL had purple BM gowns, and they were really pretty. They were from a bridal shop though, and all the same style.

hmp1

melody921 said:

MarisaKathleen said:

hmp1 said:

MarisaKathleen said:

I love them the same. I like one more than the other most days but that switches back and forth

Does he live out of state? My FIL lives in Chicago and has seen James less than 15 times. I think he has seen Leo 4 times. We also scattered people coming to meet the new baby. Leo was a month or so when FIL came. I prefer it that way. We actually told people not to come right around the birth except my parents who were keeping James while I delivered.

Yea, he lives here and Florida pretty much 50/50.  He has condos in both places and is moving home (again) August 1st.  The difference with my FIL is that the weeks that he's here, he spends more than 1/2 of it with my SIL and her kids.  I know my SIL really enables him, so I'm sure that's part of it, but it really bothers my DH. 

He thinks we live "really far" away from him.  It's 20 minutes on the freeway from his door to ours. 

Also, I'd rather have everyone come see the baby in the hospital...by the time we get home and try and settle into new life, the last thing I want is people sitting over for hours at a time, which is exactly what happened last time.  It was exhausting.

Totally agree. After DS there were times I was so overwhelmed bc relatives would "stop by" and stay three hours. It was exhausting.

We didn't have any relatives stop by with Leo, they stayed with us. They mostly did everything for me, so I enjoyed it. When FIL came, just for the weekend, I napped a lot while they handled the kids; glorious. When I had James, we had a full schedule of visitors in the hospital so I got no naps. I hated it and only had James visit (with my parents) when I delivered Leo. It was so peaceful.

AKB090609

MississippiCatfish said:

While DH is on paternity leave, I'm mainly on newborn duty and he's on toddler patrol. He waaaaaaaaaay drew the short stick. Feeling a little guilty, even. (But I'm relishing not handling the bedtime meltdowns half the time right now.) ETA UO is that newborns can be way easier than almost 2 year olds!

This is as far as I've gotten.

I agree. I will add that at this point I see no difference between having one kid and the flu and having two kids. I'm tired and achy, but life hasn't gotten much harder YET.

tinyhumantoe

I think I get extremely irritable while pregnant. I feel the ugly troll emerging again    I am just so bothered and negative.  Is it the hormones?

MRoxy0628

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tinyhumantoe said:

So wrong place, but whatever.  My sister got divorced a year ago after less than a year of marriage.  She has (eta: seriously) dated 4 guys since.  She found the next while dating the previous, every time.  It's what she's always done. 

Numbers 1 & 2 half way moved in with her, because she was 'wildly in love' with them.  She was talking marriage and kids with #3, and the weekend before he was supposed to move in with her (i.e. his shit was in a uhaul), she dumped him.  The day she dumped him, she had boyfriend #4 staying the night in her bed.  ::shudder:: 

That was a month ago.  #4 just legit moved in with her and she's asking my parents if they will pay for her second wedding.  "He's the one."  She says this every time, I am not fucking kidding. 

Anyway, I think she is GROSS.  I feel so bad that I feel that way.  She needs to close her fucking legs and give her genitalia a rest.  My mom is so far up her ass and just enables her.  The girl has had thousands of guilt dollars handed to her.  She's just a piece of shit. 

It sounds like she needs some therapy in addition to some tough love.