Recommend Books on Discipline Please

kellyrn9956

I am looking for the best book to read on a gentle discipline method. I have seen a few, but interested to see which methods worked best for you, and which books or other references were good to read. We're into toddlerhood now, and I have no idea what to do with this little creature that is testing his and everyone else's limits. :-/

May be obvious since I am posting on this board, but no spanking, and no methods where failure to respond to the child is used. 

TIA!!!

vvvvvfee

i'd start with:
peaceful parent, happy kids, dr. laura markham (her website, aha! parenting, also has tons of free resources. here's the section on toddler discipline: https://www.ahaparenting.com/ages-stages/toddlers/discipline-managing-toddler)

it's a little hokey, but i like some of the techniques in the happiest toddler on the block, by dr. harvey karp (here's an overview: https://abcnews.go.com/GMA/AmericanFamily/story?id=127989&page=1&singlePage=true)

also:
unconditional parenting, by alfie kohn
playful parenting, by lawrence j. cohen

i think your LO is at a tough age, though- they're into absolutely everything, have no concept of fear, and can't communicate very well. have you looked into baby sign language? some people find that helpful for bridging the communication gap before kids can talk very well. in my experience, once we got to 18 months, things got a little easier because DS's language really took off. he was also able to understand waiting/delayed gratification a little more, and seemed to get that certain things were dangerous.

kellyrn9956

Thanks so much @vvvvvfee! It is a really tough age. He knows about 10 words in ASL, and he's getting more words verbally, but man does he have a hard time communicating what he wants! He knows signs for more, please, all done, etc., but he's regressed somewhat with them lately, and just whines when he wants something

I will look into these books. Thanks! 

vvvvvfee

sure! also, if you use facebook, it's great to follow some positive parenting pages. then you get lots of great info everyday and you don't have to do any work looking for it.

these are my favorites:
Andrea Nair (she is really great- here is her blog, too: https://www.andreanair.com/parenting-blog/ plus a good overview on parenting toddlers: https://www.yummymummyclub.ca/blogs/andrea-nair-connect-four-parenting/20140625/how-to-reduce-the-stress-of-parenting-a-toddler)
Hand in Hand Parenting
Positive Parenting Connection
Aha! Parenting

try "toddlerese" from the dr. karp link above. that has worked well for us when DS is frustrated. also giving choices as much as possible ("do you want the red cup or the blue cup?), and announcing transitions/what we will do next ("we'll read this book, and then we have to brush your teeth")- both help reduce frustration. the playful parenting book techniques are also good for getting compliance when they're resistant ("let's race to the bathtub!" "let's jump up the steps together!").

hang in there! it will get easier.

heatherwhite1984

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