Well, let's have a random thread instead.

Lanatir

Edit-- This thread can be whatever you feel like posting that maybe doesn't need its own post, but isn't necessarily a WTF.

Lanatir

@Rochelle2012 and I were apparently like minded at the same time (both threads posted at 9:41 lol).

So use hers.

Random thread to post whatever now!

MoreThanSparrows08

I just glanced at my clock and I am dumbfounded that it's only 9 am here (central time)!!! How has only 1 hour passed at work??? UGH this will be the longest day ever!!! (One of many during this pregnancy, I'm sure...)

peggels24

Can I whine here in this random thread?  I am so exhausted and headachy and my stomach is a mess - ugh - I hope this gets better soon!

Lanatir

@peggels24-- yup.  Anything you want.

I hope you get better soon!

Lanatir

@MoreThanSparrows08-- Time passing slowly while pregnant is the worst.  I hope somehow the time passes quicker.

MusicFanatic

peggels24 said:

Can I whine here in this random thread?  I am so exhausted and headachy and my stomach is a mess - ugh - I hope this gets better soon!

Aw, I hope you feel better soon!

Lanatir

For the randomz.

kayham12

I'm going to complain on here too. I have been asking since we got married for a king size bed. H likes to be right next to me which is great when we first go to bed. I love a good snuggle. I do like my own space when we are actually sleeping though. I'm a very light sleeper and any time he touches me I wake up. We argued about it again last night. He says we can't afford it, which isn't true. I'm glad he's frugal but I'm going to get bigger and have less room.

peggels24

Speaking of pillows - DH gets very jealous when I use an extra pillow to cuddle with.  

YaMrWhite

peggels24 said:

Can I whine here in this random thread?  I am so exhausted and headachy and my stomach is a mess - ugh - I hope this gets better soon!

@peggels you need to change your "fave tv dad" sig

Maebb

DH came down with something flu-like yesterday (all over body aching and fever), and I felt kind of sick this morning, but I don't know if it's normal pregnancy stuff or that. Ugh! I hope I don't get sick!

I have a blood test and ultrasound today, and I'm nervous! Also I wanted grits, but things got busy at work, and I didn't make it down to the cafeteria in time. Pizza for lunch though because it's provided at a work meeting - woohoo.

MoreThanSparrows08

@RobertJane33 I love Zofran, too!!!  :x

UberBiz

peggels24 said:

Speaking of pillows - DH gets very jealous when I use an extra pillow to cuddle with.  

Also speaking of pillows, It doesn't matter which one I use, it is apparently way more comfy than FI's pillow. I get up to pee and come back and he is on my pillow on my side. every.single.time.

Lanatir

Not really a WTF, but I went outside just a little bit ago to pull up the green bean plants, as it should be too hot in the season for them and a few plants are yellowing from either heat or blight...  Instead, I found enough beans (and also tons more flowers on the plants) that now I will have to blanch some beans today.

Totally weird, but I'll take more "free" food (at this point, our investment in seeds and the water has been more than paid for).

longcat07

1.  i my doppler.  i've had a mild-ish tummy bug the last couple days, but i've never so much as had a cold while pregnant, and the doppler has saved my sanity.

2. it's 10 after 11 now and i've totally pissed away the morning doing nothing.  now i don't have the time to shower before DS will be coming home from summer preschool on the bus.  lol.  i seem to do that a lot during mornings when DS is at preschool.

3.  i'm at a loss for what to make for dinner.


those are my randoms.

Lanatir

@longcat07-- the REAL way I know I'm pregnant-- I have no ideas or motivation to make an evening meal.  hahahaha.

Lanatir

Also, I just now got around to reading my friend's birth story.  She was due in July...  Had her son early in their car on the way to the hospital!  I'm semi afraid of this happening.

I feel like this would totally be a rude comment, but I'm DYING to ask how you clean up a car after that...

longcat07

@sassquatch - i remember the days of sharing a twin bed with LH...way back in college.  we got a queen bed shortly after moving in together and now full beds feel too small.  i don't know how you do it, with a dog no less.

MusicFanatic

Since this is a random thread...

Would any of you ever move to a different country for a good job offer your SO got?

(pretend in your scenario that your H is already a citizen of this country, btw).

I know, too hard to answer and 50 million cons and pros and open ended question.

Sighhhhhh.

Lanatir

@MusicFanatic-- Yes.  Although I told DH he had to turn down the offer to go work for 2 years in Kuwait 3 years ago (Edit, it might have been 4 years ago now, because I don't think it was the same year as getting my BFP with DD).  I'm sorry, but hazard pay not too far from an active war zone wasn't worth it to me (Kuwait shares a border with Iraq).  If it's not a hot spot for military action, I wouldn't mind.

He actually is working on cover letters right now and a few of the companies I know he wants to apply to have offices in places like Japan and I thought maybe one European office, but I forget where.  I'd NEVER turn down an offer to go back to Japan.  

MoreThanSparrows08

sassquatch said:

@kayham12‌ So... want to hear something funny? DH had a "supertwin" water bed when I moved in with him. We were both much smaller 10 years ago. We still have that bed (but with a real mattress in it, because formerly pregnant me kept getting stuck in the water bed if he got up before me), and we still sleep in that bed because we just haven't bothered to upgrade it. We outgrew that bed YEARS ago, we have no room. I often get shafted and end up with about 8 inches of space, and DH makes sure the dog (a 30lb lab mutt) has plenty of room to stretch out, while he sleeps dead center of the bed.

DH and I had a king sized water bed when we first got married.  We got rid of it when I was 8 months pregnant with my 1st - it was a PITA to get out of that bed whether DH got up before me or not! I was so happy to have it GONE! But, we downgraded to a FULL!!! OMG that was tough! Many nights I'd end up with baby sleeping next to me and DH just had to deal with having less space than usual.  Granted, we were both much smaller 8 years ago (WOW, can't believe it's been that long since my first!) but still, it pretty much sucked.  Eventually we upgraded to a California King, which we kept up until late last year, and now we have a regular king.  Sleeping in anything smaller is weird for us.  We like sleeping on our own sides of the bed and not having to touch each other in the middle of the night

Lanatir

HAhahahahaha @LilacCourt.  Yes, we all want Sweden's maternity and paternity and parental leave or however it was stated in the other thread.  

motherboy

I'm Id go depending on the country and the time commitment. If it was for 2-3 years, In a stable country where we could have a good quality of life, then yes.

MusicFanatic

sassquatch said:

Since this is a random thread...

Would any of you ever move to a different country for a good job offer your SO got/div>

(pretend in your scenario that your H is already a citizen of this country, btw).

I know, too hard to answer and 50 million cons and pros and open ended question.

Sighhhhhh.

A couple of factors go into play here. Does he already have a good job where we are? Is family a priority here? Are there family or friends in both locations? Do you enjoy traveling? I wouldn't even move out of state when DH wanted to (before we were even married). We're in Illinois, he wanted to move to Las Vegas (he had a job offer, and a small chunk of his family lives there). Most our family lives here, I still can't cut the umbilical cord between me and my mom, so I told him if he wanted to move, he could, but there was no point in us staying together because I wouldn't move. He had a great job here, our family and friends were here, and Las Vegas isn't where I wanted to raise my family. I also hate to travel, if I never left Illinois for the rest of my life, I'm cool with that. He refused the job offer and is totally happy with his decision. He saw what an asset it was for us to have my baby crazy family around to babysit last minute if we need it, he's friends with all my relatives, and he's actually happy staying put. But without knowing your opinions on thingsthat would factor into my decision, I can't really give you a good answer. When do you need to decide?

I have 1 month to decide.

He has a great job here, the new job would be the same exact job but a 30k ish pay increase (which is a lot, obviously).  It would be in Canada. My H is from Canada and has dual US/Canadian citizenship.  I'm a US citizen, however, so I'm trying to figure out the process (which is a HUGE factor in the decision) because I can't just up and move to a foreign country. (I believe at some point we have to do a spouse sponsorship.. but I'm trying to figure out what I need to do before that, because that process/visa can take 1+ years).   That's the big factor. So I'm combing through immigration sites for the past two hours now, and I'm overwhelmed.

We have both friends and family here and there.  He was born and raised there, he only came here for school.  Most family on that side is there. My parents are here, but my parents are retired and LOVE to travel.  It would be a 7 hour drive for them to visit from where we are now.  Soooo do-able.  ALL family on both sides (including me) LOVE to travel.  No biggie.  It will be hard to move away from my mom, especially with baby on way... but we've lived a LOT of miles apart plenty of times, so a 7 hour drive is Ok.

I would not be allowed to work right away, of course.  That's OK too.  I would miss what I do, it's my passion.. but as long as I can partake in some ballet, I'm good  Plus, I can eventually attempt to look for something down the road when I'm allowed.

I think my major factor right now is WTF I'm doing to live there legally.  The process is confusing me, so I need that figure that out.  Plus I need to look at housing costs, schools, stuff like that.  And I feel like 1 month isn't long

/end book. Yikes, sorry.

amiej1227

@MusicFanatic‌ depending on the country, but if it was say a stable European country then yes in a heart beat. We have talked about this before and we aren't looking but I would move back to Europe. I'm not as familiar with other countries but if I feel like it was safe and an opportunity for my future kids to have a great experience and learn languages then yes!

MusicFanatic

sassquatch said:

Wow @MusicFanatic‌. A month is REALLY not a long time. I feel for you. It sounds like you already chose yes though, and all that's holding you back from being concrete about it is figuring how to live there. I have no words of wisdom for you, but I wish you tons of luck. I wish you had a little more time.

@sassquatch - I guess my initial gut decision was yes because it's REALLY exciting H.  He would love to be with his family again. And we DO have a bunch of friends there because we visit as often as we can. I could just see the look in his eye, you know?  He keeps telling me over and over "it's 100% FINE if you decide you're not up to this".. but I don't think it's fair to just brush it/him off and say no immediately because of my nerves.

The other thing holding me back and that I'm researching is the medical system/midwives/having baby (etc etc) over there.  I know things are done differently, and I have no idea what it all entails for me when I'm not a citizen. Or period.

And no, a month is NOT long

MusicFanatic

@sassquatch- no friends to ask, really.  All of the US friends have always been from here, none of the Canadian friends have ever lived in the US- two totally separate sides and friends, both of which have always lived in their same/own countries.  I've located some immigration boards that appear to be pretty active and busy, so have asked a few things there and I'm combing through all the posts. I've learned some things, but not everything.    I will definitely ask my in laws if they know anyone who can help us, though!

I thought of staying here for a bit, but I really would prefer not to.  I KNOW eventually we have to do spouse sponsorship and that can take a looooong time to get.  I'm researching temporary/vistor visas to see if that's what I need, but I dunno yet.  I'll get there.. it's just confusing as heck.   It would be nice if I could just pack up and legally live there because he's a citizen and bringing me- alas, not how it works.  HE can do so.  He can legally pack up, move there and work.  I just can't. Stupid immigration laws.

What I really need is a vodka. But.....lol.

Thanks for listening to me babble :x

Beauxbaton

My eyeballs are so itchy. Allergy meds aren't working. And the allergies are so bad they are messing with my sinuses, so my throat and ears hurt as well. I'm just an itchy miserable mess.

YaMrWhite

@MusicFanatic can't you get a temporary visa pretty easily to go? And then work out citizenship when you get there? Sorry if this is completely wrong. I am very unfamiliar but have heard things from people talking before. 

longcat07

@MusicFanatic - wow, what an opportunity.  and only a month to decide.  good luck with your decision.

12chachacha

@MusicFanatic‌, I'm Canadian and happy to answer any questions I can about living in Canada. Where in Canada would you be going to?

amiej1227

@MusicFanatic‌ have you tried contacting the Canadian consulate or embassy? They might be able to help answer your questions. Good luck! That sounds like an amazing opportunity!

MusicFanatic

Firefly3911 said:

I actually have an acquaintance on FB that was US and went to Canada because of her husband. I believe she went through the whole process like you anticipate @MusicFanatic. I can contact her and see if she can give me a short version of the process if you think that would help you?

@Firefly3911- would you for me? If you don't mind?? I don't want to be a hassle to you.. if you promise it's not a bother, I would REALLY appreciate that

@12chachacha - Ontario, the Chatham-Kent area.

@YaMrWhite- that's what I'm thinking I do, I'm just trying to figure it out.. and reading these immigration sites is like another language.

12chachacha

You could also try contacting an immigration lawyer for advice.

MusicFanatic

12chachacha said:

You could also try contacting an immigration lawyer for advice.

I may do that.

Any of you guys from Canada know the OHIP eligibility for a non-citizen and pregnancy?  I read somewhere I can be eligible as long as I turn in perm. residency application and they deem I meet qualifications.  Then I read it can take 3 months to be covered.  My answer will be a flat out no if it takes 3 months to get health coverage I can't have that while pregnant?  And I read a lot of private insurances don't cover pregnancy there if already so.

texasmama786

I just ate a king size Snickers bar and I could easily eat another one. A snickers ice cream bar would definitely rock my world right now.

MusicFanatic

@Firefly3911- thank you soooo much!

I've read around on health coverage and see a midwife in the area that will work with you and do payment plans... but I don't want to be screwed if I end up high risk for some reason and need more care than typical or something.  I have read baby would automatically get covered as he/she would be born there.  It would just be me.  I believe it takes 3 months.  So actually, If we left say... August 10th, I would only not be covered until November 10th. So the birth would be covered, just not the 3 month span I'm waiting.  Not sure that's worth it?

My head aches and I've totally overtaken this whole thread. Sorry guys..lol.

MoreThanSparrows08

texasmama786 said:

I just ate a king size Snickers bar and I could easily eat another one. A snickers ice cream bar would definitely rock my world right now.

I can't stand regular Snickers bars, but the ice cream ones I could eat all day long!!!

MusicFanatic

paulheath2012 said:

@MusicFanatic‌ I just asked my friend about OHIP. She has been in Canada for a year. She is not eligible for OHIP without citizenship and she is still going through that process. She has private coverage through her husband's employer (Canadian military).

There appears to be a law (more recent) that states someone who just puts in application for perm. residency and qualifies can get OHIP, but it still takes 3 months from the time I land there. I don't think I would be covered under my husband (he would work at a school)... I imagine military is quite different?

nah82

Today is my dad's birthday, super excited for chocolate cake with mom's homemade peanut butter icing...mmm.

And, I went to pick up my new glasses today.  I was bummed because I had to pick off of the "discount rack" this time after our vision insurance changed.  But when the optician brought them out for me to put on, he told me that I got a bonus on them.  Huh?  Turns out the company they order the lenses from sent my lenses in the right prescription but with anti-reflective coating, a $100 option that I didn't choose or pay for.  The office's policy was to give me the more expensive lenses because it was the lens company's mistake.  Sweet!