So I don't know if I really have a specific question, but I was mostly wondering if anyone else feels not really excited about their baby all of a sudden.
My pregnancy was a "surprise" pregnancy, not planned in the least. My boyfriend wasn't working when we conceived, and has already gone and lost two jobs since then. He's currently unemployed again. In the first trimester I worked 2 full-time jobs and now I just work one, because I couldn't handle the work load. I often get frustrated that we won't be able to make it. Once I have the baby I won't be working and in Canada we can collect Employment Insurance but it's only like, 50% of your wage working full-time. So me and a baby can't even live off of that, let alone my boyfriend as well.
I'm getting really scared that I won't be able to provide for my child. We're living at home with his family for now, but I've come to realize this place isn't safe for me, let alone a child (the doors don't lock, random drunk guys come and go as they please…).
I'm sorry I guess I don't really have a question. I hope people don't hate on me for that. But I'm just really scared and I'm honestly not sure what I should be doing. I'm feeling very alone. And I feel horrible almost every time I feel my baby kick, which is not something I feel like is how a mother should be feeling when her first baby ever is moving around regularly inside of her.
Re: 22 Weeks and Horrified….
I just want to say I'm sorry you are going through this. I don't live in Canada so I'm unsure how all that goes. You're not alone on feelings. A lot women here, including myself, have that feeling or have had it. I still get it at times. My H and I haven't been married for a full year and now we are expecting. It's a little scary because you know things are going to change. I get the feeling at times that I'm not even ready for this, but deep down I know we will be just fine.
Maybe sit down and talk to your boyfriend about how important it is that he find a job and try and keep it. Do you have any family you can go and stay with? That environment really doesn't sound safe.
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