Cant wait to tell!!!!When are you telling everyone?

negritosmami

I just cannot WAIT to tell everyone, especially social media. Is anyone else struggling to keep it a secret? Do you have the big announcement all planned out?

camilu87

My hubby and I are struggling with keeping the secret too! We will likely give in after our 8 week u/s as long as everything shows up normal.

on_the_move

We are visiting my parents, who live across the country, in about 2 weeks and we will tell them then.  I'm hoping I get some kind of confirmation from the Doctor next Monday.  The in-laws are a little trickier, we are visiting them at the end of August, but I feel a little bad about the time difference between telling them

dacora

I made it 'Facebook official' after my first ultrasound last week right before eight weeks. I'm really bad at keeping exciting news to myself.

Krizzista

I have told my family and close friends. Will probably announce it after my 8 wk u/s tomorrow if everything looks good. I definitely told more people than I intended to already, but oh well lol.

hummingbird813

As soon as we found out we told our parents and siblings- we made a really cute card. We are waiting to tell friends and other family after this first appointment - no way that I'm waiting for 12 weeks

jaztastic

Im going FB public closer to Labor Day weekend. 

negritosmami

im sooo tempted to tell facebook but of course im hesitant about if anything happens then having to explain to that many people ive seen it happen way too many times and i can imagine that just pours salt in the wound. But i suppose anything could happen at any time sooo why wait right? I dont know. Least we can talk about it here until we decide to let it out the bag...

congrats to everyone posting and good luck with the wait

mandamoochie

Im going fb official on my bday because I have my 12 week u/s then.

Chcaggie1

This is by far the most challenging secret I've ever has to keep!!! I'm dying to tell my friends and extended fam. So far just my parents, MIL, sister, and one friend (whose also preggo!!) knows. But my BFF doesn't know yet. I plan on telling her after my first u/s. I will b around 8 wks. We definitely won't announce on FB til 12 weeks.im 6 wks today so 6 more to go!!

kdhuling

We are waiting till some time around 12 weeks to make it FB official. We already told immediate family and some close friends.

bclove87

If all goes well we will announce at our wedding :S oops... Haha

mkrk227

I'm terrible at secret keeping when it comes to exciting news! I've told close friends and some co-workers, my husband told his co-workers, both our family know. After our first u/s at 9 weeks (next week!!!) we are debating announcing it to the world.

I want to do the guard dog pictures with my four-legged babies.

mels823

We've told my parents and his parents, my sister, and a few of my friends.  My boss knows too because she is one of my closest friends.  I am 9 weeks as of today but plan on telling the rest of my husbands family on Friday at the big fourth of july party! Honestly, I probably found out the first possible day a test could even show up positive and my goodness, it has been tough to keep this a secret for so long!! 

christenld

I'm really on the fence about this one. I'm having a really hard time keeping it a secret. My boyfriend's dad lives far away and so do my parents. Also, my parents are very religious and since I'm not married I'm really concerned at how they're going to react... I want to do something fun and creative, but I'm afraid they're not going to take it as a joy, though I'm definitely hoping I'm wrong. I feel like we should tell our parents before everyone else, but we may end up telling our really close friends first. 

MissEm15

My 30th bday is in August.. so I'm going to wait until then. My best friend is going to kill me for not telling her lol. I've just seen too much to tell people too early. If I wasn't going to show so early, I'd wait until I know the sexes in September. I kind of like having this secret w/ my DH.

Edit: spelling is hard.. its almost nap time

stellasoo

I told my sister a couple days after we found out and my brother a few days ago. DH is going to tell his parents and brother/SIL this weekend. We're waiting to tell my parents until closer to the 12 week mark. My mom isn't supportive or respectful and I really wouldn't want to deal with her if I have a m/c. 

We don't have any big announcement planned. I told my siblings by text and we'll tell our parents over the phone. Neither of us like having a lot of attention on us so the lower key the better. 

junebugjam

Just a cautionary tale about telling Facebook - 12 weeks does not mean you are safe, bad things can happen after that, too. I'm not trying to be a Debbie Downer but I speak from experience. We announced on FB around 13 weeks, then got the worst news of our lives at our anatomy scan. I didn't do a formal "untelling" on Facebook, but then I got random nosy people coming out of the woodwork with fake concern wanting to know what happened, I got "happy mothers days to a mom to be!" messages when my baby was gone, etc.

Tell the people you really care about. Be careful if you share on Facebook. We won't be announcing to social media until we have a baby in our arms.

Sorry, PgAL brain sucks the fun out of a lot of this.

jaztastic

junebugjam said:

Just a cautionary tale about telling Facebook - 12 weeks does not mean you are safe, bad things can happen after that, too. I'm not trying to be a Debbie Downer but I speak from experience. We announced on FB around 13 weeks, then got the worst news of our lives at our anatomy scan. I didn't do a formal "untelling" on Facebook, but then I got random nosy people coming out of the woodwork with fake concern wanting to know what happened, I got "happy mothers days to a mom to be!" messages when my baby was gone, etc. Tell the people you really care about. Be careful if you share on Facebook. We won't be announcing to social media until we have a baby in our arms. Sorry, PgAL brain sucks the fun out of a lot of this.

This!! Same thing happened to me at 13wks. As much as I want to tell... I wont. Everytime someone asks you about the babies after you lose them, send you right back into a spiral all over again. 

kitty1215

We started telling a few family members this week.  We will wait and tell the FB world closer to 12 weeks. 

Hernsy

Our families know and some of those people we consider family, but I don't know that I'll post it on fb.  I have no desire to make someone who is struggling with infertility feel the way I did by posting incessant updates and bump pictures.  It is such a silent fight and reminder that every day that you can't seem to make a family or that something is wrong with you.  If anything, I may post that we're expecting a miracle after a struggle with infertility and that we're so very thankful.

negritosmami

Thanks for all the feedback...especially those who anounced and then lost..that mustve been so hard...if I announce and that happens I have already decided I will just deactivate my account for however long it takes me to get some healing...but I just pray that never happens

hummingbird813

Yikes the secretary at work just asked me if I was pregnant and I said no but smiled and my face got red. Worst secret-keeper ever!

kerrigrooves

we told immediate fam and some close friends.  Def not social media until 20 weeks when we find out the sex (if we do).

WA1215

We told my parents the day I got my blood results for my positive pg. I couldn't wait, bc they knew about my IF and the long struggle we had. We told MIL a week later. I'm a little over 9 weeks, and plan to wait til I'm out of the first tri before telling my grandma, and friends. I don't plan on announcing it on social media only because while doing IF treatments, my heart sank every time I saw a pg announcement with the pee stick still wet. It hurt, and I don't want someone else in my friends list dealing with IF silently to have that same feeling I did.

MorganneMpls

We've told my mom & stepdad because we were visiting them this weekend and probably won't see them until the end of the summer again, but are waiting to tell everyone else until after our ultrasound, which won't happen for another 2 weeks (at 11 weeks... My OB is super booked, annoying.) Not sure if we'll make a "Facebook announcement," just let it come out naturally.

lizjennings81

We're waiting until 13 weeks to tell everyone in the family. It's been tough so far (especially when my kid brother stayed with us for a week!). But I also enjoy having this secret between the husband and me. 

There won't be an FB announcement since neither of us are on it anymore. I'm thinking of maybe sending an announcement by mail to really close friends (yep, old school) or just giving them a call.

Jasx130

We told our immediate family and close friends as soon as we found out (at 4 wks). I'm 9 now but I'm thinking of waiting till 12 to post on FB. My parents are so excited though they are begging me to announce now so they can tell all their friends.

Mrs.EvilQueen

We had a family birthday party last weekend and apparently my boobs did my announcing for me, I had three different texts afterwards asking if I was pregnant. So the cat is sneaking out of the bag.

annagrya

We've told quite a few people.  We decided to tell those that we trust would be supportive.  We'll wait on a FB announcement until later in the first tri or early second.  My thought was that if I did have a loss, I would want my close friends/family to be able to mourn with me.  

Angeldcf

We'll tell parents after my 8wk u/s- bought a "Big Brother" shirt for him to wear around them. Waiting until 2nd Tri to post anything online.

Last time (Dec baby), I posted a pic of 2 big Christmas stockings and 1 small stocking over the mantle.

mommadozer

Parents and IL know and friends are starting to catch on that I am not drinking. Going out of town with friends this weekend and I am going to refill the bottle with juice or water. But, I'm thinking I will get caught this weekend. The girls are really nosy. First appointment is Monday but no u/s and most likely no heartbeat Doppler. Probably going to let our close friends know in the next week or so. Facebook/Instagram can wait!

WaMaitu

I told my sisters (2 sisters, one SIL) two weeks ago.  My SIL told my bro (which I said was OK), but I specifically mentioned that we were not going to tell Mum until after the 12 wks bcoz she would not be able to keep it to herself.

Yesterday I get a call from my mum asking me what I would like her to make for my visit (I had planned to visit her in the evening), and by the end of that short conversation - I knew she knew.  

I suspect it was my bro who blabbed - but you know what? I'm surprisingly cool and zen about it.  

Upside - I don't have to tell anybody else coz Mum will do it for me.  (No point in asking her not to tell anyone - exercise in futility, that).

vpine

Only my parents and 1 close friend know. I do feel the urge to announce it to other friends already but then I remind myself that I will wait until 1st trimester is over, I don't want something going wrong and having to talk about that.

MLSprague

My husband and I told his parents, my parents, and I told one of my best friends the day we found out. The funny part was I found out the day before my sister's wedding!! So, I waited to tell my sisters and now brother-in-law until the Sunday after her wedding. It was fun having the secret with just my parents for a couple of days. My parents continuously made little comments under their breath throughout the wedding day to my husband and I. 

My best friend helped me put together an announcement for my sisters Sunday morning. She took a picture of our dog, while I held a sign that had "only child" crossed out and "big brother" written below it. My husband helped by keeping the dog focused. One of my sisters was happy and the other cried. We have been trying for almost a year and the sister who cried has wanted to be an aunt for so long.

I called my other best friend who lives across country who is already buying items and planning her trip so she can be here for the birth. My husband told his brother who lives in FL, but he won't be making the trip up. We also have told a few of closest friends and one of my husband's bosses knows because he had to change how much is going into our HSA. Otherwise, we haven't told anyone else.

Our reason for waiting is I'm trying to get a teaching job. I have been subbing for the past six years and struggling with getting a job. I have a really good lead this year and hopefully will be finding out in the next two weeks if I get the position. Once we know if I get the job, I am going to tell the principal. Then we are going to tell family and friends and post to Facebook. I'm hoping to start sharing the news the beginning of August and by the point I'll be 13 weeks. The exciting part is if I get the job, I get to share the news that I finally got a full time teaching position and I'm pregnant!!

I am very selective with who I am friends with on Facebook. It is pretty much my friends and family that I don't talk to all the time and we use Facebook as a means to see what each other is doing. If I don't really know someone or don't talk to them regularly, then I'm not friends with them. I have a few friends who are pregnant and posting things on Facebook. I remember being jealous of them. So, I understand about not wanting to post too much.

It is nice to be able to talk about it on here freely!!

smg2302

Our parents know, my best friend knows, and our bosses know.  We will wait until after the 8 week appointment.  Like last time, we will call our phone tree of people that we think should hear from us, then we will announce on FB.  We plan to buy DD a big sister shirt and take some photos.

JacksonWife

We're telling now at 5 weeks! We're trusting God for a healthy pregnancy and baby!

pmpknbride

I'm 7 weeks right now and "mums the word". Lol..no one knows...this is a "highly anticipated" baby as DH and I have been married almost 8 years, it's our first, and everyone knows we struggled with IF (even on Facebook since we "came out" for national infertility awareness week.) This will also be the first grand baby in my family, DH has two nephews but they are older 19 and 12. So I graduate from the RE on Monday and then we will be on vacation for two weeks with my family, so I plan on telling them next week at about 8 weeks. We will tell DH's family and close friends when we get back in early August and the. I plan to announce on FB August 20th which is my birthday at 14 weeks! I'm busting at the seams keeping this a secret!

CantoDeAmor259

Haha! Me too

MaryS001

lizjennings81 said:

We're waiting until 13 weeks to tell everyone in the family. It's been tough so far (especially when my kid brother stayed with us for a week!). But I also enjoy having this secret between the husband and me. 

There won't be an FB announcement since neither of us are on it anymore. I'm thinking of maybe sending an announcement by mail to really close friends (yep, old school) or just giving them a call.

Love the old school mail!! Good call!

barrett36

We are going to tell next weekend when we see both sets of parents. I'll be 9wks. Will wait until closer up 12 wks to let friends know. I don't typically share much on fb.