super sad day: semi-vent

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MrsMuq said:

And being "hateful" - YOU implied WMs aren't raising their kids, and SAHMs are lazy. It's kind of hard to be supportive of an individual who does not contribute positively to a community, and any contributions they do make, the majority see as offensive.

Mrs. Muq is right. And there are so many supportive, helpful moms on many of these boards. You can't come in throwing hateful remarks around and expect everyone to send you hugs. You insult both groups and then want their support. Even the apologies are loaded by passing the blame to everyone else. Look at yourself, not everyone else, for answers to your problems. If you want support, you'll need to be open and receptive about the situation, especially with yourself.

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I do love that instead of dividing SAHM and WM, she united.

Speshul

MarlaSinger& said:

I do love that instead of dividing SAHM and WM, she united.

I was going to say ot makes me very happy to see all of the wonderful moms support each other.

Katelobster

kk1160 said:

I decided to seek answers to DIFFERENT topics on DIFFERENT boards. Majority of you took it wrong, and as trolling. Sure, I may have said some things later on in the SAHM conversation, but how would you feel if EVERYONE came at you with hostility? It was an innocent question taken out of context. You were offended, I was offended. Lets all get over that and move on.

This is a different subject entirely. SAHM, go back you your corner of the ring. This post is not for you. It never was, but you came here anyway just to be mean. I see that as trolling. I also think it's really strange for you to go perusing in my past conversations to have some sort of leverage? WTH? Who does that?? Why does no one take things for face value anymore?

The Bump is a place for all of us to be supportive. We're all moms, we're all doing what we can. Some days we feel like we're not the best at what we do. Some days we do judge others (sometimes rightfully so, knowing the situations). So I'm not good with wording things... Get over it. So my posts are few and far between... Get over it. So you don't like that I have guns in my house... Get over it. I've been to counseling. I've been on medication. I've attempted suicide in my younger years. WHY WOULD YOU BE SO HATEFUL TO SOMEONE WHO IS IN NEED OF SUPPORT?? Isn't that why we're here anyway?

I'm sorry you're in such a bad place emotionally. I can relate in that I went back to work FT after maternity leave and I literally cried hours per day for a month. Being a mom is hard, and not getting your choice of SAH or working is hard. But being either kind of mom is hard... hell, being an adult is hard. There will always be people who have it easier than you, who have trust funds and rich parents and no student loans, and it is so easy to be jealous. But things could always, always be worse. Count the blessings you do have and don't let your life be eaten up by jealousy. You've been given some good advice, but additionally, have you ever tried blogging or journaling? It was a huge help to me in some very bad times. Also, does your employer offer an Employee Assistance Program? That might be a good place to start. Please don't continue on like this without seeking some professional help. Best of luck to you.