Coping strategies when you get overwhelmed

mpiemont

Hi ladies- I'm having a really rough couple of days and hoping I can get some ideas from you about dealing with that overwhelming feeling that swoops in and inevitably leaves me hysterically ugly crying in seconds. At home, I just let it out. But it's happened a few times when I'd rather not be publicly upset. What has worked for you? Any book recommendations or things like that? I know it's barely been more than a week, but I guess I just want to feel "better" emotionally, and I think it's going to be a much longer journey than I had imagined.

LaRomana09

(((HUGS)))  It was really hard for me to control it in the beginning.  I would close my office door or lock myself in a bathroom to cry on a regular basis.  If that wasn't possible, I would try to distract myself by thinking about anything else until I could be alone and let it out.  More ((((HUGS))))

alm288

I had a rough couple of weeks at the start. I share an office at work, so I tried to distract myself at work as much as possible. My job is busy and stressful, so that usually worked. Honestly, I used to sometimes pinch my leg to try to focus my mind on something else. I didn't hurt myself - but it just refocused my attention. I would go home some days, take a hot shower, and just cry. (((Hugs)))

rslh10

@mpiemont‌ I started a thread about this! It has a lot of good info. I'm mobile so I don't know how to find it to link to you, but if you can search for it, you should!<3 hugs lady!!!!

ImJessesGirl

I don't know... I don't know if I'm even coping the way I should be. I am not even really that upset anymore. I am more focused on the future and how to get back to where I need to be to even conceive again. I feel like, for me, being sad means I think I am special and that things like this shouldn't happen to me. When, in my reality, I have had a lot of tragic loss in my life. It's almost like I expect things like this to happen to me because I am used to death. It's so weird and it's probably going to hit me at some random time.

mpiemont

@ImJessesGirl I totally know what you mean about being focused on getting back to trying again. I was just saying to DH yesterday (I realize this is probably not healthy) that I feel like the only way I am going to feel ok again is to get pregnant and stay that way. Like I need to make sure I'm physically able to carry a baby to term. I know I shouldn't be so focused on being pregnant again considering it's just been a week but that's just where my brain goes. I was the girl in high school who got dumped and needed to find a new boyfriend ASAP. Not usually the best plan.... I'm hoping I have a better head on my shoulders than when I was 17.

rslh10

@mpiemont Here is the link to the thread I was speaking of I hope that you can read it and find something that helps you, Lady

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12367451/aw-what-do-you-do-when#latest

ImJessesGirl

That's exactly how I am @mpiemont ... I just want to get these fibroids out and hurry and heal so I can get pregnant. I hate being stuck in limbo.

BackstreetPixie

Everyone is different. I don't work, so it was easier for me to not have public crys... But when it did happen, at the store or a restaurant or whatever, i usually went to the bathroom, or my car and cried... Then listened to a happy song or 2 on my phone before returning. ::hugs:: give yourself time hon. It gets easier with time but will never go away. Feel what you feel and never be ashamed. This experience sucks and it is okay to have intense feelings about it. Feelings are never wrong or right. They just are. I also cried in the shower... So hubby didn't hear every time... Even though he was supportive i hated how much i cried...