Thoughts on circumcision?

tlc4mama

https://www.thefreedictionary.com/_/dict.aspx?rd=1&word=amputation

Have I misused the word?

tlc4mama

I used the word "ludicrous" because suggesting we perform mastectomies on baby girls would be.

tlc4mama

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HeyStVincent

aggiebug

I love how judgemental and up in arms people can be about a subject you don't discuss once kids are toddlers.

Do you sit at the playground asking if they are circumcised? Exclusively breast fed? Cry it out or attachment parenting? Cloth diapers or disposable?

I understand voicing an opinion but jeeze.

jaztastic

So I just decided to catch up on this thread... I had to wear judgy shades to block the judgmental rays spewing about. B-)

mishka29

When DH was 16 he dyed his hair blue. This prompted his father to write an article, submit it to the city largest paper and it was published. The article was about how we as parents want to see ourselves in our children, which is why he couldn't understand the blue hair or the tongue piercing but is the reason he chose to have his son circumcised. He wanted his son to look like him. 

I'm simplifying it here but I remember when I heard about this published article that talks about my husbands penis, it was more a source of embarrassment at the time. Now I feel like its something my DH reflects on and the reason he is pro-circumcision. He would want his son to look like him. 

LittleDucky

We are Jewish and it is non-negotiable for us.  DS is circumcised and any future sons will be as well.  If we weren't Jewish, I'd be inclined to skip it.

lmhamze

sugahcookie01 said:

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As for this debate, I don't know what the point of beating this dead horse is. For those unsure about their choice - will they or won't they circumcise - I doubt this thread has done ANYTHING for them but lead them to confusion due to the tone in which most of this information was conveyed.

For those of us who are decided, snarky comments are surely not going to sway us. Call me a mutilator or mock my decision as cosmetic or ill informed. Whatever. At the end of the day, do you know who makes the decision? My husband and I do. Not you. And I promise you, I don't give a damn what YOU do with your hypothetical male child's penis, so you shouldn't worry about mine either.

kthxbye.

This!! All of this!!!

lmhamze

Ducktale said:

@tlc4mama‌ Your posts are littered with judgmental undertone. You're posts do not convey "I realize there are two valid sides to this argument, this is what we chose and why, but I realize this is not the right choice for every family."

I have the feeling this isn't the only topic you're on your high horse over.

And all of this too! Can't wait to hear your judgemental undertones on the next controversial parenting decision that comes up on this board, because there will be many! What bugs me the most is how you keep saying you aren't being judgmental! You totally are so just own it!!

thegoodpotato

This debate always turns into a shit show. It helps no one, and just ends up hurting people's feelings. Let's not being this one up again, k?

thegoodpotato

And by being I mean bring.

mahalo3

tlc4mama said:

https://www.thefreedictionary.com/_/dict.aspx?rd=1&word=amputation

Have I misused the word?

Ok. You have referenced giving newborn girls mastectomies, and now you are grossly trivializing the definition of amputate. A piece of skin is not the same as an amputation. You should really scale your argument into something comparable.

Angeldcf

I'm an RN.  I have 2 bachelor degrees and 1 masters.  We cloth diaper, BF, made our own baby food & wore him as much as possible.

We chose to circumcise our son (topical anesthetic cream & sugar water).  Yes, I did the research.  It was a good decision for our family based upon cultural/religious and medical beliefs.

wintersong139

Did anyone else think this is actually one of the tamest circumcision discussions on TB? Maybe this conversation should always come up so early...it keeps us from being too harsh with words.

bhjones1980

We had a delayed circumcision, it actually happened three weeks ago when he was about 13 months old.  When he was born they were concerned he had a condition called hypospadias where the urethra opening is located in the wrong place and they wanted him to be looked at by a urologist before being circumcised.

He checked out fine for the condition at around 3 weeks old, but did have a slight "incomplete foreskin", the choice would be minor foreskin reconstruction surgery or circumcision (when he turned one and was old enough to be put under general anesthesia).  Since our original plan was to circumcise that was an easy decision.

Long story short his surgery and recovery were pretty minor, the worst part was the affects of the anesthesia wearing off (and his father doesn't come out of anesthesia well either), he was a little sore for maybe a day (fussed a bit during diaper changes) but after that was fine with being handled, bathed, changed, etc.

It made me think that IF we have another boy we may opt for the same route of delayed circumcision.  Having it done by a pediatric urologist makes me much more confident about the procedure, since my SIL has had to have 2 revisions (out of her three boys) from circs done at birth by the OBGYN.

drose8721

I saw a circumcision video before I had my son.  It scared me at first, but ultimately we chose circumcision.  I was surprised when they brought my son back after the procedure and told me he'd slept through it.  Was doctor was lying?  I'll never know, but i was also surprised that as I applied ointment for the next few days, I never saw him fuss. I thought it'd be sore, but it didn't seem to bother him at all.  To me this is more a matter of preference.  I've weighed the risks and benefits that I researched and made my decision.  Others might be more concerned with other risks.  It seems like a silly thing to get your panties in a bunch about what other parents do.  It's a personal decision.  

smg2302

I amputated my cuticles yesterday.  Sorrynotsorry.

If I have a son, I will be circumcising him for religious beliefs.

michelle142

DS is. If this one is a boy he will be too. There was no debate.

triplej9

HeyStVincent said:

@tlc4mama - I think the problem people are having is that it's not the best to post a video like that in a public forum without a disclaimer ahead of it.  Some people are very sensitive to graphic content - sometimes just because they have a hard time with graphic things in general and other times because of previous trauma in their life. It's important to be sensitive to that.  

I'm guessing you wouldn't walk up to a stranger on the street and thrust this video in their face (especially with the graphic cover picture) without their permission to do so because it's a little insensitive. I think the same kind of thinking applies here.  Maybe just a link without the graphic would have been a better way to approach it so someone could choose to click on the link knowing there would be graphic content encountered in doing so.  Get what I'm saying?

Nope, I'm pretty sure she would.

chickyclg

I told DH this is completely up to him since I have never had a penis and I am pretty indifferent on the subject.