What did you do on baby's due date?

elmindreda

For those of you who had a loss before full term, what did you do on your baby's due date? Did you do or go anywhere special? It may seem a little distasteful to some, but my husband and I are going to Disney World the week Janelle would have been due. I'm not sure how we'll feel, but we decided we needed to do something special and get away. 

SandyEggo5

Our due date is in 3 weeks. We were playing to take a trip somewhere, but we can't decide where. I think it's because we're questioning if it's the right thing for us. I think we should do something special and possibly get away, but then I'm scared that I may just feel the need to breakdown and feel every emotion that's going to come up. Of course I can do that wherever we are, but I may just want my bed and my shower. 

I'm like you, I'm just not sure how we'll feel. ((hugs))

Maybe Joleisa

My due date would've been Mother's Day, so we booked a trip to Aruba to get away. It was a technology-free vacation and when we returned to the States my phone blew up with texts, emails and FB messages from my very sweet friends. 

I think whatever you and your DH decide to do (or not do) is a great decision. 

ikrystal

Our due date was the day after Mother's Day.  My husband took me out of town for those two days, but mostly because I needed my space away from everyone else.  We bought the boys some new books (we still read to them every night) and just spent time together.  I think that was what was most important - we turned off our phones and enjoyed our time together.

AshersMom11

Our due date is 9/24, which is a couple week's after my 30th birthday. I am not sure what we are going to do yet. I have already taken the day off work. I think we might do a small getaway  and just spend time together.

lexusolsen

We finished Ben's garden and just spent time together. It was a tough day and was the day before Father's Day and the three month anniversary of his death.

I don't think going to WDW is distasteful but I wouldn't be able to be at such a family oriented place. I'm not going to lie, I have taken major steps back since Ben's due date.

kz's_girlygirl

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Jesse's due date was March 23, and we didn't do anything to commemorate the day.  Actually, we were at my parents house celebrating my niece's 4th birthday.  I knew in my mind that that day was supposed to have been so different for us, but it didn't/doesn't hold a lot of meaning for me personally.  He wasn't born on that day.  On the other hand, we were also going through another IVF cycle, and trying to look at the corresponding dates as a good omen.  I think his actual birthdate will be a lot harder when it rolls around in a few months. 

I guess my point is, whether you mark the occasion or not, do what you feel is right for you and your family. 

TeamWinForever

Fiona's due date is next week(July 1st), and we will both be working. I had no choice but to work since I used up all my time bring off after her birth. I'm not sure how to feel about the whole thing. On the one hand, it's just a day that she may or may not have been born on. On the other hand, it represents everything that should have been but isn't. Honestly, I am just trying to keep busy and keep my mind occupied. I think that whatever you choose to do(or not do) will be perfect for you and your family.

kflynn81

For us it was a little tricky since I was due with Jack on Mothers Day this year. MH and I did a balloon release at home, thengot a hotel room downtown Chicago for Saturday...we went out for a nice dinner, had some drinks, saw a movie. On Sunday/Mothers Day , we spent the day downtown just walking around, had brunch, wrote in a prayer book for Jack in his namesake church. Basically just took the day to be alone but together and think about Jack

angelsnight

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I had to work, but the next day we had a balloon release at her grave with our close family and friends, and then we had a BBQ.  I will always acknowledge the date, but I think from now on we likely won't celebrate it, just for her angelversary in March, but I think it will forever be a hard date.

BoraBoraBaby

Today is Madeleine's due date. My midwife warned me that today could be very hard. We are leaving for Hilton Head tomorrow so I am focusing on that today. My mom came in town last night to spend the day with me. We are going to look at a house that DH and I are considering putting an offer on. Keeping busy.

Last night I told DH how nervous I was for today. He put it so simply, "How many moms remember their baby's due date?" It might sound harsh, but it made me feel so much better. July 2nd WAS her due date, but she came June 5th. That is her special day. Today, there's no significance.

I know it's not a common view but it's the view I need to have to get through this day.

TeamWinForever

That is actually the view that I have come to adopt. Fiona's due date was yesterday but really, who knows if she would have been born then? It was still a tough day, but I am hopeful that it's one that will get better as the years go on. I agree that our angels have special days already; their birthday. Good luck today and I hope you have as nice a day as possible.

BoraBoraBaby

TeamWinForever said:

That is actually the view that I have come to adopt. Fiona's due date was yesterday but really, who knows if she would have been born then? It was still a tough day, but I am hopeful that it's one that will get better as the years go on. I agree that our angels have special days already; their birthday. Good luck today and I hope you have as nice a day as possible.

Thank you! I have had a lovely day. I cried a bit but no more than usual. And I feel her today, I don't feel her every day so that brings me comfort.