Why is this board so mean?

morriskm1000

I'm really surprised to find this board so unsupportive compared to my bump month board. For those mommies that are further along or more experienced please do us newbies a favour and either hold your sarcastic comments to yourself or pity us and just give us a little non judgemental support. 

Thanks 

golfingdarwinfish

You're just trying to goad people, right? I mean, this can't possibly be real.

SCSmith2011

No one has ever posted anything like this before. Ever.

24karat

BMBs are all flowers, rainbows, and glitter at first...but the BSC can only hide for so long.

On the Tri boards it tends to get weeded out before it fully escalates. Community service at its finest.

morriskm1000

Thanks ladies for proving my point. At least we now know who you are

golfingdarwinfish

Honestly, it's disturbing how upset people are by honesty when it's not all unicorns and gum drops.  The level of entitlement is strong with some. 

I would take the intelligence & snark of the women on TB over the hugs and sugarcoating at BBC (or other boards) any day of the week.

Meery82

LOL

PrimRoseMama

morriskm1000 said:

Thanks ladies for proving my point. At least we now know who you are

You don't know my lyfe!

24karat

morriskm1000 said:

Thanks ladies for proving my point. At least we now know who you are

Wait...you think this is mean? Sheesh, you have a thin skin

Tapsalteerie

Honestly, I don't get the point of these posts. If you don't like the advice that is given then move on or find a better source. Yes, some women on here can cross lines in their sarcasm, but you deal with it by closing down the browser tab and moving on with life outside of a computer screen. You don't make yourself an intentional target by posting a question like this one.

Erze

In other news, I'm tired. Sleep time at work. 

MallardDucky

Here let me cough up an apology......

Nope it's just a hair ball

cutiepie0104

I know a lot of the ladies on here won't agree with what Im about to say, but this is the 3rd time I've saw a post like this, and I couldn't agree more. The internet will be the internet, but there isn't much support on this particular board. As soon as someone posts something someone comes in with a disparaging comeback. Granted I have saw some real out there questions, but its not up to any of us to denote (sorry meant Demean) each other.

People come to this sight with for questions and support from a community of people, not to be called names for asking a dumb question. If you don't like a post, hit the back button, or close out your browser. If you get your feelings hurt easily, I recommend not asking a question if you're not ready for all sorts of answers, and questions you weren't expecting. After all we are a bunch of hormonal women who are pregnant...

24karat

cutiepie0104 said:

I know a lot of the ladies on here won't agree with what Im about to say, but this is the 3rd time I've saw a post like this, and I couldn't agree more. The internet will be the internet, but there isn't much support on this particular board. As soon as someone posts something someone comes in with a disparaging comeback. Granted I have saw some real out there questions, but its not up to any of us to denote each other.

People come to this sight with for questions and support from a community of people, not to be called names for asking a dumb question. If you don't like a post, hit the back button, or close out your browser. If you get your feelings hurt easily, I recommend not asking a question if you're not ready for all sorts of answers, and questions you weren't expecting. After all we are a bunch of hormonal women who are pregnant...

If you read the other like threads, you should already know the "hormonal women" comment will go over REALLY well.

Also, was the word you were looking for "demean"? Because denote doesn't make much sense.

cutiepie0104

Joy2611 said:

::sigh::

If you don't like what is being said, perhaps you should hit the back button.

Oh, I have Im just stating what I have noticed.

momthatlifts

Because we are all pregnant and hormonal......

taradies

bmwaters2121 said:

Lol, I am surprised we made it all the way to Wednesday without one of these posts. New record maybe? I've heard baby center is FULL of glitter and butterflies and unicorn poo. Just sayin'

I know unicorns fart rainbows, how magical is the poo????? I'd rather talk about poo than rehash the same "y'all are bullies" bs.

golfingdarwinfish

kjkarats03 said:

I know a lot of the ladies on here won't agree with what Im about to say, but this is the 3rd time I've saw a post like this, and I couldn't agree more. The internet will be the internet, but there isn't much support on this particular board. As soon as someone posts something someone comes in with a disparaging comeback. Granted I have saw some real out there questions, but its not up to any of us to denote each other.

People come to this sight with for questions and support from a community of people, not to be called names for asking a dumb question. If you don't like a post, hit the back button, or close out your browser. If you get your feelings hurt easily, I recommend not asking a question if you're not ready for all sorts of answers, and questions you weren't expecting. After all we are a bunch of hormonal women who are pregnant...

If you read the other like threads, you should already know the "hormonal women" comment will go over REALLY well. Also, was the word you were looking for "demean"? Because denote doesn't make much sense.

I'm also wondering which "sight" people go to for questions and support.  The Golden Gate Bridge? Broadway? Pentagon? Washington Monument? 

vrj0522

cutiepie0104 said:

I know a lot of the ladies on here won't agree with what Im about to say, but this is the 3rd time I've saw a post like this, and I couldn't agree more. The internet will be the internet, but there isn't much support on this particular board. As soon as someone posts something someone comes in with a disparaging comeback. Granted I have saw some real out there questions, but its not up to any of us to denote (sorry meant Demean) each other.

People come to this sight with for questions and support from a community of people, not to be called names for asking a dumb question. If you don't like a post, hit the back button, or close out your browser. If you get your feelings hurt easily, I recommend not asking a question if you're not ready for all sorts of answers, and questions you weren't expecting. After all we are a bunch of hormonal women who are pregnant...

Then maybe you and OP should go to a different board. What do you think, that because you don't like it, people are going to change the way they talk? Those that don't like it here eventually move on and that leaves the rest of us... you decide what you want to do because no one is changing for you.

cutiepie0104

Then maybe you and OP should go to a different board. What do you think, that because you don't like it, people are going to change the way they talk? Those that don't like it here eventually move on and that leaves the rest of us... you decide what you want to do because no one is changing for you.

Didn't say anything like that, but take things as you will. And Ditto, not changing for you either, just figured since everyone else can say what they want I will too. It's not like I said anything bad about anyone just what I've noticed, Im thinking people don't stay on here for a reason. 

Erze

cutiepie0104 said:

I know a lot of the ladies on here won't agree with what Im about to say, but this is the 3rd time I've saw a post like this, and I couldn't agree more. The internet will be the internet, but there isn't much support on this particular board. As soon as someone posts something someone comes in with a disparaging comeback. Granted I have saw some real out there questions, but its not up to any of us to denote (sorry meant Demean) each other.

People come to this sight with for questions and support from a community of people, not to be called names for asking a dumb question. If you don't like a post, hit the back button, or close out your browser. If you get your feelings hurt easily, I recommend not asking a question if you're not ready for all sorts of answers, and questions you weren't expecting. After all we are a bunch of hormonal women who are pregnant...

IThe Feb 15 board if very nice and supporting First Trimester is too intense for you. One thing I like about First Trimester is that the sarcasm makes me laugh. If I am angry, I can be angry here. If somebody says something stupid, I have no problem calling them out on it. We cause unnecessary stress on ourselves for stupid reasons and I think that there is humor on the First Trimester board. Just my opinion though. 

And my hormones are no excuse for my attitude. I'm actually a lot nicer right now than I usually am because I'm, quite frankly, too tired to argue with people on the internet. Unless they really anger me.

Erze

JKBMA2014 said:

Because we are all pregnant and hormonal......

Shoot. If you want to see me mean and hormonal, get at me when I'm not pregnant. 

momthatlifts

MrsMuq said:

JKBMA2014 said:

Because we are all pregnant and hormonal......

Please someone friggen shoot me if I'm pregnant.... not ready for another one.

Oh, right, I'm just a snarky non-pregnant woman.

Ding! Ding! Ding!

momthatlifts

Erze said:

JKBMA2014 said:

Because we are all pregnant and hormonal......

Shoot. If you want to see me mean and hormonal, get at me when I'm not pregnant. 

Once you become a mom, you become a whole other kind of hormonal bitch

Erze

@JKBMA2014

We have a word for that. 

"Ferocious Mama Bear".

At least, that's what we call my lovely momma.  

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wintersong139

I'm also still pretty new--I started actively posting only in April. I think that the Feb 15 board will get considerably more honest as time goes on. I hope no one gets mean, but I'm fairly certain that people will start to disagree with one another, and some people's feelings will get hurt. We should all be careful to be honest without being vicious, but we should also try to thicken our skins a bit. Understanding is two way.

If you don't like a board, just don't visit it. Stay on Feb 15 if First Tri isn't your flavor. It's not worth getting annoyed because some people you never met are mean to you. :-P I think we have a good group of Feb 15, and I hope we can all get involved in some real conversations about important things, even disagreeing with one another.

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normandyn7

This is me whenever I see one of these posts...

And then when I'm reading the comments I'm like...

staceom

Wow what a bunch of miserable bullies. Reading this thread was a mistake. Makes me feel embarrassed to see a bunch of grown women treat people so poorly. Life is beautiful and precious and short! Why waste it being so hateful behind a keyboard? Really is that who you want to be in life? I'm out of here!!! Yikes!!!

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momthatlifts

haygurlhay said:

JKBMA2014 said:

Because we are all pregnant and hormonal......

Well that's a lie.


Are you being sarcastic or did you miss my sarcasm? And my obvious mocking

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vrj0522

cutiepie0104 said:

Then maybe you and OP should go to a different board. What do you think, that because you don't like it, people are going to change the way they talk? Those that don't like it here eventually move on and that leaves the rest of us... you decide what you want to do because no one is changing for you.

Didn't say anything like that, but take things as you will. And Ditto, not changing for you either, just figured since everyone else can say what they want I will too. It's not like I said anything bad about anyone just what I've noticed, Im thinking people don't stay on here for a reason. 

And those of us who do stay greatly appreciate it. 

momthatlifts

haygurlhay said:

JKBMA2014 said:

Because we are all pregnant and hormonal......

Well that's a lie.

Are you being sarcastic or did you miss my sarcasm? And my obvious mocking

lol I missed your sarcasm and obvious mocking.

It's ok lol. You should know me well enough by now that I'm not that stupid

thegoodpotato

kyliedaniellexx said:

Feb15 will be full of snark and BSC in no time, I assure you...

Um, I'm pretty sure we are all rainbow shitting unicorns on F15.  

thegoodpotato

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Erze

Oh, they're getting snarky and honest over there now.  :bz

crackityjones

This is my first post on the bump, but having many, many times googled questions I had over the course of ttc, I learned not to click on any results from the bump, because inevitably it would go something like this:

1. OP asks question.

2. Someone yells at OP for not following protocol.

3. Someone else calls OP's question stupid.

4. If OP responds or complains, she is called a stupid baby who can't handle the truth

5. OP's question (and mine) never get answered.

Don't mistake sarcasm and snark for just being a mean person. I can tear someone apart with a few words, but I don't because it's a crappy thing to do. Sure, some of the other boards can get a little nauseating with all the baby dust and glitter, but at least there's some level of human kindness involved. It feels like high school in here.

(Cue all the comments telling me to get out if I don't like it)