Pregnancy Check In (June 23)

firstcomeslove2013

Good Morning All,

I have to be honest...I feel very mixed emotions posting this morning. My heart feels joyful for @redrockmama but my heart grieves for Healz and Manada.

If you haven't received a PM and are interested in contributing to the care package for H & M please PM. We are trying to get everything together before Wednesday.

I'm going to try and keep the rest of this light as we all need to be thankful for the healthy pregnancies we have as I know that is what H & M would want! @redrockmama fill us in on your birth story when you get a chance, that baby sure is precious!

Here is our current EDD roster for this check-in:
1. @ball.and.chain July 13 boy
2. @belovedvirgo0209 July 14 girl
3. @Kleigh1: July 26 girl
4. @2mamazinseattle: Aug 20 girl
5. @flygirl1228: Aug 21 girl/boy twins
6. @Trisholio and @trisholiosboi: Sept 2 girl
7. @shelly2314: Oct 2 twins
8. @only1leia: Oct 31 singleton
9. @pauljl: Nov 2 girl
10. @byrrd: Nov 3 singleton
11. @Mazere: Nov 25 singleton
12. @rkbo: Dec 12 girl
13. @doodah1013 & @firstcomeslove2013: Dec 12 singleton
14. @RobertJane33: Jan 8 twins
15. @twobrooklynmoms: Jan 10 singleton
16. @jjlvscg: Jan 10 singleton
17. @cageymack: Jan 22 singleton

If you have a recent BFP (and/or if you are new to the board), please let me know when you want to be added to this list. I know there are a few new BFPs but I don’t want to add you until you are ready! Just let me know your EDD and other info if available!

How is everyone feeling? How is pregnancy treating you and your partner this week? Any updates to share?

QOTW: Some of you may have been shopping for baby stuff for a while (I know we have been since our 1st IUI). What is something you purchased that you later regretted and what is something you purchased or will purchase that you don't feel you can live without?

trisholio

@firstcomeslove2013 I agree it seems strange to go on with 'normal' things.  Here it goes, I guess :-(

I will be 30 weeks tomorrow.  It does seem to be going more quickly these days.  That could be because I am a bit anxious about being a mother of three little ones and I have no idea how I am going to handle all three on my own during the day.  My wife will be off work for 3 weeks with me, but I know that time will fly by in no time.  It will work out...somehow :-)

I finally had my glucose test last week and all was well.  I was a bit worried that I would have GD, but the numbers were great.

QOTD:  We have been purchasing and collecting items for two years to prepare for fostering and also biological children.  We have been very lucky to have tons of clothes donated to us.  When we had the girls placed in our home in February we literally went shopping in their closet and picked out clothes and had a lot in their sizes to hold us over to purchase some.  I was given a Moby wrap by a friend and used it a ton for babies I used to babysit and plan to use it with Adalyn too.

pauljl

I'm with you guys, this feels odd to do today.

 However, I also agree that it we should continue to celebrate whenever and wherever we can. 

I am 21 weeks, which seems crazy. Our little Callie is moving around quite a bit these days. C thinks she might have been able to feel the little one rumbling this weekend. I can't wait until the jabs are sharper so she can really feel her in there. 

I'm feeling good- I've been so fortunate with this pregnancy. My sciatic is giving me a little trouble (on the opposite side than before) but, last time, it eventually went away. I'm hoping it will disappear again. 

We get to see Callie in just a bit over a week for another ultra sound. I can't wait to see how she's changed.

QOTW: I feel so overwhelmed by baby things. I'm greatly going on the advice of my friends that are moms. Big things so far : get the good pump and don't look at the price tag. Get a comfy chair- you'll spend more time in it than you think you will.  BOPPY. 

I'm hoping their advice will keep me from overspending/over buying for this little person.  

doodah1013

Yes.... going on is so hard.  I have so many feelings on top of the devastation that I feel for H & M...  and I think it is okay to say out loud that it is moments like these that we all realize that anything can still happen at anytime, and that is very scary.  I am just glad that we can rally around them as a community, and also that we have each other to talk through the feelings that their loss evokes.

That being said, @firstcomeslove2013 and I have had a hard week.  After experiencing a loss of our own (that in NO WAY parallels what they are going through), I have been pretty nervous throughout our pregnancy.... add a long and tedious TTC process, and an anxiety disorder, and you have a lot of nervousness.  Also talking at length with H and M about our babies, and how they would be so close in age, and how we wanted to raise them in similar ways in queer conscious environments has really made their loss very real.  At first, I felt a lot of guilt about feeling so sad, because I feel like there is no way that my sadness is even a drop in the bucket of what they are feeling.... and then I came to realize that what I was feeling was normal and it was okay to acknowledge it.  I just imagined that one day we would be that group of Bumpies with all of our little ones who found ourselves in the same city and could get together and have a coffee.....  Anyways.... now I am rambling....

As far as our little one goes, things are pretty good.  We saw the MW last week and she said things were looking good.  I put back on a little bit of the weight I had lost.... she also reassured me that the baby is getting all the nutrients the baby needs, even though my appetite is still in the pooper.

I am waiting for that second trimester energy I have been hearing so much about!  We walked in the Pride Parade here in Columbus on Saturday, and then we walked around the festival.  My body was more sore after that, than it was when I ran my latest half marathon in October.  Needless to say, I need to start walking, or swimming or something.  I have heard the delivering a child requires a little bit of stamina... and would like to be in okay shape by then...

Other than that, A ordered her hospital grade pump...  we have been doing a lot of thrift store bargain shopping, and we hit the craft store up on Saturday so A can get started on the nursery.

I think that's it.  I hope everyone is doing well on this Monday.

QOTD:  We love to shop... and like A mentioned have been acquiring things since before we started trying for a LO....  we have made more than a few mistakes on things to buy that we have since changed our minds on...  most particularly a car seat that was on Target Clearance...

shelly2314

my heart is breaking. Sigh

As all PP said, celebrate what we can. I am 25w4d today w/ our twin girls and things seem to be going well. I had a panic attack on Saturday b/c (TMI ALERT) I had a bowel evacuation and was terrified that it was the beginning of an early labor---I know it can happen but it wasn't like watery, just like my body was getting rid of things and it happened again on Sunday. M talked me down and there doesn't seem to be any other signs so....

I am extremely uncomfortable most of the time. Isn't it a little early for that? I thought I would have at least 5 more weeks before that started to happen. Both girls are constantly moving and I'm pretty sure got some dance, dance revolution going on in there. M put her head to my belly last night and could hear Olivia's heartbeat (Elise is too far down into my cervix area). I thought that was pretty special.

QOTW: Some of you may have been shopping for baby stuff for a while (I know we have been since our 1st IUI). What is something you purchased that you later regretted and what is something you purchased or will purchase that you don't feel you can live without?

We haven't gotten anything that we have regretted yet. Pretty much only thing we can't live without would be the diapers and wipes LOL.

Our first baby shower is this weekend so we are excited about that. Hopefully get a lot of what we need so we can finish up putting together the nursery

2MamazInSeattle

Hi all,
Like everyone else, I feel a little dirty posting about my pregnancy today in light of M&H, however, after my loss I just never wanted anyone else to go through that - so I still was happy for my friends who were carrying on...fwiw.

Today I'm 31w5d! EDD 8/20.

We had a really good appointment on 6/19 - my ultrasound showed the baby is now in the 70th percentile (was 90th!) and this is great news that my (somewhat profound) efforts to manage my gestational diabetes are working! My doctor gave me lots of props which was nice, because it is/has been hard to get it right all of the time. Simone is weighing in at 4lbs 3oz. which is awesome and crazy! I put 1 lb back on, so I've gained 4 pounds total - equal to Simone's weight. My doctor said I will love myself after she's born for not gaining more weight, but honestly, it's not like I'm trying not to - it just kind of happened this way. Figures. The first time in my life I can eat what I want (mostly) and not gain weight....

One bummer is that she is transverse, head under my right rib, feet to the left, with her facing down toward my right hip. There is no way to birth a transverse baby outside of a c-section. I am waiting for our next u/s and if she is still this way I will start the exercises on www.spinningbaby.com for transverse presentation, and also seeing an acupuncturist who specializes in baby stuff and turning babies. Plus loads of yoga moves. I'll do all I can - but I am ok with a c-section if it's a must. In good news my doctor said they won't do it until at least 39w, and I even wait until my due date. I was worried they'd want to do it early, so this made me feel better!

I'm still feeling more tired, less enthusiastic about doing things I ought to do (yoga, walks) but I'm still doing them. I've been getting a little excited thinking that it's almost July and my last day is August 1st at work! I picked up my (insurance covered) breast pump on Friday, and once I can finish off the nursery items our shower is 7/13 and then it's time to pack a hospital bag. I can see things being bought off our registry and it's very sweet and exciting!

QOTW: No regrets on purchases - however, though beggars can't be choosers, some of the things people have given us are awful to look at but completely functional. For example, the Exersaucer that looks like 50 pounds of pink bubble gum exploded. Ug! But, it's like new and was given to us for free!

I have been a Craigs.listing machine - everything big we've gotten off CL (crib, changing table, armoire, stroller, unexpired like-new car seats) except our recliner, which was on sale + no tax. I keep adding and adjusting our registry mostly as a to-do list for myself more than anything, but bonus that people are buying some of it for Simone! Meanwhile after our shower I will complete the registry and we should be good to go!

ball.and.chain

Thinking of H&M as well.

And yikes, now I am first on the list.

I won't repeat my post about possible pre-e, but will say I have had no symptoms.  This doesn't mean I don't have it, but if things continue this way, I will at least make it to my appointment on Wednesday.  We'll check my bp then, but won't have the results of the urine and blood tests until at least Thursday.  I have to say, at this point I am more mentally prepared for the possibility of an earlier delivery, BUT we would both (S and I, not Mr. Baby and I) really love if he could wait until after Saturday.  It's our first day off together without some kind of plan or commitment since the first week of May, and we both need a little relaxation time together AND the opportunity to get some major baby prep done.  I feel like if he can just wait until Sunday we'll be golden!  But of course that's pretty much guaranteeing he won't, right?  As all of you have wisely pointed out, we'll be ready when we have to be.

In the meantime, the PNP is now set up in our room (he's going to start out sleeping there) and I did some more baby laundry on Sunday (blankies, swaddles, mattress covers, PNP sheets).  Also went to Target to stock up on some stuff for him, my hospital bag, and household stuff.  We are still trying to get our stupid car seat checked.  Our town's police department does it, but only every 3 weeks or so, and they take up to a week to return phone messages about them.  We missed one because we were at our shower in NJ.  I honestly didn't think it would be this complicated!  We're going to try to take it to the local children's hospital.

QOTW: We registered for sun shades and mirrors for the back seat of the car, and then our infant safety instructor told us they could become projectiles in an accident.  Back to BRU they go!  Pretty sure we will never regret having the PNP.

AandStilltrying

We are 6weeks 2 days. First ultrasound is next week. Sarah is havin extreamly bad morning/all day sickness. Any suggestions? It's dehiblitated her!

Only thing I have bought was a kids book when we started trying and a 4 pack of newborn pacifiers for our early family announcement. Waiting until ed of first tri before we start jumping that ship, but really until we know if boy/girl + how many!!!

CageyMack

Likewise, I feel really conflicted right now.  Such a tragic and sad outcome for those within our small community.  Just so very sad.

We are 9w6d today.  DW had her first OB appoint with the same midwife that delivered our son.  It was so great and I'm feeling really positive.  Midwife did an ultrasound and heart rate check and the little baby was kicking and twitching and moving around so much. Simply a miracle.

We will be having the Harmony test done (she suggested it), so DW with have the blood drawn on Thursday.  We are hopeful that everything will be normal, and will also enjoy learning the baby's sex.  It will cost us about $200, so that is a reasonable price to pay for a little peace of mind.

We also have the nuchal screen early next month.  

DW is feeling very tired, though her nausea is pretty much under control thanks to meds--it was pretty awful.

QOTW: Best thing we had with DS?  Loved the swaddles.  Also, I super dig the Ergo.  Moby was used about 6 times, and he hated it.  We have a small portable Graco swing that is pretty weak and seems to break a lot, so I wish we had a better one of those.  Sun shades were too hard and fell off and sit in our garage, plus we have tint on the windows. Personally, I wish we had got a Bob stroller instead of the other brand jogger we got.  But I also dig not being a sheep in the crowd, so it balances out, I suppose.  I'm trying to decide if I want to get a double stroller or just put one in the ergo.

1blueridgemama

Hi there, would love to be added to the list.  DW and I (I'm carrying) are expecting b/g twins October 22nd.  Thanks!  

Louliza

Hello!!! New here!! Been having some posting issues anyways here goes!
Please add me : ) I am 9 weeks tomorrow and until yesterday and off and on ( as I posted about) Feel pretty tired and yucky. I don't remember feeling this with my last two pregnancies but that was over 10 years ago!! We don't really want a bunch of stuff and plastic junk but def think cloth diapers and an ergo would be great ! My due date is 2-1-15!!

singingmua

@Louliza‌ ... My due date is 2/2/15. Hey buddy!!

singingmua

I will be 9 weeks in Monday, and I'm pretty wiped out with exhaustion. I still have off and in queasiness (but thankfully not full-blown nausea). We have our initial appt on Monday with the MFM so we are looking forward to maybe getting another peek at "Mikey" (I'm high-risk so will be monitored very closely by several doctors).

QOTW - we haven't made any purchases yet, but I know that one thing that I am most looking forward to is purchasing a baby carrier (Tula is my brand of choice). I'm a little nervous about purchasing items, but excited at the same time.

singingmua

@firstcomeslove2013‌ I would like to be added to the list as well. My due date is 2/2/15.

Louliza

@singingmua awesome!!!!!!!!!