UO Thursdays

Lilwatz

lisaren said:

lisaren said:

Do y'all really think we're the glitter board??

I don't.  I'd hate to see a "mean" board.  I don't post as much as I would because of fear of backlash.    Maybe I am glitter, because I tend to only post things that people won't freak out about.

See, I wish this weren't the case for you. You should post whatever!! Fuck what others think. No offense to opinions, but damn you should never feel you can't post something in fear of backlash and freak outs. I think we're a good combination of glitter and snark. I think for the most part we can bring it when needed, support when needed and shit glitter when needed. But I also tend to be a little more happy happy then most.

That's pretty inspirational--I might just take you up on that.  But--and I don't direct this to anyone in particular--my many years on facebook have trained me to always ignore the drama.  It's a tough habit to break. 

ETA: quoting is hard.  I give up.

wildflower75

ok my UO is that although I REALLY don't like to ever talk about anyone's child... I just really have an issue with how Beyonce and Jay Z don't seem to comb Blue Ivy's hair... I know, I know... she's just a baby, leave her alone... I know... she'll have a hairstylist for the rest of her life so what do I care about how she walks around at 3 yrs old....I know... it's not my child so what difference does it make to me?  Well, my sister looks at pics of herself from when she was little and she'll ask my mom all the time why she didn't do a better job at combing her hair and it makes her feel bad. I am more than well aware that a baby with a lot of hair is not going to stay still and let you comb it but it can be done(I have a 1 yr old with a TON of hair)  and I am all for the natural fro but put some moisturizer in that and comb it out a little so that it looks taken care of!
My main reason for being upset about this is I know Beyonce would never walk around in public looking like this so why does she let her child???
 

Kristy774

wildflower75 said:

ok my UO is that although I REALLY don't like to ever talk about anyone's child... I just really have an issue with how Beyonce and Jay Z don't seem to comb Blue Ivy's hair... I know, I know... she's just a baby, leave her alone... I know... she'll have a hairstylist for the rest of her life so what do I care about how she walks around at 3 yrs old....I know... it's not my child so what difference does it make to me?  Well, my sister looks at pics of herself from when she was little and she'll ask my mom all the time why she didn't do a better job at combing her hair and it makes her feel bad. I am more than well aware that a baby with a lot of hair is not going to stay still and let you comb it but it can be done(I have a 1 yr old with a TON of hair)  and I am all for the natural fro but put some moisturizer in that and comb it out a little so that it looks taken care of!
My main reason for being upset about this is I know Beyonce would never walk around in public looking like this so why does she let her child???
 

Hmm. I never thought about this but I think you make really good points. Considering me team, "Beyoncé comb your daughters hair got crying out loud".

SweetMelissa5

ClrkKntismyAE said:

I am jealous of all these mommas with lovey babies. DD has become stingy with her kisses. She will only give them to you when she wants to. So if she decides to give me big, ole' sloppy kisses right on my mouth I am going to take them and love every single one.

My 4 year old hates kisses, and if I even kiss him on top of his head, he wipes it off. It makes me kind of sad, but I'm trying really hard to respect his preference (sometimes I do it without thinking when he's cuddled up to me). Luckily, my girls are all about kisses, so I still get lots of baby kisses.

jaminjeff

wildflower75 said:

abbyful said:

Parenting "advice" on Facebook is the worst! Like when DS was close to a year, I had snapped a picture of him with his bedtime bottle, that was the only bottle he got at that age was right before bed. A girl I went to high school with started in on "he's too old for a bottle, time to take that away", "does he have sippy cup? ", etc. she posted several comments about it. Really?! STFU, it's not your kid and I don't want your advice.

I'm supposed to take away the bottle from my 1 year old????
HA!

Right?  I heard so much crap for this gorgeous pic I took of my son, sitting in my lap in the dark next to our Christmas lights (so he was maybe 13 months old?).  He was done by 15 months, but I knew my son, not all the people getting on my case.

Allyvaughan86

lisaren said:

abbyful said:

Allyvaughan86 said:

And when I post pictures of my little girl in fb, she will be well dressed... I hate seeing kids in dirty onsies on my newsfeed!

Be prepared to do a lot of laundry...

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Word..


Hahahaha , so no one year smash cake pics for your child??

Lol maybe I'll make an exception for the cake smash haha! And luckily my husband likes doing laundry, I'm lucky and he's OCD!

Lilwatz

dmo1371 said:

Lilwatz said:

lisaren said:

Do y'all really think we're the glitter board??

I don't.  I'd hate to see a "mean" board.  I don't post as much as I would because of fear of backlash.    Maybe I am glitter, because I tend to only post things that people won't freak out about.

I think you should feel free to be yourself. We're not all always going to agree with each other on everything, and that's ok. 

I agree with that philosophy.  But I also don't typically ask for it in real life, why do it online?  Having said that, I've enjoyed this board a lot.  In the beginning it seemed more I'd-get-in-trouble-for-posting-the-wrong-thing.  Now, it's less a thing I think.  But I have to say, I always feel bad for those who post and get the flames!

Lilwatz

AnnieRoo13 said:

Lilwatz said:

lisaren said:

Do y'all really think we're the glitter board??

I don't.  I'd hate to see a "mean" board.  I don't post as much as I would because of fear of backlash.    Maybe I am glitter, because I tend to only post things that people won't freak out about.

This makes me sad! I would consider you one of the regulars and I would hate to think you're not posting as often as you like because of the fear of backlash. Also- don't go on the baby shower board- if you want mean, they'll give you mean. Or the First Tri board I'm afraid to post there to be honest.

Oh, you ladies refer to that board enough that I am TERRIFIED of it.  No no no.    I really only stick here.  N14 are my peeps. 

dr_pr

Kristy774 said:

ok my UO is that although I REALLY don't like to ever talk about anyone's child... I just really have an issue with how Beyonce and Jay Z don't seem to comb Blue Ivy's hair... I know, I know... she's just a baby, leave her alone... I know... she'll have a hairstylist for the rest of her life so what do I care about how she walks around at 3 yrs old....I know... it's not my child so what difference does it make to me?  Well, my sister looks at pics of herself from when she was little and she'll ask my mom all the time why she didn't do a better job at combing her hair and it makes her feel bad. I am more than well aware that a baby with a lot of hair is not going to stay still and let you comb it but it can be done(I have a 1 yr old with a TON of hair)  and I am all for the natural fro but put some moisturizer in that and comb it out a little so that it looks taken care of!
My main reason for being upset about this is I know Beyonce would never walk around in public looking like this so why does she let her child???
 

Hmm. I never thought about this but I think you make really good points. Considering me team, "Beyoncé comb your daughters hair got crying out loud".

Why not team "JayZ comb your daughter's hair"?  

This relates to my UO--not everything is the mother's fault, and I hate that we get blamed for all of the "failings" of our children.  Kid not sleeping through the night?  It's because mom won't let them cry it out.  Kid acting up in public?  Mom must not discipline enough.  Dads raise kids too, but they seem to get all of the credit and none of the blame!

mamatohne

I have another. I think that people who park like ass hats in parking lots should be ticketed.
Just because you drive a corvette does not mean you get to take up 3 parking spots up front. If you don't want anyone to park next to you park in the back!!!

wildflower75

dr_pr said:

Kristy774 said:

ok my UO is that although I REALLY don't like to ever talk about anyone's child... I just really have an issue with how Beyonce and Jay Z don't seem to comb Blue Ivy's hair... I know, I know... she's just a baby, leave her alone... I know... she'll have a hairstylist for the rest of her life so what do I care about how she walks around at 3 yrs old....I know... it's not my child so what difference does it make to me?  Well, my sister looks at pics of herself from when she was little and she'll ask my mom all the time why she didn't do a better job at combing her hair and it makes her feel bad. I am more than well aware that a baby with a lot of hair is not going to stay still and let you comb it but it can be done(I have a 1 yr old with a TON of hair)  and I am all for the natural fro but put some moisturizer in that and comb it out a little so that it looks taken care of!
My main reason for being upset about this is I know Beyonce would never walk around in public looking like this so why does she let her child???
 

Hmm. I never thought about this but I think you make really good points. Considering me team, "Beyoncé comb your daughters hair got crying out loud".

Why not team "JayZ comb your daughter's hair"?  

This relates to my UO--not everything is the mother's fault, and I hate that we get blamed for all of the "failings" of our children.  Kid not sleeping through the night?  It's because mom won't let them cry it out.  Kid acting up in public?  Mom must not discipline enough.  Dads raise kids too, but they seem to get all of the credit and none of the blame!

dr_pr  I'm Team "Carters, comb your baby's hair!!"
My husband also combs our daughter's hair! That stuff is thick... it takes a village...

PineApple85

I don't have a UO, but I feel this is appropriate.

kfo22

I'm sure this is a very UO, due to the fact I was bitched at by one of my favorite coworkers for even hinting at it yesterday. So, in honor of being able to speak my mind, I'll share!

I plan on avoiding daycares. I understand they're necessary, and have some pros.. but IMO, they're outweighed by cons. And also outrageously expensive...

abbyful

kfo22 said:

I'm sure this is a very UO, due to the fact I was bitched at by one of my favorite coworkers for even hinting at it yesterday. So, in honor of being able to speak my mind, I'll share!

I plan on avoiding daycares. I understand they're necessary, and have some pros.. but IMO, they're outweighed by cons. And also outrageously expensive...

What do you plan on doing instead?

Not all of us have the luxury of being a SAHM.

Kristy774

I have a UO. I HATE when posters all of the sudden come out of the wood work when there's a little bit of drama on the board. If you can't EVER give support to any of the regs, you never post in the GTKY threads, you never post anything at all, period, then NO I don't want to hear about what you think about prenatal vitamins just because there's some drama on that thread. You hate our board? Cool, don't post here at all then. Really shows the kind of person someone is when alllllll they care about is drama and getting involved in it.

kfo22

abbyful said:

I'm sure this is a very UO, due to the fact I was bitched at by one of my favorite coworkers for even hinting at it yesterday. So, in honor of being able to speak my mind, I'll share!

I plan on avoiding daycares. I understand they're necessary, and have some pros.. but IMO, they're outweighed by cons. And also outrageously expensive...

What do you plan on doing instead? Not all of us have the luxury of being a SAHM.

I don't either, but I wish I did. Maybe one day. I am so fortunate to have a MIL that will help between my job and my husband's. I know her values and like the way her son turned out :P

runningmama14

FirstBabyDoyle said:

I may just start giving ridiculous answers when these ask and run posters post. In fact, I might go tell vitamin girl that taking vitamins is never really necessary. They are just a ploy by pharmaceutical companies to get people to spend money. Every food you eat has vitamins, especially if it's fruit flavored-for example skittles and starburst. I generally try to limit my snark and try to be nice or not respond, but it's getting old. @Maelara‌ I got yo back. #bringingtbitchyback @jlove253‌ does this count as hashtag activism?

ETA: punctuation is important
Let's eat Grandpa.
Let's eat, Grandpa.

@FirstBabyDoyle‌ - love it :-) I have, on occasion, resorted to such tactics...

melsod

Here goes my first UO.  I feel like I'm losing my virginity every day on this board.  ">

@jlove253, At the first sign of any of my FB friends posting anything remotely religious I unfollow them.  Those inspirational BS religious things that people post have the opposite effect on me.  They make me incredibly angry & full of HULK rage.  I understand that it's how they feel but I certainly don't.  I make use of that unfollow option.

My actual UO is that I completely hate cheesies.  The puffy ones.  I don't mind the crunchy ones but the puffy ones are so disgusting.  I just crushed an entire bag of them & put them in the composte.  Even the smell is revolting.

Nfranco973

tarynleann said:

@excitedpreggo12‌ This was something that was a topic discussed in my other bmb, will you kiss your baby on the mouth?
Eta I'm just curious and was shocked by the amount of people who said they wouldn't.

I think it's more of the fact that inside your mouth ( no matter how much you floss, brush or rinse) continues to be one of the dirtiest parts of your body.
I just read somewhere the other day that It becomes home to billions of bacteria; in fact, the number of bacteria in the human mouth is similar to the number of people living on earth. Scientists have come across more than 700 different strains of bacteria in the human mouth.

Newborns are at high risk for colds or other infections for the first 4 to 6 weeks of life. That's because their immune system is functionally immature. Babies do get some immune protection from the antibodies they receive from the placenta before birth. They also get antibodies through the mother's breast milk if they are being breast fed after birth. But there are many germs that they are not protected against.

#-o I guess this just became my UO?

Nfranco973

kfo22 said:

abbyful said:

kfo22 said:

I'm sure this is a very UO, due to the fact I was bitched at by one of my favorite coworkers for even hinting at it yesterday. So, in honor of being able to speak my mind, I'll share!

I plan on avoiding daycares. I understand they're necessary, and have some pros.. but IMO, they're outweighed by cons. And also outrageously expensive...

What do you plan on doing instead?

Not all of us have the luxury of being a SAHM.

I don't either, but I wish I did. Maybe one day. I am so fortunate to have a MIL that will help between my job and my husband's. I know her values and like the way her son turned out :P

I'm sure most of us would not want to use daycare if we had a family member, friend or other close person to care for baby or we can afford to be Sahm.

runningmama14

@flutterbuggie - Word on the good bacteria!  That's why some women get yeast infections while on antibiotics.  The drugs wipe out the good bacteria that keep the yeast under control.

lisaren

On the Fb trend, people who check in everywhere they go.

I. Don't. Care.

Nfranco973

@flutterbuggie‌ . Not saying they are all bad. For instance, the same thing with vagina. You have normal bacteria that helps balance. Some 200-300 different bacterial species may hang out in the human oral cavity, plus viruses and other microorganisms. Not all are good. When it comes to newborns we have to be very careful at that stage.

Nfranco973

flutterbuggie said:

Nfranco973 said:

@flutterbuggie‌ . Not saying they are all bad. For instance, the same thing with vagina. You have normal bacteria that helps balance. Some 200-300 different bacterial species may hang out in the human oral cavity, plus viruses and other microorganisms. Not all are good. When it comes to newborns we have to be very careful at that stage.

I kinda believe we need all bacteria to be healthy.  Good and bad.  I think if that all "bad" bacteria would get wiped out, we would have upset the balance and cause the "good" bacteria to get out of control which would probably result in other problems as well.  

Now I am a FTM here and haven't done much research but how are newborns supposed to get their immunities up if we avoid so much of the world we live in? 

We all need bad bacteria as well as good bacteria What I mean is trying to limit exposure to the bad, especially during the newborn stage. Obviously not all bad can be avoided as germs and other bacteria are airborne as well. Don't mind me I'm type OCD lol

mamatohne

Nfranco973 said:

tarynleann said:

@excitedpreggo12‌ This was something that was a topic discussed in my other bmb, will you kiss your baby on the mouth?
Eta I'm just curious and was shocked by the amount of people who said they wouldn't.

I think it's more of the fact that inside your mouth ( no matter how much you floss, brush or rinse) continues to be one of the dirtiest parts of your body.
I just read somewhere the other day that It becomes home to billions of bacteria; in fact, the number of bacteria in the human mouth is similar to the number of people living on earth. Scientists have come across more than 700 different strains of bacteria in the human mouth.

Newborns are at high risk for colds or other infections for the first 4 to 6 weeks of life. That's because their immune system is functionally immature. Babies do get some immune protection from the antibodies they receive from the placenta before birth. They also get antibodies through the mother's breast milk if they are being breast fed after birth. But there are many germs that they are not protected against.

#-o I guess this just became my UO?

I can tell you at 13 months old my son has yet to have a cold or be sick at all. Kissing him has not made him sick by any means. He comes out of my body his blood is my blood. A little kiss on the lips won't hurt him! But again I do not judge people who feel the other way. Your opinion won't convince me to stop kissing on him or this baby.

Nfranco973

tarynleann said:

Nfranco973 said:

tarynleann said:

@excitedpreggo12‌ This was something that was a topic discussed in my other bmb, will you kiss your baby on the mouth?
Eta I'm just curious and was shocked by the amount of people who said they wouldn't.

I think it's more of the fact that inside your mouth ( no matter how much you floss, brush or rinse) continues to be one of the dirtiest parts of your body.
I just read somewhere the other day that It becomes home to billions of bacteria; in fact, the number of bacteria in the human mouth is similar to the number of people living on earth. Scientists have come across more than 700 different strains of bacteria in the human mouth.

Newborns are at high risk for colds or other infections for the first 4 to 6 weeks of life. That's because their immune system is functionally immature. Babies do get some immune protection from the antibodies they receive from the placenta before birth. They also get antibodies through the mother's breast milk if they are being breast fed after birth. But there are many germs that they are not protected against.

#-o I guess this just became my UO?

I can tell you at 13 months old my son has yet to have a cold or be sick at all. Kissing him has not made him sick by any means. He comes out of my body his blood is my blood. A little kiss on the lips won't hurt him! But again I do not judge people who feel the other way. Your opinion won't convince me to stop kissing on him or this baby.

It's not meant to convince anyone. I'm not judging anyone. That's not my style. I'm just giving facts no opinions.

absolutelymaybe

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flutterbuggie said:

On that note I hate when people post super vague status's and then when asked for more details just give another vague reply!  Obviously you are just posting to get attention if you don't actually want everyone to know what the details are.  Bah!

YES! *jumps up and down excited* YES! THIS! I cannot stand vaguebooking (or vaguetweeting). It screams attention whore. I purposely will not comment/ask/acknowledge these posts (even if they're from friends). 

lisaren

Or post Fb status like .... Calling 911. Prayers please.

Dude. How the hell do you have time or even think about updating Fb when calling 911.

Lilwatz

lisaren said:

Or post Fb status like .... Calling 911. Prayers please.

Dude. How the hell do you have time or even think about updating Fb when calling 911.

Recently a fb friend if mine posted about their daughter having a MAJOR accident. Like in Hopkins for months. Tons of people have asked what happened. Not one explanation.

He did have time to post a pun gif on my husband's wall. So he's not too busy with her to explain. I still am glad the little girl is ok, but he's been blocked.

Nfranco973

kyliedaniellexx said:

Someone put one of these up in my friend's office... sad times we live in that we even need to consider things like this.

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lisaren

A few percocets later and my UO is every other color in the skittle bag but red. Get out. Leave my bag. Just red in my mouth now.

People who drive with blinkers on. Stop. Please. Stop.

Charlie sheen. Go away.

Jennifer Anniston. Stop. Please. Bye bye.

Clit rings. No.

Midget porn. Just no.

melsod

flutterbuggie said:

Nfranco973 said:

@excitedpreggo12‌ This was something that was a topic discussed in my other bmb, will you kiss your baby on the mouth? Eta I'm just curious and was shocked by the amount of people who said they wouldn't.

I think it's more of the fact that inside your mouth ( no matter how much you floss, brush or rinse) continues to be one of the dirtiest parts of your body. I just read somewhere the other day that It becomes home to billions of bacteria; in fact, the number of bacteria in the human mouth is similar to the number of people living on earth. Scientists have come across more than 700 different strains of bacteria in the human mouth. Newborns are at high risk for colds or other infections for the first 4 to 6 weeks of life. That's because their immune system is functionally immature. Babies do get some immune protection from the antibodies they receive from the placenta before birth. They also get antibodies through the mother's breast milk if they are being breast fed after birth. But there are many germs that they are not protected against. #-o I guess this just became my UO?

There are so many bacteria in the mouth but that doesn't mean they are bad bacteria.  To maintain a healthy immune system we NEED those good bacteria keeping the balance.  I think people go a little overboard with all the hooplah about germs, imo.

melsod said:

Here goes my first UO.  I feel like I'm losing my virginity every day on this board.  ">

@jlove253, At the first sign of any of my FB friends posting anything remotely religious I unfollow them.  Those inspirational BS religious things that people post have the opposite effect on me.  They make me incredibly angry & full of HULK rage.  I understand that it's how they feel but I certainly don't.  I make use of that unfollow option.

My actual UO is that I completely hate cheesies.  The puffy ones.  I don't mind the crunchy ones but the puffy ones are so disgusting.  I just crushed an entire bag of them & put them in the composte.  Even the smell is revolting.

I am not trying to stir anything up but I genuinely want to know why it bothers you so much to see things like that?  Also totally get if you want to block things that you don't like it's totally up to you and personal choice but i'm just curious as to why you get so mad?  Do you have the same reaction when people mention anything religious too?  Again, not trying to be mean at all!

I'm with you with not trying to stir up anything but here it goes anyways.  

I totally meant what I said about it being BS.  I find a lot of people hide behind scripture/religious stuff in order to not totally face what's going on in their lives.  I can understand people needing something to turn to in times of trouble but unless you're willing to actually do something about it nothing will ever change.  Putting all of your trust in a God is one thing if you're accepting of the fact that God apparently gave everyone free will & that you're life is really up to you.  It's another thing if you're putting all of your trust in a God & then sitting back & watching things go to shit.  Your life is what you make it.  Whether you want God in it or not is your choice.  But again it comes down to choice.  I choose to believe in myself instead & when things go wrong I try to figure them out & fix things.  Somethings can't be fixed & don't have explanations but being able to accept that is just another part of life.  Of course, this is just my personal opinion.  Ready now for flaming.

sunflwra

lisaren said:

A few percocets later and my UO is every other color in the skittle bag but red. Get out. Leave my bag. Just red in my mouth now. People who drive with blinkers on. Stop. Please. Stop. Charlie sheen. Go away. Jennifer Anniston. Stop. Please. Bye bye. Clit rings. No. Midget porn. Just no.

Drugs are good- just went from an "OMG, my ute, bladder and bowels are being ripped from my body" panic to "Look at all of the pretty rainbows" fuzzy haze in about 20 minutes thanks to a nice hydrocodone/ibuprofen combo. DRUGS ARE GOOD
:x

lisaren

sunflwra said:

lisaren said:

A few percocets later and my UO is every other color in the skittle bag but red. Get out. Leave my bag. Just red in my mouth now.

People who drive with blinkers on. Stop. Please. Stop.

Charlie sheen. Go away.

Jennifer Anniston. Stop. Please. Bye bye.

Clit rings. No.

Midget porn. Just no.

Drugs are good- just went from an "OMG, my ute, bladder and bowels are being ripped from my body" panic to "Look at all of the pretty rainbows" fuzzy haze in about 20 minutes thanks to a nice hydrocodone/ibuprofen combo. DRUGS ARE GOOD
:x

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We should totally start our own hazy thread of love and rainbows.

jlove253

kyliedaniellexx said:

IMO people can believe whatever they want to, it doesn't bother or offend me.

But it's like that saying...

"Religion is like a penis. It's fine to have one and it's fine to be proud of it, but please don't whip it out in public and start waving it around... and PLEASE don't try to shove it down my child's throat."

I actually really appreciate that quote. I don't think forcing anyone to do anything actually leads to lasting, positive change. Especially when it comes to encountering God. When someone tries to shove God in your face you are often just experiencing the other person, not God.

Also, @melsod‌ I appreciate your explanation, but still don't understand why it makes you "hulk ragey". Is it that it makes you nuts when people are passive and use God as a "get out of feeling/acting/reacting free card"? I really want to know. I genuinely think it's important when to understand why someone has a strong, anger reaction to anything, and if it's in response to something I may say or do then even more so.

And I want to add that I think there is a big difference between sharing something cliché/shallow-ly religious (like if you're not ashamed of Jesus) as compared to something personal and deep (I've never thought about ____ before and it's blowing my mind). Even more so if it's truly vulnerable.

I guess I just hate shallow social media, which is most social media.

Maelara

excitedpreggo12 said:

Nfranco973 said:

@flutterbuggie‌ . Not saying they are all bad. For instance, the same thing with vagina. You have normal bacteria that helps balance. Some 200-300 different bacterial species may hang out in the human oral cavity, plus viruses and other microorganisms. Not all are good. When it comes to newborns we have to be very careful at that stage.

I kinda believe we need all bacteria to be healthy.  Good and bad.  I think if that all "bad" bacteria would get wiped out, we would have upset the balance and cause the "good" bacteria to get out of control which would probably result in other problems as well.  

Now I am a FTM here and haven't done much research but how are newborns supposed to get their immunities up if we avoid so much of the world we live in? 

I'm not going to speak for anyone else and I've already put my opinion up (since it was my UO originally) but it's more than just germs. And it's more than just the mother of the child that likes kissing kids in the mouth. I watch my cousin kiss her nephew straight in the slobbery mouth all the time. NO ONE, with the exception of SO will have the option to do this besides me if I so choose. As of right now the first couple of months I won't even think of doing it. Here in my state it's freezing in November and there's a HUGE chance someone will have a cold/ flu. So it's not about good vs. bad germs. It's about herpes, mono, flu, allergic reactions, and it being my kid. A lot of moms may have stories of nothing happening to their kid but I'm not going to willingly compromise an already limited system. And I'm just not a fan of it with me doing it.

I honestly think you need to calm the heck down. Your kid isn't going to get herpes or mono from a kiss. You will more than likely know if someone in your social circle has any of those things because if they are close enough to you to kiss your kid, they are close enough to tell you that stuff. I don't think anyone else should be kissing your baby on the lips but you and your SO (same goes for my baby) and I think you'll find most won't. Cool your jets girl, no need to get hysterical about kissing.

lisaren

This is all I've got.

Maelara

excitedpreggo12 said:

excitedpreggo12 said:

Nfranco973 said:

@flutterbuggie‌ . Not saying they are all bad. For instance, the same thing with vagina. You have normal bacteria that helps balance. Some 200-300 different bacterial species may hang out in the human oral cavity, plus viruses and other microorganisms. Not all are good. When it comes to newborns we have to be very careful at that stage.

I kinda believe we need all bacteria to be healthy.  Good and bad.  I think if that all "bad" bacteria would get wiped out, we would have upset the balance and cause the "good" bacteria to get out of control which would probably result in other problems as well.  

Now I am a FTM here and haven't done much research but how are newborns supposed to get their immunities up if we avoid so much of the world we live in? 

I'm not going to speak for anyone else and I've already put my opinion up (since it was my UO originally) but it's more than just germs. And it's more than just the mother of the child that likes kissing kids in the mouth. I watch my cousin kiss her nephew straight in the slobbery mouth all the time. NO ONE, with the exception of SO will have the option to do this besides me if I so choose. As of right now the first couple of months I won't even think of doing it. Here in my state it's freezing in November and there's a HUGE chance someone will have a cold/ flu. So it's not about good vs. bad germs. It's about herpes, mono, flu, allergic reactions, and it being my kid. A lot of moms may have stories of nothing happening to their kid but I'm not going to willingly compromise an already limited system. And I'm just not a fan of it with me doing it.

I honestly think you need to calm the heck down. Your kid isn't going to get herpes or mono from a kiss. You will more than likely know if someone in your social circle has any of those things because if they are close enough to you to kiss your kid, they are close enough to tell you that stuff. I don't think anyone else should be kissing your baby on the lips but you and your SO (same goes for my baby) and I think you'll find most won't. Cool your jets girl, no need to get hysterical about kissing.

I actually was calm and not hysterical at all. The convo was that people don't understand the whole germaphobe thing and I put my .02 cents in, I'm more concerned of other things. If you don't like my UO so be it. Yes, I know my circle but I have no clue what you do in your spare time. Keep them lips to yourself. Point blank.

Why the hell would I ever kiss your kid? Or any other random kid for that matter. You are seriously taking things waaay to far. You are very obviously not calm. And no, I don't need you to tell me what the convo is about. I have eyes and can read, thanks. I'm not going to let random people kiss my kid either, that's fucked up. Your 2 cents involved herpes and mono 0.o it was ridiculous.

Maelara

@excitedpreggo12‌ If you want to start fucking insulting me, get ready to have your ass handed to you. I'm giving you one fucking chance to back the fuck off. We can have a discussion without the fucking insults. Grow up.

lisaren

excitedpreggo12 said:

Maelara said:

excitedpreggo12 said:

Maelara said:

excitedpreggo12 said:

flutterbuggie said:

Nfranco973 said:

@flutterbuggie‌ . Not saying they are all bad. For instance, the same thing with vagina. You have normal bacteria that helps balance. Some 200-300 different bacterial species may hang out in the human oral cavity, plus viruses and other microorganisms. Not all are good. When it comes to newborns we have to be very careful at that stage.

I kinda believe we need all bacteria to be healthy.  Good and bad.  I think if that all "bad" bacteria would get wiped out, we would have upset the balance and cause the "good" bacteria to get out of control which would probably result in other problems as well.  

Now I am a FTM here and haven't done much research but how are newborns supposed to get their immunities up if we avoid so much of the world we live in? 

I'm not going to speak for anyone else and I've already put my opinion up (since it was my UO originally) but it's more than just germs. And it's more than just the mother of the child that likes kissing kids in the mouth. I watch my cousin kiss her nephew straight in the slobbery mouth all the time. NO ONE, with the exception of SO will have the option to do this besides me if I so choose. As of right now the first couple of months I won't even think of doing it. Here in my state it's freezing in November and there's a HUGE chance someone will have a cold/ flu. So it's not about good vs. bad germs. It's about herpes, mono, flu, allergic reactions, and it being my kid. A lot of moms may have stories of nothing happening to their kid but I'm not going to willingly compromise an already limited system. And I'm just not a fan of it with me doing it.

I honestly think you need to calm the heck down. Your kid isn't going to get herpes or mono from a kiss. You will more than likely know if someone in your social circle has any of those things because if they are close enough to you to kiss your kid, they are close enough to tell you that stuff. I don't think anyone else should be kissing your baby on the lips but you and your SO (same goes for my baby) and I think you'll find most won't. Cool your jets girl, no need to get hysterical about kissing.

I actually was calm and not hysterical at all. The convo was that people don't understand the whole germaphobe thing and I put my .02 cents in, I'm more concerned of other things. If you don't like my UO so be it. Yes, I know my circle but I have no clue what you do in your spare time. Keep them lips to yourself. Point blank.

Why the hell would I ever kiss your kid? Or any other random kid for that matter. You are seriously taking things waaay to far. You are very obviously not calm. And no, I don't need you to tell me what the convo is about. I have eyes and can read, thanks. I'm not going to let random people kiss my kid either, that's fucked up. Your 2 cents involved herpes and mono 0.o it was ridiculous.

That was the point of my latest post, other people kissing my kid. Hence the story of my cousin kissing her nephew. I obviously have to re tell you because of those eyes of yours. I don't see what you're even disagreeing with me about, you agree on others not kissing your child and so do I. Mono and herpes are real. I know plenty of people with it or had mono. I have hsv1 and it has never appeared on my lips but there's always the day it could so yes I'm concerned that others could have the same situation or worse. The person who gave it to me was shedding and didn't even know he was coming on an outbreak. So yes if you think I'm really stuck on my opinion, you're damn skippy. I'm not talking out the side of my neck with some bs ftm fears, it's real life for me. What you do is fine which is why I've stated several times, to each their own or I'm speaking for myself.



@Maelara‌ eyes.