Most awkward family comment

Trampslikeus

My mom in law mayyyyy win most awkward TTC comment (I love her so much, she means well, not bashing) ...

but there must be some other doozies out there!? Awkward, funny, well intentioned but rude?

So mine is:
"I'm going to put roofies in your beer and lock you in the bedroom with (husband) if you're not pregnant next time I see you"

I had ZERO ideas as to how to respond to that. Cue awkward laugh and change of subject.

blueoyster2014

I would have punched my mil directly in the face if she said that. Or at least told her to fuck off. Wow!!!

ETA nobody knows we are ttc, so we avoid any comments

Jags8

Yikes

amylee545

Ummmmmm awwwwkward!

People baffle me sometimes with the shit that comes out of their mouths.

catwine

that's funny buy creeeepy! I can't picture my in laws saying anything like that.

OnceInLoveWithAmy

We are really open with the fact we are TTC and struggling, so we don't get too many comments. Usually I just get "time for another!" when I tell strangers my son is 2.5.

magsame

Weird...if my mil said that I'd be just as dumbfounded. My family knows we are TTC and my FIL side of the family knows. FIL is super excited and can't wait. He told me he waits for news on facebook. We are working on it! 

kwicks

My MIL started telling me details about her sex life and drive. I shut the conversation down, but my ears were still bleeding.

Actually, they still are. **shudders in horror**

PinkRoses53

Ugh people.  I didn't tell anyone, not even friends, that we were ttc.  However, we were married 4 years before we started trying (by choice) and the comments used to annoy the crap out of me.  For all they knew, we were trying and were having difficulty!

alongamore17

My MIL knows we have been having a hard time ttc. She still constantly asks every time she sees us, when are you going to give us a grandbaby?  

cannolioh

Oh man what a weird thing to say to someone, especially your daughter in law. 

dazzld1

We are open with family and close friends that we are trying. I don't volunteer info, but if asked I don't mind giving out details regarding how long. Most of our family and friends are thoughtful about what they say/ask. I did have one very close friend ask me about it recently and when I told him we had been trying for 5 months he responded by telling me how "weird" it was that we had weren't KU yet. To be fair he is no where near TTC himself, and probably knows no more about it then what they taught in health class (which as most of us know, is pretty useless as far as TTC is concerned). I politely explained how it could take a healthy couple up to a year to get pregnant. I'm not sure he believed me, but he didn't say anything else. Seriously, I feel like I have to educate half the people we tell, about what what to expect while TTC. 

ETA: I can't imagine my MIL saying anything like that to me. I think you handled it the best you could given her awkwardness!

urani

My dad constantly asks about babies. I finally told him we were taking a break after 2 miscarriages and his response was, "if you're taking a break, you still need to practice." Ugh

Remylove1011

OMG I can't believe that comment...roofies in your drink! How awkward! 

My in-laws most recent visit included commenting on everything that I was doing. "Oh she's drinking a coffee so she must not be pregnant yet" or "Oh she's not drinking wine! Maybe she is pregnant!". DH made the mistake of telling them that we're no longer preventing, he thought this would get less comments that actively TTC... he was wrong! 

theholmanherd

Wow people say weird things. I don't even know what I would say in response lol.

I biggest doozie I got was when my MiL told us we aren't ready for kids (she said this in front of strangers) because we don't have a house yet. My FiL said we will never be successful financially so we should just have kids already. We are actually doing very well financially and are saving to buy a house in cash. Oh and we've been trying for over a year. I'm so glad they don't know that.

7DeadlyZins

You did great- not sure that there is a way to respond to that! 

AnonymousNurse

DarcyHermione said:

I'm concerned that your mother in law knows a roofie supplier.

I haven't gotten awkward comments like that. My mother did drunkenly tell my grandparents we were "working on it" on Thanksgiving. Surprisingly my family has been really chill about it all. After the first time I told my mother that "relaxing" won't get me pregnant she's been really good about everything.

Ugh, my mom also went and told my grandma for some reason.  It's ALL my grandmother wants to talk about now.  It wasn't terrible at first, but 6 months later she still won't drop it.  She keeps reminding me that I'm "not getting any younger" and that it would be a terrible shame if she died before she had any great-grandchildren.  But you know... no pressure!

asoneill

Wow, that's fairly terrifying, @trampslikeus!

Mine is actually from before my husband and I had even been together for a year. Eleven months, just about to move in with him. Snowmageddon hits here in DC, and we're snowed in together (bear in mind his brother lives with us) for at least a week. My mom flat out tells me "It's ok with me if you forget to take your birth control!"

Needless to say I was mortified. (She did apologize later, btw.)

BillyHorrible

Not so much my, but my SIL's sister had a very difficult time TTC - they tried for a while.  My MIL always made comments behind their back about how they should be having a baby and how strange it was that they weren't parents yet.  Finally I had enough and I told her that they did want to be parents, and they were trying, and how hurtful it can be to a couple when people keep making comments about their plans for children.

TikiTurtle

My MIL texts me pics of her holding random babies saying "can I order one of these?" Or "This is what I want for (insert upcoming holiday here)!"

This may sound strange, but I laugh. That's the kind of relationship we have. I freaking love her.

nannabee21

I was ovulating on our vacation with my in laws two weeks ago and there was no way we were going to get any privacy since we were all sharing a condo and we were sharing a room with H's brother and wife. H mentioned to his mom that we needed some privacy that I was ovulating (they know we are trying) so she told us to "have fun" and took FIL "on a drive" and told us to call her when they could come back.

Most awkward exchange ever. Especially when they got back knowing we had just had sex. I was so red in the face. Lol

Angel52186

Oh dear, I get this all the time from my mom and grandmother! Every time we are together and they see a baby it just goes down hill from there. Thankfully they don't know we are TTC, but boy if they did I'm sure it would be even worse.

While we were shopping for wedding stuff, my mom found a zebra print onesie and she asked me "do I need to buy this now?" Unfortunately it's only gotten worse, and now it's spread to Facebook when my mom post pictures of her holding babies, she tags me and says "it sure would be nice if I had a grand baby!"

chaysefaith

We didn't tell anyone when we first started trying and I think our families thought it was an accident when I got pregnant. We are definitely not telling anyone that we're trying again, and I honestly don't know when I will tell our families when it happens.

Buuuut, when I got pregnant last time when we told his dad his response was "how did that happen?" :-/ uh...

wishiwaspreggo

nannabee21 said:

I was ovulating on our vacation with my in laws two weeks ago and there was no way we were going to get any privacy since we were all sharing a condo and we were sharing a room with H's brother and wife. H mentioned to his mom that we needed some privacy that I was ovulating (they know we are trying) so she told us to "have fun" and took FIL "on a drive" and told us to call her when they could come back. Most awkward exchange ever. Especially when they got back knowing we had just had sex. I was so red in the face. Lol

Sometimes I envy straight folks and think "Gee, it would be awesome if all we had to do was have sex to get pregnant" and then these situations come up... Ugh.  Sorry. 

sthrncharmer

My mom asked what how was dinner (for my birthday). I told her it was good but I was so exhausted bc I only got 1 hour of sleep that day. I fell asleep on the ride home and proceeded with sleeping when I got home. My mom said "'Mija, excuse me for saying this but I'm not going to get grand babies if you keep falling asleep" I couldn't believe that just came out of my mom!

ngolimento

Oooo, it's like this thread was made to call my name.   

So, I have crazy, CRAZY in-laws.  They try to be normal, but they slip the rails more often than ride them.  

FIL:  Two weeks before DH and I were getting married, FIL sat me down and told me the following:  "Are you sure you still want to do this?  I mean, are you certain you wouldn't rather just stop by the hospital and give me a grandchild?" *Stupid grin*

FIL:  Drunk, as usual, calls me on the phone  " I just wanted to let you know that you're the most beatiful, most wonderful daughter in law ever.  You're going to give us such beautiful grandchildren.  Every time you visit with 'DH', I just want to see you kiss."  (I don't answer his calls anymore)

SIL:  "Ok, so we're not mentioning babies to you.   Everyone can't say anything baby to you.  Don't worry, I'll make sure nobody says anything."  - proceeds to then mention babies every fucking time we see each other, then clap her hand over her mouth and give me an 'uh oh' look.  I want to strangle her.

garnetandgoldgrace

@nannabee21 - oh. hell. no.  I couldn't deal with that... but I know you have to do what you have to do. 

MrsN6912

I've got awkward.
I was talking to an old friend. (Strictly a friend...there was never anything romantic) He asked when my husband and I were going to start a family. I am a pretty open person so I told him we were trying but I have PCOS so it could take a while. I gave him a brief non detailed definition of PCOS.
He proceeds to say "Well, maybe you just need better sperm. We should have sex."
Umm. Excuse me?? And he wasn't joking.
No longer friends.
ETA Oops. This thread was suppose to be about family! Oh well.

ngolimento

MrsN6912 said:

I've got awkward. I was talking to an old friend. (Strictly a friend...there was never anything romantic) He asked when my husband and I were going to start a family. I am a pretty open person so I told him we were trying but I have PCOS so it could take a while. I gave him a brief non detailed definition of PCOS. He proceeds to say "Well, maybe you just need better sperm. We should have sex." Umm. Excuse me?? And he wasn't joking. No longer friends. ETA Oops. This thread was suppose to be about family! Oh well.

Lol, makes you wonder how many years he's been waiting for an excuse to ask.  That is a seriously weird thing to say.

MrsN6912

slappalicious said:

MrsN6912 said:

I've got awkward.
I was talking to an old friend. (Strictly a friend...there was never anything romantic) He asked when my husband and I were going to start a family. I am a pretty open person so I told him we were trying but I have PCOS so it could take a while. I gave him a brief non detailed definition of PCOS.
He proceeds to say "Well, maybe you just need better sperm. We should have sex."
Umm. Excuse me?? And he wasn't joking.
No longer friends.
ETA Oops. This thread was suppose to be about family! Oh well.

HOLY SHIT!!


That was my exact reaction. Eww.

chaysefaith

This isn't baby related but in high school my grandma asked me if my boyfriend was good in bed.  When I refused to respond she turned to him asked him "Are you good in bed?  It's ok, you can tell me.  It's ok to rate yourself.  I KNOW I'M GOOD IN BED."

:-&

raelynn71109

My MIL proceeded to tell DH the best positions and timing for conceiving a boy after he casually mentioned that he would like a son. Yeah, I told DH that it's all B.S.

theholmanherd

MamaZEsquire said:

This isn't baby related but in high school my grandma asked me if my boyfriend was good in bed.  When I refused to respond she turned to him asked him "Are you good in bed?  It's ok, you can tell me.  It's ok to rate yourself.  I KNOW I'M GOOD IN BED."

:-&

My grandma won't even say sex--or any synonym for it. The closest she has ever come is when she said that a girl had to be "exposed" before she could get pregnant LMAO.

My grandmother just said "no hanky panky"

catlover790

Idk about awkward, but very annoying; recently my MIL said she hopes we have all boys (she has a boy and girl). Not sure if that's because she thinks that would annoy me (she is very passive aggressive) but I just don't get the point of saying that. I would love to have a baby in general, I'm not concerned with the sex and have never told her about it. She is always saying annoying TTC things.

Also, why do people feel they can talk like this?! I have had random coworkers ask me when I'm going to TTC, I don't get how people think it's appropriate!

PHNJenna

I posted this in W20 yesterday, good timing with this discussion thread! My brother in law texted me last night asking me I I was prego because their 2 year old son was "crossing his fingers a lot and I googled what that means and it's said that it means a family member is pregnant". Sorry guys, nope! Didn't really know what to respond with?!?! It was quite odd, as I don't really get along with my BIL and we don't talk much. I think it was just a passive way to ask me if we were going to "announce" anything at their kid's birthday party. Side note- I googled "toddlers crossing fingers" & "babies crossing fingers" last night when I got home and all of the search results yielded things FAR from anything containing "family member being pregnant" Also- my MIL & FIL are RELENTLESS they won't drop it, since like before we were married 3-4 years of non stop baby/kid questions. My in laws had children very young, so us being 29 I think is a hard concept for them to process... Albeit, super fucking annoying.

CoozieInMyPurse

Wow... So glad I have nothing like this to report. A couple of nosy co-workers. My story is from the other side. My FIL basically tripped over himself trying to walk backward out of a comment about me, DH and future children. It was kind of hilarious. I still don't think DH has told them we are trying. My mom knows, but hasn't said anything much. Years ago when my dating life sucked and I yelled at her for asking about that, she stopped asking until I had opened the conversation with something to report. I think she is taking the same tact here.

crazychickenlady

Oh wow!  I don’t even know how I would have handled that!

Nobody knows we are TTC, but it is no secret that we want children. My MIL has told me multiple times, most recently on Saturday (while, unbeknownst to her, I was spotting and cramping and getting my period the next day and quite honestly very bummed that we had “failed” that cycle) that she wanted to “put in an order for a little (enter husbands name here)”… Because, you know, TTC is exactly like Burger King and you can get it how you want it when you want it…. 

PuppyLove84

I was at a family wedding this weekend, and I got soooo many annoying comments.  Like my grandmother, who said, "Well at least I got one great-grandbaby before I die" and looks at me.  (My cousin has a little girl.)  Or my dad's cousin, who asked, "When will this world be blessed with your beautiful babies?"  Umm, weirdo.  Or the bride, who when we were passing around champagne while getting ready, asked if I wanted some and said she "wouldn't tell!" if I didn't.  Nope, had just started my period, so please pass the booze!

BabyCowbell

Some of you guys have awesome stories!

Our families are really good at leaving us alone. They don't know we are TTC and they never ask anything...until a few weeks ago at a group dinner with like 10 people. All eyes were on me because someone asked about my work and I was explaining my job then out of nowhere MIL asked "But what about when you have kids, what are you going to do??" Ummm I'll either keep working or I won't? What a weird question to ask at a random time when you've never once even asked I'd we plan to have kids at all. And why does it matter if I work?

Trampslikeus

Sorry to have posted and ran!   My flight was delayed, then got undelayed. Surprise!


WOWWWW @ some of these.   Its like it NEVER occurs to people that a couple could be having difficulty conceiving and that some of these comments could come across as extremely hurtful.

And Jesus Tapdancing, parents, grandparents, in-laws of all shapes and sizes... here's how often I want to hear about you having sex or discuss my sex life with you:

Ladymouse

Aunt gave my cousin's fiance "birth control pills" - candy corn - and "birth control chews" - a pack of gum - at her bridal shower.  (I'm 90% certain she's never been on birth control.)  She told me about it and waited for me to laugh and I just sat there vaguely horrified.  What?  That's not funny.  It's pushy and kinda creepy.  She found it necessary to explain until I rearranged my face into something resembling amusement.

MIL and my parents are great (FIL barely speaks to us.)  We told them when we were trying, and they didn't bring it up at all.  We'll do the same this time.  My mom is pretty good at shutting down inquiries by less polite family members.  MIL is the nosiest in DH's family.  She never said anything other than "oh, I thought you had NEWS" when DH called to talk for the first time in a month.