FFFC

mrsH1112

Damasked said:

Sometimes I put on shows like A Baby Story just so my cats will get used to the sound of a baby crying.

Thats awesome.  AND smart.  I am seriously stressing out at how bad my cats are going to freak out when LO is born.  I have a 5 yr old cat that is really self confident and brave but he totally gets weirded out with babies and goes in hiding when they are around.  I secretly like that he is so in your face with his little personality that I feel bad that he will be the type of cat that isnt social and sorta does his own thing when the baby is here.

I personally cant watch a Baby Story right now, because I cant make it half way through without balling my eyes out hardcore!

ashaw512

SmileyGirl18 said:

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ambershaw512 said:

@SmileyGirl18‌ we weren't planning to have another baby. My body started to reject my birth control and here were are. We are absolutely happy to have another baby we just weren't expecting it would be so soon. So there's that.

@softsoprano‌ thank you for seeing my point, it actually makes me feel better that I'm not the only one who thinks that. And the vows are to be done at 6 pm and we are going to dinner at an expensive restaurant, that's all, then we leave the next morning.

@aliciak316‌ I think hormones make everything worse than they are. It all just started piling up and I had a small meltdown

Oh, my bad.  Since your baby is arriving earlier than you planned and all of your stuff is girly, you have every right to expect a gift grabby party and have other people provide for your baby instead of doing it yourself.  I mean the second had come in a year or two it still makes complete sense to by gender specific baby gear so you can have friends buy you all new stuff with a boy.  

Well since I've declined several times before accepting I don't see how I'm being gift grabby? And as I recall second showers were OK for a different sex or unless there was a big age gap like over 5 years apart. I see nothing wrong with 2nd, 3rd, 4th showers. I'm happy to have another shower BC my family wants to do that for me and my baby.

Beedeck

I got a pedicure last night and went and got a manicure on my lunch break today. I feel super glamorous right now. Hahaa. I used to get these all the time but I don't think I've had either in over a year. All I keep doing is admiring my pretty nails. This will definitely be worked into a regular routine for me.

ashaw512

SmileyGirl18 said:

ambershaw512 said:

SmileyGirl18 said:

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ambershaw512 said:

@SmileyGirl18‌ we weren't planning to have another baby. My body started to reject my birth control and here were are. We are absolutely happy to have another baby we just weren't expecting it would be so soon. So there's that.

@softsoprano‌ thank you for seeing my point, it actually makes me feel better that I'm not the only one who thinks that. And the vows are to be done at 6 pm and we are going to dinner at an expensive restaurant, that's all, then we leave the next morning.

@aliciak316‌ I think hormones make everything worse than they are. It all just started piling up and I had a small meltdown

Oh, my bad.  Since your baby is arriving earlier than you planned and all of your stuff is girly, you have every right to expect a gift grabby party and have other people provide for your baby instead of doing it yourself.  I mean the second had come in a year or two it still makes complete sense to by gender specific baby gear so you can have friends buy you all new stuff with a boy.  

Well since I've declined several times before accepting I don't see how I'm being gift grabby? And as I recall second showers were OK for a different sex or unless there was a big age gap like over 5 years apart. I see nothing wrong with 2nd, 3rd, 4th showers. I'm happy to have another shower BC my family wants to do that for me and my baby.

Who told you second showers were ok for different sexes?

Apparently your sister doesn't want to do it for you or your baby. Just saying.
So if I understand you correctly for those of us who bought pink or blue instead of buying white yellow and green is stupid BC we weren't like you and plan our futures better. And anyone who has more than one baby shower is gift grabby?
Well shit, I guess I'm a dumbass for buying my little girl pink BC she was so darn cute in it. And I'm gift grabby for not wanting the shower in the first place. You got me all sumed up.
And just saying, my vent in my first post wasn't that she pushed the shower off on my mom or that she didn't want to do it, its that she's blowing me and my day off to go shopping. After she's started planning and I got pissed BC she wanted to change the date when its the only date open for everyone to come to it, except for her and she picked the date.

LTMama

chardonnay24 said:

I secretly wish that 2nd showers were acceptable. We were OAD, so we got rid of most of our baby stuff. I thought we still had some essentials, but we're basically starting from scratch. I've had a couple offers for showers but I don't feel comfortable asking people to give us more stuff, 3.5 years later, because we got rid of their original gifts.

But still, a big part of me wants to make my registry public and wishes that someone would come along and help us out.

**stuck in the box**

Me too.  Since DD showed up so early, my work shower was cancelled, and though my family insisted on still having a baby shower at home, I wasn't pregnant at it and was preoccupied the whole time because I felt guilty being away from the NICU.  A couple of coworkers have asked me about a work shower, but I keep declining because they gave me such a generous gift last time, I don't feel right having them gift us again. 

Beedeck

shimmer475 said:

I got a pedicure last night and went and got a manicure on my lunch break today. I feel super glamorous right now. Hahaa. I used to get these all the time but I don't think I've had either in over a year. All I keep doing is admiring my pretty nails. This will definitely be worked into a regular routine for me.

DH looked at my toes yesterday when we were out and jokingly said "damn I need to get you somewhere to get those things done!" Thanks DH I know they are looking a little rough, I haven't had a pedi since the fall and the last thing I feel like doing right now is painting my toes! I even tried to sucker my 9 year old DD to paint them for me

Yes, DH kept commenting on mine as well. DS went on and on last night about my pretty toe nails, it's probably the first time he has seen them painted that he remembers.  

KendraDee13

I'm just not so sure why everyone cares so dang much about everyone else's parties. If someone wants to throw someone else a shower... Good for them. I always love a party!! I'm not having a second shower, but I sure don't care if other people do.

My confession: I am obsessed with rocky road and I have to try REALLY REALLY hard to not eat some every night (I usually fail at that one)

I'm generally a pretty healthy eater... But DH has been a little worried lately about the baby getting all the nutrition he needs. In my defense, the guy gets home at 10pm and doesn't see the rest of my meals!

LTMama

#1 - I have to preface this by saying I've only been to one once, and the whole experience was cheapened by the two old men smoking all over the food, but I find Waffle House kind of gross.  IHOP is way better. 

*ducking*

#2 - I roll my eyes when I hear women talking about birth and saying "I will be doing X" or "I'll be having X" (unless they're saying they're having a scheduled c-section, because they will be having a scheduled c-section).  Anything else is up in the air and you have no idea how things will go or what will happen.  It's cool to express what you plan to do, but the certainty makes me laugh a little.

ashaw512

SmileyGirl18 said:

ambershaw512 said:

SmileyGirl18 said:

ambershaw512 said:

SmileyGirl18 said:

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ambershaw512 said:

@SmileyGirl18‌ we weren't planning to have another baby. My body started to reject my birth control and here were are. We are absolutely happy to have another baby we just weren't expecting it would be so soon. So there's that.

@softsoprano‌ thank you for seeing my point, it actually makes me feel better that I'm not the only one who thinks that. And the vows are to be done at 6 pm and we are going to dinner at an expensive restaurant, that's all, then we leave the next morning.

@aliciak316‌ I think hormones make everything worse than they are. It all just started piling up and I had a small meltdown

Oh, my bad.  Since your baby is arriving earlier than you planned and all of your stuff is girly, you have every right to expect a gift grabby party and have other people provide for your baby instead of doing it yourself.  I mean the second had come in a year or two it still makes complete sense to by gender specific baby gear so you can have friends buy you all new stuff with a boy.  

Well since I've declined several times before accepting I don't see how I'm being gift grabby? And as I recall second showers were OK for a different sex or unless there was a big age gap like over 5 years apart. I see nothing wrong with 2nd, 3rd, 4th showers. I'm happy to have another shower BC my family wants to do that for me and my baby.

Who told you second showers were ok for different sexes?

Apparently your sister doesn't want to do it for you or your baby. Just saying.

So if I understand you correctly for those of us who bought pink or blue instead of buying white yellow and green is stupid BC we weren't like you and plan our futures better. And anyone who has more than one baby shower is gift grabby?
Well shit, I guess I'm a dumbass for buying my little girl pink BC she was so darn cute in it. And I'm gift grabby for not wanting the shower in the first place. You got me all sumed up.
And just saying, my vent in my first post wasn't that she pushed the shower off on my mom or that she didn't want to do it, its that she's blowing me and my day off to go shopping. After she's started planning and I got pissed BC she wanted to change the date when its the only date open for everyone to come to it, except for her and she picked the date.

FFS, my son has plenty of blue items. But, things like his car seat, swing, high chair, stroller and all the other major baby gear are gender neutral and can be used again. There is also no reason why a boy can't use pink bibs or burp cloths or the other way around. Totally understandable if all you is things like clothes (which you should be just fine buying on your own). If the rest of your baby gear is girlie, which is what you said since all your stuff is, I side eye you.

Yes, I think those who have second showers are gift grabby. If your sister was that into planning your second baby shower, she would have decided to go shopping instead of being there.

I have a car seat cover to go on DDs old pink and black elephant car seat. I bought the double stroller I want, I'm reusing DDs PNP. Which is why I declined the shower in the first place. If they insist on giving me a shower so be it I'll show up but this is going to be about little things like clothes and diapers and toys. I am perfectly capable of providing for my son but no he will not wear pink bib, DH would have a heart attack and apparently my mother too. I'm certainly not going to complain about something given to me.

trebekastan

ambershaw512 said:

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ambershaw512 said:

@SmileyGirl18‌ we weren't planning to have another baby. My body started to reject my birth control and here were are. We are absolutely happy to have another baby we just weren't expecting it would be so soon. So there's that. @softsoprano‌ thank you for seeing my point, it actually makes me feel better that I'm not the only one who thinks that. And the vows are to be done at 6 pm and we are going to dinner at an expensive restaurant, that's all, then we leave the next morning. @aliciak316‌ I think hormones make everything worse than they are. It all just started piling up and I had a small meltdown

Oh, my bad.  Since your baby is arriving earlier than you planned and all of your stuff is girly, you have every right to expect a gift grabby party and have other people provide for your baby instead of doing it yourself.  I mean the second had come in a year or two it still makes complete sense to by gender specific baby gear so you can have friends buy you all new stuff with a boy.  

Well since I've declined several times before accepting I don't see how I'm being gift grabby? And as I recall second showers were OK for a different sex or unless there was a big age gap like over 5 years apart. I see nothing wrong with 2nd, 3rd, 4th showers. I'm happy to have another shower BC my family wants to do that for me and my baby.

Who told you second showers were ok for different sexes? Apparently your sister doesn't want to do it for you or your baby. Just saying.

So if I understand you correctly for those of us who bought pink or blue instead of buying white yellow and green is stupid BC we weren't like you and plan our futures better. And anyone who has more than one baby shower is gift grabby? Well shit, I guess I'm a dumbass for buying my little girl pink BC she was so darn cute in it. And I'm gift grabby for not wanting the shower in the first place. You got me all sumed up. And just saying, my vent in my first post wasn't that she pushed the shower off on my mom or that she didn't want to do it, its that she's blowing me and my day off to go shopping. After she's started planning and I got pissed BC she wanted to change the date when its the only date open for everyone to come to it, except for her and she picked the date.

FFS, my son has plenty of blue items. But, things like his car seat, swing, high chair, stroller and all the other major baby gear are gender neutral and can be used again. There is also no reason why a boy can't use pink bibs or burp cloths or the other way around. Totally understandable if all you is things like clothes (which you should be just fine buying on your own). If the rest of your baby gear is girlie, which is what you said since all your stuff is, I side eye you. Yes, I think those who have second showers are gift grabby. If your sister was that into planning your second baby shower, she would have decided to go shopping instead of being there.

I have a car seat cover to go on DDs old pink and black elephant car seat. I bought the double stroller I want, I'm reusing DDs PNP. Which is why I declined the shower in the first place. If they insist on giving me a shower so be it I'll show up but this is going to be about little things like clothes and diapers and toys. I am perfectly capable of providing for my son but no he will not wear pink bib, DH would have a heart attack and apparently my mother too. I'm certainly not going to complain about something given to me.

This is only thing that has bugged me enough to comment on in 4 pages...HOW old are your DH and mother? 

formerwigirl

My confession is that I have no idea what I am naming LO. I hope that we will have something figured out in the next few weeks. I get really frustrated with my DH that he is soo adamant about being team green and not finding out. I try to remember that my hormones have been awful since going through IF and he's had to deal with a lot so the least I can do is give him this.

Oh and I really want a new washer/dryer. Ours works but is getting soo old its not doing its job properly. But we are doing the dave ramsey plan and trying to put any extra money we have in savings for when LO gets here. I just really want a new washer/dryer. Stupid I know.

Edited: Edited to add in the part about the washer dryer.

bumpuser10199668

I think I found @smileygirl18 's hill to die on....

punnybunny

MMason12 said:

I cannot understand the thought of "my MIL wants/has/needs to be in the labor room since it's only fair if my Mother is in the room".... 

.... Hum, last I checked my husband isn't the one birthing our child -- I am. Why the heck a MIL would feel like she is entitled to be in there is beyond me. It's not her daughter having the baby. I can understand it if people want their MIL in there but just because my Mom is going to be in the room does not automatically mean my MIL gets to come in if I don't want her there. 

In regards to this, my DH is an only child and his mom always wanted a girl and has "adopted" me in her mind as a daughter. Which I don't mind, I feel spoiled to have a MIL that likes me so much. However, I'm a people pleaser and I worry about her feelings. There's no way in heck I'd let her be in the room for the delivery, even if my mom gets to be there. But I'd feel bad if she got upset or offended about it. I try to keep things equal between our parents so neither one has a reason to be upset or offended.

So I guess my confession is that I'm a people pleaser.

And also that I bought a gallon of chocolate ice cream so I could make a ton of milkshakes because it's what I'm constantly craving.

CplusJ=S

My son will be wearing all of my DD's old onesies, pjs, cloth diapers, bibs, swaddlers, blankets, etc in the beginning whether they are girly or not. Most of them are covered in stains and spit up so I can't sell them and I refuse to throw them out since they are still perfectly functional and my newborn son won't know any better. Sounds like your husband needs to get over his machismo issues. @ambershaw512‌

PS. I you, @smileygirl18.

Everyusernameistaken

#1 - I have to preface this by saying I've only been to one once, and the whole experience was cheapened by the two old men smoking all over the food, but I find Waffle House kind of gross.  IHOP is way better. 

*ducking*

#2 - I roll my eyes when I hear women talking about birth and saying "I will be doing X" or "I'll be having X" (unless they're saying they're having a scheduled c-section, because they will be having a scheduled c-section).  Anything else is up in the air and you have no idea how things will go or what will happen.  It's cool to express what you plan to do, but the certainty makes me laugh a little.

Yup, especially when it's phrased in a way that's condescending towards other choices, ie, "Well I'm not having an epidural," or "My baby won't be getting any formula." I mean it's good to have goals and a plan, but ultimately you will never have 100% control.  You don't know until you're there!

softsoprano

ambershaw512 said:

ambershaw512 said:

@SmileyGirl18‌ we weren't planning to have another baby. My body started to reject my birth control and here were are. We are absolutely happy to have another baby we just weren't expecting it would be so soon. So there's that. @softsoprano‌ thank you for seeing my point, it actually makes me feel better that I'm not the only one who thinks that. And the vows are to be done at 6 pm and we are going to dinner at an expensive restaurant, that's all, then we leave the next morning. @aliciak316‌ I think hormones make everything worse than they are. It all just started piling up and I had a small meltdown

So it sounds like they are indeed celebrating afterwards, just not in a way you want? And I get that money is tight, but why do you keep complaining that the festivities are only one day? I would personally be annoyed if someone thought they needed to book multiple days of activities for me to celebrate their wedding. You guys, on your own, could decide to stay an extra day or two and make a vacation of it. If you can't afford it, I totally understand, but that isn't your sister's fault.

She has the right to have WHATEVER type of wedding she wants. The other side of that, though, is that she should NOT get pissed if the type of wedding she chooses means some people can't make it.

I can't stand one of my sisters, and I think this might be a situation like that? It's easy to find fault with everything when they already annoy the piss out of you on the regular.

Maybe I worded that wrong. We are going to eat at restaurant, my sister is not going to be there she did however make the reservations. We were told we could cancel them but her fiancés family thought it would be rude. So I guess its a dinner for the families? Just not including bride and groom.

Ok, so it's literally watch her say "I do" and then you don't see her again?  I mean, sure, at a wedding the bride and groom don't get to spend quality time with each guest, but WTF is the point of this?  They're not going to spend time with their guests/socialize with them?  Is she expecting gifts?  'Cause THAT would be gift grabby.  

And you should be more pissed off about passing off the party planning.  Your sister offered/agreed to organize a shower and now is completely blowing it off for something as trivial as shopping?!?  Regardless of whether it's a 2nd, 3rd or 13th shower, that's fucking rude.

mrsdanielleM2010

Okey dokey. So my take on the @ambershaw512‌ vs. @SmileyGirl18‌ debate is this:

Amber, your sister sounds like she's giving you mixed messages and being selfish. You also sound a little like you go tit for tat with her about a lot of different things. Your side sounds bigger than this one issue. I agree with @lstrejcek‌ on the who gives a crap about pink/blue accessories or even onesies.

Smiley, how do you feel about second showers, I can't tell? I think the board has discussed them eleventy billion times and reached the conclusion that regionally and within certain circles, people have varied levels of tolerance for second+ showers.

My thoughts are that I wouldn't have one (as I've mentioned before, I'm not having one for my first baby either though, unless you count the cute little surprise one my students threw yesterday) but I do go to them when invited. My gift is significantly smaller, but I go. I would not ever throw one.

Also, @MermaidsMagic‌ if your family and friends typically do second showers, who among them would report you to etiquette hell? If it's the norm in your circles, why do you care what internet people think?

LTMama

CplusJ=S said:

My son will be wearing all of my DD's old onesies, pjs, cloth diapers, bibs, swaddlers, blankets, etc in the beginning whether they are girly or not. Most of them are covered in stains and spit up so I can't sell them and I refuse to throw them out since they are still perfectly functional and my newborn son won't know any better.

My little dude will be wearing his sister's old clothes for a while too, they're still in good shape. Esp when he's little and is in jammies all the time. She also had her share of Metallica and AC/DC onesies (thanks, dh!), so he'll enjoy those too.

ashaw512

First I don't have a problem with my son wearing any of DDs old clothes, bibs whatever. That's the reason behind the shower, my sister and mom got pissed when I declined several times BC I don't have any "boy" stuff, I have 3 boxes of gender neutral clothes and things for DS when he gets here. DH has a problem with it BC boy wear blue and girls wear, not say that if boys wear pink they are gay, he has several pink shirts. He just doesn't want his son wearing his daughters clothes. My mother on the other hand I think is just looking to throw a party/shower and my sister decided she was decorating, getting the cake, etc.. my issues with my sister are more than the vows and shower that was just the icing on the cake, when she asked me this morning if we could change my shower date so she could go shopping. I wasn't trying to start a debate on 2nd or more showers.

@softsoprano‌ that is what I'm pissed about. The fact that my sister has blown off my shower and all the planning she started and threw it on my mom and mil, to go shopping. She could go shopping anytime but she is blowing off my baby shower to do so. And yes about the "wedding" thing. We are going to see her say "I do" and don't get to see her anymore. Its a one day one night trip. Drive all day see her say I do, eat dinner, stay the night, drive home the next day. But I'm a bad guy if I don't go BC we don't financially have the funds. My great grandmother is even coming from Kansas which is a 13 hour drive to LA then she has to ride 6 hours from there.

brittneyandadam

@natsan08 It's a regional etiquette kind of thing. There are some people who don't see it as a big deal and other people who do. It depends on social circles, how you're raised, etc

brittneyandadam

natsan08 said:

@natsan08 It's a regional etiquette kind of thing. There are some people who don't see it as a big deal and other people who do. It depends on social circles, how you're raised, etc

Benefits of island life for 100 points. There are like 15 families and everybody just wants an excuse to buy baby shit and get drunk. Win-win!

Geez, I want in at this baby shower

KendraDee13

Ooooh I thought of more confessions:

I can count on one hand how many times in the last 3 months that I've made an actual dinner for the three of us.  I HATE MEAL PLANNING.  Can someone please tell me the secret to making it not so dreadful?!?

The only reason why I could never put either of my boys in girl clothes  is because dressing my kids is one of my favorite parts of being a mom!  I LOVE when they look nice.  It makes my heart happy  haha  Lame, I know!

brittneyandadam

KendraDee13 said:

Ooooh I thought of more confessions:

I can count on one hand how many times in the last 3 months that I've made an actual dinner for the three of us.  I HATE MEAL PLANNING.  Can someone please tell me the secret to making it not so dreadful?!?

The only reason why I could never put either of my boys in girl clothes  is because dressing my kids is one of my favorite parts of being a mom!  I LOVE when they look nice.  It makes my heart happy  haha  Lame, I know!

Um, k? I see this going over well.

bumpuser10199668

@ambershaw512 Might I suggest some 'hamie downs' to aid in your transition?

ETA: After some super sleuthing, I retract my former private support of your 2nd shower.  I went back to the hamie down thread, and I am DYING. Your mom and sister didn't insist....YOU DID. Can't. Stop. Laughing.

mrsdanielleM2010

knovitski said:

Personally, I don't care what others choose to do with their pregnancies, announcements, baby showers, etc... all I want to add is this: The title of this thread is FFFC- Flame Free Friday Confessions, yet there seems to be quite a bit of heat being thrown back and forth between posters. Have I misunderstood the intent of the thread?

Flame free is not a promise... It's a real misnomer in reality. In my head I call it flame ful

punnybunny

Confession (AW!!)- I just bought a plane ticket to visit my family next month and specifically picked a flight based on which airport I'd have a layover in because that airport has one of my favorite restaurants in it and it will be lunch time. The nearest location for this restaurant to where I live is (I think) 17 hours away and I've had cravings for it since before I got pregnant.

ETA- I'm an attention whore.

kmbk27

mrsdanielleM2010 said:

knovitski said:

Personally, I don't care what others choose to do with their pregnancies, announcements, baby showers, etc... all I want to add is this: The title of this thread is FFFC- Flame Free Friday Confessions, yet there seems to be quite a bit of heat being thrown back and forth between posters. Have I misunderstood the intent of the thread?

Flame free is not a promise... It's a real misnomer in reality. In my head I call it flame ful

*High Five* Me too! And I read the title as FF/FFC (Flame Full/Free Friday Confessions). It's like one of those "Choose Your Own Adventure" books - just with the potential to be way more entertaining.

mrsdanielleM2010

MermaidsMagic said:

@mrsdaniellem2010, while it's a given within my family, I have no idea what my friends would think. Asking them now sounds weird to me, like I'm asking permission? IDK.

If I was in this boat, I might go for it and just have family there. I say people should follow their local & family norms on how many showers to have, really. For me, that's zero. For @SmileyGirl18‌ it's one. For other people it might be one per baby... If it's what your people do, go with it, kwim?

hizah05

CarmAlarm said:

@ambershaw512 Might I suggest some 'hamie downs' to aid in your transition?

ETA: After some super sleuthing, I retract my former private support of your 2nd shower.  I went back to the hamie down thread, and I am DYING. Your mom and sister didn't insist....YOU DID. Can't. Stop. Laughing.

Wait, please tell me no one actually used the term, "hamie downs"? Is this real life?

mrsdanielleM2010

hizah05 said:

CarmAlarm said:

@ambershaw512 Might I suggest some 'hamie downs' to aid in your transition?

ETA: After some super sleuthing, I retract my former private support of your 2nd shower.  I went back to the hamie down thread, and I am DYING. Your mom and sister didn't insist....YOU DID. Can't. Stop. Laughing.

Wait, please tell me no one actually used the term, "hamie downs"? Is this real life?

If you have 10 minutes and want to laugh a LOT go to the I never realized thread.

AnyMax

knovitski said:

Personally, I don't care what others choose to do with their pregnancies, announcements, baby showers, etc... all I want to add is this: The title of this thread is FFFC- Flame Free Friday Confessions, yet there seems to be quite a bit of heat being thrown back and forth between posters. Have I misunderstood the intent of the thread?

Everyusernameistaken

beccalou12 said:

Confession- I just bought a plane ticket to visit my family next month and specifically picked a flight based on which airport I'd have a layover in because that airport has one of my favorite restaurants in it and it will be lunch time. The nearest location for this restaurant to where I live is (I think) 17 hours away and I've had cravings for it since before I got pregnant.

Which restaurant, @beccalou12‌ ?

AnyMax

beccalou12 said:

Confession- I just bought a plane ticket to visit my family next month and specifically picked a flight based on which airport I'd have a layover in because that airport has one of my favorite restaurants in it and it will be lunch time. The nearest location for this restaurant to where I live is (I think) 17 hours away and I've had cravings for it since before I got pregnant.

Confession? Sounds more like being an AW about very well executed travel arrangements! 

punnybunny

@Everyusernameistaken‌ Cafe Rio. I'm totally addicted to the Sweet Pork Barbacoa Salad. It is so good (I highly recommend it, see attached picture of the goodness). @AnyMax‌ yeah, I should relabel that... Ha!

ashaw512

First of all I never insisted on having a baby shower. I said i would be having one boy or girl. No i would not be a part of the planning, and I didn't ask anyone to plan it for me but my mom had already started talking about it. So I knew she was planning after a lot of talk I decided I didn't want one and told her several times I didn't. After we found out I was having a boy she offered again and I said no after arguments after arguments I decided to let her do it. In no way did I ever insist that I was having a baby shower, I said I would be having one but I wouldn't do it myself.

JustCricket

ambershaw512 said:

First of all I never insisted on having a baby shower. I said i would be having one boy or girl. No i would not be a part of the planning, and I didn't ask anyone to plan it for me but my mom had already started talking about it. So I knew she was planning after a lot of talk I decided I didn't want one and told her several times I didn't. After we found out I was having a boy she offered again and I said no after arguments after arguments I decided to let her do it. In no way did I ever insist that I was having a baby shower, I said I would be having one but I wouldn't do it myself.

so what you said in another thread a few months ago was a lie? or are you lying now? You may wanna check out the bumped thread to see how you contradicted yourself and how the internet never forgets

ashaw512

JustCricket said:

ambershaw512 said:

First of all I never insisted on having a baby shower. I said i would be having one boy or girl. No i would not be a part of the planning, and I didn't ask anyone to plan it for me but my mom had already started talking about it. So I knew she was planning after a lot of talk I decided I didn't want one and told her several times I didn't. After we found out I was having a boy she offered again and I said no after arguments after arguments I decided to let her do it. In no way did I ever insist that I was having a baby shower, I said I would be having one but I wouldn't do it myself.

so what you said in another thread a few months ago was a lie? or are you lying now? You may wanna check out the bumped thread to see how you contradicted yourself and how the internet never forgets

I did look at it. I don't see where I contradicted myself unless I was suppose to go back and tell everyone that I changed my mind and wasn't going to have one. Yes i wanted one at first and they were doing it. That's what I said after a lot of talk I decided I didn't need it. BC I'm capable of buying for my own child an I didn't need a any shower. A couple of weeks ago after we found out I was having a boy and arguing with my mother I decided to just let her and my sister do it. But I still DONT need it. So let me say again, I will be having a baby shower. But I will not do it myself.

hizah05

JustCricket said:

ambershaw512 said:

First of all I never insisted on having a baby shower. I said i would be having one boy or girl. No i would not be a part of the planning, and I didn't ask anyone to plan it for me but my mom had already started talking about it. So I knew she was planning after a lot of talk I decided I didn't want one and told her several times I didn't. After we found out I was having a boy she offered again and I said no after arguments after arguments I decided to let her do it. In no way did I ever insist that I was having a baby shower, I said I would be having one but I wouldn't do it myself.

so what you said in another thread a few months ago was a lie? or are you lying now? You may wanna check out the bumped thread to see how you contradicted yourself and how the internet never forgets

I try to stay out of this stuff but honestly, you contradict yourself constantly. You keep claiming they insist because it's a boy this time but before you were having a shower either way. So...? Anyway, I don't really care if you have a shower or not but it does seem like you're lying somewhere, but why? If you want a shower just say so.

AnyMax

ambershaw512 said:

First of all I never insisted on having a baby shower. I said i would be having one boy or girl. No i would not be a part of the planning, and I didn't ask anyone to plan it for me but my mom had already started talking about it. So I knew she was planning after a lot of talk I decided I didn't want one and told her several times I didn't. After we found out I was having a boy she offered again and I said no after arguments after arguments I decided to let her do it. In no way did I ever insist that I was having a baby shower, I said I would be having one but I wouldn't do it myself.

ashaw512

Can y'all not understand that I wanted one at first, then decided I didn't want one, then after getting bitched at from being told I needed it, which I didn't and still don't, I decided to let them have their way and give me a shower? I'm not contradicting myself I changed my mind for the sake of my mother I just didn't post it all over the internet.