wow I came on here to help you out, and now all I have to say is I'm very very sorry to hear about this… I've miscarried before too, and it is an awful experience I wish upon no one.
@Nicb13 thanks for asking. So it's been rough. I've been bleeding and cramping. One midwife told me that I'm in the process of miscarrying and another told me that I may just not be as far along as everyone though. This was based on one beta level no trend yet. So when I found all this out I smoked a cigarette but otherwise I haven't been smoking at all. I've just been beyond stressed. This Friday I go for an ultrasound and hope to get some answers.
I'm not sure if you ladies took it as though I was saying she will miscarry again, what I mean't was she will get pg again, and everything will work out just fine.
I was heartbroken when it happened to me. My dr assured me I did nothing wrong, that something just wasn't right. That helped me with my emotions and grieving, thought it may help someone else. I hate leaving those generic messages- "sorry for your loss" wanted to add something from my own personal experience.
what I mean't was she will get pg again, and everything will work out just fine.
@alexandrac86 : I understand that you think you are being nice & trying to give this poster hope for next time. I get that, but your attempt to do so is misguided.
You cannot-- I'll repeat, cannot promise that a) the poster can & will get pregnant again b) if she does get pg that she won't miscarry again.
Also, speaking for myself, it bothered me when others were so quick to jump to "oh next time you get pg...". At the time I wanted that baby. That one. Not the next one. I am forever missing the two that I lost.
That brings me to the "everything will work out fine" comment. No, no "everything" is already not fine. The baby you loved, planned for & wanted is not here. They won't be here. One pregnancy & baby cannot replace the other.
Let me be clear, I'm not angry at you. I just don't think you seemed to understand how what you said can sound to some Loss Mamas.
I know you meant well & are not being malicious. Just posting to give you a friendly heads-up.
Thank you PrimRoseMama for your much kinder response than others have left. The more I think about it and after reading what you wrote, I understand. Again I'm sorry, and you are right. I am a loss mama as well, I do understand, my angel would of been 7 months now. Thanks again for your kind response. Topic done, time to move on
Re: Smoking
what did you find out?
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You cannot-- I'll repeat, cannot promise that a) the poster can & will get pregnant again b) if she does get pg that she won't miscarry again.
Also, speaking for myself, it bothered me when others were so quick to jump to "oh next time you get pg...". At the time I wanted that baby. That one. Not the next one. I am forever missing the two that I lost.
That brings me to the "everything will work out fine" comment. No, no "everything" is already not fine. The baby you loved, planned for & wanted is not here. They won't be here. One pregnancy & baby cannot replace the other.
Let me be clear, I'm not angry at you. I just don't think you seemed to understand how what you said can sound to some Loss Mamas.
I know you meant well & are not being malicious. Just posting to give you a friendly heads-up.
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Edited because I read your last response. T&P to you while you go through this.
oops, missed the second page. Thanks.