As far as the work stuff goes, I am currently eating fruit, watching RuPaul's Drag Race, and on The Bump during work hours. I work 11-8 (except Wed, when I work 12-5 since I work Sat AM) but my boss has made it clear that if everything is caught up then my time is my own. I work from home and am responsible for handling all incoming calls as well as any situations that arise during my work hours, but I also check and answer emails outside of work hours and tend to start early and stay late frequently as well.
It's a tough balance- there are days when it is so busy I can't take a bathroom break for hours straight, then other days (like today) are quiet and make up for that craziness.
I've worked at a day care though as the leader in the infant room, and spending 10 plus hours a day taking care of 4 or 5 infants on my own was incredibly tough. I totally agree with @oursecretelopement that the grass is greener on the other side.
Married 9-1-12 (On Depo until 4-12) Me- 33, DH- 36
NTNP starting 9-12, Actively TTC since 9-13
My DX- Hypothyroidism. Prescribed Synthroid
DH's DX- Severe MFI- first SA results: 1.3 mill (1.2 mill motile), 21.6% motility, 2% morphology
Blood test revealed low testosterone so DH was prescribed Clomid. Repeat blood test and SA in November.
@oursecretelopement, Well done. I love the flexibility of working from home but like you mentioned above it's not a situation where you are done working at a certain time and can leave the office and shut the door on that part of your life. I got a nasty work email on Wed AM and read it at 5am so I went to the gym in a funk and had to think through my response (everything worked out really well but it was a long time thinking over the situation before I emailed back and fixed the issue).
Long term I would love to work part time from home and part time in an office. I really miss the social interaction. My H works about 25 minutes from our house so he can't stop home often, plus we are a one car family, so I miss lunches with my work friends and running out during daytime hours to get things done.
Married 9-1-12 (On Depo until 4-12) Me- 33, DH- 36
NTNP starting 9-12, Actively TTC since 9-13
My DX- Hypothyroidism. Prescribed Synthroid
DH's DX- Severe MFI- first SA results: 1.3 mill (1.2 mill motile), 21.6% motility, 2% morphology
Blood test revealed low testosterone so DH was prescribed Clomid. Repeat blood test and SA in November.
My FFC is that I just went through the entire UO post from yesterday thinking it was the FFFC from today and was getting super pissed that everyone was stating opinions instead of confessions. I almost went off on everyone until I realized what I had done.
My FFFC is I won an award for my work last night, and yes I think it makes me better than everyone else here. I don't work very hard, but I'm good at what I do. There are plenty of people here who run around flailing because they are OMG SO BUSY but ultimately accomplish nothing because they're stupid.
I am the champion. Suck it, coworkers.
Also, I'm on @Ducktale 's team re: butter on pop tarts. That shit is wack.
I confess that I'm still angry and bitter about the whole bridesmaid situation I complained about in my last 2WW post. Except my anger is escalating - badly. Someone please talk me down.
Background: my close friend (C's best friend of 20 years) is excluding us from the bridal party. Apparently it's because we're not Lutheran church members - at least that's what she's saying. But there's a tiny seed in my mind that's sprouting and growing alarmingly quickly that's telling me we're not included because we're homosekshooals and it would upset her future in-laws' sensibilities. There's no way she would ever admit that to us. However, I have never in my life heard of not being able to stand as a bridesmaid because you don't share the religion of the bride. Well, okay, except Mormons and maybe other religions that are exclusive and secretive.
It sucks because I think she's lying to us about it. I wish she'd just be honest. Any Lutherans on here who want to speak up I'd appreciate it.
And man, I was going to give her the biggest blow-out dream bachelorette party ever. I was going to take her to the one nice restaurant we have in Indiana: St. Elmo's Steakhouse. I was going to hire an Abe Lincoln impersonator to read the Gettysburg address (inside joke). I was going to take her clubbing afterwards. I was going to get her a sash, a tiara, a goofy veil, and a t-shirt for people to sign. I was going to make her queen for a night.
But seriously, fuck all that. If this is how she's treating her friendship with Chrissy, FUCK IT. I'm not doing any of it. Let her little bigot bitch matron of honor do all the work. If she wants ONE person standing by her side - a nasty, condescending, wicked holy-rolling Bible thumper who holds so much shit over her head - fine. It's all on her now. She can manage and I'm wiping my hands of this.
UGH I am so ANGRY!!!! Maybe it's just PMS. I need to calm down. GOD DAMMIT now I'm tearing up again... I can't wait until this day is over.
ETA: Um, sorry for the downer post. I had to get that out somewhere.
I'm sorry @wishiwaspreggo... I think you have every right to be hurt on C's behalf! It sounds like this friend is too lame to stick up for y'all against her future in laws, in which case maybe she isn't that great of a friend. In any case, it's clearly her loss because anyone who misses a chance to have Honest Abe read the Gettysburg Address at her bachelorette party is totally missing out!! ((hugs))
not to fuel your anger @wishiwaspreggo - but I was raised Lutheran and never heard about any homosexual exclusion policies of the faith. (full disclosure, I have not researched the doctrine much or have ever seen this issue tested directly)
@wishiwaspreggo I'm so sorry, that's unbelievably shitty. I'm not Lutheran, but I was a bridesmaid in a Lutheran wedding once, they did not have a problem with it. That's an awful friend.
I am on team DO NOT BUTTER THE POPTART - but I also tend to eat my poptarts in a very specific way (1. eat the non frosted edges around the whole poptart, 2. separate the frosted part from the bottom - if you do this right, most of the jelly insides will be divided between the two halves, 3. eat the bottom, 4. eat the frosted top - saving the best for last) so I might just be weird.
Fffc: I kept telling h that he wasn't really that sick. Last night when he was shivering and waking me up every hour, I thought he was faking for sympathy. I was actually very annoyed. Until I made him take his temp and it was 103.5
I'm a bad wife
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This confession brought to you by Nelly's bulge thread. I am so pervy and always check out guys bulges. Basically if you are a man between the ages of 20 and 50 (or keeping it tight up to 60), I will be checking what you are packing. I do it super discretely, I think.
@wishiwaspreggo I'm so sorry. As far as I know, Lutheran is a more tolerant/diverse population than many others. Honestly the whole situation makes no sense. Sounds like she's just reacting to pressure from her asshat fiance/in-laws/parents/whoever not to include Teh Gayz in her ceremony. That is garbage and I would expect someone who is truly my friend to support me publicly in that situation. If anyone had taken issue with my friend (who is gay) being in my wedding I would have handed them their torn out asshole on a bed of the hearts of my enemies. This chick is not worth your or C's time.
FFFC: I got drunk 3 days ago with H and his coworkers. I out drank one of his coworkers on principle because he was an ass. (H and everyone else thought it was hilarious so no harm there) but I got home at 1am trashed. So close to blackout. I had to be at work at 5am (I'm fucking stupid) so I went straight to bed. Woke up at 4am to get ready and I felt more drunk than when I went to bed. I was drunk ironing, drunk brushing my teeth/face, and freaking out in general. H woke up and refused to let me go to work (thank god) so as I was calling in it took them 45 mins to answer the phone. I was PISSED because if they had answered that call on time then I would have been giving them a 30min notice, which is good. Instead I gave them a "I was supposed to be there 15 mins ago and I'm not" notice. I wound up going in 2 hours later sober for the most part but had a raging hangover mid afternoon so I left early.
I am so ashamed....I'm cut off for a little while
ETA: I forgot to mention that after I hung up with work I got super pissed and hurled my phone at the bed. I missed by a lot and hit the wall and completely broke my phone. I'm waiting on the UPS guy to bring me my new one today. That's why I've not been on here at all lately.
TTGP since September 2013. All cycles were annovulatory due to Depo.
No one said that. The OP had already been acting strange, and suddenly people decided she was cool because she said "fuck" a lot. I will admit she did seem to reign it in briefly, but it was just weird how fast people jumped on the OP Is Cool Now bandwagon. I'm all for giving people the benefit of the doubt, but I'm not going to become besties with them right away either.
Saying that you think you might like someone or they might be okay afterall or whatever else was said =/= becoming best friends with them. I may think a newb has potential to be fun, but that doesn't mean I'm not still going to be cautious or that they are my instant BFF. I'm willing to bet that is the same for the others that commented that they liked the newb before she again went BSC.
I don't understand why people care so much if we didn't immediately hate on the OP. Why is this getting so much attention?
I agree with @katnhiding-- I was initially impressed that the OP in that thread went from crazy to reigning it in and listening. Granted that was thrown in my face when she went BSC again but when someone makes a mistake then sees they are wrong and changes course that's a good thing.
If a newbie makes a bad first impression then is able to adapt and become a part of the community that's a good thing in my book.
Married 9-1-12 (On Depo until 4-12) Me- 33, DH- 36
NTNP starting 9-12, Actively TTC since 9-13
My DX- Hypothyroidism. Prescribed Synthroid
DH's DX- Severe MFI- first SA results: 1.3 mill (1.2 mill motile), 21.6% motility, 2% morphology
Blood test revealed low testosterone so DH was prescribed Clomid. Repeat blood test and SA in November.
I'm so sorry @wishiwaspreggo. Forget friends who won't stand up for you. I dated a guy who was Greek Orthodox. He invited me to his sister's wedding. It was a new relationship so I was really flattered and excited. I went out and bought dress and everything. The day before he called and cancelled because his parents didn't approve of him taking a non Greek Orthodox woman to a family wedding. I dumped his ass instantly. I wasn't interested in a guy who was to big of a pussy to stand up to his parents.
I agree with @katnhiding-- I was initially impressed that the OP in that thread went from crazy to reigning it in and listening. Granted that was thrown in my face when she went BSC again but when someone makes a mistake then sees they are wrong and changes course that's a good thing.
If a newbie makes a bad first impression then is able to adapt and become a part of the community that's a good thing in my book.
I do agree with this. That whole thread was just very, very strange, that's all.
Word. I was keeping up as it happened and it still confused the hell out of me.
This whole week has been weird though. The lack of a 3 day wait has brought out a lot of crazies.
Married 9-1-12 (On Depo until 4-12) Me- 33, DH- 36
NTNP starting 9-12, Actively TTC since 9-13
My DX- Hypothyroidism. Prescribed Synthroid
DH's DX- Severe MFI- first SA results: 1.3 mill (1.2 mill motile), 21.6% motility, 2% morphology
Blood test revealed low testosterone so DH was prescribed Clomid. Repeat blood test and SA in November.
I've been staring at @slappalicious siggy and am really curious what the spinning lady means...and I'm kinda worried what it means if I see her spinning counterclockwise. Is it a trick? Can you see her spinning both directions? I keep staring at it trying to figure it out.
I've been staring at @slappalicious siggy and am really curious what the spinning lady means...and I'm kinda worried what it means if I see her spinning counterclockwise. Is it a trick? Can you see her spinning both directions? I keep staring at it trying to figure it out.
Are you right handed or left handed? If you're right handed, try closing your right (dominant side) eye and blink your left eye several times (or look off of the image). She'll start spinning in the other direction. @mayaruth81
This isn't working - I can only see her going clockwise
I've been staring at @slappalicious siggy and am really curious what the spinning lady means...and I'm kinda worried what it means if I see her spinning counterclockwise. Is it a trick? Can you see her spinning both directions? I keep staring at it trying to figure it out.
Are you right handed or left handed? If you're right handed, try closing your right (dominant side) eye and blink your left eye several times (or look off of the image). She'll start spinning in the other direction. @mayaruth81
Am I broken? I only see her spinning in one direction...
I feel broken, too. I'm sitting at work with my right I closed and trying to get it to spin the other way.
Now I'm trying "Camera 1" "Camera 2" from Wayne's World to see if it'll work.
Thank you very much, everyone, for the support. It looks like my suspicions are true. Now I feel even less guilty about wanting nothing to do with her wedding. If it was a legit thing - that non-Lutherans cannot participate in a wedding ceremony in any capacity - then I wouldn't be so angry. But she's making a choice. Rather than stand up for her friends and actually have a fucking backbone she's shoving us aside to make her fiancé and in-laws happy.
Even if she just fucking TRIED to include us somehow, or even just told us the truth. Why lie? What's the point? She dated a man a couple years ago who said C and I wouldn't be welcome at their wedding and she dumped him right away. Funny how she's changed so much for this man of hers now.
I want to be the bigger person and be there for her but... I just can't. Not like this. Not if the exclusion was intentional. Holy shit, that stings.
You know something? When we told her C and I were trying to have a baby her first words were "I can't wait to be the godmother!" C and I clammed up because... we're not religious, and we didn't intend on anyone being the godmother and she was hurt when we told her. We finally gave in after her persuading us but I am 100% taking that back now. If her fundamentalist fiancé cannot handle having us stand at his wedding, he certainly will NOT have anything to do with my children.
I think it's because I am right handed but my right eye is way worse than my left eye so my left eye is technically my dominant eye even though I'm right handed. I also see her spinning counter clockwise naturally so all ya'll that see her going clockwise automatically are weird.
Or I'm broken. Probably that.
Married 9-1-12 (On Depo until 4-12) Me- 33, DH- 36
NTNP starting 9-12, Actively TTC since 9-13
My DX- Hypothyroidism. Prescribed Synthroid
DH's DX- Severe MFI- first SA results: 1.3 mill (1.2 mill motile), 21.6% motility, 2% morphology
Blood test revealed low testosterone so DH was prescribed Clomid. Repeat blood test and SA in November.
I STILL CAN"T DO IT EITHER.... I covered my right eye, looked away for a full minute while imaging her spinning counter clockwise and the big non-siggy image and she still is going clockwise!! you guise I am still broken...
I tried both eyes, and can't make her spin in the other direction.
This is legit bugging me.
This makes me feel like the visual model of the world my brain is making me see does not accurately reflect reality now... maybe I am living in a virtual world that does not reflect what is actually there!!
I confess that I'm still angry and bitter about the whole bridesmaid situation I complained about in my last 2WW post. Except my anger is escalating - badly. Someone please talk me down.
Background: my close friend (C's best friend of 20 years) is excluding us from the bridal party. Apparently it's because we're not Lutheran church members - at least that's what she's saying. But there's a tiny seed in my mind that's sprouting and growing alarmingly quickly that's telling me we're not included because we're homosekshooals and it would upset her future in-laws' sensibilities. There's no way she would ever admit that to us. However, I have never in my life heard of not being able to stand as a bridesmaid because you don't share the religion of the bride. Well, okay, except Mormons and maybe other religions that are exclusive and secretive.
It sucks because I think she's lying to us about it. I wish she'd just be honest. Any Lutherans on here who want to speak up I'd appreciate it.
**snip**
And I'll admit I haven't read through any other responses yet - but I saw this and felt compelled to tell you that I am a Lutheran, and what she's telling you is bullshit.
There are (last I checked) three different categories "synods" within the Lutheran Church, Wisconsin Synod, Missouri Synod, and Evangelical Free (I'm the last, we're the most relaxed) but everything I know about the denomination lends me to believe this is not true. Not even the Catholics (no offense to those of you who are Catholic) are so strict that they would keep someone out of their ceremony who wasn't practicing. I'm sorry your friend is being this way. It's really an unfortunate thing she's doing to you and your SO.
I am on team DO NOT BUTTER THE POPTART - but I also tend to eat my poptarts in a very specific way (1. eat the non frosted edges around the whole poptart, 2. separate the frosted part from the bottom - if you do this right, most of the jelly insides will be divided between the two halves, 3. eat the bottom, 4. eat the frosted top - saving the best for last) so I might just be weird.
This is THE ONLY correct way to eat a pop tart. Buttered or not.
I'm Lutheran of the Missouri synod and my MOH is as atheist as they come. She's also covered in tattoos, and she looked awesome in her BM dress. My pastor didn't give a single shit. He was there to marry H and I. Plus you know that whole, God loves and forgives everyone thing. It's not up to the bride to judge @wishiwaspreggo I'm sorry she's being such a douche monger.
I'm so glad I'm not alone on this whole spinning girl situation. I was staring at her for way too long earlier and now I'm back to obsessing. SPIN THE OTHER WAY
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BFP #2: 10/24/14, EDD: 07/04/15 -- Chemical Pregnancy confirmed 10/27
BFP #3: 11/28/14, EDD: 08/06/15 -- Strong heartbeat at 6 weeks, Missed Miscarriage - D&C on 1/9 at 10 weeks
Re: FFFC
Me: 28 H: 28 DS: 4
Trinitrotoluene: "My ears have been deflowered ....my mouth just hasn't been!"
True, I did like those.
I do think he's a funny person, I just don't like the rolls he plays.
BFP 6/15/14 EDD: 2/24/15
BFP 6/15/14 EDD: 2/24/15
I confess that I'm still angry and bitter about the whole bridesmaid situation I complained about in my last 2WW post. Except my anger is escalating - badly. Someone please talk me down.
Background: my close friend (C's best friend of 20 years) is excluding us from the bridal party. Apparently it's because we're not Lutheran church members - at least that's what she's saying. But there's a tiny seed in my mind that's sprouting and growing alarmingly quickly that's telling me we're not included because we're homosekshooals and it would upset her future in-laws' sensibilities. There's no way she would ever admit that to us. However, I have never in my life heard of not being able to stand as a bridesmaid because you don't share the religion of the bride. Well, okay, except Mormons and maybe other religions that are exclusive and secretive.
It sucks because I think she's lying to us about it. I wish she'd just be honest. Any Lutherans on here who want to speak up I'd appreciate it.
And man, I was going to give her the biggest blow-out dream bachelorette party ever. I was going to take her to the one nice restaurant we have in Indiana: St. Elmo's Steakhouse. I was going to hire an Abe Lincoln impersonator to read the Gettysburg address (inside joke). I was going to take her clubbing afterwards. I was going to get her a sash, a tiara, a goofy veil, and a t-shirt for people to sign. I was going to make her queen for a night.
But seriously, fuck all that. If this is how she's treating her friendship with Chrissy, FUCK IT. I'm not doing any of it. Let her little bigot bitch matron of honor do all the work. If she wants ONE person standing by her side - a nasty, condescending, wicked holy-rolling Bible thumper who holds so much shit over her head - fine. It's all on her now. She can manage and I'm wiping my hands of this.
UGH I am so ANGRY!!!! Maybe it's just PMS. I need to calm down. GOD DAMMIT now I'm tearing up again... I can't wait until this day is over.
ETA: Um, sorry for the downer post. I had to get that out somewhere.
TTC #1 May 2014
BFP 7/4/14 ~ EDD 3/17/15
My Chart
TTC #1 May 2014
BFP 7/4/14 ~ EDD 3/17/15
My Chart
BFP 6/15/14 EDD: 2/24/15
I'm a bad wife
BFP 12/9/14 EDD 8/18/15
DH: 45
BFP #1 3/19/14 EDD 11/29/14 MMC D&C 4/24/14
BFP #2 12/4/14 Beta #1 218 at 12dpo Beta #2 1055 at 16dpo
Saw heartbeat 12/29. Please be a rainbow.
All welcome
I don't understand why people care so much if we didn't immediately hate on the OP. Why is this getting so much attention?
BFP 6/15/14 EDD: 2/24/15
BFP 6/15/14 EDD: 2/24/15
Thank you very much, everyone, for the support. It looks like my suspicions are true. Now I feel even less guilty about wanting nothing to do with her wedding. If it was a legit thing - that non-Lutherans cannot participate in a wedding ceremony in any capacity - then I wouldn't be so angry. But she's making a choice. Rather than stand up for her friends and actually have a fucking backbone she's shoving us aside to make her fiancé and in-laws happy.
Even if she just fucking TRIED to include us somehow, or even just told us the truth. Why lie? What's the point? She dated a man a couple years ago who said C and I wouldn't be welcome at their wedding and she dumped him right away. Funny how she's changed so much for this man of hers now.
I want to be the bigger person and be there for her but... I just can't. Not like this. Not if the exclusion was intentional. Holy shit, that stings.
You know something? When we told her C and I were trying to have a baby her first words were "I can't wait to be the godmother!" C and I clammed up because... we're not religious, and we didn't intend on anyone being the godmother and she was hurt when we told her. We finally gave in after her persuading us but I am 100% taking that back now. If her fundamentalist fiancé cannot handle having us stand at his wedding, he certainly will NOT have anything to do with my children.
Fuck that.
**snip**
And I'll admit I haven't read through any other responses yet - but I saw this and felt compelled to tell you that I am a Lutheran, and what she's telling you is bullshit.
There are (last I checked) three different categories "synods" within the Lutheran Church, Wisconsin Synod, Missouri Synod, and Evangelical Free (I'm the last, we're the most relaxed) but everything I know about the denomination lends me to believe this is not true. Not even the Catholics (no offense to those of you who are Catholic) are so strict that they would keep someone out of their ceremony who wasn't practicing. I'm sorry your friend is being this way. It's really an unfortunate thing she's doing to you and your SO.
This is THE ONLY correct way to eat a pop tart. Buttered or not.
Surprise BFP Feb 2008 MC at 6w2d
BFP! 10/28/14 EDD 7/5/15
This - I think I've just accepted that my brain is not nearly as strong as I thought it was.