I Hate my Dr. and Where I live. ( LONG VENT)

jocie626

Ok, I dont know if yall remember me telling you about my doctor but a while back he told me to sleep with some random stranger so my wife and i could have a baby. Who says that to a person. Ok now i need to figure out how to get the sperm bank to send the sperm to my house so we can try at home ICI. He refuses to sign the papers and to make matters worse I cant get anyone to sign off on it. I have been told i have lost my mind by multiple doctors because its to dangerous. I have tried seeing 6 different doctors around West Texas and they wont do it. They also keep asking to talk to my husband about what he can do. When i say my wife they get stupid with me. Im at a lost for what to do next and we really want to try at home right now. We really want a baby. Ok vent over thanks for listening

   

healz413

This really stinks!
Are there any midwives around? Even if they can't sign off on the sperm themselves, maybe they can recommend someone.
Also I know you're planning ICIs at home but with the doctors balking at that would one of them possibly sign off on you doing an IVI, where turkey baster style you just squirt it in there? I don't know how they could possibly claim that that was dangerous.
Anyway, good luck! I'm so sorry you have to deal with this!

ATXmommas

@jocie626‌ - first, that's just terrible. Dangerous to use thoroughly screened and tested sperm, but not dangerous to sleep with a stranger?

I live in TX and know some folks who lived in west Texas that I can poll for info. They were in Abilene. Is that anywhere close to you?

valeriegp

Can you get to a big city, like Lubbock or El Paso, easily. You might have better luck there.

There are one or two sperm banks that will ship without medical release, but I can't remember them right now. Maybe someone else will know.

JGY

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this ridiculousness.  It's stupid and offensive and wrong.  As PP mentioned, there are a few banks that will ship without medical release but I also don't remember who they are.  Good luck to you!

maggiemay33

Your experience sounds horrifying - I'm so sorry you and your wife are dealing with that.

I have nothing else to offer besides the suggestion that you try a city. You could even call a few places first, explain the situation just to see which doctors/practices are receptive to working with you. 

Best of luck.

redrockmama

I'm sorry you have to deal with such terrible medical professionals. Just wanted to chime in that Northwest doesn't require a doctor signature. That might be a good option, and far less stressful. 

jocie626

Thank you all for the encouragement. @healz413 I cant get a midwife to speak to me. Her husband said that she will see me and even do a home birth AFTER  im already pregnant. They said they couldnt even suggest a doctor to help us. We are thinking about going to a doctor in Lubbock but we are still not sure how they will react @valeriegp. I have tried explaining to them but i have even been hung up on. We are about 2 or 3 hours from Abilene @ATmommas but i will take as much help as i can. Thank you all so much. Im looking into the other sperm bank now. My wife says our donor choice was perfect but shes hoping i will find another one i like. lol