UO Thursday

PineApple85

FirstBabyDoyle said: Breast feeding when your child has all of their teeth and speaks in full sentences is disturbing. Real conversation .."Mommy, I don't want breast milk" said son "Just a little" said mom

As far as breastfeeding, my son has all of his teeth (he has for months) and even though he can't speak in full sentences - he's behind that milestone, many children his age could potentially by now be speaking in simple sentences - he can ask for it in his own way and he understands for the most part when I tell him "not now" or "just a minute".  He's not quite two and the WHO recommends bf-ing at least two years (biologically speaking - not to mention by international standards - it is entirely normal to breast feed for 3-4 years or longer).  I respect your opinion but it isn't always as black and white as your statement makes it seem.

brooklyngirl18

abbyful said:

if you don't mind my asking, why didn't you circumsize your son? i've never had any - uh - experience with that and don't get what issue is? i assumed everyone did although i know obviously some people chose not to. just wondering the reason so in case i have a son i'm informed. i haven't discussed with dh but i assume he shares my views.

The biggest reason is there's no real reason to do it. It didn't seem right to me to cut up DS's genitals "just because". Also it gets rid of a lot of nerve endings. Men like sex regardless of course, but they say it's more pleasurable uncircumcised. There are risks of complications, as with any surgery. (1 in 500 have serious complications.) And some babies need re-circumscised because it either wasn't done right or didn't heal right. Short-term - It's more hassle to deal with right after the procedure. Need to keep Vaseline on it, need to pull it back every diaper change to prevent adhesions. From the hospital I used to work at: "This is a parental decision, not a medical decision." https://www.childrensmercy.org/PediatricAdvisor/Article.aspx?id=466

got it, thanks for sharing.

ktibbits1

@Kristy774‌ DH and I call it a wenis too! Always makes me laugh. With my kids though I'll make sure to use the proper name!

lisalynnmama

My UO is that I absolutely HATE when people keep names/sexes secret.  If you are doing it because you are not finding out, I get that.  I have no problem with that.  I just hate it when people act like they are guarding a state secret.  

PineApple85

flutterbuggie said:

FirstBabyDoyle said:

Breast feeding when your child has all of their teeth and speaks in full sentences is disturbing. Real conversation .."Mommy, I don't want breast milk" said son "Just a little" said mom

As far as breastfeeding, my son has all of his teeth (he has for months) and even though he can't speak in full sentences - he's behind that milestone, many children his age could potentially by now be speaking in simple sentences - he can ask for it in his own way and he understands for the most part when I tell him "not now" or "just a minute".  He's not quite two and the WHO recommends bf-ing at least two years (biologically speaking - not to mention by international standards - it is entirely normal to breast feed for 3-4 years or longer).  I respect your opinion but it isn't always as black and white as your statement makes it seem.

I totally get what your saying about how by international standards 2 years or over is the norm. For me I just wouldn't want to BF long enough that my child would remember it. To me that just seems like a strange memory for a boy especially to have about his mom. I wouldn't be against pumping for longer and giving the child the milk via cup or whatever. Just my two cents! And again I'm a FTM so my opinion could definitely change after baby is here. Who knows?

Totally not offended.  I truly don't care what other people think about what I do because I have usually put good research into my decisions.  I was just sharing our story.  Honestly, before I had my son I more or less felt the same way (as you ladies do).  I didn't have strong opinions about it.  I didn't judge anyone for it, but I didn't think it was for me.  Things changed as I read more about it and of course with my own personal experiences with my own son.

emoxymoose

mussalynn said:

emoxymoose said:

I have one, that people are talking about now actually. I don't understand why people chose to find out the sex of their baby and keep it a secret, actually people who withhold information about a baby in general get on my nerves. Why find out to keep it a secret? Are you really that sensitive that you can't take a few people poo pooing your name choices? A girl I'm working with is keeping her exact due date a secret so people will be surprised! That really took the cake for me.

We found out the sex with DS and kept it a secret, and will with this one too.  We wanted to know so we could be prepared, but just because we know what it is doesn't mean everyone else needs to. It's our information to keep to ourselves or share if we want, and we didn't want to because we wanted everyone to be surprised when he arrived.  It bugs me when people think they're entitled to know what my baby's sex is.  I'll tell you if I want to, and I don't!

I hope that didn't come across as snarky, just trying to explain it from my point of view.

Lol, no I understand. Plus this is UO, I figured that people would disagree but that's most of the fun of this thread.

missnacholover

lisalynnmama said:

My UO is that I absolutely HATE when people keep names/sexes secret.  If you are doing it because you are not finding out, I get that.  I have no problem with that.  I just hate it when people act like they are guarding a state secret.  

Why do you hate it?  Does it affect your life?

I don't think anyone here is acting like they are guarding a state secret.  It's their business to tell.  Why do you care?

DoubleUp8

JamieK1882 said:

Since I have nothing better, I'll weigh in on the clothes debate.

I hate skinny jeans (on both women and ESPECIALLY men, but I'm talking about women here mostly). I don't think anyone looks good in them unless they are very very skinny. I see way too many curvy girls trying to pull them off and I just think it accentuates the hips too much.

Bring back the flared jeans~!

^^^This! I have wide hips and a large bust, skinny jeans detract from the "hourglass" figure effect (at least before the bump) and just make make me look like a triangle with really small feet and super wide hips/top, ugh!

I wear boot cut or straight leg jeans. I love the sweetheart style at Old Navy!

mussalynn

lisalynnmama said:

My UO is that I absolutely HATE when people keep names/sexes secret.  If you are doing it because you are not finding out, I get that.  I have no problem with that.  I just hate it when people act like they are guarding a state secret.  

I hate it when people think they're entitled to know something just because I know it.  It's private, it's personal, and if I want to tell you, I will.

emoxymoose

DoubleUp8 said:

JamieK1882 said:

Since I have nothing better, I'll weigh in on the clothes debate.

I hate skinny jeans (on both women and ESPECIALLY men, but I'm talking about women here mostly). I don't think anyone looks good in them unless they are very very skinny. I see way too many curvy girls trying to pull them off and I just think it accentuates the hips too much.

Bring back the flared jeans~!

^^^This! I have wide hips and a large bust, skinny jeans detract from the "hourglass" figure effect (at least before the bump) and just make make me look like a triangle with really small feet and super wide hips/top, ugh!

I wear boot cut or straight leg jeans. I love the sweetheart style at Old Navy!

Personally, I think that curvy girls look awesome in skinny jeans. In fact even more so than super skinny people.

jaminjeff

missnacholover said:

lisalynnmama said:

My UO is that I absolutely HATE when people keep names/sexes secret.  If you are doing it because you are not finding out, I get that.  I have no problem with that.  I just hate it when people act like they are guarding a state secret.  

Why do you hate it?  Does it affect your life?

I don't think anyone here is acting like they are guarding a state secret.  It's their business to tell.  Why do you care?

I don't know her reasoning, but I've totally known those couples who act like they're just so smug and superior because they know it and you don't.  Like grow the fuck up, if you don't want to share just say it, in a normal adult way, or hell, lie and say you don't know, haven't decided, etc.  If I'm being polite and asking you about your baby, don't act like some smug ass.

DH's cousin and his wife kept theirs a secret until she was born and a 18 months after her birth people are still upset and hate the name (I don't mind it but don't want to share cuz it's so uncommon I worry she could google it and find it here - and I don't think she knows how much it bothered some family).  I get that, hiding it cuz you just don't want to hear all the nay sayers, but they weren't smug or cocky about it at all.  It's all about delivery.

jaminjeff

I will say I worried about sharing our name, cuz once we found out we were having a boy, we fought for a good two months over names (me, DH AND my step-son!).  We finally agreed on Hayden but had two backups.  We finally agreed one day on Hayden and I don't remember how it became official, but all of a sudden it was and I was receiving things with his name on it, which led me to feel like it was cemented, even if I didn't want it.  Now, looking back, I'm fine with it and the other two names just wouldn't cut it, but I remember panicking.

And on that note, I'm sad that we're team green and don't know what our baby's name will be until birth because my friend made Hayden the most beautiful quilt and put an "H" on it that was very subtle, but big at the same time and I'm hoping she'll be able to do another one, but I won't be able to have her do it until AFTER the baby is born.

Jpinky9

I hate it when people are really preachy about things! I fully believe that everyone is entitled to have their opinions and beliefs and I would never ever judge someone on what they believe in. I just really hate it when someone tries to force their beliefs or opinions in me.

I have a friend who is very into animal rights and what type of food she eats. I totally see where she is coming from and I am also passionate about animal rights but I hate it when she tells me I should not be buying my chicken or beef from the grocery store and I should get specific kinds from a farm. Perhaps she is right, but a) I live in the city and can not justify the lengthy drive to a local farm and b) I don't think I can afford farm fresh meats!

brichar31

UGH circumcision...we did this with DS because DH is and we know of 3 boys who have had to get it done when they were older due to issues.  One of them was our nephew, he was 6 and had to be circumcised for medical reasons...it was horrible.   After we had DS done in the hospital I felt awful...its part of the reason I am leaning towards this one being a girl so I don't have to make that decision again. 

On the names - I haven't even thought of any I like and I'm not all excited about finding a perfect name...WTH is wrong with me!?

Maelara

I totally understand keeping the sex/name a secret. I want to keep our names a secret because I have VERY opinionated and judgmental inlaws. If they didn't like our names, they would be trying to get us to change it every single time we saw them. You guys who don't get it/hate it can deal with them. I choose not too. Nobody in the family ever tells my MIL or FIL. Nobody. They are that bad.

Circumcision - I like how it has stayed so respectful so far honestly, I don't feel strongly either way but my DH does. When he was 8, his brother got an infection and DHs parents decided to circumcise them both! So my DH still has very strong memories. Since I don't have a strong opinion either way (if I had to make the decision, I would probably just leave it) my DH has made that decision. His brother was one of those rare boys who didn't clean himself properly, leading to an infection. DH never had this issue so who knows why his parents decided to do it to both of them.

Kristy774

Both of my boys are circumcised and this one will be too. Like PP's mentioned your at a higher risk for infection if it's not cleaned properly.

My BIL wasn't circumcised and he demanded his son be circumcised because when he was a teenager and having sex for the 1st time it RIPPED and he had to stop and be rushed to the ER for emergency surgery.

To each thier own though. My boys are and I'm comfortable with my decision.

runningmama14

abbyful said:

brooklyngirl18 said:

if you don't mind my asking, why didn't you circumsize your son? i've never had any - uh - experience with that and don't get what issue is? i assumed everyone did although i know obviously some people chose not to. just wondering the reason so in case i have a son i'm informed. i haven't discussed with dh but i assume he shares my views.

The biggest reason is there's no real reason to do it. It didn't seem right to me to cut up DS's genitals "just because".

Also it gets rid of a lot of nerve endings. Men like sex regardless of course, but they say it's more pleasurable uncircumcised.

There are risks of complications, as with any surgery. (1 in 500 have serious complications.) And some babies need re-circumscised because it either wasn't done right or didn't heal right.

Short-term - It's more hassle to deal with right after the procedure. Need to keep Vaseline on it, need to pull it back every diaper change to prevent adhesions.

From the hospital I used to work at: "This is a parental decision, not a medical decision."
https://www.childrensmercy.org/PediatricAdvisor/Article.aspx?id=466

I totally get that, scientifically speaking, we know that more nerve endings are present in an uncircumcised penis, but the bolded statement always makes me chuckle because obviously there aren't many out there who can actually compare results! Kind of reminds me of an argument about which hurts more, childbirth or getting punched in the nuts ;-)

ETA that obviously childbirth wins the second argument.

Dimples0101

Maelara said:

Circumcision - I like how it has stayed so respectful so far honestly, I don't feel strongly either way but my DH does. When he was 8, his brother got an infection and DHs parents decided to circumcise them both! So my DH still has very strong memories. Since I don't have a strong opinion either way (if I had to make the decision, I would probably just leave it) my DH has made that decision. His brother was one of those rare boys who didn't clean himself properly, leading to an infection. DH never had this issue so who knows why his parents decided to do it to both of them.

Do you mind if I ask what his decision is?  My husband feels pretty strongly about not circumcising.  I always thought we would, but honestly I feel like both sides have positives and negatives.  It's such a huge decision to make on behalf of someone else.

My UO is that I really want a girl so that DD has a sister (I have a sister and they are just the best), but also I would love to not have to make the circumcision decision. 

Nfranco973

I totally hate the Babymama, Baby moms, Baby Father and Babydaddy reference.. Ugh! I told DH I betta not ever be referred to as your "Babymoms" lol .. I think it's ratchetttt!!!

krgriffin26

Weighing in on the circumcision topic. DH is cut and feels strongly that any boys we have should also be. I don't really care either way and I will let my husband make this decision (most of the future penis/sex talk will be left to him anyways so he can talk to our future son about the choice). All of my friends are a little shocked that I don't care either way. For them, they have never seen an uncircumcised one and think that all men should be, that being uncut is unclean, that it looks funny, would feel funny....whole slew of inaccurate things. My high school sweetheart was not circumcised and honestly I couldn't really tell the difference once we....ummmmm....got going.

I did have a friend in high school that decided to get circumcised at 18 when he could legally decide for himself (His parents wanted him to choose). He was probably out of school for a week and looked awful once he returned. It took him a while to bounce back but he never regretted it.   

lizgrace03

missnacholover said:

lisalynnmama said:

My UO is that I absolutely HATE when people keep names/sexes secret.  If you are doing it because you are not finding out, I get that.  I have no problem with that.  I just hate it when people act like they are guarding a state secret.  

Why do you hate it?  Does it affect your life?

I don't think anyone here is acting like they are guarding a state secret.  It's their business to tell.  Why do you care?

LOL!!!!  

emoxymoose

As for the circumcision debate - we did with our DS.

- I wanted it done because I really didn't feel like teaching him how to pull the skin down and clean it. I don't know how to so I would of had to research it... and that's too much penis for me. DH is in the Army and he is ALWAYS gone, even when he's home he's away somewhere and I know I would of gotten stuck with it.

DH wanted it done too, I think he wanted them to match lol

Also, I was once having sex with an old boyfriend and the skin ripped, there was blood everywhere and it was really embarrassing having to try to patch it up.

It's not for everyone but it was certainly for us, it was a little sad at first but in the long run it was the right thing for our family.

Edit: spelling

PineApple85

runningmama14 said:

if you don't mind my asking, why didn't you circumsize your son? i've never had any - uh - experience with that and don't get what issue is? i assumed everyone did although i know obviously some people chose not to. just wondering the reason so in case i have a son i'm informed. i haven't discussed with dh but i assume he shares my views.

The biggest reason is there's no real reason to do it. It didn't seem right to me to cut up DS's genitals "just because". Also it gets rid of a lot of nerve endings. Men like sex regardless of course, but they say it's more pleasurable uncircumcised. There are risks of complications, as with any surgery. (1 in 500 have serious complications.) And some babies need re-circumscised because it either wasn't done right or didn't heal right. Short-term - It's more hassle to deal with right after the procedure. Need to keep Vaseline on it, need to pull it back every diaper change to prevent adhesions. From the hospital I used to work at: "This is a parental decision, not a medical decision." https://www.childrensmercy.org/PediatricAdvisor/Article.aspx?id=466

I totally get that, scientifically speaking, we know that more nerve endings are present in an uncircumcised penis, but the bolded statement always makes me chuckle because obviously there aren't many out there who can actually compare results! Kind of reminds me of an argument about which hurts more, childbirth or getting punched in the nuts ;-) ETA that obviously childbirth wins the second argument.

One of the articles that I read when I was researching it quoted several men who were circumcised as adults and they all said there was a huge difference and that sex was better pre-circ.  Hardly scientific and if I had the link, I would share it but just thought I'd throw it in there.

I personally didn't want DS circumcised b/c as PPs already said there is no medical reason for it.  But SO felt strongly and he has a penis and I don't so I bowed out.  I also didn't have strong convictions about it to start with.

Maelara

Dimples0101 said:

Maelara said:

Circumcision - I like how it has stayed so respectful so far honestly, I don't feel strongly either way but my DH does. When he was 8, his brother got an infection and DHs parents decided to circumcise them both! So my DH still has very strong memories. Since I don't have a strong opinion either way (if I had to make the decision, I would probably just leave it) my DH has made that decision. His brother was one of those rare boys who didn't clean himself properly, leading to an infection. DH never had this issue so who knows why his parents decided to do it to both of them.

Do you mind if I ask what his decision is?  My husband feels pretty strongly about not circumcising.  I always thought we would, but honestly I feel like both sides have positives and negatives.  It's such a huge decision to make on behalf of someone else.

My UO is that I really want a girl so that DD has a sister (I have a sister and they are just the best), but also I would love to not have to make the circumcision decision. 

If we have a son, he will be circumcised.

ETA - I also feel like it's a huge decision to make for someone else and can see the positive and negative on both sides. I feel both are good options which is probably why I have no strong feelings about it. Before DH and I even got married, when we just started talking about kids, he told me how strongly he felt and it's something that we will be doing. He knows all the facts and is a smart man so I trust his decision

KMW08

Nfranco973 said:

I totally hate the Babymama, Baby moms, Baby Father and Babydaddy reference.. Ugh! I told DH I betta not ever be referred to as your "Babymoms" lol .. I think it's ratchetttt!!!

I don't know that I can take this seriously now because of the bolded. I totally feel like baby mama is more appropriate for somebody who uses vernacular such as ratchet.

ETA: wording. Sentences are hard.

cindyNmark2010

lisaren said:

Drives me bat shit crazy when parents refer to the child's genitals as a wee wee or pee pee or tee pee or winky or privates. It's a penis and vagina.

HATE HATE HATE THAT!!!  SS's BM had him calling it his junk when we got him at 6yo.

emoxymoose

cindyNmark2010 said:

lisaren said:

Drives me bat shit crazy when parents refer to the child's genitals as a wee wee or pee pee or tee pee or winky or privates. It's a penis and vagina.

HATE HATE HATE THAT!!!  SS's BM had him calling it his junk when we got him at 6yo.

DS calls it his pee pee. I don't see what the big deal is, we taught him that pee pee comes out of his penis and that's what he chose to say. No different than us telling him to drink water and him call it wa wa.

jaminjeff

I think it's BS that kids are able to have their criminal and traffic records sealed so easily.  I was a kid once too and knew right from wrong and just cuz your little Johnny or Sue is showing remorse or enough time has passed doesn't mean the crime wasn't committed and should just disappear.  We have kids who our officers give a traffic ticket to for doing 71 in a 35.  The kid takes a "safety course" and 2-3 months after it happened the court is ordering it sealed like it never happened so mommy and daddy's insurance rates don't go up astronomically.

I will say I'm pleased that in Ohio (and this seems to be an UO with the parents who come in here) your juvenile isn't protected from public records laws when it comes to being arrested, or just being an involved party in a report.  That is all public and anyone can have a copy of it.

abbyful

jaminjeff said:

I think it's BS that kids are able to have their criminal and traffic records sealed so easily.  I was a kid once too and knew right from wrong and just cuz your little Johnny or Sue is showing remorse or enough time has passed doesn't mean the crime wasn't committed and should just disappear.  We have kids who our officers give a traffic ticket to for doing 71 in a 35.  The kid takes a "safety course" and 2-3 months after it happened the court is ordering it sealed like it never happened so mommy and daddy's insurance rates don't go up astronomically.

I will say I'm pleased that in Ohio (and this seems to be an UO with the parents who come in here) your juvenile isn't protected from public records laws when it comes to being arrested, or just being an involved party in a report.  That is all public and anyone can have a copy of it.

To piggyback off that, I also think if you do an adult crime, you should be charged as an adult.

Shop-lift a CD or get caught with a joint? Sure, charge them as a minor. Stupid kid mistakes/rebellion.

Rape or murder someone? Hell yes charge them as an adult.

DoubleUp8

emoxymoose said:

DoubleUp8 said:

JamieK1882 said:

Since I have nothing better, I'll weigh in on the clothes debate.

I hate skinny jeans (on both women and ESPECIALLY men, but I'm talking about women here mostly). I don't think anyone looks good in them unless they are very very skinny. I see way too many curvy girls trying to pull them off and I just think it accentuates the hips too much.

Bring back the flared jeans~!

^^^This! I have wide hips and a large bust, skinny jeans detract from the "hourglass" figure effect (at least before the bump) and just make make me look like a triangle with really small feet and super wide hips/top, ugh!

I wear boot cut or straight leg jeans. I love the sweetheart style at Old Navy!

Personally, I think that curvy girls look awesome in skinny jeans. In fact even more so than super skinny people.

I don't have thighs that can pull them off

mussalynn

emoxymoose said:

As for the circumcision debate - we did with our DS.

- I wanted it done because I really didn't feel like teaching him how to pull the skin down and clean it. I don't know how to so I would of had to research it... and that's too much penis for me. DH is in the Army and he is ALWAYS gone, even when he's home he's away somewhere and I know I would of gotten stuck with it.

DH wanted it done too, I think he wanted them to match lol

Also, I was once having sex with an old boyfriend and the skin ripped, there was blood everywhere and it was really embarrassing having to try to patch it up.

It's not for everyone but it was certainly for us, it was a little sad at first but in the long run it was the right thing for our family.

Edit: spelling

I'm sorry, but this just made my jaw drop.  

nicnac817

I can't stand the name discussion.  Every time someone has something to say about how a name is spelled, my eyes rolls so hard.  Who cares if a parent chooses to spell there kids name with a Y instead of an E.  Who cares is one kid has a boring name and one has an interesting name.   Who cares if its a traditional Celtic WHATEVER!!!!  Guess what,  you get to name your child whatever you little heart desires. Focus on that, instead of what I choose for mine.

This also applies to people who judge moms who don't breastfeed, do breastfeed (but for to long in someone else's opinion) , sleep with their kid, don't sleep with their kid, cloth diaper, don't cloth diaper blah blah blah.  I just can't stand the judging.  Unless, you are doing something that could potentially harm you child.  ie.) smoke, drink, drugs while pregnant, drive with you child on your lap, hit them.  Then I have something to say.  To your face.  I just wish people would stop criticizing other people and focus on making themselves better. 

In my experience , the people who judge others the most could use the most work.

emoxymoose

mussalynn said:

emoxymoose said:

As for the circumcision debate - we did with our DS.

- I wanted it done because I really didn't feel like teaching him how to pull the skin down and clean it. I don't know how to so I would of had to research it... and that's too much penis for me. DH is in the Army and he is ALWAYS gone, even when he's home he's away somewhere and I know I would of gotten stuck with it.

DH wanted it done too, I think he wanted them to match lol

Also, I was once having sex with an old boyfriend and the skin ripped, there was blood everywhere and it was really embarrassing having to try to patch it up.

It's not for everyone but it was certainly for us, it was a little sad at first but in the long run it was the right thing for our family.

Edit: spelling

I'm sorry, but this just made my jaw drop.  

Why would it? It was a completely unavoidable situation so I chose to avoid it.

lisaren

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nicnac817 said:

I can't stand the name discussion.  Every time someone has something to say about how a name is spelled, my eyes rolls so hard.  Who cares if a parent chooses to spell there kids name with a Y instead of an E.  Who cares is one kid has a boring name and one has an interesting name.   Who cares if its a traditional Celtic WHATEVER!!!!  Guess what,  you get to name your child whatever you little heart desires. Focus on that, instead of what I choose for mine.

This also applies to people who judge moms who don't breastfeed, do breastfeed (but for to long in someone else's opinion) , sleep with their kid, don't sleep with their kid, cloth diaper, don't cloth diaper blah blah blah.  I just can't stand the judging.  Unless, you are doing something that could potentially harm you child.  ie.) smoke, drink, drugs while pregnant, drive with you child on your lap, hit them.  Then I have something to say.  To your face.  I just wish people would stop criticizing other people and focus on making themselves better. 

In my experience , the people who judge
others the most could use the most work.

Hard core crushing on you now.

RedBirdFly

emoxymoose said:

mussalynn said:

emoxymoose said:

As for the circumcision debate - we did with our DS.

- I wanted it done because I really didn't feel like teaching him how to pull the skin down and clean it. I don't know how to so I would of had to research it... and that's too much penis for me. DH is in the Army and he is ALWAYS gone, even when he's home he's away somewhere and I know I would of gotten stuck with it.

DH wanted it done too, I think he wanted them to match lol

Also, I was once having sex with an old boyfriend and the skin ripped, there was blood everywhere and it was really embarrassing having to try to patch it up.

It's not for everyone but it was certainly for us, it was a little sad at first but in the long run it was the right thing for our family.

Edit: spelling

I'm sorry, but this just made my jaw drop.  

Why would it? It was a completely unavoidable situation so I chose to avoid it.

I kind of get the feeling you have, because I once slept with a man who wasn't circumcised. It was a whole new world for me. I had no idea what to do with his penis. None. It was really frightening. I was scared to hurt him.

I let my son's father decide in regards to him, and he had our son circ'ed. As for this one, I'll probably have him circ'ed.

mockingjay1

nicnac817 said:

I can't stand the name discussion.  Every time someone has something to say about how a name is spelled, my eyes rolls so hard.  Who cares if a parent chooses to spell there kids name with a Y instead of an E.  Who cares is one kid has a boring name and one has an interesting name.   Who cares if its a traditional Celtic WHATEVER!!!!  Guess what,  you get to name your child whatever you little heart desires. Focus on that, instead of what I choose for mine.

This also applies to people who judge moms who don't breastfeed, do breastfeed (but for to long in someone else's opinion) , sleep with their kid, don't sleep with their kid, cloth diaper, don't cloth diaper blah blah blah.  I just can't stand the judging.  Unless, you are doing something that could potentially harm you child.  ie.) smoke, drink, drugs while pregnant, drive with you child on your lap, hit them.  Then I have something to say.  To your face.  I just wish people would stop criticizing other people and focus on making themselves better. 

In my experience , the people who judge others the most could use the most work.

I think what you name your child affects their life if it's a terrible name. Elizabeth has a much better chance at a job than Nevaeh if all else is equal. Also it's usually a hassle to always have your named spelled wrong (ie if your name was Ellinor instead of Eleanor). If you don't care about that, then go ahead and name your kid whatever you want. It's just annoying when people think they are being creative in naming their children certain names that are not rare or unique at all. If I was aiming for a unique name and found out the name I picked was anything but, I guess I'd want to know that. 

I don't give a shit how you feed or diaper your child. Everybody judges at least to some degree other people on something or another. It's part of being human. Enjoy your ride on your high horse. 

ProcessofBecoming

DH is circed. My son is circed. This baby will be too (my husband would never go for not circing him, and my son recovered quickly from his circumcision, and did not appear to be in much discomfort, which helps me feel a tiny bit better about the procedure). I had my misgivings with circumcising my son and still struggle with circumcising his little brother, but there appear to be benefits healthwise for circumcised males, which is a good thing. 

I've dated two uncircumcised guys, and both admitted that they wished they'd been circumcised when they were infants (one was born in England, and one's parents just didn't believe in the procedure). On a completely shallow and vapid note, as a woman, given the choice between a circumcised guy and an uncircumsized guy, I much prefer circumcised guys, just because the tip of an uncirced penis is always wet and gooey when you uncover it, and sometimes there's a funk there that used to skeeve me out. This was never a deal-breaker in either of my relationships, but I did have an "adjustment period" with the first guy I dated. 

Again, just my (possibly unpopular) opinion. To each his own. I think that in the future, with so many parents electing to forego the procedure, there won't be as much, if any stigma associated with being an uncircumcised man. Many people I know have chosen not to do it, and I completely respect their choices.

As for bastardized versions of names, again, to each their own. Although in the "questionable names" storytelling department, I have a cousin who gave birth to her daughter at a very young age (mid-teens), and named her Destiny. Her grandmother said--out loud--to her face "You named her Destiny?!? Jesus Christ, you might as well put her on the stripper pole now!" Her grandmother was not once to mince words (I think that she was also none too pleased that her granddaughter had a child so early, which may have fueled the outburst). 

KMW08

My UO and it'll probably happen to me, doesn't mean I don't hate it though.

I strongly dislike it when people give their kids names but use a nickname. If you know you're going by the NN why not just use that? An example: Allison but plan on calling her Ali. Why not just do ally/ali to begin with?

The my scenario *ugh* I also dislike it when the kid goes by the middle name. Just give them that as a first name. If we have a boy chances are this is going to happen to me & I hate it.

The only exceptions I have on these are if it's a passed down as a sr/jr I/II//III thing.

PineApple85

KMW08 said: My UO and it'll probably happen to me, doesn't mean I don't hate it though. I strongly dislike it when people give their kids names but use a nickname. If you know you're going by the NN why not just use that? An example: Allison but plan on calling her Ali. Why not just do ally/ali to begin with? The my scenario *ugh* I also dislike it when the kid goes by the middle name. Just give them that as a first name. If we have a boy chances are this is going to happen to me & I hate it. The only exceptions I have on these are if it's a passed down as a sr/jr I/II//III thing.


Ha ha!  I'm the opposite.  I feel that the name on the birth certificate should be a formal name and a nickname is a nickname, not a name.  I don't care what other people do, but if we like the name Jack, for example, Jackson or another formal name is going on the birth certificate.  TETO.

DS is a third and his middle name is a shortened nickname and I struggled soooo long with that.  I wanted to cheat and "fix" it but still call him a 3rd.  Ultimately, we left it but I cringe a little every time I think about it.  Lol!

runningmama14

I grew up going by a nickname, but I much prefer to go by my full first name professionally. I'm glad I have both.