UO Thursday

RedBirdFly

I don't mind preggo and preggers. I dislike 'pregnate' because it just screams that the person can't actually spell, and I see it wayyyy too often.

absolutelymaybe

RedBirdFly said:

I don't mind preggo and preggers. I dislike 'pregnate' because it just screams that the person can't actually spell, and I see it wayyyy too often.

Wait is "pregnate" a cutesy nickname for being pregnant? Because every time I've seen it, I've just assumed the person couldn't spell. 

phdprocrastinator

abbyful said:

I think it's BS that kids are able to have their criminal and traffic records sealed so easily.  I was a kid once too and knew right from wrong and just cuz your little Johnny or Sue is showing remorse or enough time has passed doesn't mean the crime wasn't committed and should just disappear.  We have kids who our officers give a traffic ticket to for doing 71 in a 35.  The kid takes a "safety course" and 2-3 months after it happened the court is ordering it sealed like it never happened so mommy and daddy's insurance rates don't go up astronomically.

I will say I'm pleased that in Ohio (and this seems to be an UO with the parents who come in here) your juvenile isn't protected from public records laws when it comes to being arrested, or just being an involved party in a report.  That is all public and anyone can have a copy of it.

To piggyback off that, I also think if you do an adult crime, you should be charged as an adult. Shop-lift a CD or get caught with a joint? Sure, charge them as a minor. Stupid kid mistakes/rebellion. Rape or murder someone? Hell yes charge them as an adult.

I think my opinion is more unpopular.

I think that if a child commits a crime, it's a huge red flag that the child needs help.  Something is going wrong in his/her life, whether it be related to abuse, genetics, poor parenting, chaotic circumstances, whatever.  I think any treatment for juvenile offenses should be framed as therapy.  This stems in part from my background in special ed.  If a student commits an offense related to his/her disorder, they can't be expelled for it and instead are given therapy/accommodations/etc.  I think policy should be changed so that this approach is applied to all students.  Because if you set the school garden on fire (happened at a school I was supervising at), chances are SOMETHING is not right.  Locking a kid up in juvy (particularly in CA - it's horrific here) is NOT going to prevent future offenses.

And to make my opinion even MORE unpopular, I think the above actually applies to MOST (not all) adult offenses, especially if someone is a drug addict or mentally ill (as applies to the majority of the prison population).

Violent crimes - particularly repeat offenders - I agree, lock 'em up.  But no death penalty (just to seal the deal in my unpopular fate).

emoxymoose

phdprocrastinator said:

abbyful said:

I think it's BS that kids are able to have their criminal and traffic records sealed so easily.  I was a kid once too and knew right from wrong and just cuz your little Johnny or Sue is showing remorse or enough time has passed doesn't mean the crime wasn't committed and should just disappear.  We have kids who our officers give a traffic ticket to for doing 71 in a 35.  The kid takes a "safety course" and 2-3 months after it happened the court is ordering it sealed like it never happened so mommy and daddy's insurance rates don't go up astronomically.

I will say I'm pleased that in Ohio (and this seems to be an UO with the parents who come in here) your juvenile isn't protected from public records laws when it comes to being arrested, or just being an involved party in a report.  That is all public and anyone can have a copy of it.

To piggyback off that, I also think if you do an adult crime, you should be charged as an adult. Shop-lift a CD or get caught with a joint? Sure, charge them as a minor. Stupid kid mistakes/rebellion. Rape or murder someone? Hell yes charge them as an adult.

I think my opinion is more unpopular.

I think that if a child commits a crime, it's a huge red flag that the child needs help.  Something is going wrong in his/her life, whether it be related to abuse, genetics, poor parenting, chaotic circumstances, whatever.  I think any treatment for juvenile offenses should be framed as therapy.  This stems in part from my background in special ed.  If a student commits an offense related to his/her disorder, they can't be expelled for it and instead are given therapy/accommodations/etc.  I think policy should be changed so that this approach is applied to all students.  Because if you set the school garden on fire (happened at a school I was supervising at), chances are SOMETHING is not right.  Locking a kid up in juvy (particularly in CA - it's horrific here) is NOT going to prevent future offenses.

And to make my opinion even MORE unpopular, I think the above actually applies to MOST (not all) adult offenses, especially if someone is a drug addict or mentally ill (as applies to the majority of the prison population).

Violent crimes - particularly repeat offenders - I agree, lock 'em up.  But no death penalty (just to seal the deal in my unpopular fate).

I don't think your opinion is very unpopular at all. Unfortunately, it boils down to money. It's cheaper to lock people up than it is to try to work through what got them there in the first place. More and more prisons are becoming privately owned and thus for profit, which saves the state money, but I'm not sure what it does for the actual inmates inside.

AnnieRoo13

absolutelymaybe said:

RedBirdFly said:

I don't mind preggo and preggers. I dislike 'pregnate' because it just screams that the person can't actually spell, and I see it wayyyy too often.

Wait is "pregnate" a cutesy nickname for being pregnant? Because every time I've seen it, I've just assumed the person couldn't spell. 

Baha, me too! I hardcore judged people who are pregnant and couldn't spell pregnant. Is it really a thing to spell it "pregnate"???

AnnieRoo13

My UO is off of today's circumcision discussion. I actually prefer guys who are not circumcised. My first boyfriend wasn't and DH isn't so it's what I'm used to, but when I was with a guy that was I found it weird. If we have a boy we won't be circumsizing him.

absolutelymaybe

AnnieRoo13 said:

My UO is off of today's circumcision discussion. I actually prefer guys who are not circumcised. My first boyfriend wasn't and DH isn't so it's what I'm used to, but when I was with a guy that was I found it weird. If we have a boy we won't be circumsizing him.

Okay I wasn't going to be the first to say it, but ^^ THIS! DH is not circumcised and I honestly prefer it. And to the person who said there she found funk under the skin of an ex, he probably needed to take some hygiene tips because DH doesn't have this problem. (Now that I've dished about my husband's junk on a public forum...)

venussapphire

FirstBabyDoyle said:

Breast feeding when your child has all of their teeth and speaks in full sentences is disturbing. Real conversation .."Mommy, I don't want breast milk" said son "Just a little" said mom

Depends on how old the child is my friends little girl could speak sentences just after a year. Saying its time to end breastfeeding simply due to teeth or verbal skills is idiotic.

brooklyngirl18

RedBirdFly said:

I don't mind preggo and preggers. I dislike 'pregnate' because it just screams that the person can't actually spell, and I see it wayyyy too often.

this!! i saw someone typing this and it made me want to pull my hair out. i seriously hope she was being cute but i don't think so given the amount of times she's spelled it pregnate.  ~X(

Maelara

flutterbuggie said:

KMW08 said:

My UO and it'll probably happen to me, doesn't mean I don't hate it though. I strongly dislike it when people give their kids names but use a nickname. If you know you're going by the NN why not just use that? An example: Allison but plan on calling her Ali. Why not just do ally/ali to begin with? The my scenario *ugh* I also dislike it when the kid goes by the middle name. Just give them that as a first name. If we have a boy chances are this is going to happen to me & I hate it. The only exceptions I have on these are if it's a passed down as a sr/jr I/II//III thing.

I was just having this conversation with someone today!  I totally agree.  If you know you are going to call the child by the nickname.. just name it the freaking nickname!

I respectfully disagree with both of you! Our DD goes by her nickname (for now) but it's very cutesy and in my opinion, not a name for a professional adult. Can you imagine a lawyer by the name Tali? I can't. So we gave her a grown up name so she can go by that in her professional life if she chooses. Plus my husband came up with Tali from a video game, bonus points if you know which!

Maelara

brooklyngirl18 said:

RedBirdFly said:

I don't mind preggo and preggers. I dislike 'pregnate' because it just screams that the person can't actually spell, and I see it wayyyy too often.

this!! i saw someone typing this and it made me want to pull my hair out. i seriously hope she was being cute but i don't think so given the amount of times she's spelled it pregnate.  ~X(

Oh god... Now I'm going to have to go back and check all my posts. If I did it, it was an accident. Sometimes being on mobile and my ipad with a squirmy baby makes things difficult.

Kristy774

Maelara said:

brooklyngirl18 said:

RedBirdFly said:

I don't mind preggo and preggers. I dislike 'pregnate' because it just screams that the person can't actually spell, and I see it wayyyy too often.

this!! i saw someone typing this and it made me want to pull my hair out. i seriously hope she was being cute but i don't think so given the amount of times she's spelled it pregnate.  ~X(

Oh god... Now I'm going to have to go back and check all my posts. If I did it, it was an accident. Sometimes being on mobile and my ipad with a squirmy baby makes things difficult.


It wasn't you!

Maelara

Kristy774 said:

brooklyngirl18 said:

RedBirdFly said:

I don't mind preggo and preggers. I dislike 'pregnate' because it just screams that the person can't actually spell, and I see it wayyyy too often.

this!! i saw someone typing this and it made me want to pull my hair out. i seriously hope she was being cute but i don't think so given the amount of times she's spelled it pregnate.  ~X(

Oh god... Now I'm going to have to go back and check all my posts. If I did it, it was an accident. Sometimes being on mobile and my ipad with a squirmy baby makes things difficult.

It wasn't you!

Phew! Thank goodness! I would then be annoying myself!

RedBirdFly

Maelara said:

Kristy774 said:

Maelara said:

brooklyngirl18 said:

RedBirdFly said:

I don't mind preggo and preggers. I dislike 'pregnate' because it just screams that the person can't actually spell, and I see it wayyyy too often.

this!! i saw someone typing this and it made me want to pull my hair out. i seriously hope she was being cute but i don't think so given the amount of times she's spelled it pregnate.  ~X(

Oh god... Now I'm going to have to go back and check all my posts. If I did it, it was an accident. Sometimes being on mobile and my ipad with a squirmy baby makes things difficult.

It wasn't you!





Phew! Thank goodness! I would then be annoying myself!

I thought at first it was a misspelling but SO many people who lack the comprehension of commas say pregnate that I'm worried its actually a thing.

lizgrace03

ClrkKntismyAE said:

lisaren said:

Drives me bat shit crazy when parents refer to the child's genitals as a wee wee or pee pee or tee pee or winky or privates. It's a penis and vagina.

My cousins have birdies and cookie jars.

Sorry to be dense, but which is which? I'm guessing the cookie jar is a vagina bc of the opening? Lol

lizgrace03

^^^^ and with that astute comment, I earn the
500 comments badge. Hah.

sweetbabyrahe

My UO is I hate barefooted babies in public. I think it's my foot aversion but I want to cover all the feet.

emoxymoose

It bugs me when people ask to borrow my baby stuff for a prolonged period of time. I get it if you want to borrow my swing for a week or two to see if LO likes it before dropping the money, but putting wear and tear on my baby stuff for months to save you the $$ is rude. (Mostly pertains to things that wear out)

lisaren

I have another UO:

The UO thread. We're way to Nice on our board on our UO threads. I blame all the sprinkles and cupcakes I've fed this board. Hahahahaha.

Jpinky9

I also agree with using the proper terminology for private parts. I'm not sure if any of you ladies watch honey boo boo, and recal that baby Caitlin arrived on the "biscuit express" lol! They have some pretty unique terms for things!

hjenni

Maelara said:

flutterbuggie said:

KMW08 said:

My UO and it'll probably happen to me, doesn't mean I don't hate it though. I strongly dislike it when people give their kids names but use a nickname. If you know you're going by the NN why not just use that? An example: Allison but plan on calling her Ali. Why not just do ally/ali to begin with? The my scenario *ugh* I also dislike it when the kid goes by the middle name. Just give them that as a first name. If we have a boy chances are this is going to happen to me & I hate it. The only exceptions I have on these are if it's a passed down as a sr/jr I/II//III thing.

I was just having this conversation with someone today!  I totally agree.  If you know you are going to call the child by the nickname.. just name it the freaking nickname!

I respectfully disagree with both of you! Our DD goes by her nickname (for now) but it's very cutesy and in my opinion, not a name for a professional adult. Can you imagine a lawyer by the name Tali? I can't. So we gave her a grown up name so she can go by that in her professional life if she chooses. Plus my husband came up with Tali from a video game, bonus points if you know which!

@Maelara Mass Effect. It's one of my husbands favorites lol.

mockingjay1

lisaren said:

I have another UO: The UO thread. We're way to Nice on our board on our UO threads. I blame all the sprinkles and cupcakes I've fed this board. Hahahahaha.

I couldn't agree more! Not that it's your fault, just that we're overly puppies and rainbows compared to what we used to be.

lisaren

I do think it's kinda my fault. Y'all can get cray cray up in here!!

Kristy774

dmo1371 said:

lisaren said:

I have another UO:

The UO thread. We're way to Nice on our board on our UO threads. I blame all the sprinkles and cupcakes I've fed this board. Hahahahaha.

I couldn't agree more! Not that it's your fault, just that we're overly puppies and rainbows compared to what we used to be.

I have a bad headache today and DS is really sick and has been up the past 2 nights (his fever won't break) and I was so glad the circumcision discussion didn't get crazy. So all who participated in that, Thank you for that.

lisaren

Oh I'm waiting on the vaccs debate. I've got that one covered!!!!

hjenni

lisaren said:

Oh I'm waiting on the vaccs debate. I've got that one covered!!!!

Oh yes. I'm grabbing the popcorn for that one lol. 

RedBirdFly

Haven't we talked about vaccines before, @lisaren‌? I seem to remember it. I was lurking on Oct14, though, and apparently they had a big discussion about it a week or two ago.

lisaren

I think we touched on it in the very beginning.

RedBirdFly

It seemed like everyone was very mature about it then, just like they all were about circumcision.

lisaren

Yep. We need a dirty UO. Like how I totally made several pregnant porn
Movies hahahaha jk.




Maybe.

RedBirdFly

I'm actually making porn with/for my husband to send with him on deployment.

Last year I did a lingerie shoot for him before he left for 3 months so this year since he's going to be away for six, he needs something more to sustain him.

nicnac817

dmo1371 said:

nicnac817 said:

I can't stand the name discussion.  Every time someone has something to say about how a name is spelled, my eyes rolls so hard.  Who cares if a parent chooses to spell there kids name with a Y instead of an E.  Who cares is one kid has a boring name and one has an interesting name.   Who cares if its a traditional Celtic WHATEVER!!!!  Guess what,  you get to name your child whatever you little heart desires. Focus on that, instead of what I choose for mine.

This also applies to people who judge moms who don't breastfeed, do breastfeed (but for to long in someone else's opinion) , sleep with their kid, don't sleep with their kid, cloth diaper, don't cloth diaper blah blah blah.  I just can't stand the judging.  Unless, you are doing something that could potentially harm you child.  ie.) smoke, drink, drugs while pregnant, drive with you child on your lap, hit them.  Then I have something to say.  To your face.  I just wish people would stop criticizing other people and focus on making themselves better. 

In my experience , the people who judge others the most could use the most work.

I think what you name your child affects their life if it's a terrible name. Elizabeth has a much better chance at a job than Nevaeh if all else is equal. Also it's usually a hassle to always have your named spelled wrong (ie if your name was Ellinor instead of Eleanor). If you don't care about that, then go ahead and name your kid whatever you want. It's just annoying when people think they are being creative in naming their children certain names that are not rare or unique at all. If I was aiming for a unique name and found out the name I picked was anything but, I guess I'd want to know that. 

I don't give a shit how you feed or diaper your child. Everybody judges at least to some degree other people on something or another. It's part of being human. Enjoy your ride on your high horse. 

Your comments are exactly the kind of comments that I roll my eyes at. I highly doubt that a parent needs you or anyone else to let them know their name choice is not creative. That's rude not helpful.

FYI, I don't ride horses lady.

brooklyngirl18

lisaren said:

Yep. We need a dirty UO. Like how I totally made several pregnant porn Movies hahahaha jk. Maybe.

awesome!!! i knew you had an inner freak @lisaren. dh keeps saying we need to pics/video of my boobs before they go back to normal. i told him we'll need to do this soon because i hear they get quite national geographic looking closer to the due date.

lisaren

brooklyngirl18 said:

lisaren said:

Yep. We need a dirty UO. Like how I totally made several pregnant porn
Movies hahahaha jk.




Maybe.

awesome!!! i knew you had an inner freak @lisaren. dh keeps saying we need to pics/video of my boobs before they go back to normal. i told him we'll need to do this soon because i hear they get quite national geographic looking closer to the due date.

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y'all should see my IG acct. that's where my fun stuff is! Not nudes but Just Lisa being Lisa.

I'm getting my boobs lifted for my 40th birthday in February!!

Dimples0101

RedBirdFly said:

I'm actually making porn with/for my husband to send with him on deployment.

Last year I did a lingerie shoot for him before he left for 3 months so this year since he's going to be away for six, he needs something more to sustain him.

I did a lingerie shoot for DH last year for our anniversary and although he liked the pics he didn't "get" what he was supposed to do with them. I doubt he's looked at them since. *Sigh*.

RedBirdFly

Dimples0101 said:

RedBirdFly said:

I'm actually making porn with/for my husband to send with him on deployment.

Last year I did a lingerie shoot for him before he left for 3 months so this year since he's going to be away for six, he needs something more to sustain him.

I did a lingerie shoot for DH last year for our anniversary and although he liked the pics he didn't "get" what he was supposed to do with them. I doubt he's looked at them since. *Sigh*.

Mine is obsessed with them, but it might be because he has to be away so much.

kjmommy1214

Dimples0101 said:

RedBirdFly said:

I'm actually making porn with/for my husband to send with him on deployment.

Last year I did a lingerie shoot for him before he left for 3 months so this year since he's going to be away for six, he needs something more to sustain him.

I did a lingerie shoot for DH last year for our anniversary and although he liked the pics he didn't "get" what he was supposed to do with them. I doubt he's looked at them since. *Sigh*.

I wish I had the guts to do any of this. I have sent DH some PG-13 pics, but nothing like you guys.

missnacholover

I did a lingerie shoot last year, it was fun! 

brooklyngirl18

lisaren said:

lisaren said:

Yep. We need a dirty UO. Like how I totally made several pregnant porn Movies hahahaha jk. Maybe.

awesome!!! i knew you had an inner freak @lisaren. dh keeps saying we need to pics/video of my boobs before they go back to normal. i told him we'll need to do this soon because i hear they get quite national geographic looking closer to the due date.

-------- y'all should see my IG acct. that's where my fun stuff is! Not nudes but Just Lisa being Lisa. I'm getting my boobs lifted for my 40th birthday in February!!

get it girl! 

RedBirdFly

JKVogt said:

I'm actually making porn with/for my husband to send with him on deployment. Last year I did a lingerie shoot for him before he left for 3 months so this year since he's going to be away for six, he needs something more to sustain him.

I did a lingerie shoot for DH last year for our anniversary and although he liked the pics he didn't "get" what he was supposed to do with them. I doubt he's looked at them since. *Sigh*.

I wish I had the guts to do any of this. I have sent DH some PG-13 pics, but nothing like you guys.

We did a bunch of PG-13 photos that were still super-sexy. I had to HUNT for one that doesn't have DH's name showing, but if you guys want to see, I don't mind sharing, since I don't feel like it's lewd at all.