intro....support needed....

taye_84

Side note: I have no idea what abbreviations to use.....lol

I'm 30 years old and I believe I may be having fertility issues. My oldest is almost 8 and my 2nd child is 3. I didn't have a problem getting pregnant with them. I've been off the depo provera for almost a year and a half and my cycle is pretty normal (considering it be a day or two off, every other month). Yes, my husband and I are intimate and we make sure to handle our business during my ovulation times. I've downloaded numerous ovulation apps just to get different times of ovulation. I'm truly grateful for my two children, but why is it so hard for the 3rd one?


The reason why I'm posting is because I want to make sure I'm not the only one experiencing this. It's hard when you know that you are capable of doing something but when you want to again, its almost impossible. I'm not saying that it should be perfect, but my expectations have gotten the best of me. Every month I get discouraged. I know my husband gets tired of my crying, so I'd thought I find support outside of him, so he wont get drained. Does anyone else feel like this? Thanks for reading.

Jodee37

I'm sorry you and YH are not pg yet. I don't know if this is the right board for you, these women have been diagnosed with a fertility issue and are pursuing treatments. If I can rec anything I'd start peeing on ovulation predictor sticks, temping to confirm you actually ovulated, and after a year of doing that I'd go see your doctor for lab work and ultrasound. I think you will find more like support on TTGP. Good luck.

Mommalawyer

Agree with @Jodee37‌ - most women here are seeing an RE and have a diagnosis. If you are under 35 and TTC for 1 year or over 35 and TTC for 6 months (I believe that's the time period) then you should probably seek an RE. I think most women here would advise you seek help of an RE if you've been TTC with allotted time with no success. Familiarize yourself with OPKs. Also be charting your cycle. All of this will be extremely helpful if you find yourself having to consult an RE. Good luck!

GraceyandTroy

Hi, I'm sorry you're in such a hard place.  Everyone here knows the pain of wanting a baby desperately but not being able to and many of the ladies here fell into the same trap of expectations based on previous children.  I completely agree with everything @Jodee37 said about getting some opk's and start charting.  Using fertility friend dot com is a great resource and it will send you tutorials to make sure you are doing everything correctly. Also, read Taking Charge of Your Fertility.  It sounds like you don't have a diagnosis, so that book will be a great place to start.  

I was wondering if your older two children were with your husband or with a previous partner?  And at age 30, trying for a year and half, I would go ahead and at least call my ob/gyn, but would probably ask for a referral to an RE. 

Good luck, I'm so sorry you're hurting.  I also would encourage you to check out the TTGP as you may have more in common with those ladies.

Momarazzi007

A year and a half, using apps and all esp w no prior issues, I think it is time to get checked out. While you're still young, 30 is that magical age where you start gettin side eyes and waiting another year or so- might make the difference, but if you have something like issues w hub's sperm or locked tubes (or any of a 1,000 other things that could go wrong)- another year will only let those issues get worse. I'd talk to OB about gettin some basic testing done for you and a SA (semen analysis) done for hubs. We were a couple that everyone was like- you're young- give it another 6 months- you'll see. Demanded testing and boom, MFI (male factor infertility) and somethings, a million opks aren't going to help. If you come back clean- that is peace of mind and YEAY! Follow all the steps (hell, do all of the above in the mean time- testing can take a couple of months!!!) and go forth knowing you have done everything you can. If it comes up w an issue you will be glad you didn't wait any longer. I think a year and a half is a long time especially w 2 prior kids so easily.

LnghrnFan717

I'm sorry you're starting to feel discouraged   If you really think it might be an fertility problem, you should definitely talk to your doctor.  He/she can let you know what you can do to increase your chances or do some testing to make sure there are no problems.  Good luck!