Daycare ?

hopefuldog

daycare switched pacis accidentally. any feedback?

ETA: Privacy

keags5496

I'd just send LO with a clip. Not only will it keep the paci easily accessible but also off of the ground. I agree that it's gross, but if they don't already require people to label them I don't think it's fair to make them change now. For us, if there's something I can do to remedy the situation (like a clip) them we do that first before requesting that they cater to us and change policy.

JackieP1023

We send LO with a labeled paci clip. I always make sure it is attached before I leave.

hopefuldog

Thanks ladies. I definitely don't want to be "that mom", but it really isn't unreasonable to not want other pacis in my LOs mouth.

The regular teachers know ours are labeled, but this sub did not, hence the mix up.

I think I'll go buy a paci clip or 2 before work tomorrow and send those. And good idea @JackieP1023‌ to also label the clips.

hopefuldog

TyrannosaurusLex said:

Gross? Yeah. Over reacting? Yeah.
Soon your kid will be going around pulling the pacis out of other babies mouths and popping them into their own.
And many, many grosser things.

Trust me, I'm not overacting... That's why I came on here to get others opinions. While I completely agree that kids will be putting other pacis in their mouth on their own when old enough, I do not believe this excuses the behavior of a teacher putting one in the wrong kids mouth. If my kid kid grabs the wrong paci, that is one thing, but a new teacher giving the wrong one is just lazy.

We had friends over this weekend and their 2 1/2 yr old grabbed LOs paci and popped it his own mouth. It was NBD and I washed it off.

I'm not a germaphobe, but I feel like there should be better ways to prevent teachers from giving the wrong ones.

boogerbearoriginal

TyrannosaurusLex said:

Gross? Yeah. Over reacting? Yeah. Soon your kid will be going around pulling the pacis out of other babies mouths and popping them into their own. And many, many grosser things.

See, I think the teacher putting the wrong paci in the kids mouth would make me think that she's not paying attention. I'm guessing the pacis aren't identical, and she's labeled her kid's pacis. So there should've never been a chance for a mix-up. I'd worry that the teacher is either overwhelmed or not paying attention, both make me nervous as a parent when I'm entrusting my child's life and well-being to that person.  Today it was a paci, what if this teacher feeds her kid the wrong bottle by accident? That happens in daycares too and I don't see it as that different. You're putting an item into a kid's mouth, you should know that it's the right kid/item. And I get that mistakes happen, and she simply asked if there's a way to prevent it from happening again.  It's not like she rolled in screaming that the teacher be fired.

A kid grabbing one and popping it in his own mouth is completely different.

boogerbearoriginal

TyrannosaurusLex said:

TyrannosaurusLex said:

Gross? Yeah. Over reacting? Yeah. Soon your kid will be going around pulling the pacis out of other babies mouths and popping them into their own. And many, many grosser things.

See, I think the teacher putting the wrong paci in the kids mouth would make me think that she's not paying attention. I'm guessing the pacis aren't identical, and she's labeled her kid's pacis. So there should've never been a chance for a mix-up. I'd worry that the teacher is either overwhelmed or not paying attention, both make me nervous as a parent when I'm entrusting my child's life and well-being to that person.  Today it was a paci, what if this teacher feeds her kid the wrong bottle by accident? That happens in daycares too and I don't see it as that different. You're putting an item into a kid's mouth, you should know that it's the right kid/item. And I get that mistakes happen, and she simply asked if there's a way to prevent it from happening again.  It's not like she rolled in screaming that the teacher be fired.

A kid grabbing one and popping it in his own mouth is completely different.

Right but she said above that this wasn't a normal staff member, it was a new supply staff on her first day there. As I said above, if the daycare doesn't already enforce labelling of personal items I can only raise my hands and say....you picked the daycare.

True enough, I think it's fair to give the teacher a pass as it sounds like it was her first day. And I also find it odd they don't require labeling since that seems to be pretty standard for daycares to help prevent this sort of issue.

I think her pushing the director to start labeling as a rule isn't an overreaction though.

sdlaura

We send a clip. Mainly to keep DD from stealing it from him.

hopefuldog

TyrannosaurusLex said:

Booger+Bear said:

TyrannosaurusLex said:

Gross? Yeah. Over reacting? Yeah.
Soon your kid will be going around pulling the pacis out of other babies mouths and popping them into their own.
And many, many grosser things.

See, I think the teacher putting the wrong paci in the kids mouth would make me think that she's not paying attention. I'm guessing the pacis aren't identical, and she's labeled her kid's pacis. So there should've never been a chance for a mix-up. I'd worry that the teacher is either overwhelmed or not paying attention, both make me nervous as a parent when I'm entrusting my child's life and well-being to that person.  Today it was a paci, what if this teacher feeds her kid the wrong bottle by accident? That happens in daycares too and I don't see it as that different. You're putting an item into a kid's mouth, you should know that it's the right kid/item. And I get that mistakes happen, and she simply asked if there's a way to prevent it from happening again.  It's not like she rolled in screaming that the teacher be fired.

A kid grabbing one and popping it in his own mouth is completely different.

Right but she said above that this wasn't a normal staff member, it was a new supply staff on her first day there. As I said above, if the daycare doesn't already enforce labelling of personal items I can only raise my hands and say....you picked the daycare.

@TyrannosaurusLex‌, so which is it? Am I overreacting or did I choose a bad daycare?

I am a FTM and am new to daycare. I came here with my questions to get the advice of others.

RondackHiker

I think it's really strange to not require labeling, but this (using another paci) wouldn't really bother me. It was a mistake. No big deal.

JordyInIndy

As if the poor woman didn't feel overwhelmed enough on her first day and probably embarrassed she gave your kid the wrong paci (GASP!), your husband telling the director it was "discusting and unacceptable" was probably the cherry on top.

It's daycare. They do their best but catch every damn thing but they're human.

hopefuldog

Got it. Thanks.

I sent LO with a labeled clip and paci today. The asst director and teachers apologized for the mix up. I told them that I understood mistakes happen but that I'd obviously prefer my kids own paci. I said I decided to try using the clip to help prevent it from happening again. I really like our day care and teachers, so I'm happy to hear this isn't a huge problem.

Firefly9

Meh.  It's going to happen----though the teacher not paying attention would annoy me, but not to the point where I'd talk to the director and try to get a policy change.  I'd just casually mention it.

I don't label his pacifier.  He goes to daycare with it on a clip (also not labeled, but they know it's his).

But yeah, germs are going to happen.  Swapping pacifiers, licking floors, stealing sippy cups.  It's good for the ol' immune system.

What I *DID* complain about to the lead teacher, though, is that one day when I went to pick him up, the aide who was in there left his paci attached to the clip while he napped and it was across his neck; attached on one side of his swaddle and dangling on the other side of his neck.  I confirmed that putting them down WITHOUT the clip was policy and told them what happened.

Firefly9

And yes, your H overreacted.  

hopefuldog

Ok, thanks for all the feedback ladies. Obviously my typing is being misunderstood. It's hard to convey tone via the internet. I also paraphrased and made DH look like he was overreacting. He is not a yeller. I think he said something more along the lines of "that's gross and shouldn't happen" (I know that is not what I typed).

The point of this post was to determine if this was a big concern or not. You ladies have made me realize it is not. I tend to be very laid back on these things, and and wanted to make sure I was looking out for the best interest of my child. I promise I did not overreact with the daycare or her teachers. Thank you for your responses.

courtls22

PPs have already said my thoughts but I just want to add that daycare teachers work hard and are often not rewarded for their efforts (other than from the children of course).  I totally agree that if something happens that you're not comfortable with, you should speak up but also when you see something that you like, you should also speak up.  I'm an infant room teacher and I cannot express enough how far a few uplifting words go! This isn't directed solely at you OP but any parent whose child is in daycare.