An apology

Ccalkins0301

runningmama14 said:

"I got bashed by Lisa the first time I posted because I did not introduce "

Any more questions?

And how is that criticizing her

Sarahbeth612

I thought it was more the "I'll find a way to get over it, you were rude to me, this board isn't about you" etc.

Pretty much everything that was said and doesn't deserve any more attention.

Ccalkins0301

Maybe u need to re read when I said this is isn't about u I meant the original post wasn't directed at her the lady who wrote it wasn't trying to put her down and I said I'll find a way to get over it when she originally wrote something towards me

emoxymoose

@Ccalkins0301‌ if you want any hope of ever being a part of this board then drop it and move on. PLEASE!

MrsG1019

Ccalkins0301

mgg242 said:

@Ccalkins0301‌
. , ? !
These are a few forms of punctuation you can use. Try them out.

Thanks I'll keep that in mind

Maelara

Ccalkins0301 said:

Maybe u need to re read when I said this is isn't about u I meant the original post wasn't directed at her the lady who wrote it wasn't trying to put her down and I said I'll find a way to get over it when she originally wrote something towards me

Stop it. Just STOP IT. You are upsetting everyone and seriously need to self reflect on why. Get out. If you want to be apart of this board, make a new SN and be NICE because nobody will ever welcome you here.

RedBirdFly

Maelara said:

Ccalkins0301 said:

Maybe u need to re read when I said this is isn't about u I meant the original post wasn't directed at her the lady who wrote it wasn't trying to put her down and I said I'll find a way to get over it when she originally wrote something towards me

Stop it. Just STOP IT. You are upsetting everyone and seriously need to self reflect on why. Get out. If you want to be apart of this board, make a new SN and be NICE because nobody will ever welcome you here.

And use proper punctuation and add a nongeneric avatar, while you're at it, or we might always suspect you anyway.

missnacholover

I go out of town for a weekend and I miss so much!

Maelara

missnacholover said:

I go out of town for a weekend and I miss so much!

I know! I've had 3 birthdays today and couldn't be as involved as I would have liked.

lizgrace03

missnacholover said:

I go out of town for a weekend and I miss so much!

Omg it's been something else around these parts. Glad you're back!

Melissa2216

TeeJ526 said:

It was under the nov 28 thread and you were so rude to me and even though this isn't what this whole thread is about. My point I'm gettin across is that thread about he board wasn't about you it was saying that people should be able to do whatever they want it's a public board without others criticizing

Yeah... I read that thread. You called people rude and it made you sad that other women were being bashed for making a ridiculous thread so you got called out.

Yes, I remember it well. I also remember her rushing in to defend i<3crap and basically whore knighting all over the place.

Kristy774

Earlier I was thinking where the hell is @missnacholover‌ ?!?!

missnacholover

lizgrace03 said:

I go out of town for a weekend and I miss so much!

Omg it's been something else around these parts. Glad you're back!

I'm trying to catch up on the bullshit, but I feel I can't be bothered with the drama and crybabies who don't know my lyfe. 

sweetbabyrahe

I never intro'd so I guess I'm not a "cool kid" but I also feel safe to post and included. So I don't know which lunch table to sit at, but I don't care. I love the N14 board, snark and all.

missnacholover

I just can't with this bullshit.

Nfranco973

Tkf1085

Did I mention CAKE yet today.

missnacholover

Tkf1085 said:

Did I mention CAKE yet today.

I haven't talked about Nachos since, like, THURSDAY.

MollMoll4

@shindylahoe‌ thanks for admitting you were in the wrong. I hope you continue to get to know us!

As for the other drama? I won't feed the troll.

runningmama14

Ccalkins0301 said:

runningmama14 said:

"I got bashed by Lisa the first time I posted because I did not introduce "

Any more questions?

And how is that criticizing her

So let me get this straight. You spend all day pissing and moaning all over the board about how we are mean to anyone who doesn't intro, stating that you've been on everyone's shit list because you didn't intro, finally whip out that it was Lisa who actually posted something about the fact that you didn't intro (using the word "bashing") and you don't see that as a criticism?

Not only do you seem to lack the ability to spell, punctuate and capitalize, but you clearly also need a dictionary.

brooklyngirl18

runningmama14 said:

Yeah, I just went and re-read that thread again. Turns out, you came in guns blazing from your very first post. Then to later claim that Lisa called you for not introducing. BS, you were called out by multiple people because you deserved it. Lisa posted later that perhaps you would have been better received I'd you had started your own thread instead of picking up 6 pages into a thread to white knight somebody who hasn't even been back since her op. Seriously, keep digging your hole.

i'm so glad you said 'white knighting' instead of white whoring because, let's face it, she doesn't deserve to be one of us white whores. 

brooklyngirl18

missnacholover said:

I go out of town for a weekend and I miss so much!

same here! i was only able to log in quickly here and there and am trying to catch up now. what a shit show

absolutelymaybe

This drama is just getting old. Truthfully, I got what you meant by your first post and, despite the timing being a little poor, I understand most of your sentiments. I was worried about other women with losses being offended, but I chose to ignore that because that's not what the masses seemed to want and that's fine. 

The fact that you are getting attacked for apologizing pisses my shit off. You made an effort to apologize and you get attacked? That's not cool at all. I think people need to cool their freaking tits over this drama and move on. 

I'm probably going to get blacklisted because I have a different opinion (and normally I would just sit back and rather not get into the drama), but I just wanted to let you know that you're cool w/ me :-) 

carafern

@shindylahoe‌ thanks for apologizing. While I was interested in some of the points you raised in the original post (and think that debate about the board is healthy), I think the timing was really, really, really awful.

lisaren

So since there seems to be an obvious line drawn in the sand about the board, should there be a discussion about this??

Because honestly I'm over the whole conversation about boohoo, whoo is me, bully bullshit talk. Either we discuss and be done or really, stfu and be done.

missnacholover

lisaren said:

So since there seems to be an obvious line drawn in the sand about the board, should there be a discussion about this?? Because honestly I'm over the whole conversation about boohoo, whoo is me, bully bullshit talk. Either we discuss and be done or really, stfu and be done.

I just think it's ridiculous that the people who are regulars, who have gotten to know each other and may *gasp* have inside jokes or understand each other are labelled as "cool kids" or owning the board or whatever.  Everyone here has been open and accepting - just don't be a freakin' dumbass or an asshole. 

lisaren

missnacholover said:

lisaren said:

So since there seems to be an obvious line drawn in the sand about the board, should there be a discussion about this??

Because honestly I'm over the whole conversation about boohoo, whoo is me, bully bullshit talk. Either we discuss and be done or really, stfu and be done.

I just think it's ridiculous that the people who are regulars, who have gotten to know each other and may *gasp* have inside jokes or understand each other are labelled as "cool kids" or owning the board or whatever.  Everyone here has been open and accepting - just don't be a freakin' dumbass or an asshole. 


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Agreed!

Sooooooo all the girls who are pissed, talk. Here's your chance. Start a thread. Pm me. Own your words now ladies! Let's get this out and done.

lisaren

Crickets.

CPM13

I agree with @missnacholover I don't see any reason to label the people who seem really tight as "cool kids." (And no one would ever label me as such. I am admittedly on here sporadically, and occasionally find the banter tiresome- don't hate me!) 

We are all adults. I think people who feel left out should make their own connections and friendships. 

ssstephanie214

brooklyngirl18 said:

she doesn't deserve to be one of us white whores. 

this, though, is a very in group/out group kind of statement.....additionally, it just grosses me out 

lisaren

CPM13 said:

I agree with @missnacholover I don't see any reason to label the people who seem really tight as "cool kids." (And no one would ever label me as such. I am admittedly on here sporadically, and occasionally find the banter tiresome- don't hate me!) 

We are all adults. I think people who feel left out should make their own connections and friendships. 

I Agree.


The problem is, people continue to throw up in our faces how mean we are, how we are bullies, and how we're not accepting make fun of people And mock... Etc....

Seriously, it's ridiculous. We're grown damn women.

Jatpa003

FhSTAR81 said:

I think no matter what unfortunately somebody is going to still dislike how things are done. Somebody will still say people are mean and bullies and that they are excluded. If people want a fun, positive experience than they need to put in a fun attitude. Everyone has bad days, not everyone is going to agree on everything. That's life, you act like a grown up and deal. If you want to be pissy and grouchy then that's what you will get back.

Well said.

missnacholover

FhSTAR81 said:

I think no matter what unfortunately somebody is going to still dislike how things are done. Somebody will still say people are mean and bullies and that they are excluded. If people want a fun, positive experience than they need to put in a fun attitude. Everyone has bad days, not everyone is going to agree on everything. That's life, you act like a grown up and deal. If you want to be pissy and grouchy then that's what you will get back.

Exactly.  I've said it before and I'll say it again - there are X amount of women on here with X different personalities.  Never will there be a day where we all mesh perfectly together. 

renbee

CPM13 said:

We are all adults. I think people who feel left out should make their own connections and friendships. 

+1

MrsG1019

absolutelymaybe said:

This drama is just getting old. Truthfully, I got what you meant by your first post and, despite the timing being a little poor, I understand most of your sentiments. I was worried about other women with losses being offended, but I chose to ignore that because that's not what the masses seemed to want and that's fine. 

The fact that you are getting attacked for apologizing pisses my shit off. You made an effort to apologize and you get attacked? That's not cool at all. I think people need to cool their freaking tits over this drama and move on. 

I'm probably going to get blacklisted because I have a different opinion (and normally I would just sit back and rather not get into the drama), but I just wanted to let you know that you're cool w/ me :-) 

the OP of this post did not get attacked for applogizing... Many accepted OPs apology and appreciated it. The person that has been the focus of everyone's frustration is someone completely different who stepped in and has acted less than classy. Let's get the facts straight and review all the evidence before the attempt to post and be someone's knight in shining armor.

Bandia12

@shindylahoe I avoided your OP for some obvious reasons, but I want to say that I do appreciate you taking the time out to apologize. I do believe people who see their wrong doing, admit it, and sincerely ask for forgiveness deserve a second chance. I applaud you for that.

To the twatwaffle who is still going back and forth in one of the dumbest arguments I've seen, you really should just...

CarrieAnne09

I've said this once before - but I'll say it again - I'm not one of the super regular posters on here but I do still post fairly regularly. I don't feel intimidated to join in on a joke or a conversation that's going on. And I've NEVER been made to feel bad or put down in a way that I think is worth whining about. Even some of the regulars here have had spats. It's what makes for good conversation. This is an amazing board. If you don't like the drama. Just avoid it. Stick to the fluffier posts. If you want to get to know people. Post more. But make sure you understand that there are many different personalities and you might get called out on something. But take it in stride and move on. The only people here that ever get "yelled" at are those that don't let things go and get rude to others on the board.

This board is what you make of it. And if you come in with a shitty attitude. You're going to have a shitty time.

*stepping down off my soapbox*

Bandia12

@kyliedaniellexx Your cat just made my day .

Maelara

CarrieAnne09 said:

I've said this once before - but I'll say it again - I'm not one of the super regular posters on here but I do still post fairly regularly. I don't feel intimidated to join in on a joke or a conversation that's going on. And I've NEVER been made to feel bad or put down in a way that I think is worth whining about. Even some of the regulars here have had spats. It's what makes for good conversation. This is an amazing board. If you don't like the drama. Just avoid it. Stick to the fluffier posts. If you want to get to know people. Post more. But make sure you understand that there are many different personalities and you might get called out on something. But take it in stride and move on. The only people here that ever get "yelled" at are those that don't let things go and get rude to others on the board. This board is what you make of it. And if you come in with a shitty attitude. You're going to have a shitty time. *stepping down off my soapbox*

I think your a reg give yourself more credit!