FFFC

HisChamaoleGirl

I am currently downstairs and drinking coffee. I can hear LO fussing but DH is awake and is attempting to comfort her. I'd love to come to the rescue, but 1. This coffee is good. 2. I know she's pooping based on her noises and it won't kill DH to change a diaper today.

Sip sip....

llybeck

I think a lot of times, not just on here but IRL as well, people look for reasons to be offended. Just because someone's opinion is different than yours doesn't mean they're judging you. People can disagree and have complete opposite views for a million different reasons, what's hard to understand or NBD to one person may be deeply important to someone else. If someone doesn't like what you do and they don't get it, who cares? It works for you and that's great but there's no reason to jump down someone's throat because they think it's stupid, you're probably not going to change their mind by belittling them.

Also, everyone judges, I don't care who you are, you're judging someone or something. Whether you mean to or not, it's in our nature. As long as you aren't letting it lead your decisions or treat people badly then what does it matter? I'm sick of people saying things like "no mom judging, we need to stick together" and then post/say something like "this chick gave her 3 month old rice cereal, I side eyed her so hard." You can't put a value on things that are more or less "judge-worthy", it's all subjective (and you rarely know the whole story) and we all do it to some degree. I just don't get why people think it's okay to judge one think but flip the hell out if they get judged for something they do that they think is NBD.

LJSWmomma

twolittlewheels said:

I purposely "accidentally" kicked and elbowed H last night as I was getting out of bed for the 4th time at 2 a.m. It took every fiber of my being not to straight up punch him in the face and tell him to GTFO. The monitor is loud so I guarantee he hears Blake crying and pretends to be asleep. He's never once gotten up in the middle of the night, not even to just bring him to me. Instead of creating a monster in my child like SweetC80s post yesterday, I've created a monster in H.

 

Totally in this same boat! I know it's half my fault for not waking him up...I just want him to WANT to do it. :-(

redfallon

@llybeck said:

I think a lot of times, not just on here but IRL as well, people look for reasons to be offended. Just because someone's opinion is different than yours doesn't mean they're judging you. People can disagree and have complete opposite views for a million different reasons, what's hard to understand or NBD to one person may be deeply important to someone else. If someone doesn't like what you do and they don't get it, who cares? It works for you and that's great but there's no reason to jump down someone's throat because they think it's stupid, you're probably not going to change their mind by belittling them. Also, everyone judges, I don't care who you are, you're judging someone or something. Whether you mean to or not, it's in our nature. As long as you aren't letting it lead your decisions or treat people badly then what does it matter? I'm sick of people saying things like "no mom judging, we need to stick together" and then post/say something like "this chick gave her 3 month old rice cereal, I side eyed her so hard." You can't put a value on things that are more or less "judge-worthy", it's all subjective (and you rarely know the whole story) and we all do it to some degree. I just don't get why people think it's okay to judge one think but flip the hell out if they get judged for something they do that they think is NBD.

redfallon

@jdoud77 said:

My organization has been in a cost containment since the Gov't shutdown and my boss just told me they are no longer filling the admin positions. There's a vacant position on the other end of the building that is now closing indefinitely. My boss told me there is a lady that works on the other end who is overwhelmed with the workload and that she also writes out the contracts for our professionals. I was given notice that I will now be writing those contracts. I do all the credentialing, attend exec meetings, and a bunch of other things. I like my job, love my boss, but my pay does not scale with the work load I'm given and I have been looking for another job. I've been told I'm very efficient in what I do and I  STILL have time to bump (this week not so much). Still, my pay does not scale with the responsibilities.

I don't want to sound ungrateful, but I definitely could be making more money doing the same thing elsewhere. My current position does not offer any pay raises, COLA, or incentives and the whole organization has gotten ONE raise $ .50 raise in three years. I applied for a good one with the city and I hope I get it.

I hope you get it, too!

llybeck

@allisonnn5‌ thank you! I love that you always seem so genuine, I feel like you must be a total sweetheart in real life

I did try 1 wrap so far and their defining gel. I feel like it definitely worked, not that it made me drop weight but it did make my saggy skin noticeably tighter and the gel is making my stretch marks look better than anything else I've tried.

lilqt3929

There was a car creeping around my house this morning. I was getting LO ready to leave and I noticed it sitting across the street for quite awhile. When I went out to my car, it was gone. I got LO all strapped in and was getting ready to pull out of the driveway and it appeared again so I sat and watched. The person kept driving by and then pulling over on the side of the street, then they would turn around in people's driveways (3x, all different ones) then would park on the cross street (I live on a corner). Anyways I got so freaked out about it, I texted DH to let him know, wrote down license plate and car info, and took a pic of the car. The car windows were tinted very dark so I couldn't see inside at all. On my way back home 2 hours later all I can think about is that stupid car! I wished DH was home so I'd feel safe. My FFFC: I left LO out in the car (locked) while I went inside the house to check to make sure everything was ok and it was. I'm such a worry wart and drive myself crazy especially in situations like this. I'm still sitting looking out the window frequently with pepper spray in my pocket. I'm thinking about leaving for the afternoon until DH gets home ">

ETA : wow, as I reread this I really sound pathetic.

Salemkitty13

lilqt3929 said:

There was a car creeping around my house this morning. I was getting LO ready to leave and I noticed it sitting across the street for quite awhile. When I went out to my car, it was gone. I got LO all strapped in and was getting ready to pull out of the driveway and it appeared again so I sat and watched. The person kept driving by and then pulling over on the side of the street, then they would turn around in people's driveways (3x, all different ones) then would park on the cross street (I live on a corner). Anyways I got so freaked out about it, I texted DH to let him know, wrote down license plate and car info, and took a pic of the car. The car windows were tinted very dark so I couldn't see inside at all. On my way back home 2 hours later all I can think about is that stupid car! I wished DH was home so I'd feel safe. My FFFC: I left LO out in the car (locked) while I went inside the house to check to make sure everything was ok and it was. I'm such a worry wart and drive myself crazy especially in situations like this. I'm still sitting looking out the window frequently with pepper spray in my pocket. I'm thinking about leaving for the afternoon until DH gets home "> ETA : wow, as I reread this I really sound pathetic.

Protective mommy instincts! ::hugs:::

lilqt3929

@jojo1112‌ same here...

HisChamaoleGirl

Salemkitty13 said:

lilqt3929 said:

There was a car creeping around my house this morning. I was getting LO ready to leave and I noticed it sitting across the street for quite awhile. When I went out to my car, it was gone. I got LO all strapped in and was getting ready to pull out of the driveway and it appeared again so I sat and watched. The person kept driving by and then pulling over on the side of the street, then they would turn around in people's driveways (3x, all different ones) then would park on the cross street (I live on a corner). Anyways I got so freaked out about it, I texted DH to let him know, wrote down license plate and car info, and took a pic of the car. The car windows were tinted very dark so I couldn't see inside at all. On my way back home 2 hours later all I can think about is that stupid car! I wished DH was home so I'd feel safe. My FFFC: I left LO out in the car (locked) while I went inside the house to check to make sure everything was ok and it was. I'm such a worry wart and drive myself crazy especially in situations like this. I'm still sitting looking out the window frequently with pepper spray in my pocket. I'm thinking about leaving for the afternoon until DH gets home ">

ETA : wow, as I reread this I really sound pathetic.

Protective mommy instincts! ::hugs:::
I don't think this is pathetic . It's sad, but we live in a dangerous world. This is exactly one of the reasons I have my concealed carry. Let's not bring guns into this convo bc I know how that can go here

PumpkinMommaaa

Today I worked out for the second time since before I was pregnant probably. The first time was a few months ago and consisted of a few crunches and planks.

Ow.

Burrberrymum

starscream said:

I got tired of fighting Wheezy to change his diaper. He screams at me and tries to roll over and sit up on the changing table. He doesn't want to lay down and has no problem standing so I bought him some pull ups. Now, I can change a pee diaper without laying him down. So far, so good.

Did you get legitimate pull ups? I bought a pack of huggies "Slip-ons" and they detach on the sides! I haven't tried them yet though.

Burrberrymum

I complain all the time that I have no one to go out to lunch with etc, since all my friends have become bastards.. Well there are some people I can still call up and go out with (other moms) I just don't FEEL like hanging out with those specific people.. I had this one girl asking me to do play dates and I kind of blew her off because I just don't feel like we have that connection where I feel comfortable just talking about anything with. I miss MY friends.

PumpkinMommaaa

DD is sitting in my lap. I'm holding her with my arm around her and my hand on the front of her diaper.

She just peed and I could feel it get warm.

I haven't moved my hand because my hand is cold.

lilqt3929

@allisonnn5‌ I have the same problem and it sucks. I haven't always had it but as I've gotten older it got worse. Since I'm a SAHM I have even less social interaction so that doesn't help that's for sure.

I had a panic attack yesterday because some friends of mine from my pre baby workplace wanted me to come in to visit today for a surprise bridal shower for one of the girls. In reality it doesn't sound like that big of a deal but I just got myself so worked up about it...what will they think of LO or my post baby body, will they think I let myself go, will LO have a meltdown in front of everyone? I talked to DH about it all and he talked me into going and said it'd be good for LO and I. So I did it, I put my big girl panties on and went. I literally was shaking I had such bad anxiety about it but I'm really glad I went. Everyone was just like I remember and so nice, and of course loved LO.

krose0713

When LO was born, I definitely judged the moms who said they dropped LO off at daycare on their days off. I missed her like crazy when I was at work, and couldn't imagine not being with her if I had the chance. Now that I am older and wiser, I took my half day today and used it to go shopping and get a haircut, and let LO stay at my mom's until her regular pickup time. I still miss her all the time, but I get it now.

Meganbryn

I let dd play with the remotes, she's obsessed with them. She chews on the bottom of them where there aren't any buttons so I don't see the harm. I even dug an old one out that we don't use anymore and that is now "her" remote;)

cputman200

DD just pooped her diaper and I am finishing catching up on the bump before I go wrestle with her for a change. Plus the diapers are down in the basement and I am getting motivation for the stairs.

Burrberrymum

I just thought of another one, I actually feel really bad about saying I was creeped out by those who "love" all our posts but don't participate.

I can't think of the specific screen name I called out, but I feel guilty. Me and my damn over thinking things.

HisChamaoleGirl

krose0713 said:

When LO was born, I definitely judged the moms who said they dropped LO off at daycare on their days off. I missed her like crazy when I was at work, and couldn't imagine not being with her if I had the chance. Now that I am older and wiser, I took my half day today and used it to go shopping and get a haircut, and let LO stay at my mom's until her regular pickup time. I still miss her all the time, but I get it now.

This.

And I can also see the otherside of it. Pre baby when we would get off work early I wouldn't understand why my coworker would want to go get her baby early instead of getting her nails done with me w/out baby. She would pick up baby and then we'd get our nails done. Now I get it. As a working mom sometimes I just want to get to LO ASAP.

Af1004

@allisonnn5‌ I felt the same way about DD and a 2 piece but I've heard 1 pieces are hard to change a diaper in so I bought her a tankini today but tried it on her before I paid for it to make sure it covered her belly.

VitaLuna

lindszachary said:

My FFFC: I've been teaching LO how to flash.

I'll admit it. I'm side-eyeing the crap out of you right now for the picture. don't know exactly why, but I am.

redfallon

lindszachary said:

My FFFC: I've been teaching LO how to flash.

O_o
[-(

Salemkitty13

@lindszachary‌

 My DH does say that the stick up my butt has a stick up it's butt. So.... :-?

VitaLuna

lindszachary said:

VitaLuna said:

lindszachary said:

My FFFC: I've been teaching LO how to flash.

I'll admit it. I'm side-eyeing the crap out of you right now for the picture. don't know exactly why, but I am.

I don't understand why at all. LO was scooting around and managed to stretch out her onesie a little too far. I thought it was hilarious when she looked up at me and I saw what she had done. LO isn't naked. She hasn't gone through puberty and doesn't have the anatomy of a boob right now. A 9 month with a stretched out onesie is nothing to side eye. TBH I think it's a little prudish.

Again, I can't pinpoint why exactly I feel this way, but it makes me uncomfortable and I find it inappropriate. And of course your friends found it funny, poor taste tends to travel in groups.

VitaLuna

Thinking about it, I don't think it's the picture that bothers me. It's The fact that you're referencing your daughter in an inappropriate manner.

lindseyb624

I hate when people don't iron their clothes and yes this goes for babies too. It's not hard and doesn't take that long so just do it!

LelaDenney

@lindseyb624‌ I agree. I hate hate hate ironing. It is my least favorite thing to do so I steam the clothes. But I do place a lot of importance on looking put together and presentable. Ironic as I spend every weekday in workout clothes (not because I'm working out but running errands or just choosing comfort) but for any family outing, church, or social situation to me it is so very important. I don't understand why spend money on such nice clothes to just wear them wrinkled.

LelaDenney

@lindszachary‌ I think that's a silly picture that your baby will enjoy seeing when she is an adult and look back laughing. IMO poor choice of joke but still picture worthy moment.

redfallon

VitaLuna said:

Thinking about it, I don't think it's the picture that bothers me. It's The fact that you're referencing your daughter in an inappropriate manner.

This exactly. It's a cute picture. The caption is bothersome.

Burrberrymum

jojo1112 said:

lindszachary said:

My FFFC: I've been teaching LO how to flash.

I know(hope) that you're joking. My confession is I'm uncomfortable seeing other people's babies naked.

Eta: that wasn't directed at you. I am just weird about it with other people, like when people put naked pictures of babies on Facebook, I feel weird about it.

I'm the opposite, I don't think anything of seeing another baby naked but I feel uncomfortable when other people see my baby naked. We were doing a photoshoot and I really wanted those cute baby bum pictures for her photo album, and I felt so strange when the photographer was taking them. They did turn out SUPER cute and I'm glad but then she posted them on Facebook as the "preview sneak peak" I did tell her she can use a couple for her album but didn't think she would choose the nakey one

Burrberrymum

allisonnn5 said:

Af1004 said:

@allisonnn5‌ I felt the same way about DD and a 2 piece but I've heard 1 pieces are hard to change a diaper in so I bought her a tankini today but tried it on her before I paid for it to make sure it covered her belly.

There are a lot of cute tankinis out there! I meant baby bikinis like this:

I agree there's nothing cute about those string bikinis.... Frilly one pieces are way more adorable! (Or tankinis, I'll have to check some stores for one now that diaper changes are brought up)

redfallon

Emily has a swim diaper and a swim shirt from iPlay. She has a hand me down from SIL's baby that's a one-piece that is a little too big yet.

I agree that a one-piece would be a PITA to change a diaper, but I wouldn't get her a string bikini, either. A tankini I wouldn't mind.

redfallon

Oh, and yes, I will be a prude when it comes to my 8 month old baby or anyone else's baby.

thedash

Burrberrymum said:

allisonnn5 said:

Af1004 said:

@allisonnn5‌ I felt the same way about DD and a 2 piece but I've heard 1 pieces are hard to change a diaper in so I bought her a tankini today but tried it on her before I paid for it to make sure it covered her belly.

There are a lot of cute tankinis out there! I meant baby bikinis like this:

I agree there's nothing cute about those string bikinis.... Frilly one pieces are way more adorable! (Or tankinis, I'll have to check some stores for one now that diaper changes are brought up)

Children's Place has a cute tankini. The top is long and covered in ruffles and the bottom is substantial enough to cover a swim diaper.

FFFC: I used to take DS to the pool in just a swim diaper with rubber cover over it and a rash guard. Putting swim trunks over those two layers on a baby was a struggle and unnecessary. I only did this the year he was 4-7 months old for the summer. The next year he was walking and wore swim trunks.

jackdaniels13

blond1230

lindszachary said:

Okay a true FFFC: sometimes I think this board is a little pearl clutchy and prudish.

It's funny and cute. LO was scooting away and had managed to stretch her onesie out extremely far. If you looked up and your LO had done this and made that face, wouldn't you have laughed about it?

Pearl clutchy and prudish. My FFFC.

I just reread this whole thread because the original picture really left a bad taste in my mouth.

I'm not one to go near drama but shame on you @lindszachary‌ for posting a picture with that innuendo and then name calling those who don't think it's funny. Saying we are a bunch of prudish people and getting so defensive is pretty ridiculous, I have an awesome sense of humor and this photo crossed the line.

I'm not a prudish person but you're damn straight I will refrain from sick jokes at the expense of my INFANT. The sad part is that you just don't seem to get that it's wrong.

blondii428

@lindszachary‌ I agree with what others have said, it's not the picture that is bothersome, it's the flashing comment. A picture of her "stretching out a onesie" will be cute for years to come, but not if it's associated with a sexual description.

jlp0528

See what happens when you're cleaning your entire downstairs after trying to vacuum up carpet powder that ended up being spewed all over EVERYTHING in your dining and living room because your H didn't put the filter in the shop vac. Yep, my entire downstairs was covered in a layer of white and I missed all the fun!!

You'll all be proud to know I kept my cool and didn't get mad, mistakes happen but I wanted to kill him because we just got home from dc for the week and the last thing I wanted to do was deep clean our downstairs.

I was genuinely curious also as to why @lindszachary‌ posts sexual stuff on the reg? I am not remotely a prude and even I get uncomfortable at the constant SEX IN YOUR FACE ON EVERY OTHER POST from you. Not being judgey or telling you to change, just wonder why it's a constant thing from you.

FFFC: I am starting to not feel bad when LO cries when I put her down to sleep for naps. She doesn't cry long, 5-10 mins maybe and it's a combo fuss and cry and yell. I know she's tired and fighting sleep so it doesn't even bother me anymore and I know she'll be happy when she gets her rest!

Also-- I love rereading books. If there is a series or an author and I love their writing, I will read them over and over and over. Some of my paper back books look sad because they've been read so many times. I don't get how you couldn't love to get into a book again and again, of course spacing them over time. Maybe this is a uo instead? :-/

redfallon

@jlp0528 said:

See what happens when you're cleaning your entire downstairs after trying to vacuum up carpet powder that ended up being spewed all over EVERYTHING in your dining and living room because your H didn't put the filter in the shop vac. Yep, my entire downstairs was covered in a layer of white and I missed all the fun!! You'll all be proud to know I kept my cool and didn't get mad, mistakes happen but I wanted to kill him because we just got home from dc for the week and the last thing I wanted to do was deep clean our downstairs. I was genuinely curious also as to why @lindszachary‌ posts sexual stuff on the reg? I am not remotely a prude and even I get uncomfortable at the constant SEX IN YOUR FACE ON EVERY OTHER POST from you. Not being judgey or telling you to change, just wonder why it's a constant thing from you. FFFC: I am starting to not feel bad when LO cries when I put her down to sleep for naps. She doesn't cry long, 5-10 mins maybe and it's a combo fuss and cry and yell. I know she's tired and fighting sleep so it doesn't even bother me anymore and I know she'll be happy when she gets her rest! Also-- I love rereading books. If there is a series or an author and I love their writing, I will read them over and over and over. Some of my paper back books look sad because they've been read so many times. I don't get how you couldn't love to get into a book again and again, of course spacing them over time. Maybe this is a uo instead? :-/

I do, too

JLMcWeeney

I may be opening another can of worms here, but i don't understand the hate of baby bikinis. Boys don't cover their stomaches at this age while swimming, and sometimes my guy just goes shirtless if he gets stuff on him. How is a piece of fabric covering more than it would on a boy more sexual?
I'm asking because I am genuinely curious. I have a boy so I guess I just don't get it.
I found this just on a google search. I really don't see how this is bad. It is adorable.

ETA:those who say they get tankinis instead, why does covering the stomach matter so much? Again, seriously curious.