Introduction (losses mentioned)

southernbelle82

Hey there. I haven't been an active poster in a very long time and I find myself in a new situation and I don't know where I belong and I'm having trouble talking with family and friends just yet. It's just too hard...it's easier to type, no one can see you cry. 

My husband and I just lost our third baby in less than a year. I had a miscarriage last June, then again in August, then last week we found out I had an ectopic pregnancy. After my miscarriage in June, we found out I had an ovarian mass on my left ovary. While waiting for surgery to have it removed, we found out we were pregnant. (surprise) So we postponed the surgery until the second trimester but I miscarried again. Had the surgery, removed the left ovary & tube and got the go ahead to start trying. It took us 6 months to get pregnant. We found out May 1st that I was pregnant. Everything was going great. Symptoms were normal, my labs were great...and then I started having severe cramping last Wednesday. We went to the hospital thinking it was an appendicitis but they were suspicious of an ectopic pregnancy so they admitted me. Thursday confirmed their suspicions and my tube had ruptured and I was hemorrhaging. I lost my last tube...which obviously means IVF is our only option for future children. That's assuming my doctor thinks its safe...I have my post op with her tomorrow morning. 

I'm scared. I'm devastated. I'm having a hard time adjusting to the fact that in less than a year, we've lost 3 babies, and all I have left is my uterus and an ovary. I just keep thinking...how did this happen?! This is all still raw and I'm still processing. I don't know how we're going to come up with the money for IVF. The thought of IVF is so overwhelming. I'm just so scared. I hope this board is where I'm supposed to be. I could use some support, advice, encouragement...hugs and prayers. Thank you for letting me vent. 

MrsLaurenandDan

I am so sorry for your losses.  We have also had multiple losses in the past year and it is incredibly hard.  I don't have any IVF advice, but I know many of the ladies here have IVF experience.  

Momarazzi007

I am so sorry. That is truly devastating and no one should go thought that. There are a lot of wonderful ladies here with tons of experience. We are IVF so if you have questions let me know!!! Good luck tomorrow morning, let us know what happens and (hugs)

annibes

I'm sorry for your losses. Welcome.

Bananappeal145

Oh honey, I'm so sorry. Welcome to the board. This is a great bunch of ladies. Good luck tomorrow and keep us posted.

Jodee37

oh my gosh, first off i am so very sorry for the losses of your babies. no one should ever have to go through that, especially time and time again. i know you are reeling from all this (naturally), but please know that this board is amazing and you are most welcome to be here. for now, take it easy on yourself. don't even think about financing IVF right now. just take care of healing yourself and your family. one day at a time. seriously.

Frenchteachermama

I am so sorry for everything that you have been through.  I hope we can be a good support system to you throughout this journey.   ((hugs))

efhoping2010

I am sorry for all of your losses.  Sadly I am somewhat of an expert on IVF and losses too.  I would be happy to answer any questions.  Good luck on your post/op.

lawmom747

I am sorry for your losses.  I too have suffered a loss, as well as gone through the IVF process.  This is a great group of ladies and they make me smile (even on the days when it's really tough).  Good luck with your follow up.

GraceyandTroy

I am so so sorry for your losses.  I see you posted this the other day, have you had your followup by now?  What does the Dr say at this point.  I'm just so sorry you're where you are.